Guest guest Posted August 27, 2005 Report Share Posted August 27, 2005 It looks like God is tampering with my life, again. As most of you know by now my husband decided to leave me back on March 11th of this year. Since then we have been talking back (long distance since he's in Yuma, Arizona and I'm in Porter, Texas)and forth about getting back together. Almost 3 weeks ago when I talked to him he was talking about having strung me along and being very doubtful that we would get back together; then I talked to another of his ex's and she told me that he had been talking about getting back together with her back in 2000. So, I cut all contact and planned to send him a certified letter telling him that I wanted no further contact with him except in writing and only then with regard to getting a final separation of property. But, the day that I was supposed to mail that letter was the day that I had my emotional breakdown and I wasn't in any kind of shape to deal with anyone f2f except my dog. The next day I had an emotional hangover. That brings this to yesterday and I was so busy getting ready that I didn't think about it. At 3:45p central (1:45 Arizona) I got a call from him saying that he had come very close to a breakdown himself because of his living situation (sound familiar?) and had to call his sponsor to come and get him out of it. He is now living with the sponsor and saving money to get his own place. He is saying that he wants me to come home as soon as he has a home for me to come to. There will be problems finding a way for me to move back there and PLEASE I AM LOOKING FOR SUGGESTIONS! But, there is also the possibility that this is another of his lies and I won't know until it's time for something to actually happen So, for right now I am happy about the way that it looks like things are going, but I'm not pinning my heart on it. Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@... Attachment: vcard [not shown] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2005 Report Share Posted August 27, 2005 Di, One of my meditation books has something amazing to say - that is that instead of believing that your life is falling apart = choose to believe that your life is falling together. If you love your husband and he loves you, perhaps the two of you can get together via telephone, with your sponsors and talk this through. I am big on lists as well, write on it, pray on it and really do some thinking and then take it to your sponsor and work this through. Life is serious, marriage is serious, but you cannot take it too seriously or you will fall apart! My sponsor who passed away around 4 years ago used to tell me something pretty funny but very true - she used to tell me that my head was a bad neighborhood, not to go there alone - take backup. God is your backup and your trusted friends. I know that you will make the right choice! Di <godsowndi@...> wrote: It looks like God is tampering with my life, again. As most of you know by now my husband decided to leave me back on March 11th of this year. Since then we have been talking back (long distance since he's in Yuma, Arizona and I'm in Porter, Texas)and forth about getting back together. Almost 3 weeks ago when I talked to him he was talking about having strung me along and being very doubtful that we would get back together; then I talked to another of his ex's and she told me that he had been talking about getting back together with her back in 2000. So, I cut all contact and planned to send him a certified letter telling him that I wanted no further contact with him except in writing and only then with regard to getting a final separation of property. But, the day that I was supposed to mail that letter was the day that I had my emotional breakdown and I wasn't in any kind of shape to deal with anyone f2f except my dog. The next day I had an emotional hangover. That brings this to yesterday and I was so busy getting ready that I didn't think about it. At 3:45p central (1:45 Arizona) I got a call from him saying that he had come very close to a breakdown himself because of his living situation (sound familiar?) and had to call his sponsor to come and get him out of it. He is now living with the sponsor and saving money to get his own place. He is saying that he wants me to come home as soon as he has a home for me to come to. There will be problems finding a way for me to move back there and PLEASE I AM LOOKING FOR SUGGESTIONS! But, there is also the possibility that this is another of his lies and I won't know until it's time for something to actually happen So, for right now I am happy about the way that it looks like things are going, but I'm not pinning my heart on it. Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@...BEGIN:VCARDVERSION:2.1N:Marshall;DiFN:Di MarshallTEL;HOME;VOICE:281-354-8992ADR;HOME:;;;Porter;TX;77365LABEL;HOME:Porter, TX 77365EMAIL;INTERNET:graymarshall@...EMAIL;PREF;INTERNET:godsdiane@...REV:20050827T164116ZEND:VCARD Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. 6:34 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2005 Report Share Posted August 27, 2005 Di, One of my meditation books has something amazing to say - that is that instead of believing that your life is falling apart = choose to believe that your life is falling together. If you love your husband and he loves you, perhaps the two of you can get together via telephone, with your sponsors and talk this through. I am big on lists as well, write on it, pray on it and really do some thinking and then take it to your sponsor and work this through. Life is serious, marriage is serious, but you cannot take it too seriously or you will fall apart! My sponsor who passed away around 4 years ago used to tell me something pretty funny but very true - she used to tell me that my head was a bad neighborhood, not to go there alone - take backup. God is your backup and your trusted friends. I know that you will make the right choice! Di <godsowndi@...