On the subject of female aggression..

[Guest guest]

Hey you two!

Control yourselves!

Tom

" I don't know a whole lot of Aspie males that have problems

controlling their tempers, but I do know many female Aspies that

have.

>

> Leif "

I have known male aspies that have problems with controlling their

tempers.

[Guest guest]

Hey you two!

Control yourselves!

Tom

" I don't know a whole lot of Aspie males that have problems

controlling their tempers, but I do know many female Aspies that

have.

>

> Leif "

I have known male aspies that have problems with controlling their

tempers.

[Guest guest]

When I was at the end of my rope with my jerk of an ex-husband I took

a pile of jalousie windows and rhythmically dropped them on the

concrete floor of the garage one at a time. The sound/feel of glass

breaking was very satisfying and soothing. I left him a few weeks

after that.

>

> I can get angry/frustrated with things and even sometimes people -

> but more generally systems in this world that are stupid,

ineffective

> and annoying. I don't hit others when I am angry (although I did

when

> younger) - I will occasionally throw something (very rare and not at

> living things).

>

> My son has a hard time controlling his temper, as did I when I was

> younger. As I have said before he now rips up newspapers, which

seems

> to work for him. I must admit recently when going through a lot of

> paperwork and ripping and shredding things no longer needed was very

> satisfying :-) apart from the thoughts about all the waste and poor

> trees :-(

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

When I was at the end of my rope with my jerk of an ex-husband I took

a pile of jalousie windows and rhythmically dropped them on the

concrete floor of the garage one at a time. The sound/feel of glass

breaking was very satisfying and soothing. I left him a few weeks

after that.

>

> I can get angry/frustrated with things and even sometimes people -

> but more generally systems in this world that are stupid,

ineffective

> and annoying. I don't hit others when I am angry (although I did

when

> younger) - I will occasionally throw something (very rare and not at

> living things).

>

> My son has a hard time controlling his temper, as did I when I was

> younger. As I have said before he now rips up newspapers, which

seems

> to work for him. I must admit recently when going through a lot of

> paperwork and ripping and shredding things no longer needed was very

> satisfying :-) apart from the thoughts about all the waste and poor

> trees :-(

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well, as long as we are confessing things....

Generally I am slow to anger. There have been only a few things that

really set me off in the past. One of those things was a an ex-

girlfriend who insisted on having an " open relationship " if my

relationship with her were to continue. I ended it with her, and the

next day I took everything that she had given me, including thwo

framed, glass encased photographs, put them in a garbage bag and

took a sledge hammer to it all.

I was angry at her, sure, but I was more angry at women in general.

My ex-wife cheated, and so did the next woman, and now this woman

had wanted an " open relationship. " One gets tired of it.

By smashing things, my anger was instantly dissipated and dispelled,

and I did not greive over that relationship much at all.

I alsways question whether or not such violence is a good thing or

not, but its therapeutic value cannot be ignored. For me at least.

Tom

When I was at the end of my rope with my jerk of an ex-husband I took

a pile of jalousie windows and rhythmically dropped them on the

concrete floor of the garage one at a time. The sound/feel of glass

breaking was very satisfying and soothing. I left him a few weeks

after that.

[Guest guest]

Long as one doesn't direct it at or harm anyone else, I think such venting

on rare occasions to get it out of your system is only healthy and

cathartic.

It's those who habitually keep everything under a lid that get eventually

get fatal diseases.

Inger

Re: On the subject of female aggression..

Well, as long as we are confessing things....

Generally I am slow to anger. There have been only a few things that

really set me off in the past. One of those things was a an ex-

girlfriend who insisted on having an " open relationship " if my

relationship with her were to continue. I ended it with her, and the

next day I took everything that she had given me, including thwo

framed, glass encased photographs, put them in a garbage bag and

took a sledge hammer to it all.

I was angry at her, sure, but I was more angry at women in general.

My ex-wife cheated, and so did the next woman, and now this woman

had wanted an " open relationship. " One gets tired of it.

By smashing things, my anger was instantly dissipated and dispelled,

and I did not greive over that relationship much at all.

I alsways question whether or not such violence is a good thing or

not, but its therapeutic value cannot be ignored. For me at least.

Tom

When I was at the end of my rope with my jerk of an ex-husband I took

a pile of jalousie windows and rhythmically dropped them on the

concrete floor of the garage one at a time. The sound/feel of glass

breaking was very satisfying and soothing. I left him a few weeks

after that.

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[Guest guest]

I heard the guy that invented voice mail say that he would never have invented it if he'd have known how it would be used and how annoying it is. Did you know that you can press '00' or '000' (zeros) on most voice mail systems at each prompt to bypass them and get to an operator or customer service rep?>> > In a message dated 11/23/2005 10:27:07 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, > no_reply writes:> > I do not feel the urge to destroy things very often, but when I do, I > usually have something saved for the purpose. Usually it is something > that is already broken and something that I was going to throw out > anyway. > > > > What usually gets me angry enough to destroy something is a machine that > doesn't work like it is supposed to. I've smashed a number of printers that > stopped working because they were cheap bits of crap from a company I will no > longer buy anything from. Sometimes they are surrogates for other things, like > the one or two phones that have been smashed because I've been on hold > listening to crappy music and that chirpy voice telling you how important your call > is (every 15 seconds or so and I'm sure its deliberate) for like half an hour > and that after searching through menus for 10 minutes trying to find a way to > speak to a human. I have to be careful though: I can throw hard enough that > I can take chunks out of the plaster wall or put things through a door if I'm > not careful. > > >

[Guest guest]

>: "Did you know that you can press '00' or '000' (zeros) on most voice mail systems at each prompt to bypass them and get to an operator or customer service rep?"Is that pronounced 'Oh, oh'? (As in: here comes trouble) Sometimes I used to answer my phone: "Customer Service: What's your problem?" Until, one day, it was my mother. Oh, oh.......  Rainbow

[Guest guest]

> " Sometimes I

> used to answer my phone: " Customer Service: What's your problem? "

> Until, one day, it was my mother. Oh, oh....... "

How that comes across all depends on the tone. Were you saying it like

Big Al from Newark, New Jersey, or like a little old lady from

Pasadena, California?

[Guest guest]

>: "How that comes across all depends on the tone."Like a grumpy old man with A.P.T.!  Rainbow

[Guest guest]

" I wonder about these things. Is it because both Aspie men and Aspie

women are more in the middle? That seems too simplistic but I've

noticed that on an Aspie forum I can't always tell who is male and

female if their names don't indicate it, whereas on an NT forum, I

usually can. "

When I used to sign off as 'Greebo' I got mistaken for being male on

more than one occasion :-)

> >

> > a name:

> > > Men in general do tend to feel the need to establish dominance.

> An example

> > is winning a fight.

> >

> > I think this too is a little different in the average Aspie male.

I

> feel no

> > need to establish dominance

> > and I think fist-fighting is extemely primitive. I " fight " with

> special

> > interest projects, where I'm pretty

> > competitive.

> >

> > Leif

> >

>

> I wonder about these things. Is it because both Aspie men and Aspie

> women are more in the middle? That seems too simplistic but I've

> noticed that on an Aspie forum I can't always tell who is male and

> female if their names don't indicate it, whereas on an NT forum, I

> usually can.

>