Re: Most embarrassing social gaffes???

[Guest guest]

I don't get particularly embarassed - but I often feel foolish when I

don't understand some jokes.

I remember some guy collecting plastic disposable cups after a group

I was in had finished drinking and saying he was going to wash them.

I didn't know whether he was joking or not - he could have washed

them and re-used them (even if they are meant to be disposable - I

hate waste) so I asked if he was really going to wash them - everyone

seemed to find this extremely funny that I hadn't automatically known

he was joking - I found this odd and felt a bit embarassed I suppose -

more foolish really and I still don't see why it was so obvious to

everyone else that he was joking.

I've had many other situations like the above - and people seem to

find it funny - I don't particularly.

P.S I do have a sense of humour though - I just don't always

understand others :-)

>

> Who wants to share?

>

> I tend not to be embarrassed about anything I say or do in public

so I

> don't really have anything.

>

> I am told I am annoying though, particularly when playing board

games

> like trivial pursuit. For me, trivia games are an opportunity to

learn

> and share interesting facts, and that's what I have a tendency to

do

> during them.

>

> My sister is my biggest critic. She calls me a " know it all " and

just

> wnats to focus on winning the game.

>

> Tom

> Administrator

>

[Guest guest]

On 11 Jan 2006 greebohere wrote:

> disposable - I hate waste) so I asked if he was really going to

> wash them - everyone seemed to find this extremely funny that I

> hadn't automatically known he was joking - I found this odd and

> felt a bit embarassed I suppose

I'd guess that the reason they were laughing was more

situational than because you didn't know. By " situational " I

mean that it was funny that he said he was going to wash them,

thinking that one wouldn't wash such cups, but then someone

really did ask because in reality one could reuse them.

[Guest guest]

I suppose my biggest problem is that the humor in social situations

does tend to get away from me. This happened a lot in college.

I am not a drinker. I may have a glass of wine at Christmas dinner

ormaybe Thanksgiving or Easter maybe. I didn't take my first drink

until I was at least 21. I will say that I have been drunk a few

times (once to the point where I could barely walk). On those

occassions, physical control suffered, pronounciation was difficult,

but my head and my thoughts were as clear as a bell.

I do not understand why it was that I could not laugh uproariously or

be loud an obnoxious like other people did when they imbibe.

Anyway, at college, my first roommate and his buddies constantly

drank. My roommate held a job at the dorm food service for the sole

purpose of being able to buy booze for the weekend and weekday

binging. One day I came onto the floor and before I opened the door,

I hear everyone laughing hilariously. I came in to get my books and

they were still laughing. At what I don't know.

One of them spilled some beer on my roommate's bunk by accident. This

caused them to laugh even harder. Then one of them deliberately

started spilling beer on my roommate's bunk. That was even more funny

to them for some odd reason.

I kept my mouth shut. I was thinking of saying that anyone who spills

beer on my bed would get to wash the linen, but these guys were the

type of fellows that would beat you up for something like that,

because the other thing booze seemed to do for them is turn them into

mean drunks if you said something that bothered them.

I never understood that behavior, nor do I understand some of the

other behavior I see at social gatherings.

Tom

Administrator

don't get particularly embarassed - but I often feel foolish when I

don't understand some jokes.

I remember some guy collecting plastic disposable cups after a group

I was in had finished drinking and saying he was going to wash them.

I didn't know whether he was joking or not - he could have washed

them and re-used them (even if they are meant to be disposable - I

hate waste) so I asked if he was really going to wash them - everyone

seemed to find this extremely funny that I hadn't automatically known

he was joking - I found this odd and felt a bit embarassed I suppose -

more foolish really and I still don't see why it was so obvious to

everyone else that he was joking.

I've had many other situations like the above - and people seem to

find it funny - I don't particularly.

P.S I do have a sense of humour though - I just don't always

understand others :-)

[Guest guest]

Well, I've known people to wash and reuse the plastic ware. I used to

be called gullible for believing peoples' joking--in High School they

wanted to submit a Most Gullible or Most Spacey entry for me! But I

didn't and don't get embarrassed about it--I say anything's possible

and other people are limited by what they know, as though what they

know is all there is.

But I used to get easily and horribly embarrassed about the smallest

things. Even just walking in front of people was too much. Once I

stayed on the school bus past my stop because a kid had sat down on

my skirt and I didn't want to ask him to move! It was horrible being

like that but I think that, combined with not wanting to be laughed

at or thought of as weird has helped my social skills immensely.

