Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

[Guest guest]

As you all know from my rants, I live in a small town. The Autism

Association here in Norway arranges annual meetings here in Norway,

but most of the Aspie women here I've met online are either not

single or they don't want a relationship at all.

Again, I feel like I just want the totally wrong thing and that I'm

just preying on women

secretSociety , " Inger Lorelei " <inglori@s...> wrote:

> OJ, don't they have local Aspie meetings in Norway? (Have I asked

that

> before?)

>

> Here, Riksföreningen Autism arranges meetings in the bigger cities

every now

> and then. Those are great for meeting other Aspies. And even if it

can feel

> a bit scary to go to a bigger town and meet people you don't know,

the good

> thing about it is that most others are probably just as nervous,

and usually

> turn out to be really nice people once you all get over your

initial

> inhibition.

>

> I strongly recommend it. I doubt any Aspie babes are just going to

turn up

> knocking on your door (though you never know, of course). ;-)

>

> And even if you don't find the babe of your dreams right there, you

may

> still make new friends. So, why not give it a try?

>

> Inger

[Guest guest]

It's nothing wrong with wanting a babe/GF.

I think you've just been unlucky. Surely, there must be single Aspie females

in Norway who want a relationship??

Inger

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

As you all know from my rants, I live in a small town. The Autism

Association here in Norway arranges annual meetings here in Norway,

but most of the Aspie women here I've met online are either not

single or they don't want a relationship at all.

Again, I feel like I just want the totally wrong thing and that I'm

just preying on women

secretSociety , " Inger Lorelei " <inglori@s...> wrote:

> OJ, don't they have local Aspie meetings in Norway? (Have I asked

that

> before?)

>

> Here, Riksföreningen Autism arranges meetings in the bigger cities

every now

> and then. Those are great for meeting other Aspies. And even if it

can feel

> a bit scary to go to a bigger town and meet people you don't know,

the good

> thing about it is that most others are probably just as nervous,

and usually

> turn out to be really nice people once you all get over your

initial

> inhibition.

>

> I strongly recommend it. I doubt any Aspie babes are just going to

turn up

> knocking on your door (though you never know, of course). ;-)

>

> And even if you don't find the babe of your dreams right there, you

may

> still make new friends. So, why not give it a try?

>

> Inger

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[Guest guest]

I don't know if I really want a relationship at all, just the sex. I'm

a 32-year old virgin.

> It's nothing wrong with wanting a babe/GF.

>

> I think you've just been unlucky. Surely, there must be single Aspie

females

> in Norway who want a relationship??

>

> Inger

[Guest guest]

Aha, just sex! I see! Well, that may be a bit harder then. Really wish I

could help you out. But alas...

Inger

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

I don't know if I really want a relationship at all, just the sex. I'm

a 32-year old virgin.

> It's nothing wrong with wanting a babe/GF.

>

> I think you've just been unlucky. Surely, there must be single Aspie

females

> in Norway who want a relationship??

>

> Inger

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I image a lot of NT guys feel the same. They just are not so

straight forward about it. In my country we have a term - players -

for guys that simply play the game of romancing women to see how

many women they get in bed. That is the disadvantage AS guys have,

they are to honest about what they want.

Perhaps there are some women out there who want the same thing as

you and are open and honest about it.

Not sure how typical this is for AS women, but I really don't like

to be touched by people unless I know them pretty well. It is an

aspect to relationships I don't think I have heard discussed

before. Many will hear about people that have just met having sex

and object on moral grounds. I hear the same thing and think how

could you let someone you hardly know touch you. I guess I have

pretty high defenses. I have been married 19 years now and am very

comfortable with my husband.

Ilah

> > It's nothing wrong with wanting a babe/GF.

> >

> > I think you've just been unlucky. Surely, there must be single

Aspie

> females

> > in Norway who want a relationship??

