elective surgery.... risks

[Guest guest]

you brought up a good point about " uneducated people. " its true- any

surgery is a risk. being put under is a risk- having a c section is

a risk. but people dont see that. they feel because we make this

choice- its different. it isnt. medicine today is so advanced- you

dont see people dying like they used to because the surgery is just

about perfected. we are at risk when we walk out our front door

everyday and it pisses me off too when people think they know what

the hell they are talking about.

vicki

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Vicki - I was thinking about how to word what I have been experiencing the

last week with comments coming my way and you post is right on.

Two different friends, separately, made comments about my " elective " surgery

this week...at the time the word kind of hung in the air . Later when I

thinking about why the term bugged me or seemed strange, I thought they

think b/c I am " choosing " to have this surgery that this is somehow my own

doing... and maybe they are less sympathetic.... or maybe there is a tone of

being judgemental.... but there is something definitely there and its also

piggy backs on what said about the woman who seemed to be

insinuating that having wls was an unecessary risk... that is exactly what

I am feeling from people and its been surprising. Especially when its

people close to me that I think " get it " ....and in reality they dont.

Marcella