Guest guest Posted July 6, 2005 Report Share Posted July 6, 2005 Yes to all of the above. And I have no idea about talking to them differently. If I say anything critical to my 16yrold he says I'm jumping all over him. This week has been awful with my 6 and 4yr olds!! Missy--SAHM/Student Again I am who I am because that's who I am. --- 6, Asperger's All kids are gifted, some just open their packages earlier than others. -- Carr mornings and yelling > Anyone else have difficult mornings? > Anyone else get screamed at no matter how softly they talk to their AS > kids? > Anyone have advice? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 6, 2005 Report Share Posted July 6, 2005 My AS son, 13, yells at me often for simple things. If I try to hug him, he yells get away.Or if I happen to go in the same room as him he says, why are you following me. He always thinks I'm following him. If I walk by the bathroom when he's brushing his teeth he yells, get out. If I ever try to correct him when he's doing something he shouldn't he yells, leave me alone. I don't know what to do. I feel so distant from him. He seems so unemotional. He never hugs me or is affectionate. When I ask him if he loves me, he says yes. But it's so hard to comprehend his behavior and that he has love for his family when he acts so distant and unemotional. I know it's not his fault. I wonder if he can be taught how to show emotions, but that seems like something that comes from within not something that can be taught. He used to hug me all the time when he was younger, up until he was about 6 or 7, then it stopped. Dawn Michele Yuro <dawnyuro@...> wrote: Anyone else have difficult mornings?Anyone else get screamed at no matter how softly they talk to their AS kids?Anyone have advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 6, 2005 Report Share Posted July 6, 2005 Dawn, I have been pulling my hair out this week in particular with my son and lack of volume control. (I think because it is the second full week of vacation and he's been home 24/7 ) Between that and him fighting with his 4 year old sister I have been ready to run away this week! -Charlotte mornings and yelling Anyone else have difficult mornings?Anyone else get screamed at no matter how softly they talk to their AS kids?Anyone have advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 6, 2005 Report Share Posted July 6, 2005 Dawn, I have AS and my daughter has AS. I confess (and I'm sorry) that I chuckled when I read this, because I used to yell at MY grandmother and mom in the mornings...who tiptoed around me. My daughter (age 8) does the same to me. I see my mom and my grandmother BOTH looking down from Heaven and laughing their butts off right about now. Best advice....sometime in the middle of the DAY, explain that you will talk as little as possible. "here's the clothes you will wear...here's where you find the cereal, here's whatever else you need. When the BIG HAND is on the 12 and the little hand is on the 8...you will have to have those clothes ON, those books ready to go, and that cereal CONSUMED. If you fall behind...you'll be hearing from me, I'll have no choice....so if you dont wanna deal with me...don't fall behind...good luck". I admit...that tactic has been met with only marginal success... <LOL> But it made ME feel better. Good luck, From: Autism and Aspergers Treatment [mailto:Autism and Aspergers Treatment ] On Behalf Of Dawn Michele YuroSent: Wednesday, July 06, 2005 7:06 AMAutism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: mornings and yelling Anyone else have difficult mornings?Anyone else get screamed at no matter how softly they talk to their AS kids?Anyone have advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 6, 2005 Report Share Posted July 6, 2005 same here - my daughter had her 13th b.day on 6/14 - a lot of screaming & yelling & fighting with soon to be 12yo sister - just hang in there & know your'e not alone. designs <scottdesigns@...> wrote: Dawn, I have been pulling my hair out this week in particular with my son and lack of volume control. (I think because it is the second full week of vacation and he's been home 24/7 ) Between that and him fighting with his 4 year old sister I have been ready to run away this week! -Charlotte mornings and yelling Anyone else have difficult mornings?Anyone else get screamed at no matter how softly they talk to their AS kids?Anyone have advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2005 Report Share Posted July 7, 2005 On Jul 6, 2005, at 7:06 PM, Autism and Aspergers Treatment wrote: > Anyone else have difficult mornings? > Anyone else get screamed at no matter how softly they talk to their AS > kids? > Anyone have advice? > > **LOL Yes, yes and no. Mine also refuses to get up, without a struggle. HATE it. