People staring

[Guest guest]

Hi all,

I wondered how others here deal with people staring at your child

when you are out somewhere. My daughter is quite stressed at the

shopping mall and sits in a shopping trolley curled forward with her

hands over her ears humming to herself to block out the sounds

hunched forward to block out the light and if very stressed can

appear as if she is having a tantrum or will just run screaming for

the nearest exit. We do avoid taking her on these shopping trips as

much as possible and when we go we go at the least crowded times and

we would cope a whole lot better without people staring at her.

Do any of you say something to these people? I used to feel really

embarrassed and say " She's autistic " but I would get most people

ignorant of autism and stare at her even more.

I tend to say nothing these days , but I find it hard with people

staring and making comments . Sometimes I am just hanging in there

with a really bad shopping trip and someone's comment can make me

feel like bursting into tears. I once ran outside and had a good

cry.I never knew how much peoples comments can hurt.

xx

[Guest guest]

You have a special child, and that is what you tell them. She stops better if you all aren't staring at her! And just take a deep breath and ignore them all and focus on your daughter. Zander throws tantrums in public sometimes and I just throw him on my shoulder and away we go. He used to do it getting into his carseat, the arching and locking, I would get lots of stares when I sat on him to buckle him up, but you don't have a choice. I just smile at them and continue with what I need to do to contain Zander, or make sure he is not hurting someone else.

Corinne -friends call me Kaz *** <dollcrazy@...> wrote:

Hi all,I wondered how others here deal with people staring at your child when you are out somewhere. My daughter is quite stressed at the shopping mall and sits in a shopping trolley curled forward with her hands over her ears humming to herself to block out the sounds hunched forward to block out the light and if very stressed can appear as if she is having a tantrum or will just run screaming for the nearest exit. We do avoid taking her on these shopping trips as much as possible and when we go we go at the least crowded times and we would cope a whole lot better without people staring at her. Do any of you say something to these people? I used to feel really embarrassed and say "She's autistic" but I would get most people ignorant of autism and stare at her even more. I tend to say nothing these

days , but I find it hard with people staring and making comments . Sometimes I am just hanging in there with a really bad shopping trip and someone's comment can make me feel like bursting into tears. I once ran outside and had a good cry.I never knew how much peoples comments can hurt. xx

[Guest guest]

,

I feel for you, this is hard and I have been there. We almost lost my son in the mall one day when he took off looking for a way out of the mall. DH reached for him and he screamed OUCH! as ran (fast) into Radio Shack and hid under a table covering his ears. I swear people probably though we'd been beating him because DH is his step father and looks just the opposite of my son so as DH picked him up and my son was screaming "it's hurting me" over and over, I am surprised no one thought he was being abducted!

We also made the mistake of taking a trip to Disney with him and WOW was that a big no no, but at the time we did not have any label for his odd behaviors and just thought he'd outgrow it all. He spent the entire time in the jogger begging to go back to the pool at the condo, he was 6 at the time. I had the only kid who 1/2 a minute into the Bug's Life movie in the Tree of Life who was SCREAMING and totally freaking out like someone was trying to kill him. That was the first and last thing at Disney that he did.

Over time, I just stopped caring or noticing peoples reaction to his behaviors. Even now at 11, when he does things in public that make me want to crawl under a rock, I just take a deep breath and remind myself that it doesn't matter what they think, they are people I will never see again.

Hang in there.

-Charlotte

People staring

Hi all,I wondered how others here deal with people staring at your child when you are out somewhere. My daughter is quite stressed at the shopping mall and sits in a shopping trolley curled forward with her hands over her ears humming to herself to block out the sounds hunched forward to block out the light and if very stressed can appear as if she is having a tantrum or will just run screaming for the nearest exit. We do avoid taking her on these shopping trips as much as possible and when we go we go at the least crowded times and we would cope a whole lot better without people staring at her. Do any of you say something to these people? I used to feel really embarrassed and say "She's autistic" but I would get most people ignorant of autism and stare at her even more. I tend to say nothing these days , but I find it hard with people staring and making comments . Sometimes I am just hanging in there with a really bad shopping trip and someone's comment can make me feel like bursting into tears. I once ran outside and had a good cry.I never knew how much peoples comments can hurt. xx

[Guest guest]

I've heard others say.............

