Guest guest Posted November 23, 2009 Report Share Posted November 23, 2009 in my honest opinion men are worthless when it comes to meltdowns they want to fix things and they can't fix our kids. usually tries to take over and it gets much much worse until it finally hits a high point where meltdowns so bad that he just cries and then gets it and leaves the room. Sharon From: Wylie <mlwpdb@...>Subject: Re: Wondering somethingautism Date: Monday, November 23, 2009, 4:00 PM i guess, do other dads, just leave the situation when things get bad in the house? Or do they stick around when things get bad. How do they help when there are meltdowns and such? Like this morning, Ricky got all out of control and MIke walked out of the house, I guess to get calmed down and he felt like he wasn't helping me in the situation. I guess I am looking for idea that he could do instead of walking out of the house. Or maybe is walking out of the house the best thing he could have done? Last night, ricky decided to run around the house like he was higher than a kite, refusing to listen to either one of us about going to bed. Mike wants to help me, but as stepdad, he can't do much, i guess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 2009 Report Share Posted November 23, 2009 I hate when Bill tries to teach a lesson in the midst f a melt down!OY!KOn Mon, Nov 23, 2009 at 6:19 PM, Sharon <kmusikmom2@...> wrote: in my honest opinion men are worthless when it comes to meltdowns they want to fix things and they can't fix our kids. usually tries to take over and it gets much much worse until it finally hits a high point where meltdowns so bad that he just cries and then gets it and leaves the room. Sharon From: Wylie <mlwpdb@...>Subject: Re: Wondering something autism Date: Monday, November 23, 2009, 4:00 PM i guess, do other dads, just leave the situation when things get bad in the house? Or do they stick around when things get bad. How do they help when there are meltdowns and such? Like this morning, Ricky got all out of control and MIke walked out of the house, I guess to get calmed down and he felt like he wasn't helping me in the situation. I guess I am looking for idea that he could do instead of walking out of the house. Or maybe is walking out of the house the best thing he could have done? Last night, ricky decided to run around the house like he was higher than a kite, refusing to listen to either one of us about going to bed. Mike wants to help me, but as stepdad, he can't do much, i guess. -- Kate Myers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 2009 Report Share Posted November 23, 2009 I hate when Bill tries to teach a lesson in the midst f a melt down!OY!KOn Mon, Nov 23, 2009 at 6:19 PM, Sharon <kmusikmom2@...> wrote: in my honest opinion men are worthless when it comes to meltdowns they want to fix things and they can't fix our kids. usually tries to take over and it gets much much worse until it finally hits a high point where meltdowns so bad that he just cries and then gets it and leaves the room. Sharon From: Wylie <mlwpdb@...>Subject: Re: Wondering something autism Date: Monday, November 23, 2009, 4:00 PM i guess, do other dads, just leave the situation when things get bad in the house? Or do they stick around when things get bad. How do they help when there are meltdowns and such? Like this morning, Ricky got all out of control and MIke walked out of the house, I guess to get calmed down and he felt like he wasn't helping me in the situation. I guess I am looking for idea that he could do instead of walking out of the house. Or maybe is walking out of the house the best thing he could have done? Last night, ricky decided to run around the house like he was higher than a kite, refusing to listen to either one of us about going to bed. Mike wants to help me, but as stepdad, he can't do much, i guess. -- Kate Myers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 I can kind of see the testosterone issue. With Ricky going into puberty soon, I can only imagine what the next few years will be like. I have some physical issues going on like fibromyalgia and some arthritis and I just can't always move as quickly as I need to. So that would be why I would want Mike here with me instead of leaving. But, I had a meeting regarding some in home help and it looks promising. We meet again next Thursday to finalize everything. I am asking for help in the morning and afterschool and also Sunday mornings. I am hoping and praying that something positive comes out of this. Thanks for your suggestions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 I can kind of see the testosterone issue. With Ricky going into puberty soon, I can only imagine what the next few years will be like. I have some physical issues going on like fibromyalgia and some arthritis and I just can't always move as quickly as I need to. So that would be why I would want Mike here with me instead of leaving. But, I had a meeting regarding some in home help and it looks promising. We meet again next Thursday to finalize everything. I am asking for help in the morning and afterschool and also Sunday mornings. I am hoping and praying that something positive comes out of this. Thanks for your suggestions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 , Jake is very good with J. When J hits at me he is right on him. Telling him to go sit down or taking his book from him. He is also very loving with J and very protective of him. We both laugh and cry over JJ. Lois Wondering something Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 , Jake is very good with J. When J hits at me he is right on him. Telling him to go sit down or taking his book from him. He is also very loving with J and very protective of him. We both laugh and cry over JJ. Lois Wondering something Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 My son's father (sperm doner) couldn't handle it so he has not been around for going on three years now and that's ok. My family try to help sometimes but stay out of it unless I ask for help. My niece and nephews are sometimes most helpful because he will usually listen to them or they can sometimes get him calm before I can. And my boyfriend is just there if I need him....he is very good with him and has helped out a great deal. Hope that helps. The thing to remember is that unless you are around it 24 hours a day sometimes people just don't know what to do or how to help. Sandy From: Wylie <mlwpdb@...