Guest guest Posted March 9, 2006 Report Share Posted March 9, 2006 Welcome Eva, most of my information is below... Is my not yet diagnosed I believe Aspergers/some form of autism... (can you tell I'm really confused) And we live in Florida! Looking forward to getting to know ya! This is a wonderful, informative group! ~Carey~Homeschooling Mom to (6) (4) Jordan (2) 3 Dogs, 2 cats, 2 Ferretts, 1 Lovebird, 1 Rabbit, a Turtle and some Fish :)Usborne Books ConsultantFun, Educational, Childrens Books! http://www.ubah.com/ecommerce/default.asp?sid=E2122 & gid=13972461 hi, newie signing up! Hi everyone,my name's Eva and I have two sons, Joe who's AS and who's NT. Joe will be 5 at the end of this month and he'll be going to school next year, (a terrifying thought). He is pretty compliant most of the time - LOVES a set of rules - but sometimes the smallest thing can set him off. I'm wondering how other people cope when their child is in the middle of a meltdown? I find it really hard. The other day I told him that it's ok to cry and scream but he has to go into his bedroom to do it, (I was getting a headache!). Socially he's pretty bad and doesn't interact with other kids. Our speech therapist has agreed to work with him on social skills/language at kinder. I'd like to know however what sort of strategies have other people used to help their kids to interact? (Presuming that their child actually WANTS to. I get the impression Joe's not very interested most of the time).This is a great site and I'm glad I found it!Eva Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 9, 2006 Report Share Posted March 9, 2006 Eva, hello, I am DeeDee. I have 3 children, the middle one is AS and is 13. She did not have much interest in interacting at that age either. That has come (to an extent anyway) with getting older. She still needs her " alone " time and we have just learned to give her space when she needs it and interact when she wants to for the most part. A large part of the way AS kids (and all actually, just more so with ours) learn to interact is through example. So as he gets into school, sees others interacting and is encoraged to do so himself, hopefully it will get better. As far as meltdowns..... I wish I could say they occur less as they get older, all I can say is you just need to find a way for him to do what he needs to do (crying etc) without hurting himself or others. I too send my daughter to her room after trying to calm her. If she is so into the fit that nothing I say or do will calm her, I let her know that it is ok to be upset but that she cannnot disrupt the entire rest of the household and needs to go somewhere to be alone until she can calm down and talk to me or is under control. We have gotten to this point over years of practice, it has become a routine for her to separate herself when she is unable to interact positively. She still has her moments when she totally refuses, but it gets better!!! I can totally relate to the headaches! Happen VERY often to all parents I think, just more so to us when things are stressful! Good luck! --- joesconcernedmum <joesconcernedmum@...> wrote: > Hi everyone, > > my name's Eva and I have two sons, Joe who's AS and > who's > NT. Joe will be 5 at the end of this month and he'll > be going to > school next year, (a terrifying thought). He is > pretty compliant > most of the time - LOVES a set of rules - but > sometimes the smallest > thing can set him off. I'm wondering how other > people cope when > their child is in the middle of a meltdown? I find > it really hard. > The other day I told him that it's ok to cry and > scream but he has > to go into his bedroom to do it, (I was getting a > headache!). > > Socially he's pretty bad and doesn't interact with > other kids. Our > speech therapist has agreed to work with him on > social > skills/language at kinder. I'd like to know however > what sort of > strategies have other people used to help their kids > to interact? > (Presuming that their child actually WANTS to. I get > the impression > Joe's not very interested most of the time). > > This is a great site and I'm glad I found it! > > Eva > > > > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2006 Report Share Posted March 10, 2006 Hi Eva When my son was this age, I organized a lot of playdates where I structured the activities - usually simple boardgames - Candyland, Guess Who is a good one (you have to ask questions and use the information to ask a better question the next time) and sometimes simple science experiments - making a volcano is always a good one. We used to play UNO as well - my son still likes this game (he is now 15) - it's good because the rules change with the card that's played - teaches flexibility and encourages attention. Trish > > Hi everyone, > > my name's Eva and I have two sons, Joe who's AS and who's > NT. Joe will be 5 at the end of this month and he'll be going to > school next year, (a terrifying thought). He is pretty compliant > most of the time - LOVES a set of rules - but sometimes the smallest > thing can set him off. I'm wondering how other people cope when > their child is in the middle of a meltdown? I find it really hard. > The other day I told him that it's ok to cry and scream but he has > to go into his bedroom to do it, (I was getting a headache!). > > Socially he's pretty bad and doesn't interact with other kids. Our > speech therapist has agreed to work with him on social > skills/language at kinder. I'd like to know however what sort of > strategies have other people used to help their kids to interact? > (Presuming that their child actually WANTS to. I get the impression > Joe's not very interested most of the time). > > This is a great site and I'm glad I found it! > > Eva > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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