Re: Single or Divorced Parents with Autistic Children. Do you experience the same?

[Guest guest]

On 12/14/03 10:23 PM, " (Roslyn) Brittany's Mother "

<Crosstheroz@...> wrote:

What a heartbreaking story. I am in the middle of a divorce right now

myself. No the jerk and your other sister aren¹t right. She does not have

to stay in that kind of a relationship. There are good men out there who

will love her and her son. She just needs to be patient. She does not

deserve to be stuck with a man like that nor does she have to. I want to

take your other sister and put her over my knee for encouraging her own

sister to stay with a man who treats her so horribly.

Shauna

> Was my sister’s former abusive husband right? My sister was married

> to her husband for 17 agonizing years, she suffered much abuse both

> physically, and mentally. She’s much better, but dealing with

> loneliness. Her ex-husband once told her that she might as well stay

> married to him, because no one else would be interested in her with

> her retarded son. Our older sister is supporting to return to

> the abusive relationship because she too believes that the only

> person wants her is the ex. I believe differently. I’m finding it

> quite challenging trying to be the positive one in the group, but

> have no proof to back my positive talk. Was my sister’s former

> abusive husband right? Is ’s chance for love over? She's

> beautiful, but when a guy find out about her son , they have a

> sudden change of heart. I told her to find someone who shares the

> same experience with his or her own child. That way, understanding

> would be reached. I need help and advice, If you can help me, help my

> sister, I would truly appreciate it. Thanks!

>

> If you could point me in the right direction, perhaps there’s a

> singles group in Houston with like interest?

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

On 12/14/03 10:23 PM, " (Roslyn) Brittany's Mother "

<Crosstheroz@...> wrote:

What a heartbreaking story. I am in the middle of a divorce right now

myself. No the jerk and your other sister aren¹t right. She does not have

to stay in that kind of a relationship. There are good men out there who

will love her and her son. She just needs to be patient. She does not

deserve to be stuck with a man like that nor does she have to. I want to

take your other sister and put her over my knee for encouraging her own

sister to stay with a man who treats her so horribly.

Shauna

> Was my sister’s former abusive husband right? My sister was married

> to her husband for 17 agonizing years, she suffered much abuse both

> physically, and mentally. She’s much better, but dealing with

> loneliness. Her ex-husband once told her that she might as well stay

> married to him, because no one else would be interested in her with

> her retarded son. Our older sister is supporting to return to

> the abusive relationship because she too believes that the only

> person wants her is the ex. I believe differently. I’m finding it

> quite challenging trying to be the positive one in the group, but

> have no proof to back my positive talk. Was my sister’s former

> abusive husband right? Is ’s chance for love over? She's

> beautiful, but when a guy find out about her son , they have a

> sudden change of heart. I told her to find someone who shares the

> same experience with his or her own child. That way, understanding

> would be reached. I need help and advice, If you can help me, help my

> sister, I would truly appreciate it. Thanks!

>

> If you could point me in the right direction, perhaps there’s a

> singles group in Houston with like interest?

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Shauna,

Thanks again for responding. I'm so concern for because if

any of her children mess up and get in trouble, she blames herself

and the decision to leave her marriage. Now, she's blaming us for

helping her and the kids excape the abuse. It's awful! At first, I

could talk to her about anything, but when I tell her that I'm mad at

my husband for some reasdon, she goes into this long bit about how I

should stay in my marriage. I said nothing about leaving my husband,

he's wonderful, just drives me crazy with his junk collections. But

when I tell anything negative, she'll tell me not to divorce him

because my daughter will turn out bad. And all of a sudden, it's

about her and not the person who's complaining. Sorry for the long

post, but I'm getting frustrated.

[Guest guest]

Shauna,

Thanks again for responding. I'm so concern for because if

any of her children mess up and get in trouble, she blames herself

and the decision to leave her marriage. Now, she's blaming us for

helping her and the kids excape the abuse. It's awful! At first, I

could talk to her about anything, but when I tell her that I'm mad at

my husband for some reasdon, she goes into this long bit about how I

should stay in my marriage. I said nothing about leaving my husband,

he's wonderful, just drives me crazy with his junk collections. But

when I tell anything negative, she'll tell me not to divorce him

because my daughter will turn out bad. And all of a sudden, it's

about her and not the person who's complaining. Sorry for the long

post, but I'm getting frustrated.