>Subject: Wondering somethingautism Date: Monday, November 23, 2009, 9:44 AM I was wondering how the fathers, stepfathers, boyfriends, etc, in our children's lives deal with the struggles of autism on a daily basis? Any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated. How involved are they, especially when explosive behaviors start? Need help with this right away. Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 Pat, I am half German.....And part Irish! LOL! Lois Re: Wondering something Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 Funny, makes me smile. Love and blessings, Pat K Re: Wondering something autism Date: Monday, November 23, 2009, 4:00 PM i guess, do other dads, just leave the situation when things get bad in the house? Or do they stick around when things get bad. How do they help when there are meltdowns and such? Like this morning, Ricky got all out of control and MIke walked out of the house, I guess to get calmed down and he felt like he wasn't helping me in the situation. I guess I am looking for idea that he could do instead of walking out of the house. Or maybe is walking out of the house the best thing he could have done? Last night, ricky decided to run around the house like he was higher than a kite, refusing to listen to either one of us about going to bed. Mike wants to help me, but as stepdad, he can't do much, i guess. -- Kate Myers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 I'm not surprised. smile. Love and blessings, Pat K Re: Wondering something Pat, I am half German.....And part Irish! LOL! Lois Re: Wondering something Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2009 Report Share Posted November 24, 2009 I'll be praying for that. Pat K Re: Wondering something I can kind of see the testosterone issue. With Ricky going into puberty soon, I can only imagine what the next few years will be like. I have some physical issues going on like fibromyalgia and some arthritis and I just can't always move as quickly as I need to. So that would be why I would want Mike here with me instead of leaving. But, I had a meeting regarding some in home help and it looks promising. We meet again next Thursday to finalize everything. I am asking for help in the morning and afterschool and also Sunday mornings. I am hoping and praying that something positive comes out of this. Thanks for your suggestions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2009 Report Share Posted November 25, 2009 it is different for fathers especially if it's their son. Your husband needs to find something he is interested in like fishing, running, hunting, etc. Unfortunately some turn to drugs, alcohol, etc. Hope this helped a little.Sent from my iPhoneGwen HebertOn Nov 23, 2009, at 3:14 PM, Wylie <mlwpdb@...> wrote: Thanks all of you for responding back. But I really didn't get any ideas that would work for us. I guess I was hoping to hear about any stress relieving strategies, or ideas that fathers use to get through the stressful times in the house. I guess I am different than most moms that my son's stepdad is around all the time and tries to help me with Ricky, being hands on. He doesn't work 60 hours a week or have a long commute or isn't going to school or involving himself in something and leaving me to take care of everything. I guess that would solve all our problems. I am not having a very good day. Sorry if I offended anyone. Thanks anyways. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2009 Report Share Posted November 25, 2009 sometimes it is best if they just walk out especially if they have a temper. He may have needed to leave instead of physically hurting Ricky. We all deal with things differently. Be patient with him he has to learn how to deal with this on his own. Be supportive of him listen and try to give positive advice. It's hard being the step parent of any child.Sent from my iPhoneGwen HebertOn Nov 23, 2009, at 4:00 PM, Wylie <mlwpdb@...> wrote: i guess, do other dads, just leave the situation when things get bad in the house? Or do they stick around when things get bad. How do they help when there are meltdowns and such? Like this morning, Ricky got all out of control and MIke walked out of the house, I guess to get calmed down and he felt like he wasn't helping me in the situation. I guess I am looking for idea that he could do instead of walking out of the house. Or maybe is walking out of the house the best thing he could have done? Last night, ricky decided to run around the house like he was higher than a kite, refusing to listen to either one of us about going to bed. Mike wants to help me, but as stepdad, he can't do much, i guess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 25, 2009 Report Share Posted November 25, 2009 My husband has set up a nice seating area with a little refrigerator in our bedroom where he can shut the door and watch tv and snack. (Yes, snacking is very stress relieving but not very healthy...) He is great with the kids, but needs " down time " . I also get a babysitter so that we get to go out to dinner once a week, and I'll stay home while he goes out with his friends once a week, (as he will stay home so I can go out with my friends.) Lindsey sen http://5kidswdisabilities.wordpress.com On Nov 23, 2009, at 3:14 PM, Wylie <mlwpdb@...> wrote: Thanks all of you for responding back. But I really didn't get any ideas that would work for us. I guess I was hoping to hear about any stress relieving strategies, or ideas that fathers use to get through the stressful times in the house. Recent Activity: New Members 18 Visit Your Group Start a New Topic MARKETPLACE Parenting Zone: Find useful resources for a happy, healthy family and home Switch to: Text-Only, Daily Digest • Unsubscribe • Terms of Use .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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