It's such a relief to be rid of that, in being older. And I ALWAYS

seemed to say the wrong thing--when my college roommate got flowers

from a guy I said, " Too bad they're going to die. " I meant they were

pretty and too bad they won't stay that way but of course I said it

the wrong way. I still get in trouble with that and have to think

before I speak. People, especially women, are so sensitive about

things that I wouldn't be sensitive about so I try to be sensitive to

that. I only recently told a woman who has had a lot of troubles in

life: " Wow, you really drew the short straw in life. " Sigh.

I used to give people information and correct them all the time until

I saw how much they disliked it. Now I just let them be incorrect

sometimes (discerning when to correct them). If they say something I

already know, sometimes I'll say, " Really? " and let them have the joy

of telling ME something. Sometimes it feels false and sometimes if

feels true and it's hard to know which adaptions I've made are good

and which aren't but I do like to have peaceful relations with other

people and hate controversy and discord (which also can be good and

can be bad).

> >

> > Who wants to share?

> >

> > I tend not to be embarrassed about anything I say or do in public

> so I

> > don't really have anything.

> >

> > I am told I am annoying though, particularly when playing board

> games

> > like trivial pursuit. For me, trivia games are an opportunity to

> learn

> > and share interesting facts, and that's what I have a tendency to

> do

> > during them.

> >

> > My sister is my biggest critic. She calls me a " know it all " and

> just

> > wnats to focus on winning the game.

> >

> > Tom

> > Administrator

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Well, I've known people to wash and reuse the plastic ware. I used to

be called gullible for believing peoples' joking--in High School they

wanted to submit a Most Gullible or Most Spacey entry for me! But I

didn't and don't get embarrassed about it--I say anything's possible

and other people are limited by what they know, as though what they

know is all there is.

But I used to get easily and horribly embarrassed about the smallest

things. Even just walking in front of people was too much. Once I

stayed on the school bus past my stop because a kid had sat down on

my skirt and I didn't want to ask him to move! It was horrible being

like that but I think that, combined with not wanting to be laughed

at or thought of as weird has helped my social skills immensely.

It's such a relief to be rid of that, in being older. And I ALWAYS

seemed to say the wrong thing--when my college roommate got flowers

from a guy I said, " Too bad they're going to die. " I meant they were

pretty and too bad they won't stay that way but of course I said it

the wrong way. I still get in trouble with that and have to think

before I speak. People, especially women, are so sensitive about

things that I wouldn't be sensitive about so I try to be sensitive to

that. I only recently told a woman who has had a lot of troubles in

life: " Wow, you really drew the short straw in life. " Sigh.

I used to give people information and correct them all the time until

I saw how much they disliked it. Now I just let them be incorrect

sometimes (discerning when to correct them). If they say something I

already know, sometimes I'll say, " Really? " and let them have the joy

of telling ME something. Sometimes it feels false and sometimes if

feels true and it's hard to know which adaptions I've made are good

and which aren't but I do like to have peaceful relations with other

people and hate controversy and discord (which also can be good and

can be bad).

> >

> > Who wants to share?

> >

> > I tend not to be embarrassed about anything I say or do in public

> so I

> > don't really have anything.

> >

> > I am told I am annoying though, particularly when playing board

> games

> > like trivial pursuit. For me, trivia games are an opportunity to

> learn

> > and share interesting facts, and that's what I have a tendency to

> do

> > during them.

> >

> > My sister is my biggest critic. She calls me a " know it all " and

> just

> > wnats to focus on winning the game.

> >

> > Tom

> > Administrator

> >

>

[Guest guest]

>

> don't get particularly embarassed - but I often feel foolish when I

> don't understand some jokes.

>

> I remember some guy collecting plastic disposable cups after a group

> I was in had finished drinking and saying he was going to wash them.

> I didn't know whether he was joking or not - he could have washed

> them and re-used them (even if they are meant to be disposable - I

> hate waste) so I asked if he was really going to wash them -

everyone

> seemed to find this extremely funny that I hadn't automatically

known

> he was joking - I found this odd and felt a bit embarassed I

suppose -

> more foolish really and I still don't see why it was so obvious to

> everyone else that he was joking.

>

> I've had many other situations like the above - and people seem to

> find it funny - I don't particularly.

>

>

> P.S I do have a sense of humour though - I just don't always

> understand others :-)

>

[Guest guest]

>

> don't get particularly embarassed - but I often feel foolish when I

> don't understand some jokes.

>

> I remember some guy collecting plastic disposable cups after a group

> I was in had finished drinking and saying he was going to wash them.

> I didn't know whether he was joking or not - he could have washed

> them and re-used them (even if they are meant to be disposable - I

> hate waste) so I asked if he was really going to wash them -

everyone

> seemed to find this extremely funny that I hadn't automatically

known

> he was joking - I found this odd and felt a bit embarassed I

suppose -

> more foolish really and I still don't see why it was so obvious to

> everyone else that he was joking.