[Guest guest]

Both my sisters have children with disabilities and have found people to

love them and their children. One of their kids was diagnosed with

schizophrenia and was in the state hospital at Vernon at age 10.

Tell your sister NOT TO GO BACK! No one should have to live a life of

abuse. The abuser telling her that no one else would want her is part of

the cycle. Women's Protective Services could help her understand it

more. Drop me a note if you need help locating a local group for her.

Tonya Hettler

Phone 806-544-0347

TX Federation of Families, training specialist

http://www.txffcmh.org

Unlocking Autism, TX Rep

http://www.unlockingautism.org

West Texas Information Network, Owner

w-i-n

Single or Divorced Parents with

Autistic Children. Do you experience the same?

Was my sister’s former abusive husband right? My sister was married

to her husband for 17 agonizing years, she suffered much abuse both

physically, and mentally. She’s much better, but dealing with

loneliness. Her ex-husband once told her that she might as well stay

married to him, because no one else would be interested in her with

her retarded son. Our older sister is supporting to return to

the abusive relationship because she too believes that the only

person wants her is the ex. I believe differently. I’m finding it

quite challenging trying to be the positive one in the group, but

have no proof to back my positive talk. Was my sister’s former

abusive husband right? Is ’s chance for love over? She's

beautiful, but when a guy find out about her son , they have a

sudden change of heart. I told her to find someone who shares the

same experience with his or her own child. That way, understanding

would be reached. I need help and advice, If you can help me, help my

sister, I would truly appreciate it. Thanks!

If you could point me in the right direction, perhaps there’s a

singles group in Houston with like interest?

Unlocking Autism

www.UnlockingAutism.org

Autism-Awareness-Action

Worldwide internet group for parents who have a

child with AUTISM.

SeekingJoyinDisability - Prayer support for those touched by Disability:

SeekingJoyinDisability/

[Guest guest]

Both my sisters have children with disabilities and have found people to

love them and their children. One of their kids was diagnosed with

schizophrenia and was in the state hospital at Vernon at age 10.

Tell your sister NOT TO GO BACK! No one should have to live a life of

abuse. The abuser telling her that no one else would want her is part of

the cycle. Women's Protective Services could help her understand it

more. Drop me a note if you need help locating a local group for her.

Tonya Hettler

Phone 806-544-0347

TX Federation of Families, training specialist

http://www.txffcmh.org

Unlocking Autism, TX Rep

http://www.unlockingautism.org

West Texas Information Network, Owner

w-i-n

Single or Divorced Parents with

Autistic Children. Do you experience the same?

Was my sister’s former abusive husband right? My sister was married

to her husband for 17 agonizing years, she suffered much abuse both

physically, and mentally. She’s much better, but dealing with

loneliness. Her ex-husband once told her that she might as well stay

married to him, because no one else would be interested in her with

her retarded son. Our older sister is supporting to return to

the abusive relationship because she too believes that the only

person wants her is the ex. I believe differently. I’m finding it

quite challenging trying to be the positive one in the group, but

have no proof to back my positive talk. Was my sister’s former

abusive husband right? Is ’s chance for love over? She's

beautiful, but when a guy find out about her son , they have a

sudden change of heart. I told her to find someone who shares the

same experience with his or her own child. That way, understanding

would be reached. I need help and advice, If you can help me, help my

sister, I would truly appreciate it. Thanks!

If you could point me in the right direction, perhaps there’s a

singles group in Houston with like interest?

Unlocking Autism

www.UnlockingAutism.org

Autism-Awareness-Action

Worldwide internet group for parents who have a

child with AUTISM.

SeekingJoyinDisability - Prayer support for those touched by Disability:

SeekingJoyinDisability/