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Wow, Stan, thanks sooooo much for posting that! just what I needed right

now. I am going through something very similar right now, one difference

being that my son is not yet recovered, so there is an additional

emotinal load to all that.

I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here about,

that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and I

have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at those

issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and facilitate

research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death. The

most interesting bit, and what gives me strenght at the moment, is that

they all respond VERY favourably and enthusiastically at first, but once

I mention I am 'just a parent' the emails sort of dry up... this whole

situation would be ridiculous if it wasn't downright TRAGIC.

Natasa

>

> This is a good time to say that I don't often proof read my notes or

use the " Maybe you

> should sleep on it before sending it " rule. I have a lot of

observations from my last week

> that I want to share so FORGIVE ME if I say something without really

thinking it through.

> I'm just trying to catch up.

>

> When I started this group there were several very important people

coming to me saying

> that I am upsetting some other important people and I just want to

stop and take a

> moment to say, " Let's all lighten up " and " We are all in this

together. "

>

> -----

>

> When I first fell in love with DAN!, I had my heart broken a few times

when I realized that

> even the DAN! doctors have their threshold of what information they

will accept from

> parents.

>

> The first doc who broke my heart was Dr. JM. when I emailed her about

my son starting to

> recover through use of Valtrex. She sent me the most scaving email I

had received in a

> long time. I still have it and when I'm a little tired of fighting

the system, I read it. My

> son's developmental pediatrician is #2 on my list of painfully

received emails.

>

> What I've learned to understand is that doctors are trained to look at

things carefully,

> objectively, and, for the most part, without emotion. As parents, we

are full of emotion

> and we are not trained on the scientific vernacular, so we can quite

often be

> misunderstood. And, in reality, we can often be wrong. In fact, I'll

go as far to say that we

> are wrong quite often in the big scheme of things. We can make a good

observation and

> follow it up with an ignorant assumption right afterwards. That was

my original mistake

> with Dr. JM. when I wrote to her about Ethan and that we should

consider using this on a

> larger set of children... actually, I don't know how I phrased it back

then... I've learned to

> speak more carefully.

>

> Anyway, my overzealousness and lack of scientific vernacular probably

put my foot right

> into a negative cement mold that I have been fighting to correct for

about 2 years now.

>

> One of the best things that happened to me was a visit from

Binstock, an

> independent researcher who spends her day educating the docs by

looking through the

> medical research. She is a wordsmith. She was talked about in

Kirby's, Evidence of

> Harm as a person who watches her words carefully.

>

> Here are some OLD STAN to TERESA conversions:

>

> OLD STAN

>

> " We should work on getting every doctor to try Valtex for their kids

on the spectrum. "

>

> TERESA influenced Stan

>

> " We are seeing some children improve on Valtex, some without viral

titers. It seems that

> Valtrex may have benefits beyond killing off the herpes viruses listed

in the PDR. It also

> may be worthwhile to continue our efforts to research what Valtrex is

really doing for our

> kids. Since some children are responding to Valtrex without viral

titers (even some

> without positive PCR results), it may make sense to consider a trial

of Valtrex to a larger

> group of children. I'm curious your thoughts. "

>

> Another simple example:

>

> OLD STAN

>

> A ton of people are responding to Valtrex.

>

> TERESA influenced Stan

>

> It seems that many people, possibly a majority of people, are

responding to Valtrex when

> taken with an antifungal like Diflucan or Amph B.

>

> You see, it's how well you qualify your position that gives you

credibility. If you overstate

> your position, it's easy to lose credibility. It's important to be

very clear and for the most

> part conservative about your claim, because if you can't back up your

claim, you

> immediately lose your credibility.

>

> Dr. Neubrander talked to me after one of my Think Tank Presentation

and said the thing

> that he was most impressed about was how I acknowledged that some

people who gave

> up on Valtrex probably did not log into the poll to tell us it didn't

work for them. I offered

> that possibility up front and that type of intellectual honestly gives

people the feel that

> what I say is generally honest and not too overstated. (Actually, Dr.

N and I really covered

> some nice discussion ground this week and I think / hope we will be

working more closely

> going forward.)

>

> My point is that on the doctor side of things, parents often overstate

things and often

> make mistakes in their assumptions.

>

> (Another doctor said to me that they liked how I started off the

presentation saying, " And

> now lets move from the scientific to the parentdotal... " [meaning a

cross of being a parent

> and anecdotal evidence, parentdotal being above anecdotal and less

than scientific... I

> really like the term.])

