Re: Fw: Top 5 reasons you should NEVER poss off an autism mom!

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Hi Lois,Agree with you completely all what you have written is very true for an autism mom. we have some good moments here at least to share our feelings and get real good friends out here, it is a blessing, that is also because we are autism moms, let us look at the bright sides. Our kids are innocent and special, Normal children also may fall sometimes in bad habits and moms are hurt, so let us live trusting in Our Lord Jesus who will bring us out of this as he has given us this situation he will give us the grace to overcomeKalpana LoboFrom: Jill <jgmangus@...>autism Sent: Wednesday, November 9, 2011 4:20 AMSubject: Re: Fw: Top 5 reasons you should NEVER poss off an autism mom!

thanks Lois. This is a tough topic. I'm not denying we have to deal with difficult situations with family, strangers, churchs, schools, etc. My son is violent sometimes and I have heard it all. Both horrible cruel statements but also kind and thoughtful things.

And I think we need to continue to give NEW people a chance. Sometimes people will surprise and turn out to be the exact person you need in your life at that time.

BTW, my parents have been the most unsupportive people imaginable. They have repeatedly urged me to put my son in a home. Likewise they recently gave a monetary gift to all their grandchildren except my son. They have said horrible hurtful things. I'm now going to great lengths to avoid being hurt by them again. They've worn me out.

That's the difference. I'm not going to continue to be stomped on by mean people (including my parents). But I'm open to others. I will give the new teacher a chance. I will assume that this stranger will be decent until they show me otherwise.

Hope things are good for you. Jill

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> > learn to fear us, because autism moms are not to be trifled with.

> > Top Five Reasons You Should Never Piss Off an Autism Mom

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> > Five. We're Already on the Defensive

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> > What? You think you're the first person to think I'm a bad mother? Get in line. People have been assuming I'm a bad mother for the last five years. I chew up people who think I'm a bad parent for breakfast. You think there's something wrong with my kid? No shit, Sherlock - this panel of physicians and psychologists agrees with you. Tell us something we don't know. Have something new and clever to add? No? NO? I didn't think so.

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> > In other words, we have experience with assholes like you.

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> > Four. We Are Not Socially Well-Adjusted

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> > We were real people once, and we will be real people again someday, but right now we're living on the fringe of polite society. We have cut ties and discarded the family and friends who couldn't handle our situation. We all suffer from severe PTSD. Our houses are messy, our surfaces are sticky, and we know the words to way too many Wiggles songs. We clean up disasters that you couldn't even begin to contemplate. We live in semi-isolation, trying to have philosophical conversations with children who only know 18 words. We wear yoga pants all day. Our lives are not like other people's lives. Do you really want to make us angry? Or do you want to give us a really really wide berth and back away slowly because you're scared of what we might do if we snap? Yes. Good choice.

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> > Three. We Know How to Fight

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> > Autism moms know how to fight because we practice. We fight all day long. We fight with doctors about treatment, and then we fight with insurance companies to get it paid for. We fight with the state over services and we fight with schools about our IEPs. We fight with our families who won't come to visit us anymore and we fight with our husbands to let off steam from all the other fighting we're constantly doing. We fight with our children to make them keep their pants on in public. Do you think for a second that we would hesitate to fight with a complete stranger who was totally asking for it?

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> > Two. We're Already Angry

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> > Autism moms carry huge amounts of unprocessed rage just below the surface. We're mad at god or the universe or fate or whatever it is out there that gave our children autism. We are furious at the cards we were dealt and indignant that such a horrible thing had to happen to our children. We are angry about the loss of the child we were supposed to have, and we never truly stop mourning. We're angry at the doctors who didn't catch it early enough and also at the doctors who did. We hold a grudge against anybody who ever failed us as we tried to make sense of this chaos, and we're also furious at ourselves, because we constantly feel like we're not doing enough to help and we're secretly afraid that it might somehow be our fault in the first place. We are already walking bundles of resentment.do you want to be the straw that breaks the camel's back?

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> > One. We're Sleep Deprived

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> > Some of us haven't had a good night's sleep in years. Between the stress, depression, anxiety, and the kid who wakes up screaming for popsicles at 3 a.m., we're all beyond exhausted. We're muddled and short-tempered and irrational and crazy. Like ax murderer crazy. Like Mel Gibson crazy. There are all sorts of studies linking sleep deprivation to psychosis and that would probably hold up in court if I decided to assault you. Keep that in mind the next time you fail to keep your opinions to yourself, and beware the autism mom

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> > I don't give in

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> > Always looking for the "Cure"

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> > I don't give in

> > I don't give up

> > And I don't take NO for an answer.

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> > If God Brings you to it,

> > He will Bring you though it.

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