Guest guest Posted February 14, 2005 Report Share Posted February 14, 2005 Did I question peoples' parenting skills? I thought I was sending " food for thought. " Because I am autistic, I might not understand what effect my actions have. Please let me know if I am the person you are addressing here so that I can refrain from sending additional outside material. By the way, I " though " I was replying on another list, but someone it ended up on this list. I apologize for getting so confused, as well as for causing trouble here. Patty Debra wrote: > > > > ASDSupport-GA/ > > > Group for support only! We are not here to criticize what others > are or are not doing for or with their children. We accept that our > children have strengths and weaknesses, as we all do, and see them > as the precious gifts that they are. Discussions on strengthening > communication and social skills are welcome but insults and > questioning of others' parenting skills or decisions is NOT welcome. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 8, 2011 Report Share Posted February 8, 2011 I hope that you will be able to get some support. I have to admit, I haven't done anything for the group but ask questions, I will approve them and hopefully we'll get some action going on here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2011 Report Share Posted February 9, 2011 i think i was disconnected from the chat for awhile previously but would like to be helpful and supportive to members. i thought it would be helpful to discuss different books, cookbooks as well as other books for those who can't always get to classes and have challenging situations. i purchased a few books that had great ideas that i would like to discusswith the group but i am not sure i am connected.From: Reggie A <purpleveg@...>Subject: support Date: Wednesday, February 9, 2011, 12:33 AM I hope that you will be able to get some support. I have to admit, I haven't done anything for the group but ask questions, I will approve them and hopefully we'll get some action going on here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2011 Report Share Posted February 21, 2011 Yes he's in public school; he usually does very well in school, its very hard fo rme to convince teachers or anybody else that he has problems. He's polite, a great student, very smart, well behaved. Its outside of school that we have the most problems. Hes on Clomipramine for anxiety and getting ready to put him back on concerta. For behavior we have tried rewards system, spanking/harsh discipline, yelling, being calm and patient. Now my patience are beginning to run out. He is very defiant and argumentative, and has a temper, hits me kicks me, etc. I've read a lot of these same issues from others on here. I'm just having a hard time figuring out the right way to handle the defiance and the screaming tantrums. In my mind I'm not Ok with him "getting away with it." But spanking I feel is like spanking a physically disabled child because he is unable to walk, but spanking my son because he cant handle certain situations and starts screaming and throwing fits. Also the name calling and saying "I wish you were dead." he told us last night that means the same as I don't like your behavior. Somewhere his version of "I wish you were dead" is different than our version. Also right now for the past week he's started throwing fits about having to go to bed because his stomach hurts. But I'm not sure whats going on yet, or what hes worried about. Autism and Aspergers Treatment From: socalval@...Date: Sun, 20 Feb 2011 14:42:04 -0800Subject: Re: support sorry I don't have any resources for you in TX but maybe someone else on here will. Do you have a local Autism support chapter near you? There may be a list of resources to contact on their website or call them. Is your son in public school? What have you tried so far? Best wishes, valerie support I'm new here, I have a 10 year old son with aspergers, trying to see if anyone knows of any specialists in amarillo, tx area. I'm at my wits end with the defiance and the words me son says to me. Tried everything under the sun to change behavior don't know what else to do. No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.5.449 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3455 - Release Date: 02/20/11 07:35:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2011 Report Share Posted February 21, 2011 The only method that ever worked to snap my child out of his rages were the techniques used in the book the Happiest Toddler on the Block, I find that my sons brain reverts to that of toddler during the time of a fit. Basically it is a constant validation of feelings, repeating what the child says until they understand that you "get" how upset they are. Sent from my BlackBerry Smartphone provided by AlltelFrom: Shana McNew <shanamcnew@...>Sender: Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Sun, 20 Feb 2011 18:39:51 -0800<Autism and Aspergers Treatment >Reply Autism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: RE: support Yes he's in public school; he usually does very well in school, its very hard fo rme to convince teachers or anybody else that he has problems. He's polite, a great student, very smart, well behaved. Its outside of school that we have the most problems. Hes on Clomipramine for anxiety and getting ready to put him back on concerta. For behavior we have tried rewards system, spanking/harsh discipline, yelling, being calm and patient. Now my patience are beginning to run out. He is very defiant and argumentative, and has a temper, hits me kicks me, etc. I've read a lot of these same issues from others on here. I'm just having a hard time figuring out the right way to handle the defiance and the screaming tantrums. In my mind I'm not Ok with him "getting away with it." But spanking I feel is like spanking a physically disabled child because he is unable to walk, but spanking my son because he cant handle certain situations and starts screaming and throwing fits. Also the name calling and saying "I wish you were dead." he told us last night that means the same as I don't like your behavior. Somewhere his version of "I wish you were dead" is different than our version. Also right now for the past week he's started throwing fits about having to go to bed because his stomach hurts. But I'm not sure whats going on yet, or what hes worried about. Autism and Aspergers Treatment From: socalval@...Date: Sun, 20 Feb 2011 14:42:04 -0800Subject: Re: support sorry I don't have any resources for you in TX but maybe someone else on here will. Do you have a local Autism support chapter near you? There may be a list of resources to contact on their website or call them. Is your son in public school? What have you tried so far? Best wishes,valerie support I'm new here, I have a 10 year old son with aspergers, trying to see if anyone knows of any specialists in amarillo, tx area. I'm at my wits end with the defiance and the words me son says to me. Tried everything under the sun to change behavior don't know what else to do. No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.5.449 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3455 - Release Date: 02/20/11 07:35:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2011 Report Share Posted February 23, 2011 You describe my 6.5-year-old exactly!!!! I don't know where he's learned some of the phrases he uses, and they can be hurtful. I, with you, have had a hard time justifying spanking... Now, my husband is a work in progress. > > > Yes he's in public school; he usually does very well in school, its very hard fo rme to convince teachers or anybody else that he has problems. He's polite, a great student, very smart, well behaved. Its outside of school that we have the most problems. Hes on Clomipramine for anxiety and getting ready to put him back on concerta. For behavior we have tried rewards system, spanking/harsh discipline, yelling, being calm and patient. Now my patience are beginning to run out. He is very defiant and argumentative, and has a temper, hits me kicks me, etc. I've read a lot of these same issues from others on here. I'm just having a hard time figuring out the right way to handle the defiance and the screaming tantrums. In my mind I'm not Ok with him " getting away with it. " But spanking I feel is like spanking a physically disabled child because he is unable to walk, but spanking my son because he cant handle certain situations and starts screaming and throwing fits. Also the name calling and saying " I wish you were dead. " he told us last night that means the same as I don't like your behavior. Somewhere his version of " I wish you were dead " is different than our version. Also right now for the past week he's started throwing fits about having to go to bed because his stomach hurts. But I'm not sure whats going on yet, or what hes worried about. > > > > Autism and Aspergers Treatment > From: socalval@... > Date: Sun, 20 Feb 2011 14:42:04 -0800 > Subject: Re: support > > > > > > > > sorry I don't have any resources for you in TX but maybe someone else on here will. Do you have a local Autism support chapter near you? There may be a list of resources to contact on their website or call them. Is your son in public school? What have you tried so far? > > Best wishes, > valerie > > support > > > > I'm new here, I have a 10 year old son with aspergers, trying to see if anyone knows of any specialists in amarillo, tx area. I'm at my wits end with the defiance and the words me son says to me. Tried everything under the sun to change behavior don't know what else to do. > > > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG - www.avg.com > Version: 8.5.449 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/3455 - Release Date: 02/20/11 07:35:00 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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