Re: The perils of gossip and being social.

[Guest guest]

It's just that the situation reminded me of what happened in our own

household the day Princess died.

My mother never had a really high opinion of Princess to begin

with. She was pleased that seemed so down to earth, but she I

also thought that ought to have been less of a partier and

instead properly conform to the poise and attitude required of

people who marry into royalty.

I was in my room painting and about to switch channels to a

documentary when they network I was watching broke into the

boradcast at the critical moment in the show I was watching.

Basically, they said Princess appeared to have been in a car

accident, that there were no further details, and updates would be

given as events warranted.

My mom came into my room and said, " Did you hear Princess 's

been in a car accident? "

I answered in the affirmative and said I'd check the news after I

got done watching the documentary I was about to watch.

A few minutes later...

" It's no big deal. They extracted her from the cgar and sent her to

the hospital. Everything's fine. "

I said, " Well, that;s good then. "

A couple minutes later.

" They were wrong. They're saying she's still in the car and can't

get her out. "

I said, " Mom, it's too soon to really know anything. I'll check the

news out as soon as my documentary's over. "

Later...

" They say she's being a good sport and patiently waiting for her

them to extract her. She might have some broke legs. "

I thought but didn't say " Good, because I cannot concentrate on this

painting with these constant interuptions. "

Later...

" They say that her skull is ruptured and her brain is exposed. She's

not expected to live.... "

Still later:

" That was wrong. She's just waiting to be extracted, like I said

before. "

Still later:

" Princess is dead. "

I was thinking of saying " Are you SURE? "

Instead I waitied until the documentary was over and checked the

news THEN and sure enough, she was indeed dead.

By this time my mother looks exhausted and was in tears. (Keep in

mind this was the woman who didn't even LIKE Princess .) I

looked at her but didn't say anything. And she said, " It's just been

an emotional roller coaster. "

At this point I held my Aspie tongue because my instinct was to

say " Yes, but who put you on that emotional roller coaster? "

People do this all the time. Their behavior is consistenly

irrational. Mine is most rational, but BECAUSE I am rational, and

because I don't have the same emotional response that everyone else

does, I am a " heartless bastard. "

That really bugs me.

Tom

Administrator

Yeah, I understand they're upset but people need to stop always

trying to find someone to blame. And sue. I heard the company did not

correct them right away, but 3 hours later, because they wanted to

confirm exactly what happened. It would have been worse, in my

opinion, to come back right away and say 12 were dead, one critical

if all 13 were dead when they finally got to them.

[Guest guest]

I got in a lot of trouble for not getting upset over dying -

it's like I was a traitor or something - but I didn't know her and

there are lot's of good people who die all the time and they don't

make the news. I felt more sorry that she was leaving two young

children behind, that was about it.

Obviously I was considered heartless for my attitude and should have

been in mourning like the rest of the nation supposedly was.

>

> Yeah, I understand they're upset but people need to stop always

> trying to find someone to blame. And sue. I heard the company did

not

> correct them right away, but 3 hours later, because they wanted to

> confirm exactly what happened. It would have been worse, in my

> opinion, to come back right away and say 12 were dead, one critical

> if all 13 were dead when they finally got to them.

>