>

> That said, as parents we are also the ones with the greatest interest

in recovering our

> children and the ones that spend the most time observing them. This

means that we may

> not be brighter or more educated, but we certainly have more time to

observe our children

> and that amount of time and energy, in my opinion, converts to having

some insights that

> are not only invaluable, but impossible for a doctor to have.

Additionally, since we know

> our kids so well and we are in these parent groups exchanging stories,

we also hear about

> children that sound like our children and when we hear stories of

their recovery, we can

> often connect the dots together in a way that doctors don't have the

time or perspective

> to. IN HERE LYES THE POWER OF THE PARENT.

>

> This concept is still new to doctors, even some, if not a majority of,

DAN! doctors resist...

> at least to some degree.

>

> As long as we are not doctors, we will likely be rubbing up against

this fact. As we get

> better as parentdotal reports, I believe doctors and researchers will

continue to come

> around. I think we are making continued gains, and I was very

encouraged this weekend.

>

> On the doctors side of things, parent groups can be considered pesky

because the

> information is so uncontrolled. There are so many pieces of

information in a group that

> could be wrong or an observation used the wrong way. I had one doctor

at lunch tell me

> how the first 20 minutes of his initial sessions are often dispelling

untruths made up in the

> parent groups. At the same time, that same doctor learned more about

Valtrex because of

> our parent group.

>

> I just try to remember how many people said you can't rely on

information from the

> Internet. I think the Internet was the number one thing that brought

me back my boy...

> maybe the second and DAN! and viral researchers being the first.

>

> Basically, parent groups are a new entity and neither we or the

doctors have learned how

> to best get a long just yet. I think there is a mutual respect... and

frustration. But let's

> face it, it wasn't that long ago when they were told only they had the

answers and here is a

> comment from my son's developmental pediatrician that will always

motivate me in times

> of challenge... " Parents have never changed the course of medicine. "

Wow! right? That was

> the most shortsighted thing I think I've heard from a doctor so far.

I promise to jam that

> one back at her in the near future.

>

> OK, to sum up, I am not speaking of all doctors here. There are a

growing number of

> doctors who embrace the parents and parent suggestion and parent

research. I find they

> are often some of the best and brightest doctors. There are seemingly

more of these docs

> in the DAN! movement than anywhere else and I hope that there are a

growing number in

> years to come.

>

> At the same time, I hope that we as parents learn more about how to

present our

> parentdotal observations and suggestions in a way that meets the least

resistance from

> the doctors and researchers that we wish to influence. In time, I

believe we well.

>

> That's it for tonight. See you tomorrow.

>

> - Stan

>

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Wow, Stan, thanks sooooo much for posting that! just what I needed right

now. I am going through something very similar right now, one difference

being that my son is not yet recovered, so there is an additional

emotinal load to all that.

I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here about,

that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and I

have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at those

issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and facilitate

research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death. The

most interesting bit, and what gives me strenght at the moment, is that

they all respond VERY favourably and enthusiastically at first, but once

I mention I am 'just a parent' the emails sort of dry up... this whole

situation would be ridiculous if it wasn't downright TRAGIC.

Natasa

>

> This is a good time to say that I don't often proof read my notes or

use the " Maybe you

> should sleep on it before sending it " rule. I have a lot of

observations from my last week

> that I want to share so FORGIVE ME if I say something without really

thinking it through.

> I'm just trying to catch up.

>

> When I started this group there were several very important people

coming to me saying

> that I am upsetting some other important people and I just want to

stop and take a

> moment to say, " Let's all lighten up " and " We are all in this

together. "

>

> -----

>

> When I first fell in love with DAN!, I had my heart broken a few times

when I realized that

> even the DAN! doctors have their threshold of what information they

will accept from

> parents.

>

> The first doc who broke my heart was Dr. JM. when I emailed her about

my son starting to

> recover through use of Valtrex. She sent me the most scaving email I

had received in a

> long time. I still have it and when I'm a little tired of fighting

the system, I read it. My

> son's developmental pediatrician is #2 on my list of painfully

received emails.

>

> What I've learned to understand is that doctors are trained to look at

things carefully,

> objectively, and, for the most part, without emotion. As parents, we

are full of emotion

> and we are not trained on the scientific vernacular, so we can quite

often be

> misunderstood. And, in reality, we can often be wrong. In fact, I'll

go as far to say that we

> are wrong quite often in the big scheme of things. We can make a good

observation and

> follow it up with an ignorant assumption right afterwards. That was

my original mistake

> with Dr. JM. when I wrote to her about Ethan and that we should

consider using this on a

> larger set of children... actually, I don't know how I phrased it back

then... I've learned to

> speak more carefully.