>

> I've had many other situations like the above - and people seem to

> find it funny - I don't particularly.

>

>

> P.S I do have a sense of humour though - I just don't always

> understand others :-)

>

[Guest guest]

This came to me from Mdlies. (Misdirected mail)

I was stopped at a red light and the passenger in the car next to me

rolled down their window to ask me something. I rolled down mine too.

They asked if I knew where a particular city was (I happened to live

in that city). I was happy to help this person out, so I responded...

" Yes " . And they just kept looking at me like they were waiting for me

to respond. I kept looking at them thinking " I already answered, do

you have another question? " . By this time the light turned green...

and then they blurted out " How do I get there?!?!? " . And I quickly

told them that it was just up the road on the right.

It wasn't until later on that I realized that they wanted me to give

them directions when they asked if I knew where it was.

I used blame my " robot " thinking on being a computer programmer...

but, know I suspect being an aspie has something to do with it.

Dan

PS - Has anyone else had a problem with delivering emails from

the group? I haven't had any emails from Groups for over a

week.

>

Who wants to share?

I tend not to be embarrassed about anything I say or do in public so

I don't really have anything.

I am told I am annoying though, particularly when playing board games

like trivial pursuit. For me, trivia games are an opportunity to

learn and share interesting facts, and that's what I have a tendency

to do during them.

My sister is my biggest critic. She calls me a " know it all " and just

wants to focus on winning the game.

Tom

Administrator

[Guest guest]

LOL! I can totally relate. My wife is totally befuddled when I do

stuff like that!

Dan

>

> Once I

> stayed on the school bus past my stop because a kid had sat down on

> my skirt and I didn't want to ask him to move!

[Guest guest]

I have even been bounced out and I hate to reactivate myself to get

back in the groups. has been messing around with the Photos

section in the groups and doing some other server related upgrades.

This has somehow affected us in less than enjoyable ways.

Tom

Administrator

> " Dan.....

PS - Has anyone else had a problem with delivering emails from

the group? I haven't had any emails from Groups for over a

week. "

YES! Check to see that your emails are not 'bouncing'. Then follow

directions to 'unbounce' your mail. It has happened to me

several times. Your only clue is that the 'group' has disappeared

for a while. I have no idea why this happens, or how to keep it from

happening in the future.

Rainbow

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/12/2006 7:18:37 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, inglori@... writes:

:> Mean drunks scare me and disgust me. I always wonder if the alcohol > changes them or brings outtheir true personalities? It's supposed to be a mood enhancer.

Alcohol is not a mood enhancer, it is a depressant. It depression functioning of the brain, beginning with the part that controls inhibitions. Because of this lower of one's control, it may seem like a mood enhancer because it makes people less inhibited. That cuts both ways though. If a person was nasty to begin with, the alcohol would depress their inhibitions just like everyone else, thus causing them to slacken control of their meanness. This is probably why so many fights are alcohol related. People who would otherwise not fight at all have their inhibitions and reasoning power lowered by the drink, so they fight.

[Guest guest]

:

> Mean drunks scare me and disgust me. I always wonder if the alcohol

> changes them or brings out

their true personalities? It's supposed to be a mood enhancer.

I've often wondered about that too. If they say what they REALLY think when

they have lost their usual limitations, or if they just become grumpy from

the alcohol and say things they truly do not mean. I'm inclined to think the

former, but I guess it can also be an allergic reaction to alcohol.

In my teens and early 20's when I used to drink just a little bit of wine

before going out, I'd usually just become happy and high, but if I drank

strong booze I could become almost violent and totally not myself. Though of

course, I did have a lot of pent-up frustration back then. Now I'd probably

just get sick.

Inger

[Guest guest]

> I always wonder if the alcohol changes them or brings out

> their true personalities?

I've always thought arguments do that

pretty well, too. The rest of the time,

you just being polite.

As for my most embarrassing social gaffes,

I don't really know. Familiar people seem to

hate it when I don't automatically say " hi " to

them first, but I don't really find that

embarrassing myself. Other times, even

when I'm told what I did " wrong, " I seem not

to get it.

[Guest guest]

Maybe in some people alchol brings out an allergic reaction. I think

it affects different people in different ways.

In my mum it just makes her sleepy sometimes - other times she

becomes more happy - I think that depends on the company.

I certainly think in me it generally makes me more relaxed - still

does depend on the company to some extent. I find myself been very

truthfull with things I say when I have had a drink and I am more

likely to say them :-) I don't get nasty with drink though. So maybe

with some it relaxes them enough to bring out more of their true

selves?

>

> :

> > Mean drunks scare me and disgust me. I always wonder if the

alcohol

> > changes them or brings out

> their true personalities? It's supposed to be a mood enhancer.

