Your input needed.....

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My son 's IEP is next Thursday and I am

preparing for it.

I am getting help from the local AEA and from Parent

Information and Training, but a subject has come up

that I am not sure will be touched upon by either and

it looks as if it will be an integral part of the

meeting.

Last month was diagnosed with AS, definitively.

His meds were adjusted and the doctor made some

suggestions as to what the changes should be

education-wise.

However, still has charges pending from

September (he had a meltdown at school due to getting

overheated - accidently kicked the school liaison

officer while being carried from the building) The

charges are disorderly conduct, assault and

tresspassing (due to not being able to get up and

leave the building when the principal told him to.)

The juvenile court services called this morning to let

me know that they will be attending the IEP, she will

also be calling the doctor that diagnosed him to find

out if he feels that should have consequences

like every NT kid that gets the same charges. She

says she is worried that he is getting so big that

someone is going to get badly hurt.

does not beat up on people deliberately. He

gets overwhelmed and meltsdown, then occasionally

looses it and starts flailing, sometimes someone

(usually family) gets hit. He does not do it

intentionally and usually does not remember when it

has happened. From friends that have AS/autistic

kids, this seems to be fairly common ... is that the

case with you?

Too ... the school insists on getting in his face and

picking him up when he is in full meltdown - even

though I have told them repeatedly that the best way

to deal with him is to let him calm down and then

talk to him about what happened, that trying to get

him to think rationally in the middle of a meltdown is

not going to work. They insist on doing it their way.

How do I get he IEP team to understand that this is

not a conscious act on his part and to penalize him

for not being able to react how they want him to when

they want him to.

I would appreciate any and all input. I am very

worried about how next week is going to go,

especially since his stepmother is advocating sending

him to a residential school three states away.

Thanks to all, I appreciate it.

Hugs

Steph

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