>

> Anyway, my overzealousness and lack of scientific vernacular probably

put my foot right

> into a negative cement mold that I have been fighting to correct for

about 2 years now.

>

> One of the best things that happened to me was a visit from

Binstock, an

> independent researcher who spends her day educating the docs by

looking through the

> medical research. She is a wordsmith. She was talked about in

Kirby's, Evidence of

> Harm as a person who watches her words carefully.

>

> Here are some OLD STAN to TERESA conversions:

>

> OLD STAN

>

> " We should work on getting every doctor to try Valtex for their kids

on the spectrum. "

>

> TERESA influenced Stan

>

> " We are seeing some children improve on Valtex, some without viral

titers. It seems that

> Valtrex may have benefits beyond killing off the herpes viruses listed

in the PDR. It also

> may be worthwhile to continue our efforts to research what Valtrex is

really doing for our

> kids. Since some children are responding to Valtrex without viral

titers (even some

> without positive PCR results), it may make sense to consider a trial

of Valtrex to a larger

> group of children. I'm curious your thoughts. "

>

> Another simple example:

>

> OLD STAN

>

> A ton of people are responding to Valtrex.

>

> TERESA influenced Stan

>

> It seems that many people, possibly a majority of people, are

responding to Valtrex when

> taken with an antifungal like Diflucan or Amph B.

>

> You see, it's how well you qualify your position that gives you

credibility. If you overstate

> your position, it's easy to lose credibility. It's important to be

very clear and for the most

> part conservative about your claim, because if you can't back up your

claim, you

> immediately lose your credibility.

>

> Dr. Neubrander talked to me after one of my Think Tank Presentation

and said the thing

> that he was most impressed about was how I acknowledged that some

people who gave

> up on Valtrex probably did not log into the poll to tell us it didn't

work for them. I offered

> that possibility up front and that type of intellectual honestly gives

people the feel that

> what I say is generally honest and not too overstated. (Actually, Dr.

N and I really covered

> some nice discussion ground this week and I think / hope we will be

working more closely

> going forward.)

>

> My point is that on the doctor side of things, parents often overstate

things and often

> make mistakes in their assumptions.

>

> (Another doctor said to me that they liked how I started off the

presentation saying, " And

> now lets move from the scientific to the parentdotal... " [meaning a

cross of being a parent

> and anecdotal evidence, parentdotal being above anecdotal and less

than scientific... I

> really like the term.])

>

> That said, as parents we are also the ones with the greatest interest

in recovering our

> children and the ones that spend the most time observing them. This

means that we may

> not be brighter or more educated, but we certainly have more time to

observe our children

> and that amount of time and energy, in my opinion, converts to having

some insights that

> are not only invaluable, but impossible for a doctor to have.

Additionally, since we know

> our kids so well and we are in these parent groups exchanging stories,

we also hear about

> children that sound like our children and when we hear stories of

their recovery, we can

> often connect the dots together in a way that doctors don't have the

time or perspective

> to. IN HERE LYES THE POWER OF THE PARENT.

>

> This concept is still new to doctors, even some, if not a majority of,

DAN! doctors resist...

> at least to some degree.

>

> As long as we are not doctors, we will likely be rubbing up against

this fact. As we get

> better as parentdotal reports, I believe doctors and researchers will

continue to come

> around. I think we are making continued gains, and I was very

encouraged this weekend.

>

> On the doctors side of things, parent groups can be considered pesky

because the

> information is so uncontrolled. There are so many pieces of

information in a group that

> could be wrong or an observation used the wrong way. I had one doctor

at lunch tell me

> how the first 20 minutes of his initial sessions are often dispelling

untruths made up in the

> parent groups. At the same time, that same doctor learned more about

Valtrex because of

> our parent group.

>

> I just try to remember how many people said you can't rely on

information from the

> Internet. I think the Internet was the number one thing that brought

me back my boy...

> maybe the second and DAN! and viral researchers being the first.

>

> Basically, parent groups are a new entity and neither we or the

doctors have learned how

> to best get a long just yet. I think there is a mutual respect... and

frustration. But let's

> face it, it wasn't that long ago when they were told only they had the

answers and here is a

> comment from my son's developmental pediatrician that will always

motivate me in times

> of challenge... " Parents have never changed the course of medicine. "

Wow! right? That was

> the most shortsighted thing I think I've heard from a doctor so far.