> wrote: It looks like God is tampering with my life, again. As most of you know by now my husband decided to leave me back on March 11th of this year. Since then we have been talking back (long distance since he's in Yuma, Arizona and I'm in Porter, Texas)and forth about getting back together. Almost 3 weeks ago when I talked to him he was talking about having strung me along and being very doubtful that we would get back together; then I talked to another of his ex's and she told me that he had been talking about getting back together with her back in 2000. So, I cut all contact and planned to send him a certified letter telling him that I wanted no further contact with him except in writing and only then with regard to getting a final separation of property. But, the day that I was supposed to mail that letter was the day that I had my emotional breakdown and I wasn't in any kind of shape to deal with anyone f2f except my dog. The next day I had an emotional hangover. That brings this to yesterday and I was so busy getting ready that I didn't think about it. At 3:45p central (1:45 Arizona) I got a call from him saying that he had come very close to a breakdown himself because of his living situation (sound familiar?) and had to call his sponsor to come and get him out of it. He is now living with the sponsor and saving money to get his own place. He is saying that he wants me to come home as soon as he has a home for me to come to. There will be problems finding a way for me to move back there and PLEASE I AM LOOKING FOR SUGGESTIONS! But, there is also the possibility that this is another of his lies and I won't know until it's time for something to actually happen So, for right now I am happy about the way that it looks like things are going, but I'm not pinning my heart on it. Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@...BEGIN:VCARDVERSION:2.1N:Marshall;DiFN:Di MarshallTEL;HOME;VOICE:281-354-8992ADR;HOME:;;;Porter;TX;77365LABEL;HOME:Porter, TX 77365EMAIL;INTERNET:graymarshall@...EMAIL;PREF;INTERNET:godsdiane@...REV:20050827T164116ZEND:VCARD Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. 6:34 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2005 Report Share Posted August 27, 2005 , this will be a step by step slow process. First he has to get a place for us (and only us) to live. I have already told him that it has to be IN town where I can either walk to or take mass transit to all the places that I need to get to without having to depend on him or any other person for my transportation. Next he has to figure out how to get Shadow (my dog) and I and at least some of my possessions back to Arizona and that includes paying to get us there. I have also already told him that while I still love him we will have trust issues to work on. I am going to be working with my sponsor and the women's self-esteem website that I use to continue my own growth. He knows the kind of EXTREME health issues that I am facing. If it gets to the point of me going there it will be, at least in my mind, a trial period and I am going to have sufficient funds in reserve to get back to Texas should I feel that I need or want to or to even stay there on my own as I have friends there too. In the meantime I am going to continue to live my life as I have been. Either way I will always have a fall back position and a home. If God wants this to happen it will and if He doesn't then it won't; either way I'm going to be okay and I will continue to grow within myself. It really doesn't matter if Tom has changed or not because I HAVE changed. I'm not the same pitiful lump (MY TERM) that I was when I left there. Tom and my friends there are in for a BIG shock. I am working very closely with my sponsor on this and she has been walking with me through this process (as much as she can as she has problems of her own to deal with) Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@... Re: Emotional Update Di, One of my meditation books has something amazing to say - that is that instead of believing that your life is falling apart = choose to believe that your life is falling together. If you love your husband and he loves you, perhaps the two of you can get together via telephone, with your sponsors and talk this through. I am big on lists as well, write on it, pray on it and really do some thinking and then take it to your sponsor and work this through. Life is serious, marriage is serious, but you cannot take it too seriously or you will fall apart! My sponsor who passed away around 4 years ago used to tell me something pretty funny but very true - she used to tell me that my head was a bad neighborhood, not to go there alone - take backup. God is your backup and your trusted friends. I know that you will make the right choice! Di <godsowndi@...> wrote: It looks like God is tampering with my life, again. As most of you know by now my husband decided to leave me back on March 11th of this year. Since then we have been talking back (long distance since he's in Yuma, Arizona and I'm in Porter, Texas)and forth about getting back together. Almost 3 weeks ago when I talked to him he was talking about having strung me along and being very doubtful that we would get back together; then I talked to another of his ex's and she told me that he had been talking about getting back together with her back in 2000. So, I cut all contact and planned to send him a certified letter telling him that I wanted no further contact with him except in writing and only then with regard to getting a final separation of property. But, the day that I was supposed to mail that letter was the day that I had my emotional breakdown and I wasn't in any kind of shape to deal with anyone f2f except my dog. The next day I had an emotional hangover. That brings this to yesterday and I was so busy getting ready that I didn't think about it. At 3:45p central (1:45 Arizona) I got a call from him saying that he had come very close to a breakdown himself because of his living situation (sound familiar?) and had to call his sponsor to come and get him out of it. He is now living with the sponsor and saving money to get his own place. He is saying that he wants me to come home as soon as he has a home for me to come to. There will be problems finding a way for me to move back there and PLEASE I AM LOOKING FOR SUGGESTIONS! But, there is also the possibility that this is another of his lies and I won't know until it's time for something to actually happen So, for right now I am happy about the way that it looks like things are going, but I'm not pinning my heart on it. Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@...BEGIN:VCARDVERSION:2.1N:Marshall;DiFN:Di MarshallTEL;HOME;VOICE:281-354-8992ADR;HOME:;;;Porter;TX;77365LABEL;HOME:Porter, TX 77365EMAIL;INTERNET:graymarshall@...EMAIL;PREF;INTERNET:godsdiane@...REV:20050827T164116ZEND:VCARD Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. 6:34 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2005 Report Share Posted August 27, 2005 Di if it was meant to be The plan will click into place after awhile.. I do wish you and Your man Tom all the best.. Be strong and grow within.. Love ya sister..Kathy Boo -- Re: Emotional Update , this will be a step by step slow process. First he has to get a place for us (and only us) to live. I have already told him that it has to be IN town where I can either walk to or take mass transit to all the places that I need to get to without having to depend on him or any other person for my transportation. Next he has to figure out how to get Shadow (my dog) and I and at least some of my possessions back to Arizona and that includes paying to get us there. I have also already told him that while I still love him we will have trust issues to work on. I am going to be working with my sponsor and the women's self-esteem website that I use to continue my own growth. He knows the kind of EXTREME health issues that I am facing. If it gets to the point of me going there it will be, at least in my mind, a trial period and I am going to have sufficient funds in reserve to get back to Texas should I feel that I need or want to or to even stay there on my own as I have friends there too. In the meantime I am going to continue to live my life as I have been. Either way I will always have a fall back position and a home. If God wants this to happen it will and if He doesn't then it won't; either way I'm going to be okay and I will continue to grow within myself. It really doesn't matter if Tom has changed or not because I HAVE changed. I'm not the same pitiful lump (MY TERM) that I was when I left there. Tom and my friends there are in for a BIG shock. I am working very closely with my sponsor on this and she has been walking with me through this process (as much as she can as she has problems of her own to deal with) Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2005 Report Share Posted August 27, 2005 Di, Sounds like you are well on your way! I take my hat off to you honey. JenKathy brunow <kathy-boo@...> wrote: Di if it was meant to be The plan will click into place after awhile.. I do wish you and Your man Tom all the best.. Be strong and grow within.. Love ya sister..Kathy Boo -- Re: Emotional Update , this will be a step by step slow process. First he has to get a place for us (and only us) to live. I have already told him that it has to be IN town where I can either walk to or take mass transit to all the places that I need to get to without having to depend on him or any other person for my transportation. Next he has to figure out how to get Shadow (my dog) and I and at least some of my possessions back to Arizona and that includes paying to get us there. I have also already told him that while I still love him we will have trust issues to work on. I am going to be working with my sponsor and the women's self-esteem website that I use to continue my own growth. He knows the kind of EXTREME health issues that I am facing. If it gets to the point of me going there it will be, at least in my mind, a trial period and I am going to have sufficient funds in reserve to get back to Texas should I feel that I need or want to or to even stay there on my own as I have friends there too. In the meantime I am going to continue to live my life as I have been. Either way I will always have a fall back position and a home. If God wants this to happen it will and if He doesn't then it won't; either way I'm going to be okay and I will continue to grow within myself. It really doesn't matter if Tom has changed or not because I HAVE changed. I'm not the same pitiful lump (MY TERM) that I was when I left there. Tom and my friends there are in for a BIG shock. I am working very closely with my sponsor on this and she has been walking with me through this process (as much as she can as she has problems of her own to deal with) Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@... Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. 6:34 for Mobile Take with you! Check email on your mobile phone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2005 Report Share Posted August 28, 2005 Di, You will know in your heart what to do. As you know, if this move is meant to be, you will find a way to move back with him. Your health and happiness is the most important thing right now. Ali Emotional Update It looks like God is tampering with my life, again. As most of you know by now my husband decided to leave me back on March 11th of this year. Since then we have been talking back (long distance since he's in Yuma, Arizona and I'm in Porter, Texas)and forth about getting back together. Almost 3 weeks ago when I talked to him he was talking about having strung me along and being very doubtful that we would get back together; then I talked to another of his ex's and she told me that he had been talking about getting back together with her