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2005 Report Share Posted July 7, 2005 On Jul 6, 2005, at 7:06 PM, Autism and Aspergers Treatment wrote: > Dawn, > I have been pulling my hair out this week in particular with my son > and lack of volume control. (I think because it is the second full > week of vacation and he's been home 24/7 ) > Between that and him fighting with his 4 year old sister I have been > ready to run away this week! > -Charlotte > **From what I understand, volume control is the last thing to come, even with kids who are neurotypical. So don't get too frustrated, if a child who is developmentally delayed doesn't have it yet. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2005 Report Share Posted July 7, 2005 Oh man, so I've got years of this ahead of me??? My 4 yos yells at us -- sometimes he doesn't like the noise of our talking, the fact that we're reminding him to use the bathroom, or that we're asking him to come eat dinner. The worst is if we get between him and his Gameboy, Toontown.com, or Nintendo. Watch out! "I hate you!" and "Weave me awone!" are common, though we've really worked on the 'hate' comment so we rarely hear that anymore. Overall, the yelling is still pretty bad though -- he'll even put up his little hand in a 'stop' motion, like that'll help? LOL, I have to admit, it's cute how he tries to stop us. He'll even say "Pause!" which is what you push in electronic games when you need to pause it for a second...we have to remind him 'this is real life, that's a game...' Re: mornings and yelling same here - my daughter had her 13th b.day on 6/14 - a lot of screaming & yelling & fighting with soon to be 12yo sister - just hang in there & know your'e not alone. designs <scottdesigns@...> wrote: Dawn, I have been pulling my hair out this week in particular with my son and lack of volume control. (I think because it is the second full week of vacation and he's been home 24/7 ) Between that and him fighting with his 4 year old sister I have been ready to run away this week! -Charlotte Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 7, 2005 Report Share Posted July 7, 2005 Welcome to the teenage years. Louie wasn't a yeller, he was an ignorer. Just like his sister, who yelled and ignored by turns (maybe that's where he learned it, who knows?), and she was NT until she was 32 and then dx'ed ADHD. Anyway, we got ignored when giving instructions in the morning for morning grooming and getting ready routine. Didn't matter how we cajoled, it went in one ear and out the other. The only thing he didn't miss was breakfast. We resorted, when he was 13, to printing out an illustrated (with goofy cartoons) morning routine sheet, with each step separate with it's own cartoon (brush your hair, brush your teeth, wash your hands and face, etc.). It worked, because (I think) it wasn't his parents telling him, it was a sheet that made him grin and didn't " nag " (his words for our technique). He still has one at 25, but this one has before and after breakfast categories and includes shaving. Nothing worked with his sister. She gave us the same replies your son gives you: " Leave me alone! Go away! " with an added " I'm not a child!!! " Boy. So I think you're probably dealing with the so-fun combo of a teen and autism. Bette comes to mind: " Fasten your seatbelts; it's gonna be a bumpy ride. " But it all comes right when they grow up. The hugs returned with Louie when he was around 16, and got even more frequent when he hit 18. Now he hugs us every time he sees us. Our daughter actually called and apologized when she was almost 30. Said she'd been thinking about her teenage years (she was a Goth and a Rocky Horror person, with multicolored hair and all), and if she'd been in our shoes, dealing with her, " I'd have put me away! " Best thing she ever said to me. Annie, who loves ya annie@... -- My world is made meaningful not by what I can evaluate and define, but by what I can appreciate and adore. I find there is a profound difference in what I find interesting and what I find important. -- Ann E. Hossler -- Organist Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2005 Report Share Posted July 8, 2005 > We resorted, when he was 13, to > printing out an illustrated (with goofy cartoons) morning routine sheet, > with each step separate with it's own cartoon (brush your hair, brush > your teeth, wash your hands and face, etc.). I was going to suggest some kind of visual schedule, either pictures or written words. Very often, someone with ASD has trouble processing spoken words - they have to stop what they are doing to concentrate on the speech and decoding it, so setting it out for them to process in their own time may be more effective. in England Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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