I promise to jam that

> one back at her in the near future.

>

> OK, to sum up, I am not speaking of all doctors here. There are a

growing number of

> doctors who embrace the parents and parent suggestion and parent

research. I find they

> are often some of the best and brightest doctors. There are seemingly

more of these docs

> in the DAN! movement than anywhere else and I hope that there are a

growing number in

> years to come.

>

> At the same time, I hope that we as parents learn more about how to

present our

> parentdotal observations and suggestions in a way that meets the least

resistance from

> the doctors and researchers that we wish to influence. In time, I

believe we well.

>

> That's it for tonight. See you tomorrow.

>

> - Stan

>

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Natasa,

I love your information and appreciate all that you do. Although, I

too, am just another parent. But that's how I got onto Valtrex. Stan, just

another parent who gives tremendously of himself. Just parents, are doing a

lot these days! Take care,

Re: Parendotal Power

Wow, Stan, thanks sooooo much for posting that! just what I needed right

now. I am going through something very similar right now, one difference

being that my son is not yet recovered, so there is an additional

emotinal load to all that.

I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here about,

that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and I

have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at those

issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and facilitate

research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death. The

most interesting bit, and what gives me strenght at the moment, is that

they all respond VERY favourably and enthusiastically at first, but once

I mention I am 'just a parent' the emails sort of dry up... this whole

situation would be ridiculous if it wasn't downright TRAGIC.

Natasa

>

> This is a good time to say that I don't often proof read my notes or

use the " Maybe you

> should sleep on it before sending it " rule. I have a lot of

observations from my last week

> that I want to share so FORGIVE ME if I say something without really

thinking it through.

> I'm just trying to catch up.

>

> When I started this group there were several very important people

coming to me saying

> that I am upsetting some other important people and I just want to

stop and take a

> moment to say, " Let's all lighten up " and " We are all in this

together. "

>

> -----

>

> When I first fell in love with DAN!, I had my heart broken a few times

when I realized that

> even the DAN! doctors have their threshold of what information they

will accept from

> parents.

>

> The first doc who broke my heart was Dr. JM. when I emailed her about

my son starting to

> recover through use of Valtrex. She sent me the most scaving email I

had received in a

> long time. I still have it and when I'm a little tired of fighting

the system, I read it. My

> son's developmental pediatrician is #2 on my list of painfully

received emails.

>

> What I've learned to understand is that doctors are trained to look at

things carefully,

> objectively, and, for the most part, without emotion. As parents, we

are full of emotion

> and we are not trained on the scientific vernacular, so we can quite

often be

> misunderstood. And, in reality, we can often be wrong. In fact, I'll

go as far to say that we

> are wrong quite often in the big scheme of things. We can make a good

observation and

> follow it up with an ignorant assumption right afterwards. That was

my original mistake

> with Dr. JM. when I wrote to her about Ethan and that we should

consider using this on a

> larger set of children... actually, I don't know how I phrased it back

then... I've learned to

> speak more carefully.

>

> Anyway, my overzealousness and lack of scientific vernacular probably

put my foot right

> into a negative cement mold that I have been fighting to correct for

about 2 years now.

>

> One of the best things that happened to me was a visit from

Binstock, an

> independent researcher who spends her day educating the docs by

looking through the

> medical research. She is a wordsmith. She was talked about in

Kirby's, Evidence of

> Harm as a person who watches her words carefully.

>

> Here are some OLD STAN to TERESA conversions:

>

> OLD STAN

>

> " We should work on getting every doctor to try Valtex for their kids

on the spectrum. "

>

> TERESA influenced Stan

>

> " We are seeing some children improve on Valtex, some without viral

titers. It seems that

> Valtrex may have benefits beyond killing off the herpes viruses listed

in the PDR. It also

> may be worthwhile to continue our efforts to research what Valtrex is

really doing for our

> kids. Since some children are responding to Valtrex without viral

titers (even some

> without positive PCR results), it may make sense to consider a trial

of Valtrex to a larger

> group of children. I'm curious your thoughts. "

>

> Another simple example:

>

> OLD STAN

>

> A ton of people are responding to Valtrex.

>

> TERESA influenced Stan

>

> It seems that many people, possibly a majority of people, are

responding to Valtrex when

> taken with an antifungal like Diflucan or Amph B.

