Guest guest Posted September 1, 2005 Report Share Posted September 1, 2005 I am wondering what other therapists say as far as accommodating OCD? I spoke with my daughter's therapist yesterday and she made it sound like I should never accommodate OCD and that in doing so I am making things easier for me and much more difficult for my daughter. I kind of think I should pick my battles. I don't like the tension the anxiety causes and to me it is easier said than done to never accommodate OCD. Any ideas? Thanks. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2005 Report Share Posted September 1, 2005 Hi Kim, it's true that accommodating OCD strengthens it, making your daughter's OCD worse in the long run. But when you don't go along with OCD's wishes, she experiences anxiety in the short term which is hard for her and everyone. Many of us work along with our children's therapists to target certain OCD compulsions, one or just a few at a time. Certain compulsions are worked on while others are ignored for the meanwhile. I agree that its about impossible to *never* accommodate OCD. For example, we chose to accommodate bedtime compulsions for quite awhile while targeting others. But between therapy (and meds if used), plus support at home of not accommodating the OCD (or gradually withdrawing this accommodation), plus avoiding becoming ensnared in any new compulsions that come along, a child's OCD can become low-level and stable rather quickly. You might ask your dd's therapist at next visit, just how she wants you to withdraw your participation in your daughter's rituals. Does she mean stop " cold turkey " or could your efforts parallel the compulsions the therapist is targeting in therapy? Kathy R. in Indiana ----- Original Message ----- From: <mnmomof1@...> >I am wondering what other therapists say as far as accommodating OCD? I > spoke with my daughter's therapist yesterday and she made it sound like I > should > never accommodate OCD and that in doing so I am making things easier for > me > and much more difficult for my daughter. I kind of think I should pick my > battles. I don't like the tension the anxiety causes and to me it is > easier said > than done to never accommodate OCD. Any ideas? Thanks. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2005 Report Share Posted September 1, 2005 Hi Kim, it's true that accommodating OCD strengthens it, making your daughter's OCD worse in the long run. But when you don't go along with OCD's wishes, she experiences anxiety in the short term which is hard for her and everyone. Many of us work along with our children's therapists to target certain OCD compulsions, one or just a few at a time. Certain compulsions are worked on while others are ignored for the meanwhile. I agree that its about impossible to *never* accommodate OCD. For example, we chose to accommodate bedtime compulsions for quite awhile while targeting others. But between therapy (and meds if used), plus support at home of not accommodating the OCD (or gradually withdrawing this accommodation), plus avoiding becoming ensnared in any new compulsions that come along, a child's OCD can become low-level and stable rather quickly. You might ask your dd's therapist at next visit, just how she wants you to withdraw your participation in your daughter's rituals. Does she mean stop " cold turkey " or could your efforts parallel the compulsions the therapist is targeting in therapy? Kathy R. in Indiana ----- Original Message ----- From: <mnmomof1@...> >I am wondering what other therapists say as far as accommodating OCD? I > spoke with my daughter's therapist yesterday and she made it sound like I > should > never accommodate OCD and that in doing so I am making things easier for > me > and much more difficult for my daughter. I kind of think I should pick my > battles. I don't like the tension the anxiety causes and to me it is > easier said > than done to never accommodate OCD. Any ideas? Thanks. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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