They give out the "business sized card" explaining about Autism as well as others might also give their kiddo a set of headphones............ that block out the noise............ I don't think people understand what a typical day in the life is like..................

I don't have the links for the cards, but I know they are listed on some of the Autism websites....... Contact your local autism society...... They could probably direct you further.............

Hang in there................ God has given us these angels and we are their "advocates"!

[Guest guest]

We used headphones for a while but it certainly does not minimize the staring if that is the concern!

-Charlotte

RE: People staring

I've heard others say.............

They give out the "business sized card" explaining about Autism as well as others might also give their kiddo a set of headphones............ that block out the noise............ I don't think people understand what a typical day in the life is like..................

I don't have the links for the cards, but I know they are listed on some of the Autism websites....... Contact your local autism society...... They could probably direct you further.............

Hang in there................ God has given us these angels and we are their "advocates"!

[Guest guest]

Hi Stacie,

I often find the elderly are the worst , they think the child is

being naughty not like in " their day " when children were seen and not

heard. I find when I tell people Jasmine is autistic there is just so

much ignorance about autism.

It's funny though , the other day I really stopped and listened to

the amount of background noise there is at the shops. There were

televisions going , piped music, microphone announcements, noisy

trolleys going past. My pet hate is when we are in the toy department

and people press all the noisy toys that sing , dance, talk

whatever. I know that jasmine will freak out !

What is a low hum to us must be deafening to these kids. Someone said

to me -imagine standing next to a jumbo jet, this is how background

noise sounds to sensory sensitive kids.

I also dread it when a well meaning stranger comes up to jasmine and

even says " Hello " . I run my shopping trolley around avoiding people ,

noise, lights, photo booths, magazine racks (in case there is

teletubbie magazines , in which case she cannot leave them behind)

It becomes second nature after a while.

The staring people just make matters worse.

xxx

>

> Wow, what excellent timing for this subject to come up. I have

really

> been struggling for the last few weeks because it is now becoming

> painfully obvious to strangers that my beautiful 4 year old DS is

not

> 'normal.' I'm anxious to see how others handle this subject.

>

> Eye contact and socialization have been a problem for him in the

past,

> but not so much that it was so obvious to strangers. But now, when

> people try to talk to him, he shuts down -- no eye contact, head

goes

> down immediately, he looks as if the person isn't even standing

there!

> I haven't had people make comments or stare very much, but I see

that

> familiar 'what's wrong with your kid' look in their eyes more and

more

> now. I have said everything from 'he's shy' to 'he's autistic'

to 'he

> just doesn't feel like talking today.' I'm just not sure what to

say

> anymore.

>

> Once I was in line at a store, was being good but was antsy,

> and a lady behind me in line commented " I think it's time for

someone

> to go home and take a nap. " I decided I was going to make her think

> before she ever made a comment to a mom again. I very nicely

informed

> her that I wish a nap would be all it would take, but that he has a

> medical condition that makes it very difficult for him to sit

quietly

> and be in public. Her demeanor completely changed -- she started

> talking to him (she was ignoring him before that), her tone of voice

> was suddenly really nice, and you could just see her looking at him

> wondering what was wrong with him. I took great pleasure in the

fact

> that she probably walked out of there wondering what his diagnosis

> was, and I hoped she learned her lesson.