>

> You see, it's how well you qualify your position that gives you

credibility. If you overstate

> your position, it's easy to lose credibility. It's important to be

very clear and for the most

> part conservative about your claim, because if you can't back up your

claim, you

> immediately lose your credibility.

>

> Dr. Neubrander talked to me after one of my Think Tank Presentation

and said the thing

> that he was most impressed about was how I acknowledged that some

people who gave

> up on Valtrex probably did not log into the poll to tell us it didn't

work for them. I offered

> that possibility up front and that type of intellectual honestly gives

people the feel that

> what I say is generally honest and not too overstated. (Actually, Dr.

N and I really covered

> some nice discussion ground this week and I think / hope we will be

working more closely

> going forward.)

>

> My point is that on the doctor side of things, parents often overstate

things and often

> make mistakes in their assumptions.

>

> (Another doctor said to me that they liked how I started off the

presentation saying, " And

> now lets move from the scientific to the parentdotal... " [meaning a

cross of being a parent

> and anecdotal evidence, parentdotal being above anecdotal and less

than scientific... I

> really like the term.])

>

> That said, as parents we are also the ones with the greatest interest

in recovering our

> children and the ones that spend the most time observing them. This

means that we may

> not be brighter or more educated, but we certainly have more time to

observe our children

> and that amount of time and energy, in my opinion, converts to having

some insights that

> are not only invaluable, but impossible for a doctor to have.

Additionally, since we know

> our kids so well and we are in these parent groups exchanging stories,

we also hear about

> children that sound like our children and when we hear stories of

their recovery, we can

> often connect the dots together in a way that doctors don't have the

time or perspective

> to. IN HERE LYES THE POWER OF THE PARENT.

>

> This concept is still new to doctors, even some, if not a majority of,

DAN! doctors resist...

> at least to some degree.

>

> As long as we are not doctors, we will likely be rubbing up against

this fact. As we get

> better as parentdotal reports, I believe doctors and researchers will

continue to come

> around. I think we are making continued gains, and I was very

encouraged this weekend.

>

> On the doctors side of things, parent groups can be considered pesky

because the

> information is so uncontrolled. There are so many pieces of

information in a group that

> could be wrong or an observation used the wrong way. I had one doctor

at lunch tell me

> how the first 20 minutes of his initial sessions are often dispelling

untruths made up in the

> parent groups. At the same time, that same doctor learned more about

Valtrex because of

> our parent group.

>

> I just try to remember how many people said you can't rely on

information from the

> Internet. I think the Internet was the number one thing that brought

me back my boy...

> maybe the second and DAN! and viral researchers being the first.

>

> Basically, parent groups are a new entity and neither we or the

doctors have learned how

> to best get a long just yet. I think there is a mutual respect... and

frustration. But let's

> face it, it wasn't that long ago when they were told only they had the

answers and here is a

> comment from my son's developmental pediatrician that will always

motivate me in times

> of challenge... " Parents have never changed the course of medicine. "

Wow! right? That was

> the most shortsighted thing I think I've heard from a doctor so far.

I promise to jam that

> one back at her in the near future.

>

> OK, to sum up, I am not speaking of all doctors here. There are a

growing number of

> doctors who embrace the parents and parent suggestion and parent

research. I find they

> are often some of the best and brightest doctors. There are seemingly

more of these docs

> in the DAN! movement than anywhere else and I hope that there are a

growing number in

> years to come.

>

> At the same time, I hope that we as parents learn more about how to

present our

> parentdotal observations and suggestions in a way that meets the least

resistance from

> the doctors and researchers that we wish to influence. In time, I

believe we well.

>

> That's it for tonight. See you tomorrow.

>

> - Stan

>

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Natasa,

I love your information and appreciate all that you do. Although, I

too, am just another parent. But that's how I got onto Valtrex. Stan, just

another parent who gives tremendously of himself. Just parents, are doing a

lot these days! Take care,

Re: Parendotal Power

Wow, Stan, thanks sooooo much for posting that! just what I needed right

now. I am going through something very similar right now, one difference

being that my son is not yet recovered, so there is an additional

emotinal load to all that.

I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here about,

that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and I

have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at those

issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and facilitate

research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death. The

most interesting bit, and what gives me strenght at the moment, is that

they all respond VERY favourably and enthusiastically at first, but once

I mention I am 'just a parent' the emails sort of dry up... this whole

situation would be ridiculous if it wasn't downright TRAGIC.

Natasa

>

> This is a good time to say that I don't often proof read my notes or

use the " Maybe you

> should sleep on it before sending it " rule. I have a lot of

observations from my last week

> that I want to share so FORGIVE ME if I say something without really

thinking it through.

