Guest guest Posted January 28, 2005 Report Share Posted January 28, 2005 My daughter can recite Toy Story word for word and even chuckles at the right time, it is like listening to a tape recorder. But because it is rote memory she couldn't use these words in another sentence or doesn't understand the meaning of the words she just copys what she hears, xxx > > Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to them....... Hoffman?? lol > > > > > > " Yeah, I've actually had people tell me " well, he doesn't LOOK > > autistic. " HUH????? I want to say, " what does autistic look > like? " > > > > > > -------------------------------------------------------------------- ---------- > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2005 Report Share Posted January 28, 2005 LOL Charlotte, karen xxx > Thats what my SIL says too. When you know no different I suppose it's second nature. > > I have been doing this a while but I'll tell you....I have only been doing it RIGHT for a couple of years!! lol! > > -Charlotte > Re: People staring > > > > Hi Charlotte, > I guess I don't know anything else, I wouldn't know what is like to > have one child. You have had to deal with it twice as long as me , > mine are only 5 years old. > Best Wishes, > karen xxx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2005 Report Share Posted January 28, 2005 Hi Donna, Others ignorance is half the problem. xxx > >> Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to them....... Hoffman?? lol > >> > >> > >> " Yeah, I've actually had people tell me " well, he doesn't LOOK > >> autistic. " HUH????? I want to say, " what does autistic look > > like? " > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2005 Report Share Posted January 28, 2005 was the same. He always useto try any use words and phrases that he'd heard from us, other kids or movies, but they would ALWAYS be totally out of context! lol. We always use to laugh about it until I had my daughter. who at not even 3 ALWAYS repeated things she had heard.....even complex things AT THE PERFECT times and IN THE RIGHT context!! Night and Day these two are! -Charlotte Re: People staring My daughter can recite Toy Story word for word and even chuckles at the right time, it is like listening to a tape recorder. But because it is rote memory she couldn't use these words in another sentence or doesn't understand the meaning of the words she just copys what she hears, xxx> > Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to them....... Hoffman?? lol> > > > > > "Yeah, I've actually had people tell me "well, he doesn't LOOK> > autistic." HUH????? I want to say, "what does autistic look > like?"> > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2005 Report Share Posted January 28, 2005 Well, sadly, you're not the only one. I wouldn't get that reception from all of them, but enough to know I don't even want to go there. We just really plan our social outings and events to minimize meltdowns, shutdowns, etc., though we can't avoid everything..his sensory issues are pretty obvious. RE: Re: People staring He just needs more structure, a good spank, and you staying on top of him." Sigh...as if I don't watch him all the time anyway.) I hear this on a daily basis. Sad to think I hear it from family members. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2005 Report Share Posted January 29, 2005 This is our life too. looks just like any other kid until she freaks out. Lots of people tell me I'm crazy, there's nothing wrong with her. They don't see her all the time. CarolDonna B <Donna@...> wrote: Yes! People think of Rainman, or that autistic children 'look' autistic, and therefore 'are' autistic if they are in the corner rocking, as if you have to be one way or the other. Very sad! My son probably looks like an undisciplined spoiled child, unless you catch him in an overwhelmed moment when he just drops to the ground with a vacant stare, which is creepy. A lot of people think that lack of eye contact and unwillingness to talk is just bad manners. (I still haven't told a lot of people -- there are a few who I know *without a doubt* would say "No way! He just needs more structure, a good spank, and you staying on top of him." Sigh...as if I don't watch him all the time anyway.)Donna Re: People staring>>> LOL! People don't realise there is a whole spectrum and no two> children or adults will be alike.The general community just think of> Rainman. Jasmine scores very low in speech/comprehension , fine motor> skills and social skills but has average to above average> intelligence so you wouldn't know anything was wrong with her except> the behaviours, hands over ears e.t.c. She does seem to have some> savante skills though such as an incredible memory.>> xxxx>> -- In Autism and Aspergers Treatment , "designs"> <scottdesigns@a...> wrote:>> Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to them....... Hoffman?? lol>>>>>> "Yeah, I've actually had people tell me "well, he doesn't LOOK>> autistic." HUH????? I want to say, "what does autistic look> like?">>> Carol, mom to , 1994 , 1997 Lily, 2004__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2005 Report Share Posted January 29, 2005 Hi Charlotte, It is amazing the skills some of these kids have.My husband came to me excitedly one day and said " She's reading a book! " Honestly it did look as if she was reading the book. Word perfect , right page e.t.c. But I knew that I had read her this book and she had simply remembered it , word for word, amazing! It is something I wouldn't be able to do! xxx > > > Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to them....... Hoffman?? lol > > > > > > > > > " Yeah, I've actually had people tell me " well, he doesn't LOOK > > > autistic. " HUH????? I want to say, " what does autistic look > > like? " > > > > > > > > > > > > ---------------------------------------------------------------- ---- > ---------- > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2005 Report Share Posted January 29, 2005 Hi Stacey, & everyone, I did the same thing as you, Stacey, at the local supermarket, when one of the staff commented on JR’s behaviour, and now every week when we go she talks to him, and her whole attitude has changed… I know that she will never judge a book by its cover again! Narelle Geelong, , Australia -----Original Message----- From: gracemichael2003 [mailto:staciem@...] Sent: Wednesday, 26 January 2005 12:33 PM To: Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: Re: People staring Wow, what excellent timing for this subject to come up. I have really been struggling for the last few weeks because it is now becoming painfully obvious to strangers that my beautiful 4 year old DS is not 'normal.' I'm anxious to see how others handle this subject. Eye contact and socialization have been a problem for him in the past, but not so much that it was so obvious to strangers. But now, when people try to talk to him, he shuts down -- no eye contact, head goes down immediately, he looks as if the person isn't even standing there! I haven't had people make comments or stare very much, but I see that familiar 'what's wrong with your kid' look in their eyes more and more now. I have said everything from 'he's shy' to 'he's autistic' to 'he just doesn't feel like talking today.' I'm just not sure what to say anymore. Once I was in line at a store, was being good but was antsy, and a lady behind me in line commented " I think it's time for someone to go home and take a nap. " I decided I was going to make her think before she ever made a comment to a mom again. I very nicely informed her that I wish a nap would be all it would take, but that he has a medical condition that makes it very difficult for him to sit quietly and be in public. Her demeanor completely changed -- she started talking to him (she was ignoring him before that), her tone of voice was suddenly really nice, and you could just see her looking at him wondering what was wrong with him. I took great pleasure in the fact that she probably walked out of there wondering what his diagnosis was, and I hoped she learned her lesson. Stacie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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