>

> Stacie

[Guest guest]

Thanks Corrine,

Jasmine used to do the arching back when she was a baby ,

In hindsight I can see now why she was such a difficult baby. You are

right , I should just ignore the stares,

xxx

>

> Hi all,

> I wondered how others here deal with people staring at your child

> when you are out somewhere. My daughter is quite stressed at the

> shopping mall and sits in a shopping trolley curled forward with

her

> hands over her ears humming to herself to block out the sounds

> hunched forward to block out the light and if very stressed can

> appear as if she is having a tantrum or will just run screaming for

> the nearest exit. We do avoid taking her on these shopping trips as

> much as possible and when we go we go at the least crowded times

and

> we would cope a whole lot better without people staring at her.

> Do any of you say something to these people? I used to feel

really

> embarrassed and say " She's autistic " but I would get most people

> ignorant of autism and stare at her even more.

> I tend to say nothing these days , but I find it hard with

people

> staring and making comments . Sometimes I am just hanging in there

> with a really bad shopping trip and someone's comment can make me

> feel like bursting into tears. I once ran outside and had a good

> cry.I never knew how much peoples comments can hurt.

> xx

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Charlotte,

I can't believe how familiar your trip to the mall sounds! This has

happened to us so many times! Jasmine just panics and runs for the

exit,she doesn't care where I am she just has to get out. I have to

scoop up her twin sister and the shopping and go running after this

screaming child with her hands over her ears and when I try to grab

her it is like I am killing her , with her wriggling and screaming.I

find her almost impossible to hold when she is like this. Crowds of

people gather, they must think I am kidnapping her . We took Jasmine

to an Easter show with rides e.t.c. and we went in my dad's car and

my other daughter had entered the gate with my mum and paid entry

e.t.c. and then Jasmine wouldn't even go in . We tried to convince

her and she threw herself down in the dirt and ended up grazed, cut

and bleeding. I burst into tears that time. In fact this was before

we had the diagnosis and it was this incident that prompted me to get

her diagnosed. We never go to places like that anymore. I find the

stress on the family is huge. I don't know about others but i always

feel guilty on what her sister is missing out on.

xxx

> ,

> I feel for you, this is hard and I have been there. We almost lost

my son in the mall one day when he took off looking for a way out of

the mall. DH reached for him and he screamed OUCH! as ran (fast)

into Radio Shack and hid under a table covering his ears. I swear

people probably though we'd been beating him because DH is his step

father and looks just the opposite of my son so as DH picked him up

and my son was screaming " it's hurting me " over and over, I am

surprised no one thought he was being abducted!

>

> We also made the mistake of taking a trip to Disney with him and

WOW was that a big no no, but at the time we did not have any label

for his odd behaviors and just thought he'd outgrow it all. He spent

the entire time in the jogger begging to go back to the pool at the

condo, he was 6 at the time. I had the only kid who 1/2 a minute

into the Bug's Life movie in the Tree of Life who was SCREAMING and

totally freaking out like someone was trying to kill him. That was

the first and last thing at Disney that he did.

>

> Over time, I just stopped caring or noticing peoples reaction to

his behaviors. Even now at 11, when he does things in public that

make me want to crawl under a rock, I just take a deep breath and

remind myself that it doesn't matter what they think, they are people

I will never see again.

>

> Hang in there.

>

> -Charlotte

> People staring

>

>

>

> Hi all,

> I wondered how others here deal with people staring at your child

> when you are out somewhere. My daughter is quite stressed at the

> shopping mall and sits in a shopping trolley curled forward with

her

> hands over her ears humming to herself to block out the sounds

> hunched forward to block out the light and if very stressed can

> appear as if she is having a tantrum or will just run screaming

for

> the nearest exit. We do avoid taking her on these shopping trips

as

> much as possible and when we go we go at the least crowded times

and

> we would cope a whole lot better without people staring at her.

> Do any of you say something to these people? I used to feel

really

> embarrassed and say " She's autistic " but I would get most people

> ignorant of autism and stare at her even more.

> I tend to say nothing these days , but I find it hard with

people

> staring and making comments . Sometimes I am just hanging in

there

> with a really bad shopping trip and someone's comment can make me

> feel like bursting into tears. I once ran outside and had a good

> cry.I never knew how much peoples comments can hurt.