> I'm just trying to catch up.

>

> When I started this group there were several very important people

coming to me saying

> that I am upsetting some other important people and I just want to

stop and take a

> moment to say, " Let's all lighten up " and " We are all in this

together. "

>

> -----

>

> When I first fell in love with DAN!, I had my heart broken a few times

when I realized that

> even the DAN! doctors have their threshold of what information they

will accept from

> parents.

>

> The first doc who broke my heart was Dr. JM. when I emailed her about

my son starting to

> recover through use of Valtrex. She sent me the most scaving email I

had received in a

> long time. I still have it and when I'm a little tired of fighting

the system, I read it. My

> son's developmental pediatrician is #2 on my list of painfully

received emails.

>

> What I've learned to understand is that doctors are trained to look at

things carefully,

> objectively, and, for the most part, without emotion. As parents, we

are full of emotion

> and we are not trained on the scientific vernacular, so we can quite

often be

> misunderstood. And, in reality, we can often be wrong. In fact, I'll

go as far to say that we

> are wrong quite often in the big scheme of things. We can make a good

observation and

> follow it up with an ignorant assumption right afterwards. That was

my original mistake

> with Dr. JM. when I wrote to her about Ethan and that we should

consider using this on a

> larger set of children... actually, I don't know how I phrased it back

then... I've learned to

> speak more carefully.

>

> Anyway, my overzealousness and lack of scientific vernacular probably

put my foot right

> into a negative cement mold that I have been fighting to correct for

about 2 years now.

>

> One of the best things that happened to me was a visit from

Binstock, an

> independent researcher who spends her day educating the docs by

looking through the

> medical research. She is a wordsmith. She was talked about in

Kirby's, Evidence of

> Harm as a person who watches her words carefully.

>

> Here are some OLD STAN to TERESA conversions:

>

> OLD STAN

>

> " We should work on getting every doctor to try Valtex for their kids

on the spectrum. "

>

> TERESA influenced Stan

>

> " We are seeing some children improve on Valtex, some without viral

titers. It seems that

> Valtrex may have benefits beyond killing off the herpes viruses listed

in the PDR. It also

> may be worthwhile to continue our efforts to research what Valtrex is

really doing for our

> kids. Since some children are responding to Valtrex without viral

titers (even some

> without positive PCR results), it may make sense to consider a trial

of Valtrex to a larger

> group of children. I'm curious your thoughts. "

>

> Another simple example:

>

> OLD STAN

>

> A ton of people are responding to Valtrex.

>

> TERESA influenced Stan

>

> It seems that many people, possibly a majority of people, are

responding to Valtrex when

> taken with an antifungal like Diflucan or Amph B.

>

> You see, it's how well you qualify your position that gives you

credibility. If you overstate

> your position, it's easy to lose credibility. It's important to be

very clear and for the most

> part conservative about your claim, because if you can't back up your

claim, you

> immediately lose your credibility.

>

> Dr. Neubrander talked to me after one of my Think Tank Presentation

and said the thing

> that he was most impressed about was how I acknowledged that some

people who gave

> up on Valtrex probably did not log into the poll to tell us it didn't

work for them. I offered

> that possibility up front and that type of intellectual honestly gives

people the feel that

> what I say is generally honest and not too overstated. (Actually, Dr.

N and I really covered

> some nice discussion ground this week and I think / hope we will be

working more closely

> going forward.)

>

> My point is that on the doctor side of things, parents often overstate

things and often

> make mistakes in their assumptions.

>

> (Another doctor said to me that they liked how I started off the

presentation saying, " And

> now lets move from the scientific to the parentdotal... " [meaning a

cross of being a parent

> and anecdotal evidence, parentdotal being above anecdotal and less

than scientific... I

> really like the term.])

>

> That said, as parents we are also the ones with the greatest interest

in recovering our

> children and the ones that spend the most time observing them. This

means that we may

> not be brighter or more educated, but we certainly have more time to

observe our children

> and that amount of time and energy, in my opinion, converts to having

some insights that

> are not only invaluable, but impossible for a doctor to have.

Additionally, since we know

> our kids so well and we are in these parent groups exchanging stories,

we also hear about

> children that sound like our children and when we hear stories of

their recovery, we can

> often connect the dots together in a way that doctors don't have the

time or perspective

> to. IN HERE LYES THE POWER OF THE PARENT.

