Details, Details........Round 2 (OT)

[Guest guest]

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Thank you for your honesty.....I am so sorry you had to go through

those painful situations...you sound like a strong person who can

handle anything!

My situation (I'll try to be brief) is this:

My parents were married for 26 years. My father was a devoted husband

and dad for as long as I can remember.....he loved my mother so much,

they had a wonderful relationship and we were a happy family. After I

graduated from high school, things started to change...my dad was never

home, always hanging out with friends, going to nightclubs, etc...He

started acting cold and distant to my mother and then my sisters and I

found out he had been cheating on my mother for YEARS with a girl is

younger than my older sister....Well, to make a long story short....my

mother found out, had a very painful, messy divorce from my dad and he

married the young girl...She is now 31...my older sister will be 33

this year..and my father is 53....

I hated him and carried a grudge for a long time. I am so bitter

(towards men) and non-trusting to the point that I have sabotaged

several " possible " wonderful realtionships for fear of being hurt. I

have told anyone who would listen that I never want to be married, have

a family, etc for fear of being cheated on...made a fool of,

missused.....I don't really mean this, I just say it to protect

myself...

Anyway, in the meantime, I joined church and was saved and forgave my

father for what he did...we are actually on speaking terms and all is

well....it took a long time for me to get to that point - one day I

just said to myself, " What would I do if Jesus didn't forgive me when I

did things that weren't pleasing to Him? " That did it for me. He who

cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass

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So, this is my story - didn't mean to sound preachy or take up your

time.

Again, thanks for your honesty, I appreciate it...I haven't gone

through half of what you have and if you can open yourself up to love

again, i guess I can (gulp)try

Have a good night friend,