> >

> > Inger

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Well, for me it was quite different, and I felt I was more or less like a man because I did not find it either dirty or imoral to have sex or be touched by someone I did not know for a long time if I felt atracted by him anyway, because I used to think sex brings the most deep emotional type of contact with another human being...without having to be either emotional nor deep...it could be simply summer time, a human being that liked and atracted another person, and they could be honest about what they felt and to each other, without outside rules. My actual husband was a friend of mine those days and he knew about the way I used to think and he kind of agreed with it.

But I know most women do not think like that, unless they are, well, of bad moral standarts, which I think I wasn´t...at least I did not feel that way towards myself nor the guys I dated.

Marilia

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

I image a lot of NT guys feel the same. They just are not so straight forward about it. In my country we have a term - players - for guys that simply play the game of romancing women to see how many women they get in bed. That is the disadvantage AS guys have, they are to honest about what they want.Perhaps there are some women out there who want the same thing as you and are open and honest about it.Not sure how typical this is for AS women, but I really don't like to be touched by people unless I know them pretty well. It is an aspect to relationships I don't think I have heard discussed before. Many will hear about people that have just met having sex and object on moral grounds. I hear the same thing and think how could you let someone you hardly know touch you. I guess I have pretty high defenses. I have been married 19 years now and am very comfortable with my husband.Ilah> > It's nothing wrong with wanting a babe/GF.> > > > I think you've just been unlucky. Surely, there must be single Aspie > females > > in Norway who want a relationship??> > > > Inger

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[Guest guest]

Ilah, An interesting point.

My father was an aspie and died three years ago but had an interesting relationship with women. he was dyslexic and stood six foot six. Women found him attractive but he could not relate in a permanent relationship so bounced from affair to affair. In his late thirties he supplemented his income as a stonemason and artist, as a gigolo, apparently he must have been pretty good at his trade because his clients were usualy NT women professionals who had no time for a husband but needed a quick fix from time to time so would pick him up at his house and wine, dine and have themselves knocked off for a fee. A couple of years ago some of his clients including a judges wife and the mayor approached me in his home town of Alice Springs and told me of his exploits.

A retired politician in the Nothern Territory told me that my father must have had at least four different women a night judging ny the company he kept at the Bojanggles in Darwin.

The point of this is that there is many NT women out there who are hungry for a no ties romance and is attested to by the fact that 18% of children have a father who is someone other than the person they think sired them. They tend to be far more discreet however than men when discussing their expoits however.

Evan

Ilah <theturtlemoves@...> wrote:

I image a lot of NT guys feel the same. They just are not so straight forward about it. In my country we have a term - players - for guys that simply play the game of romancing women to see how many women they get in bed. That is the disadvantage AS guys have, they are to honest about what they want.Perhaps there are some women out there who want the same thing as you and are open and honest about it.Not sure how typical this is for AS women, but I really don't like to be touched by people unless I know them pretty well. It is an aspect to relationships I don't think I have heard discussed before. Many will hear about people that have just met having sex and object on moral grounds. I hear the same thing and think how could you let someone you hardly know touch you. I guess I have

pretty high defenses. I have been married 19 years now and am very comfortable with my husband.Ilah--- In , "ojmalm" <ojmalm@o...> __________________________________________________

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I've had a girl who was interested in me online because I played bass,

but that never worked.

Until now, I've been really fat but I've lost a lot of weight (about 40

kg). While I was on summer vacation, a woman looked at me in a

restaurant and smiled, but I couldn't see if it was sarcasm or " you

look good " she meant!

> Aha, just sex! I see! Well, that may be a bit harder then. Really

wish I

> could help you out. But alas...

>

> Inger

[Guest guest]

And another thing -- I really miss being touched! I'm sensitive to

touch too, that's why I want to be touched and be close to another

person.

> > Aha, just sex! I see! Well, that may be a bit harder then. Really

> wish I

> > could help you out. But alas...

