Re: Danny's Blow Up...mary

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Hi I would be really interested to hear more about the program and how you introduced it to your child. How old was he when you started this? I am willing also to try anything to help.

Sandy

From: <mwhitehead@...>Subject: Re: Danny's Blow Upautism Date: Thursday, January 14, 2010, 11:20 PM

This is a little difficult to explain in a short email but we developed a Stop Think & Plan program for Josh ...basically it taught him to do just that...stop when he was at a crossroads.. .think about his next action and follow the plan. I know this is simplistic but the point of all this rambling is that now he wears a leather wrist band with the letters S T & P embossed on it. This wristband is enough of a visual reminder for him now to stop think and follow the plan....make any sense at all?? LOL We all need visual reminders from time to time especially when we are stressed and I just thought this might help..If you want more info on the program let me know.

Danny's Blow Up

Well I guess it couldn't of happened at a better time but it was hard to watch and not react. We were at the behaviorist last night and Dr. Ney asked Danny a question. I think Danny didn't remember the answer so he was trying to skirt the issues so I told him remember you were on the swing and he said oh yea. Then the doctor asked him what he did on the swimg and he couldn't come up with it so he went into a total and I mean total meltdown.His usualy means of calming down are to leave the room, however we are trying to get him to calm down so that he doesn't have to leave the room so we wouldn't let him go. Oh man it was awful, he was hittingh is head, banging on a chair, crying and screaming and just out of control. At one point I just couldn't take it anymore and told him to come to me for a hug and I was stupid cause I talked to him - you can't talk to him when he is like this he needs peace and quiet for it to pass and then he hit me.

The Dr said no you may not hit your mother or yourself. Then Danny said he wanted something from the waiting room and I said is it the legos and all of a sudden he said wait a minute there are things here I can play with and he set up a table and pulled the down the dollhouse and started making sure that the dollhouse pieces were in their place.Dr. Ney asked how many times a week Danny does this and I said 3 or 4 mostly in school occassionally over homework but usually with me or school. He said man he goes from 0 to complete meltdown in seconds flat. I said yes that's why we don't know how to handle him and that is why is asked to leave the room at school and at Scout meetings.Well Dr, Ney said we need to give him another strategy to calm himself down before he needs to leave the room cause he will not always be able to leave a room - I agreed. So now we are brainstorming on how to work this out.It was awful to watch. Danny

didn't even know what he was doing. He was just a lost sole. It was awful. I am so stressed about this I don't know how to help him. He has no reinforcers that work cause he doesn't care enough about anything. His father says he doesn't agree with Dr. Ney so now I am in the middle of a battle to help my son and to agree/disagree with my husband.I am sure everybody goes through these meltdowns does anybody have any other ideas on what can be done so that he doesn't leave the room and that he can calm himself down at his seat. So far everything we have done has not worked and the teachers once they seem him getting upset send him out of the room.Sharon