worrying needlessly? (long)

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I have done so much research in the midst of getting our DS

diagnosed, which has not even happened yet (still waiting for the EI

people to get back from winter break) but I am actually starting to

worry about my other DS. Maybe I am just being crazy or silly, but I

thought I would toss it in for discussion and you guys could tell me

that.

Our DS (4) is, (I think) PDD-NOS. I think he just misses the mark

for being dxd HFA, but we'll see. Our other DS (almost 2) is also

showing what seems to me some delays. He does say 2 word sentences,

very rarely (and sometimes 3 words), but they are hard to

understand. He talks in his own language quite often, not babbling,

but talking in " non-words " and looking at us like he is carrying on

some conversation with us. The " real " words he uses are very

difficult to understand and are usually shortened (like he still

says " da " and " ma " instead of dada/mama or daddy/mommy), and

his " sentences " are usually echoed ones.

He doesnt have the eating issues that our 4y/o has, but he is

sometimes very resistant to affection (not a problem with our 4 y/o)

especially from me. He only has certain times he will accept

affection, and is very stubborn about it...but then again, that may

be his age? He is really starting to have some tantrums...or more

like rages. But then again, he as a sibling that is 2 years older &

has NEVER been able to share with him, so he is pretty defensive! :-)

He has some physical disabilities, but they are from a birth defect

and affects his leg, he has never really had any developmental

delays (except for the speech), he even learned to walk on time with

a cast. He is still walking and running even though one leg is

almost 2 " shorter than the other (which makes him pretty clumbsy).

Our 4 y/o (being evaulated now) is clumbsy too, but no problems with

his legs. He does things that our 2 y/o doesnt do, like through fits

until he vomits, licks everything (toys, the TV, people, etc.)

recently started biting himself when he is very upset.

Maybe I am just being hypersenstive? I am afraid if I go talk to the

Dr he will think I am crazy & tell me to just deal with one

diagnosis at a time. DH wont even listen to it, he is still trying

to come to grips with our 4 y/o. I think he still believes that the

evaluation will come up with something about our son just being

normal, and that he will " catch up " with other kids his age

soon...which is a nice thing to wish for, but I dont think it is

going to happen.

Well, sorry this is SO long!

thanks for listening!