>

> I've often wondered about that too. If they say what they REALLY

think when

> they have lost their usual limitations, or if they just become

grumpy from

> the alcohol and say things they truly do not mean. I'm inclined to

think the

> former, but I guess it can also be an allergic reaction to alcohol.

>

> In my teens and early 20's when I used to drink just a little bit

of wine

> before going out, I'd usually just become happy and high, but if I

drank

> strong booze I could become almost violent and totally not myself.

Though of

> course, I did have a lot of pent-up frustration back then. Now I'd

probably

> just get sick.

>

> Inger

>

[Guest guest]

It's both. It depresses the body's systems such as brain, central

nervous system, immune system, reproductive system but it acts as a

mood enhancer at first by slowing the brain down and removing the

inhibitions you've set up in terms of not being angry, depressed,

happy, affectionate or permiscuous (sp). So if it's a current mood

you've succeeding in supressing somewhat, say, if you're depressed

before you drink, you'll be more depressed when you drink, angry more

angry, etc.

>

>

> In a message dated 1/12/2006 7:18:37 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> inglori@s... writes:

>

> :

> > Mean drunks scare me and disgust me. I always wonder if the

alcohol

> > changes them or brings out

> their true personalities? It's supposed to be a mood enhancer.

>

>

>

> Alcohol is not a mood enhancer, it is a depressant. It depression

> functioning of the brain, beginning with the part that controls

inhibitions. Because of

> this lower of one's control, it may seem like a mood enhancer

because it

> makes people less inhibited. That cuts both ways though. If a

person was nasty

> to begin with, the alcohol would depress their inhibitions just

like everyone

> else, thus causing them to slacken control of their meanness. This

is

> probably why so many fights are alcohol related. People who would

otherwise not

> fight at all have their inhibitions and reasoning power lowered by

the drink, so

> they fight.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

" say, if you're depressed before you drink, you'll be more depressed

when you drink, angry more angry, etc. "

Now this is odd because if I am angry and have a drink I chill out

and can't be bothered been angry anymore - sometimes I might even see

some sort of humour in the situation I was angry at. To me drink is

just 'chilling' :-)

Mmmmmmmmm maybe you have guessed I like a drink :-)

> >

> >

> > In a message dated 1/12/2006 7:18:37 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> > inglori@s... writes:

> >

> > :

> > > Mean drunks scare me and disgust me. I always wonder if the

> alcohol

> > > changes them or brings out

> > their true personalities? It's supposed to be a mood enhancer.

> >

> >

> >

> > Alcohol is not a mood enhancer, it is a depressant. It

depression

> > functioning of the brain, beginning with the part that controls

> inhibitions. Because of

> > this lower of one's control, it may seem like a mood enhancer

> because it

> > makes people less inhibited. That cuts both ways though. If a

> person was nasty

> > to begin with, the alcohol would depress their inhibitions just

> like everyone

> > else, thus causing them to slacken control of their meanness.

This

> is

> > probably why so many fights are alcohol related. People who would

> otherwise not

> > fight at all have their inhibitions and reasoning power lowered

by

> the drink, so

> > they fight.

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Now, , I have a hard time believing that you get very angry!

You seem like such a mild person.

> > >

> > >

> > > In a message dated 1/12/2006 7:18:37 P.M. Eastern Standard

Time,

> > > inglori@s... writes:

> > >

> > > :

> > > > Mean drunks scare me and disgust me. I always wonder if the

> > alcohol

> > > > changes them or brings out

> > > their true personalities? It's supposed to be a mood enhancer.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Alcohol is not a mood enhancer, it is a depressant. It

> depression

> > > functioning of the brain, beginning with the part that controls

> > inhibitions. Because of

> > > this lower of one's control, it may seem like a mood enhancer

> > because it

> > > makes people less inhibited. That cuts both ways though. If a

> > person was nasty

> > > to begin with, the alcohol would depress their inhibitions just

> > like everyone

> > > else, thus causing them to slacken control of their meanness.

> This

> > is

> > > probably why so many fights are alcohol related. People who

would

> > otherwise not

> > > fight at all have their inhibitions and reasoning power lowered

> by

> > the drink, so

> > > they fight.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Nope you are mistaken :-) I can get very angry and very passionate -

usually about injustices and things concerning my son too - like if I

think someone is treating him unfairly - I do try to keep my cool,

but am prone to ranting - and if I am pushed into a corner I will

come out fighting - usaully I choose the writen word as my chosen

weapon with laws to back me up :-)

I have surprised a lot of people by turning around and suddenly

becoming very assertive and standing up for myself and others - I

suppose many expect consistency and don't expect me to behave in such

a way :-)

>

> Now, , I have a hard time believing that you get very

angry!

> You seem like such a mild person.

>