>

> This concept is still new to doctors, even some, if not a majority of,

DAN! doctors resist...

> at least to some degree.

>

> As long as we are not doctors, we will likely be rubbing up against

this fact. As we get

> better as parentdotal reports, I believe doctors and researchers will

continue to come

> around. I think we are making continued gains, and I was very

encouraged this weekend.

>

> On the doctors side of things, parent groups can be considered pesky

because the

> information is so uncontrolled. There are so many pieces of

information in a group that

> could be wrong or an observation used the wrong way. I had one doctor

at lunch tell me

> how the first 20 minutes of his initial sessions are often dispelling

untruths made up in the

> parent groups. At the same time, that same doctor learned more about

Valtrex because of

> our parent group.

>

> I just try to remember how many people said you can't rely on

information from the

> Internet. I think the Internet was the number one thing that brought

me back my boy...

> maybe the second and DAN! and viral researchers being the first.

>

> Basically, parent groups are a new entity and neither we or the

doctors have learned how

> to best get a long just yet. I think there is a mutual respect... and

frustration. But let's

> face it, it wasn't that long ago when they were told only they had the

answers and here is a

> comment from my son's developmental pediatrician that will always

motivate me in times

> of challenge... " Parents have never changed the course of medicine. "

Wow! right? That was

> the most shortsighted thing I think I've heard from a doctor so far.

I promise to jam that

> one back at her in the near future.

>

> OK, to sum up, I am not speaking of all doctors here. There are a

growing number of

> doctors who embrace the parents and parent suggestion and parent

research. I find they

> are often some of the best and brightest doctors. There are seemingly

more of these docs

> in the DAN! movement than anywhere else and I hope that there are a

growing number in

> years to come.

>

> At the same time, I hope that we as parents learn more about how to

present our

> parentdotal observations and suggestions in a way that meets the least

resistance from

> the doctors and researchers that we wish to influence. In time, I

believe we well.

>

> That's it for tonight. See you tomorrow.

>

> - Stan

>

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Natasa, you are clearly the calcium channel guru in my book, medical

degree or not. I suspect that DAN! docs get overwhelmed by all the

science (just to a lesser degree than us parents) and struggle to keep

up with all the new information. Also, most of them have such a busy

clinical practice that it seems risky to them to spend much time on

biochemical research.

My fear is that the researchers who could reasonably do the

experiments you propose (mostly the authors of the studies you have

found) might consider them if federal funding was available for those

specific studies. Unfortunately, the NIH, CDC, and NIMH still don't

show much interest in funding research into the biochemical pathways

typical of autistic kids. Even more unfortunate, I don't see this

changing any time soon, even if the Combatting Autism Act becomes

law. The bulk of the dollars will continue going to genetics.

Vance

> I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here about,

> that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and

I

> have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at those

> issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and

facilitate

> research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death.

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Natasa, you are clearly the calcium channel guru in my book, medical

degree or not. I suspect that DAN! docs get overwhelmed by all the

science (just to a lesser degree than us parents) and struggle to keep

up with all the new information. Also, most of them have such a busy

clinical practice that it seems risky to them to spend much time on

biochemical research.

My fear is that the researchers who could reasonably do the

experiments you propose (mostly the authors of the studies you have

found) might consider them if federal funding was available for those

specific studies. Unfortunately, the NIH, CDC, and NIMH still don't

show much interest in funding research into the biochemical pathways

typical of autistic kids. Even more unfortunate, I don't see this

changing any time soon, even if the Combatting Autism Act becomes

law. The bulk of the dollars will continue going to genetics.

Vance

> I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here about,

> that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and

I

> have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at those

> issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and

facilitate

> research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death.

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Thank you, Vance! I totally agree re doctors and researchers. Maybe

somewhere like CAN or even ARI would be the potential funding source,

considering CAN funded that groundbreaking Vargas et al study last year.

Just thinking/hoping out loud...

Natasa

>

> > I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here

about,

> > that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and

> I

> > have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at

those

> > issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and

> facilitate

> > research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death.

>

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Thank you, Vance! I totally agree re doctors and researchers. Maybe

somewhere like CAN or even ARI would be the potential funding source,

considering CAN funded that groundbreaking Vargas et al study last year.

Just thinking/hoping out loud...

Natasa

>

> > I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here

about,

> > that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and

> I

> > have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at

those

> > issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and

> facilitate

> > research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death.