> >

> > Inger

[Guest guest]

One of my college professors was very overweight. You thought he would die just going up the stairs to his office it took so much effort. After I had finished there, he did end up having a heart attack. His doctor told him he was lucky to be alive and to lose weight or he wouldn't live another year.

To his credit the man lost the weight. I ran into him at one of the local Subway shops and almost didn't recognize him. The face was thinner but still close enough that I knew I knew him from somewhere. What really tipped me off was his voice, which was still the same. He's still losing weight because I have seen him at the grocery once or twice. By now he must have lost over 100 pounds, maybe closer to 200. I've never asked since he might think it rude, but then again he liked me so maybe he would tell me.

[Guest guest]

40 kilos! :-o That's alot!

How did you manage that?

Inger

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

I've had a girl who was interested in me online because I played bass,

but that never worked.

Until now, I've been really fat but I've lost a lot of weight (about 40

kg). While I was on summer vacation, a woman looked at me in a

restaurant and smiled, but I couldn't see if it was sarcasm or " you

look good " she meant!

> Aha, just sex! I see! Well, that may be a bit harder then. Really

wish I

> could help you out. But alas...

>

> Inger

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acceptance. Everyone is valued.

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folder marked " Other FAM Sites. "

[Guest guest]

40 kilos! :-o That's alot!

How did you manage that?

Inger

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

I've had a girl who was interested in me online because I played bass,

but that never worked.

Until now, I've been really fat but I've lost a lot of weight (about 40

kg). While I was on summer vacation, a woman looked at me in a

restaurant and smiled, but I couldn't see if it was sarcasm or " you

look good " she meant!

> Aha, just sex! I see! Well, that may be a bit harder then. Really

wish I

> could help you out. But alas...

>

> Inger

FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship, support and

acceptance. Everyone is valued.

Don't forget, there are links to other FAM sites on the Links page in the

folder marked " Other FAM Sites. "

[Guest guest]

You can always go get a massage at the nearest spa or alternative health

clinic? Though " nearest " may be quite far away in your case?

Getting a really hard back massage is about the only way in which I

occasionally find it somewhat enjoyable to be touched.

Inger

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

And another thing -- I really miss being touched! I'm sensitive to

touch too, that's why I want to be touched and be close to another

person.

> > Aha, just sex! I see! Well, that may be a bit harder then. Really

> wish I

> > could help you out. But alas...

> >

> > Inger

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acceptance. Everyone is valued.

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[Guest guest]

Stopping overeating and going to the gym three times a week.

> 40 kilos! :-o That's alot!

>

> How did you manage that?

>

> Inger

[Guest guest]

I have some neck and shoulder problems, so I go to a chiropractic now,

but it's not exactly comfortable to get a fist in your back as part of

the treatment.

> You can always go get a massage at the nearest spa or alternative

health

> clinic? Though " nearest " may be quite far away in your case?

>

> Getting a really hard back massage is about the only way in which I

> occasionally find it somewhat enjoyable to be touched.

>

> Inger

[Guest guest]

LOL! I don't trust chiropractors. I prefer a regular massage.

Inger

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

I have some neck and shoulder problems, so I go to a chiropractic now,

but it's not exactly comfortable to get a fist in your back as part of

the treatment.

> You can always go get a massage at the nearest spa or alternative

health

> clinic? Though " nearest " may be quite far away in your case?

>

> Getting a really hard back massage is about the only way in which I

> occasionally find it somewhat enjoyable to be touched.

>

> Inger

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acceptance. Everyone is valued.

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[Guest guest]

Cool! Congratulations! That's really well done.

Inger

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

Stopping overeating and going to the gym three times a week.

> 40 kilos! :-o That's alot!

>

> How did you manage that?

>

> Inger

FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship, support and

acceptance. Everyone is valued.

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[Guest guest]

Cool! Congratulations! That's really well done.

Inger

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

Stopping overeating and going to the gym three times a week.