back in 2000. So, I cut all contact and planned to send him a certified letter telling him that I wanted no further contact with him except in writing and only then with regard to getting a final separation of property. But, the day that I was supposed to mail that letter was the day that I had my emotional breakdown and I wasn't in any kind of shape to deal with anyone f2f except my dog. The next day I had an emotional hangover. That brings this to yesterday and I was so busy getting ready that I didn't think about it. At 3:45p central (1:45 Arizona) I got a call from him saying that he had come very close to a breakdown himself because of his living situation (sound familiar?) and had to call his sponsor to come and get him out of it. He is now living with the sponsor and saving money to get his own place. He is saying that he wants me to come home as soon as he has a home for me to come to. There will be problems finding a way for me to move back there and PLEASE I AM LOOKING FOR SUGGESTIONS! But, there is also the possibility that this is another of his lies and I won't know until it's time for something to actually happen So, for right now I am happy about the way that it looks like things are going, but I'm not pinning my heart on it. Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2005 Report Share Posted August 28, 2005 Di, You will know in your heart what to do. As you know, if this move is meant to be, you will find a way to move back with him. Your health and happiness is the most important thing right now. Ali Emotional Update It looks like God is tampering with my life, again. As most of you know by now my husband decided to leave me back on March 11th of this year. Since then we have been talking back (long distance since he's in Yuma, Arizona and I'm in Porter, Texas)and forth about getting back together. Almost 3 weeks ago when I talked to him he was talking about having strung me along and being very doubtful that we would get back together; then I talked to another of his ex's and she told me that he had been talking about getting back together with her back in 2000. So, I cut all contact and planned to send him a certified letter telling him that I wanted no further contact with him except in writing and only then with regard to getting a final separation of property. But, the day that I was supposed to mail that letter was the day that I had my emotional breakdown and I wasn't in any kind of shape to deal with anyone f2f except my dog. The next day I had an emotional hangover. That brings this to yesterday and I was so busy getting ready that I didn't think about it. At 3:45p central (1:45 Arizona) I got a call from him saying that he had come very close to a breakdown himself because of his living situation (sound familiar?) and had to call his sponsor to come and get him out of it. He is now living with the sponsor and saving money to get his own place. He is saying that he wants me to come home as soon as he has a home for me to come to. There will be problems finding a way for me to move back there and PLEASE I AM LOOKING FOR SUGGESTIONS! But, there is also the possibility that this is another of his lies and I won't know until it's time for something to actually happen So, for right now I am happy about the way that it looks like things are going, but I'm not pinning my heart on it. Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2005 Report Share Posted August 28, 2005 I've done some checking and it will cost between $1200 and $1500 to take the motorhome back to Yuma. But, I can take the bus for $69 and fly Shadow out (I can't get through to Continental to find out how much that would cost). Then at some future date we could either come back for the motorhome or rent from U-Haul and bring the rest of the stuff out when he gets his vacation. BUT, that is still totally contingent on him getting us a place. Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@... Emotional Update It looks like God is tampering with my life, again. As most of you know by now my husband decided to leave me back on March 11th of this year. Since then we have been talking back (long distance since he's in Yuma, Arizona and I'm in Porter, Texas)and forth about getting back together. Almost 3 weeks ago when I talked to him he was talking about having strung me along and being very doubtful that we would get back together; then I talked to another of his ex's and she told me that he had been talking about getting back together with her back in 2000. So, I cut all contact and planned to send him a certified letter telling him that I wanted no further contact with him except in writing and only then with regard to getting a final separation of property. But, the day that I was supposed to mail that letter was the day that I had my emotional breakdown and I wasn't in any kind of shape to deal with anyone f2f except my dog. The next day I had an emotional hangover. That brings this to yesterday and I was so busy getting ready that I didn't think about it. At 3:45p central (1:45 Arizona) I got a call from him saying that he had come very close to a breakdown himself because of his living situation (sound familiar?) and had to call his sponsor to come and get him out of it. He is now living with the sponsor and saving money to get his own place. He is saying that he wants me to come home as soon as he has a home for me to come to. There will be problems finding a way for me to move back there and PLEASE I AM LOOKING FOR SUGGESTIONS! But, there is also the possibility that this is another of his lies and I won't know until it's time for something to actually happen So, for right now I am happy about the way that it looks like things are going, but I'm not pinning my heart on it. Love,DiToday is the first day of the rest of my life.Like I really need that kind of pressure!godsowndi@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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