> xx

>

>

>

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

Good for you!! I like the way you handled that -- hopefully she will be

different next time...or mind her own business?

I do worry that that people will eventually think I need to force ds to look

at people and/or talk more. He's always polite -- i'll say 'can you say hi

to xx' and he'll say " no, fanks. " They smile, no one's been rude but I

wonder how long it'll be before someone does think I'm allowing him to be

rude to people by not forcing eye contact or conversation. (And those that

hear him talk? I get a ton of 'wow, he's so clear and uses such big words!'

Amazing how many people think that disqualifies him for any type of spectrum

issue at all. Asperger's/HFA seem to be the most misunderstood..as though

they can't be either if they hug me. I really want more general public info

out there.)

Donna

Re: People staring

> Once I was in line at a store, was being good but was antsy,

> and a lady behind me in line commented " I think it's time for someone

> to go home and take a nap. " I decided I was going to make her think

> before she ever made a comment to a mom again. I very nicely informed

> her that I wish a nap would be all it would take, but that he has a

> medical condition that makes it very difficult for him to sit quietly

> and be in public. Her demeanor completely changed -- she started

> talking to him (she was ignoring him before that), her tone of voice

> was suddenly really nice, and you could just see her looking at him

> wondering what was wrong with him. I took great pleasure in the fact

> that she probably walked out of there wondering what his diagnosis

> was, and I hoped she learned her lesson.

>

> Stacie

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I get a ton of 'wow, he's so clear and uses such big words!' Amazing how many people think that disqualifies him for any type of spectrum issue at all. Asperger's/HFA seem to be the most misunderstood..as though they can't be either if they hug me. I really want more general public info out there.)Donna

That's how we ended up going 11 years without the right diagnosis!! I agree 110%!!!

-Charlotte

[Guest guest]

,

I can't even BEGIN to imagine what it must be like when it's twins!!! I had my son first and he was the only child until he was 7 (took that long for me to even consider dealing with another!)

My SIL has twin 2 year old girls (both nt) and I can NOT imagine that even when neither has issues!!

Best of luck, I don't think we'd have ever caught my son if I'd had to stop and grab another one!!

-Charlotte

People staring> > > > Hi all,> I wondered how others here deal with people staring at your child > when you are out somewhere. My daughter is quite stressed at the > shopping mall and sits in a shopping trolley curled forward with her > hands over her ears humming to herself to block out the sounds > hunched forward to block out the light and if very stressed can > appear as if she is having a tantrum or will just run screaming for > the nearest exit. We do avoid taking her on these shopping trips as > much as possible and when we go we go at the least crowded times and > we would cope a whole lot better without people staring at her. > Do any of you say something to these people? I used to feel really > embarrassed and say "She's autistic" but I would get most people > ignorant of autism and stare at her even more.> I tend to say nothing these days , but I find it hard with people > staring and making comments . Sometimes I am just hanging in there > with a really bad shopping trip and someone's comment can make me > feel like bursting into tears. I once ran outside and had a good > cry.I never knew how much peoples comments can hurt. > xx> > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------>

[Guest guest]

At a recent Autism Support meeting, a mother was telling the group that she

made up t-shirts for her son with statements like " I'm Autistic, what's your

excuse " . Her son wore them whenever they went somewhere that was the

slightest bit stressful and may provoke a tantrum.

She had iron on letters and had gone to a t-shirt place in the mall to have

different shirts made.

[Guest guest]

" I get a ton of 'wow, he's so clear and uses such big words!'

Amazing how many people think that disqualifies him for any type of

spectrum issue at all. Asperger's/HFA seem to be the most misunderstood "

Yeah, I've actually had people tell me " well, he doesn't LOOK

autistic. " HUH????? I want to say, " what does autistic look like? "

[Guest guest]

Donna,

When Tyler started talking, he started with complete thoughts/sentences. He used really big words and was reading my college texts by age 7. Because of this, he wasn't dx'd until he was almost 10!