> 40 kilos! :-o That's alot!

>

> How did you manage that?

>

> Inger

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acceptance. Everyone is valued.

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[Guest guest]

Thanks! ;D

> > 40 kilos! :-o That's alot!

> >

> > How did you manage that?

> >

> > Inger

[Guest guest]

Thanks! ;D

> > 40 kilos! :-o That's alot!

> >

> > How did you manage that?

> >

> > Inger

[Guest guest]

Well, I know this will sound shocking, some religious folks should not read it, I should not post that because am using my real name, but, well...

Well, in the city I live it is not such a big deal and will not put someone into jail, so, once , when I was 20 something, had broke up with a boyfriend and was really hurt and in doubt, and in spite of being experient and such, I wondered if I was not that good sexually, so I payed someone to have sex with me. I looked at an add in the paper, went there, he was nice, I asked him many questions, if I was ok...which he said I was perfect, he was 23, he knew how to deal with a woman, he drove me very confident, and I prefered than than to be with someone who wined me and dined me, or with someone I would be involved and then hurt if the relationship did not turn out ok. MAYBE, depeding on your belifes, it COULD be a good start to have someone who is used to it to do it with you at the beggining, because it CAN be didactical. This experinece won´t prevent that you will do it with someone you will love in the future, or who will love ya...it can only help you feel more confident and ''experient'.

Well, on the other hand many women would be happy to be your first one. It is somehting unforgetable for a woman...

For safety reason I left a çiece of paper with the address of the place I was going to under the tv set...and told him when I arrived that if somehting happened to me he would be in trouble because a friend of mine knew I was there-which was a lie but I needed to tell him that..

Sorry if I offended some of you.

*blush

Marilia

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For me, it would be out of the question. I couldn't live with it, so

I'll just stay celibate. I'm at an age where few people are single

and I'm starting to get to old for younger women.

> Well, I know this will sound shocking, some religious folks should

not read it, I should not post that because am using my real name,

but, well...

> Well, in the city I live it is not such a big deal and will not put

someone into jail, so, once , when I was 20 something, had broke up

with a boyfriend and was really hurt and in doubt, and in spite of

being experient and such, I wondered if I was not that good sexually,

so I payed someone to have sex with me. I looked at an add in the

paper, went there, he was nice, I asked him many questions, if I was

ok...which he said I was perfect, he was 23, he knew how to deal with

a woman, he drove me very confident, and I prefered than than to be

with someone who wined me and dined me, or with someone I would be

involved and then hurt if the relationship did not turn out ok.

MAYBE, depeding on your belifes, it COULD be a good start to have

someone who is used to it to do it with you at the beggining, because

it CAN be didactical. This experinece won´t prevent that you will do

it with someone you will love in the future, or who will love ya...it

can only help you feel more confident and ''experient'.

> Well, on the other hand many women would be happy to be your first

one. It is somehting unforgetable for a woman...

> For safety reason I left a çiece of paper with the address of the

place I was going to under the tv set...and told him when I arrived

that if somehting happened to me he would be in trouble because a

friend of mine knew I was there-which was a lie but I needed to tell

him that..

> Sorry if I offended some of you.

> *blush

> Marilia

[Guest guest]

I do not agree with that-that you are too old. Many people are getting divorced and many people do marry late these days...so, your age is just perfect!

Good luck!

Ah, have you thought of those internet matching sites?

I went to a party once that really seemed to be modern days type. It was back in year 2000. There was one lady at the females bathrrom telling her friend how she met that guy she was with: that she had entered a site to find mate, and then she described what she was looking for, and among many things she said she wanted someone over 50-etc. I did not resist and asked her why she wanted someone that age, and she said usually guys this age do not want kids, etc.

Another girl was there with a guy from Finland that she got to know over the internet. And there is this couple who is togehter till today and she told me she went to a brazilian site to find mate-well, this is where they live-and then she was very honest about how she was and what she wanted from a mate and this guy got interested, etc. They´ve been together for years.