>

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Natasa,

I 2nd Vance’s

sentiments!! I thought you would like to know that I have been forwarding all

sorts of information you have posted and e-mailed to me to other parents. All

of which are very appreciative. I truly believe Calcium plays a much larger

role than attention is paid to. Keep on trucking, the stuff you propose and

information you find is priceless in my opinion. Take care,

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mb12 valtrex

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Parendotal Power

Thank you, Vance! I totally agree re doctors and

researchers. Maybe

somewhere like CAN or even ARI would be the potential funding source,

considering CAN funded that groundbreaking Vargas et al study last year.

Just thinking/hoping out loud...

Natasa

>

> Natasa, you are clearly the calcium channel guru in my book, medical

> degree or not. I suspect that DAN! docs get overwhelmed by all the

> science (just to a lesser degree than us parents) and struggle to keep

> up with all the new information. Also, most of them have such a busy

> clinical practice that it seems risky to them to spend much time on

> biochemical research.

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Natasa,

I 2nd Vance’s

sentiments!! I thought you would like to know that I have been forwarding all

sorts of information you have posted and e-mailed to me to other parents. All

of which are very appreciative. I truly believe Calcium plays a much larger

role than attention is paid to. Keep on trucking, the stuff you propose and

information you find is priceless in my opinion. Take care,

From:

mb12 valtrex [mailto:mb12 valtrex ] On Behalf Of natasa778

Sent: Sunday, August 13, 2006 5:30

AM

mb12 valtrex

Subject: Re:

Parendotal Power

Thank you, Vance! I totally agree re doctors and

researchers. Maybe

somewhere like CAN or even ARI would be the potential funding source,

considering CAN funded that groundbreaking Vargas et al study last year.

Just thinking/hoping out loud...

Natasa

>

> Natasa, you are clearly the calcium channel guru in my book, medical

> degree or not. I suspect that DAN! docs get overwhelmed by all the

> science (just to a lesser degree than us parents) and struggle to keep

> up with all the new information. Also, most of them have such a busy

> clinical practice that it seems risky to them to spend much time on

> biochemical research.

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I'm wondering whether someone can refer me to the calcium channel research/info? Thanks.

Re: Parendotal Power

Thank you, Vance! I totally agree re doctors and researchers. Maybesomewhere like CAN or even ARI would be the potential funding source,considering CAN funded that groundbreaking Vargas et al study last year.Just thinking/hoping out loud...Natasa>> > I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted hereabout,> > that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and> I> > have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look atthose> > issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and> facilitate> > research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death.>

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I'm wondering whether someone can refer me to the calcium channel research/info? Thanks.

Re: Parendotal Power

Thank you, Vance! I totally agree re doctors and researchers. Maybesomewhere like CAN or even ARI would be the potential funding source,considering CAN funded that groundbreaking Vargas et al study last year.Just thinking/hoping out loud...Natasa>> > I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted hereabout,> > that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and> I> > have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look atthose> > issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and> facilitate> > research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death.>

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I'm wondering whether someone can refer me to the calcium channel research/info? Thanks.

Re: Parendotal Power

Thank you, Vance! I totally agree re doctors and researchers. Maybesomewhere like CAN or even ARI would be the potential funding source,considering CAN funded that groundbreaking Vargas et al study last year.Just thinking/hoping out loud...Natasa>> > I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted hereabout,> > that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism, and> I> > have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look atthose> > issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and> facilitate> > research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to death.>

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Lorna, if you pm me I can forward some info and abstracts to you. my

email address, without spaces: neno @ dalmaholidays . co . uk

Natasa

> >

> > > I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here

> about,

> > > that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism,

and

> > I

> > > have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at

> those

> > > issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and

> > facilitate

> > > research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to

death.

> >

>

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Lorna, if you pm me I can forward some info and abstracts to you. my

email address, without spaces: neno @ dalmaholidays . co . uk

Natasa

> >

> > > I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here

> about,

> > > that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism,

and

> > I

> > > have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at

> those

> > > issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and

> > facilitate

> > > research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to

death.

> >

>

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Lorna, if you pm me I can forward some info and abstracts to you. my

email address, without spaces: neno @ dalmaholidays . co . uk

Natasa

> >

> > > I have stumbled across some things, some of them I posted here

> about,

> > > that I believe might turn out to be of huge relevance in autism,

and

> > I

> > > have been trying to get some doctors and researchers to look at

> those

> > > issues more closely, or at least to get others interested and

> > facilitate

> > > research that way, but I have been patronised and ignored to

death.

> >

>

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