Rabecca

-----Original Message-----From: designs [mailto:scottdesigns@...]Sent: Wednesday, January 26, 2005 12:21 PMAutism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: Re: Re: People staring

I get a ton of 'wow, he's so clear and uses such big words!' Amazing how many people think that disqualifies him for any type of spectrum issue at all. Asperger's/HFA seem to be the most misunderstood..as though they can't be either if they hug me. I really want more general public info out there.)Donna

That's how we ended up going 11 years without the right diagnosis!! I agree 110%!!!

-Charlotte

[Guest guest]

Wow! And for a while, I thought we, at the week he turned four, were late in getting an official dx. He shows an interest in pointing to words while we read and he memorizes facts quickly, so I'm guessing we'll have an early reader. Your son is impressive!

RE: Re: People staring

Donna,

When Tyler started talking, he started with complete thoughts/sentences. He used really big words and was reading my college texts by age 7. Because of this, he wasn't dx'd until he was almost 10!

Rabecca

[Guest guest]

My son was sent for a speech and language eval at 3 by his pre-school teacher. The evaluators said that the sounds he was "leaving out" were not of concern because they were later developing and she was blown away by the vocabulary! She would show him photos of things and he had to say what they were....for example instead of "matches" he would say "those are wooden matches" instead of "chicken" he would specify that it was a "rooster" When she showed a photo of a dog he would say "thats a Husky" lol, they actually looked at me and said "who was it that thought this kid had a speech problem??"

-Charlotte

RE: Re: People staring

Donna,

When Tyler started talking, he started with complete thoughts/sentences. He used really big words and was reading my college texts by age 7. Because of this, he wasn't dx'd until he was almost 10!

Rabecca

-----Original Message-----From: designs [mailto:scottdesigns@...]Sent: Wednesday, January 26, 2005 12:21 PMAutism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: Re: Re: People staring

I get a ton of 'wow, he's so clear and uses such big words!' Amazing how many people think that disqualifies him for any type of spectrum issue at all. Asperger's/HFA seem to be the most misunderstood..as though they can't be either if they hug me. I really want more general public info out there.)Donna

That's how we ended up going 11 years without the right diagnosis!! I agree 110%!!!

-Charlotte

[Guest guest]

I find it hard because autistic children look the same as other

children therefore people assume it is a naughty child!

xx

>

> " I get a ton of 'wow, he's so clear and uses such big words!'

> Amazing how many people think that disqualifies him for any type of

> spectrum issue at all. Asperger's/HFA seem to be the most

misunderstood "

>

> Yeah, I've actually had people tell me " well, he doesn't LOOK

> autistic. " HUH????? I want to say, " what does autistic look like? "

[Guest guest]

Hi Charlotte,

I guess I don't know anything else, I wouldn't know what is like to

have one child. You have had to deal with it twice as long as me ,

mine are only 5 years old.

Best Wishes,

karen xxx

> > ,

> > I feel for you, this is hard and I have been there. We almost

lost

> my son in the mall one day when he took off looking for a way out

of

> the mall. DH reached for him and he screamed OUCH! as ran (fast)

> into Radio Shack and hid under a table covering his ears. I

swear

> people probably though we'd been beating him because DH is his

step

> father and looks just the opposite of my son so as DH picked him

up

> and my son was screaming " it's hurting me " over and over, I am

> surprised no one thought he was being abducted!

> >

> > We also made the mistake of taking a trip to Disney with him

and

> WOW was that a big no no, but at the time we did not have any

label

> for his odd behaviors and just thought he'd outgrow it all. He

spent

> the entire time in the jogger begging to go back to the pool at

the

> condo, he was 6 at the time. I had the only kid who 1/2 a

minute

> into the Bug's Life movie in the Tree of Life who was SCREAMING

and

> totally freaking out like someone was trying to kill him. That

was

> the first and last thing at Disney that he did.