I have heard a few stories like that...so, I think it could be a good thing to do to try to filter relationships through internet. Of course not all cases end up great, but as a filter it can be great, and it can also put together people who would never be together-due to geographical or social reasons, etc.

Hugs

Marilia

Re: Aspie babes - to OJ

For me, it would be out of the question. I couldn't live with it, so I'll just stay celibate. I'm at an age where few people are single and I'm starting to get to old for younger women.> Well, I know this will sound shocking, some religious folks should not read it, I should not post that because am using my real name, but, well...> Well, in the city I live it is not such a big deal and will not put someone into jail, so, once , when I was 20 something, had broke up with a boyfriend and was really hurt and in doubt, and in spite of being experient and such, I wondered if I was not that good sexually, so I payed someone to have sex with me. I looked at an add in the paper, went there, he was nice, I asked him many questions, if I was ok...which he said I was perfect, he was 23, he knew how to deal with a woman, he drove me very confident, and I prefered than than to be with someone who wined me and dined me, or with someone I would be involved and then hurt if the relationship did not turn out ok. MAYBE, depeding on your belifes, it COULD be a good start to have someone who is used to it to do it with you at the beggining, because it CAN be didactical. This experinece won´t prevent that you will do it with someone you will love in the future, or who will love ya...it can only help you feel more confident and ''experient'.> Well, on the other hand many women would be happy to be your first one. It is somehting unforgetable for a woman...> For safety reason I left a çiece of paper with the address of the place I was going to under the tv set...and told him when I arrived that if somehting happened to me he would be in trouble because a friend of mine knew I was there-which was a lie but I needed to tell him that.. > Sorry if I offended some of you.> *blush> Marilia

[Guest guest]

Aren't you in your 30's? So am I. Meeting people has never been my problem, especially when my church has such an active singles program. Not exactly asked out, but I make a habit of getting out around town if I need to be entertained.ojmalm <ojmalm@...> wrote:

For me, it would be out of the question. I couldn't live with it, so I'll just stay celibate. I'm at an age where few people are single and I'm starting to get to old for younger women.> Well, I know this will sound shocking, some religious folks should not read it, I should not post that because am using my real name, but, well...> Well, in the city I live it is not such a big deal and will not put someone into jail, so, once , when I was 20 something, had broke up with a boyfriend and was really hurt and in doubt, and in spite of being experient and such, I wondered if I was not that good sexually, so I payed someone to have sex with me. I looked at an add in the paper, went there, he was nice, I asked him many questions, if

I was ok...which he said I was perfect, he was 23, he knew how to deal with a woman, he drove me very confident, and I prefered than than to be with someone who wined me and dined me, or with someone I would be involved and then hurt if the relationship did not turn out ok. MAYBE, depeding on your belifes, it COULD be a good start to have someone who is used to it to do it with you at the beggining, because it CAN be didactical. This experinece won´t prevent that you will do it with someone you will love in the future, or who will love ya...it can only help you feel more confident and ''experient'.> Well, on the other hand many women would be happy to be your first one. It is somehting unforgetable for a woman...> For safety reason I left a çiece of paper with the address of the place I was going to under the tv set...and told him when I arrived that if somehting happened to me he would be in trouble because a

friend of mine knew I was there-which was a lie but I needed to tell him that.. > Sorry if I offended some of you.> *blush> MariliaIf you love something, set it free! So it is with books. See what I mean atwww.bookcrossing.com/friend/nheckoblogcritics.orghttp://notesfromnancy.blogspot.com Heckofreelance proofreadernancygailus@...

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Hey...I'm fifteen months away from 40, and I'm still attracted to younger women! As long as she's over 21, that's fine by me. In fact, women closer to my age or older have never really been attracted to me for one reason or another, especially when I want a family of my own.