Re: I give Up - I am throwing in the towel

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sharon, i totally understand how you feel. my daughter is 16 and i feel like all i have done for 16 years is struggle with her behavior (and yes, from birth, all she did was cry as a baby). i recently had 4 months where 3 to 4 days a week i got a note from school saying she had been violent. she was even suspended for 2 days at one point, which is ridiculous. and i am also doing it all by myself, although she does see her father. but he's no help. currently, her meds are at a level where she is functioning much better...but for how long, who knows?

so i totally understand your feeling, cause i felt that way many times over those 4 months. but you are stronger than you think and you will find even more strength to keep going, for your son because you love him no matter what he does. it's so very hard to deal with autism and the stress it adds to life. but hang in there, it's a long, hard road but you're doing what's best for your son.

good luck!!

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Sharon, I am so sorry. I understand. Love and hugs, Pat K

I give Up - I am throwing in the towel

My son has been gone all day with his father - also my husband and it was nice and peaceful until they got home. Now everybody is fighting. I have grounded Dan again for disrepectfulness.

Husband decided to go for a walk - so again I am alone with child who has no respect for me what so ever. I refuse to let him walk all over me and I am so sick and tired of it. I don't know if it is because he is 12 (just turned) or it is me or just what it is, but I want out I am so done with Autism and having to do it all by myself.

I'm done

Sharon

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From: Mannon <bashful373@...>Subject: I give Up - I am throwing in the towelautism Date: Sunday, April 11, 2010, 8:36 PM

I may be a little late in learning the back story, but any chance you both could go to counseling? DH and I just started that this past week...

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Aww, Sharon. Hang in there.

Ladybird Sherman

From: Sharon <kmusikmom2@...>autism Sent: Sun, April 11, 2010 5:18:53 PMSubject: I give Up - I am throwing in the towel

My son has been gone all day with his father - also my husband and it was nice and peaceful until they got home. Now everybody is fighting. I have grounded Dan again for disrepectfulness.Husband decided to go for a walk - so again I am alone with child who has no respect for me what so ever. I refuse to let him walk all over me and I am so sick and tired of it. I don't know if it is because he is 12 (just turned) or it is me or just what it is, but I want out I am so done with Autism and having to do it all by myself.I'm doneSharon

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Hey Sharon,

The worst part for me (at least this week) is the sheer exhaustion that just

springs out at you from no where. Nothing horrible happened at that moment, but

you suddenly just can't picture doing one more phone call, one more ounce of

research, one more hearing of the word autism...we've ALL been there.

All I can suggest is to try to remember the better moments during the worse

ones, and hope they come again soon. I won't ask if you have people around you

who can help, but if there's anyone who can even sit in your home for a 1/2 hour

to " mother's helper " for you, please let them. I've given up on pride, you need

to get down on your hands and knees too often with " special " kids to have any

left...

Good luck, and I hope and pray you have better days soon.

-Alyssa

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> My son has been gone all day with his father - also my husband and it was nice

and peaceful until they got home. Now everybody is fighting. I have grounded

Dan again for disrepectfulness.

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> Husband decided to go for a walk - so again I am alone with child who has no

respect for me what so ever. I refuse to let him walk all over me and I am so

sick and tired of it. I don't know if it is because he is 12 (just turned) or

it is me or just what it is, but I want out I am so done with Autism and having

to do it all by myself.

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> I'm done

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> Sharon

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We are all still here - we are all in the game.That is something for us to applaud.KateOn Tue, Apr 13, 2010 at 2:11 PM, ofcourseitquacks <ofcourseitquacks@...> wrote:

 

Hey Sharon,

The worst part for me (at least this week) is the sheer exhaustion that just springs out at you from no where. Nothing horrible happened at that moment, but you suddenly just can't picture doing one more phone call, one more ounce of research, one more hearing of the word autism...we've ALL been there.

All I can suggest is to try to remember the better moments during the worse ones, and hope they come again soon. I won't ask if you have people around you who can help, but if there's anyone who can even sit in your home for a 1/2 hour to " mother's helper " for you, please let them. I've given up on pride, you need to get down on your hands and knees too often with " special " kids to have any left...

Good luck, and I hope and pray you have better days soon.

-Alyssa

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> My son has been gone all day with his father - also my husband and it was nice and peaceful until they got home. Now everybody is fighting. I have grounded Dan again for disrepectfulness.

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> Husband decided to go for a walk - so again I am alone with child who has no respect for me what so ever. I refuse to let him walk all over me and I am so sick and tired of it. I don't know if it is because he is 12 (just turned) or it is me or just what it is, but I want out I am so done with Autism and having to do it all by myself.

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> I'm done

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> Sharon

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thanks Alyssa - I just wish we could get along. As does my husband he is sick and tired of us fighting.

Shaorn

From: ofcourseitquacks <ofcourseitquacks@...>Subject: Re: I give Up - I am throwing in the towelautism Date: Tuesday, April 13, 2010, 2:11 PM

Hey Sharon, The worst part for me (at least this week) is the sheer exhaustion that just springs out at you from no where. Nothing horrible happened at that moment, but you suddenly just can't picture doing one more phone call, one more ounce of research, one more hearing of the word autism...we' ve ALL been there. All I can suggest is to try to remember the better moments during the worse ones, and hope they come again soon. I won't ask if you have people around you who can help, but if there's anyone who can even sit in your home for a 1/2 hour to "mother's helper" for you, please let them. I've given up on pride, you need to get down on your hands and knees too often with "special" kids to have any left...Good luck, and I hope and pray you have better days soon.-Alyssa >> My son has been gone all day with his father - also my husband and it was nice and peaceful until they got home. Now everybody is fighting. I have grounded Dan again for disrepectfulness.> > Husband decided to go for a walk - so again I am alone with child who has no respect for me what so ever. I refuse to let him walk all over me and I am so sick and tired of it. I don't know if it is because he is 12 (just turned) or it is me or just what it is, but I want out I am so done with Autism and having to do it all by myself.> > I'm done> > Sharon>

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Sharon,

File this under " easier said then done " ! Stress, exhaustion, the desperate

desire sometimes for a " normal " life , never mind the nasty thoughts at the back

of your mind that say , " what could I have done to prevent this ? Did I eat the

wrong things while pregnant,are my genes messed up, did I give them the wrong

foods or medicines when they were small, is this massive Karma come back to

haunt me for some wrong doing, or were my boys just supposed to be born this

way, and we were the best ones for the job of parenting them ? "

There's so much stress in marriages that deal with these kids and their

problems, I think sometimes it's incredible that any of us manage not to fight

24/7. My husband and I realized once ( and I apologize if this offends

anyone...) that the closest we had come to time out for ourselves in months was

when we had to attend a memorial service for a family member ! It's not the

kids' fault, it's not ours, its just the way it goes, and all you can do is hold

on and wait for better days...

-Alyssa

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nice and peaceful until they got home. Now everybody is fighting. I have

grounded Dan again for disrepectfulness.

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> > Husband decided to go for a walk - so again I am alone with child who has no

respect for me what so ever. I refuse to let him walk all over me and I am so

sick and tired of it. I don't know if it is because he is 12 (just turned) or it

is me or just what it is, but I want out I am so done with Autism and having to

do it all by myself.

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