> >

> > Over time, I just stopped caring or noticing peoples reaction

to

> his behaviors. Even now at 11, when he does things in public

that

> make me want to crawl under a rock, I just take a deep breath and

> remind myself that it doesn't matter what they think, they are

people

> I will never see again.

> >

> > Hang in there.

> >

> > -Charlotte

> > People staring

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi all,

> > I wondered how others here deal with people staring at your

child

> > when you are out somewhere. My daughter is quite stressed at

the

> > shopping mall and sits in a shopping trolley curled forward

with

> her

> > hands over her ears humming to herself to block out the

sounds

> > hunched forward to block out the light and if very stressed

can

> > appear as if she is having a tantrum or will just run

screaming

> for

> > the nearest exit. We do avoid taking her on these shopping

trips

> as

> > much as possible and when we go we go at the least crowded

times

> and

> > we would cope a whole lot better without people staring at

her.

> > Do any of you say something to these people? I used to

feel

> really

> > embarrassed and say " She's autistic " but I would get most

people

> > ignorant of autism and stare at her even more.

> > I tend to say nothing these days , but I find it hard with

> people

> > staring and making comments . Sometimes I am just hanging in

> there

> > with a really bad shopping trip and someone's comment can

make me

> > feel like bursting into tears. I once ran outside and had a

good

> > cry.I never knew how much peoples comments can hurt.

> > xx

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ----------------------------------------------------------------

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> ----------

> >

[Guest guest]

LOL! People don't realise there is a whole spectrum and no two

children or adults will be alike.The general community just think of

Rainman. Jasmine scores very low in speech/comprehension , fine motor

skills and social skills but has average to above average

intelligence so you wouldn't know anything was wrong with her except

the behaviours, hands over ears e.t.c. She does seem to have some

savante skills though such as an incredible memory.

xxxx

-- In Autism and Aspergers Treatment , " designs "

<scottdesigns@a...> wrote:

> Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to them....... Hoffman?? lol

>

>

> " Yeah, I've actually had people tell me " well, he doesn't LOOK

> autistic. " HUH????? I want to say, " what does autistic look

like? "

[Guest guest]

Hi Charlotte,

>>My son was sent for a speech and language eval at 3 by his pre-school

>>teacher. The evaluators said that the sounds he was " leaving out " were

>>not of concern because they were later developing and she was blown away

>>by the vocabulary! She would show him photos of things and he had to say

>>what they were....for example instead of " matches " he would say " those are

>>wooden matches " instead of " chicken " he would specify that it was a

>> " rooster " When she showed a photo of a dog he would say " thats a Husky "

>>lol, they actually looked at me and said " who was it that thought this kid

>>had a speech problem?? " <<

Sounds like a classic case of " superficially perfect expressive language "

(Gillberg's dx'ic criteria). They probably assumed that meant he was

understanding what others said to him and didn't check his receptive

language skills. Not that that's any use to you now!

My son too fooled people for many years with his expressive language, he was

not dx'd until age 10 when he had a teacher who put together all the

non-verbal stuff and steered us in the right direction.

in England

[Guest guest]

Thats what my SIL says too. When you know no different I suppose it's second nature.

I have been doing this a while but I'll tell you....I have only been doing it RIGHT for a couple of years!! lol!

-Charlotte

Re: People staring

Hi Charlotte,I guess I don't know anything else, I wouldn't know what is like to have one child. You have had to deal with it twice as long as me , mine are only 5 years old.Best Wishes,karen xxx

[Guest guest]

I think the memory is the most common.

I have teacher remarks with underlines and exclamation marks about ' memory dating back to age 3. Over and over. Ironically because his "immediate recall" scores are only in the 5th% it makes it look like he is Dory the fish from Nemo with an AMAZING "long term" memory lol.

He could probably still tell you everything he got on his 4th birthday and who gave it to him. but if you ask him what I said 5 minutes ago he'll look at you like you have three heads!!

-Charlotte

Re: People staring

LOL! People don't realise there is a whole spectrum and no two children or adults will be alike.The general community just think of Rainman. Jasmine scores very low in speech/comprehension , fine motor skills and social skills but has average to above average intelligence so you wouldn't know anything was wrong with her except the behaviours, hands over ears e.t.c. She does seem to have some savante skills though such as an incredible memory. xxxx-- In Autism and Aspergers Treatment , "designs" <scottdesigns@a...> wrote:> Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to them....... Hoffman?? lol> > > "Yeah, I've actually had people tell me "well, he doesn't LOOK> autistic." HUH????? I want to say, "what does autistic look like?"

[Guest guest]

Yes! People think of Rainman, or that autistic children 'look' autistic, and

therefore 'are' autistic if they are in the corner rocking, as if you have

to be one way or the other. Very sad! My son probably looks like an

undisciplined spoiled child, unless you catch him in an overwhelmed moment

when he just drops to the ground with a vacant stare, which is creepy. A lot

of people think that lack of eye contact and unwillingness to talk is just

bad manners. (I still haven't told a lot of people -- there are a few who I

know *without a doubt* would say " No way! He just needs more structure, a

good spank, and you staying on top of him. " Sigh...as if I don't watch him

all the time anyway.)

Donna

Re: People staring

>

>

> LOL! People don't realise there is a whole spectrum and no two

> children or adults will be alike.The general community just think of

> Rainman. Jasmine scores very low in speech/comprehension , fine motor

> skills and social skills but has average to above average

> intelligence so you wouldn't know anything was wrong with her except

> the behaviours, hands over ears e.t.c. She does seem to have some

> savante skills though such as an incredible memory.

>

> xxxx

>

> -- In Autism and Aspergers Treatment , " designs "

> <scottdesigns@a...> wrote:

>> Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to them....... Hoffman?? lol

>>

>>

>> " Yeah, I've actually had people tell me " well, he doesn't LOOK

>> autistic. " HUH????? I want to say, " what does autistic look

> like? "

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

My son too fooled people for many years with his expressive language, he was not dx'd until age 10

, is 11 and we're still awaiting the dx!!

-Charlotte

[Guest guest]

He just needs more structure, a

good spank, and you staying on top of him. "

Sigh...as if I don't watch him

all the time anyway.)

I hear this on a daily

basis. Sad to think I hear it from family members.

Re:

Re: People staring

Yes! People think of Rainman, or that autistic

children 'look' autistic, and

therefore 'are' autistic if they are in the corner

rocking, as if you have

to be one way or the other. Very sad! My son

probably looks like an

undisciplined spoiled child, unless you catch him

in an overwhelmed moment

when he just drops to the ground with a vacant

stare, which is creepy. A lot

of people think that lack of eye contact and

unwillingness to talk is just

bad manners. (I still haven't told a lot of people

-- there are a few who I

know *without a doubt* would say " No way! He

just needs more structure, a

good spank, and you staying on top of him. "

Sigh...as if I don't watch him

all the time anyway.)

Donna

Re: People staring

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>

> LOL! People don't realise there is a whole

spectrum and no two

> children or adults will be alike.The general

community just think of

> Rainman. Jasmine scores very low in

speech/comprehension , fine motor

> skills and social skills but has average to

above average

> intelligence so you wouldn't know anything

was wrong with her except

> the behaviours, hands over ears e.t.c. She

does seem to have some

> savante skills though such as an incredible

memory.

>

> xxxx

>

> -- In Autism and Aspergers Treatment ,

" designs "

> <scottdesigns@a...> wrote:

>> Hmmmm...I'm guessing...to

them....... Hoffman?? lol

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>>

>> " Yeah, I've actually had

people tell me " well, he doesn't LOOK

>> autistic. "

HUH????? I want to say, " what does autistic look

> like? "

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