Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 Ellen - I go through the same thing with my son... Last year (8th grade) he actually spent more time in detention and suspensions than he did in school. At that point, he just shuts down. This year (9th grade) he's had one day out of school suspension and one day in-school suspension. How old is your daughter? Unfortunately, at the older grades teachers are only concentrating on making the grade and preparing for state tests.. no time for the child who isn't quite up to par. There are, however, some compassionate, empathetic spec-ed teachers out there that will go the extra mile. They're few and far between though. In your case, it sounds like anxiety and some element of disorganization going on. I'd call a CST meeting and put something in her plan. How about a set of books to keep at home? That would eliminate the " forgetting " problem. This is a common IEP accomodation. I would talk to your caseworker and explain what's going on - I think in your case just a few tweaks to her IEP might do the triick. Good luck. In a message dated 11/3/2005 5:10:45 PM Eastern Standard Time, musicgirl9395@... writes: Lately, it has been a struggle keeping up. She gets extra help at school, has an IEP, and we even have a tutor come to our home. How should i handle this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 Ellen - I go through the same thing with my son... Last year (8th grade) he actually spent more time in detention and suspensions than he did in school. At that point, he just shuts down. This year (9th grade) he's had one day out of school suspension and one day in-school suspension. How old is your daughter? Unfortunately, at the older grades teachers are only concentrating on making the grade and preparing for state tests.. no time for the child who isn't quite up to par. There are, however, some compassionate, empathetic spec-ed teachers out there that will go the extra mile. They're few and far between though. In your case, it sounds like anxiety and some element of disorganization going on. I'd call a CST meeting and put something in her plan. How about a set of books to keep at home? That would eliminate the " forgetting " problem. This is a common IEP accomodation. I would talk to your caseworker and explain what's going on - I think in your case just a few tweaks to her IEP might do the triick. Good luck. In a message dated 11/3/2005 5:10:45 PM Eastern Standard Time, musicgirl9395@... writes: Lately, it has been a struggle keeping up. She gets extra help at school, has an IEP, and we even have a tutor come to our home. How should i handle this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 My son does exactly the same thing - tell him something and he''s almost compelled to do the opposite - almost like the thought process gets stuck or something?? In a message dated 11/3/2005 7:54:31 PM Eastern Standard Time, musicgirl9395@... writes: To me, it sounds like OCD because she does stuff like this at home where she is almost compelled to do the opposite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 My son does exactly the same thing - tell him something and he''s almost compelled to do the opposite - almost like the thought process gets stuck or something?? In a message dated 11/3/2005 7:54:31 PM Eastern Standard Time, musicgirl9395@... writes: To me, it sounds like OCD because she does stuff like this at home where she is almost compelled to do the opposite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 Hi Ellen, my dd used to forget her homework all the time. One of her ocd issues was homework , she was afraid she wouldn't be able to get it all done so she would leave it at school and say she forgot it. cathy > > Hi, > My dd came home from school today and she was " written up " twice. > Well, I think the pressure has been building lately and she is > feeling behind. There are many " too hard " projects that she has no > clue about. She has OCD/ADHD. I have been feeling stressed for her, > so I know she must be too. Yesterday she went to the computer lab > instead of study hall. She said she was going to study for a test on > the computer. Instead she wrote me a letter asking for electronics, > but I could tell from her wording that she felt anxious. For the past > few weeks, she misplaces many books at school (I think > intentionally). They finally show up. Sometimes she doesn't bring > home assignments. Today she got written up for forgetting to bring a > book to a class, and she won't tell me the other reason. > I don't know how to handle it. I don't want to overprotect her, but I > know that when she is stressed, overwhelmed, and work is too hard for > her, she shuts down. I do know that when things are easy and there > is only a little, she can come home and do homework. Lately, it has > been a struggle keeping up. She gets extra help at school, has an > IEP, and we even have a tutor come to our home. How should i handle > this? With strictness or more compassion. And what should I tell > the school? Thanks. Ellen > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 Hi Ellen, my dd used to forget her homework all the time. One of her ocd issues was homework , she was afraid she wouldn't be able to get it all done so she would leave it at school and say she forgot it. cathy > > Hi, > My dd came home from school today and she was " written up " twice. > Well, I think the pressure has been building lately and she is > feeling behind. There are many " too hard " projects that she has no > clue about. She has OCD/ADHD. I have been feeling stressed for her, > so I know she must be too. Yesterday she went to the computer lab > instead of study hall. She said she was going to study for a test on > the computer. Instead she wrote me a letter asking for electronics, > but I could tell from her wording that she felt anxious. For the past > few weeks, she misplaces many books at school (I think > intentionally). They finally show up. Sometimes she doesn't bring > home assignments. Today she got written up for forgetting to bring a > book to a class, and she won't tell me the other reason. > I don't know how to handle it. I don't want to overprotect her, but I > know that when she is stressed, overwhelmed, and work is too hard for > her, she shuts down. I do know that when things are easy and there > is only a little, she can come home and do homework. Lately, it has > been a struggle keeping up. She gets extra help at school, has an > IEP, and we even have a tutor come to our home. How should i handle > this? With strictness or more compassion. And what should I tell > the school? Thanks. Ellen > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 > >> , how did you know that it was the OCD that made your daughter > leave her work at school? My daughter doesn't talk to me like that. > SHe had been losing her assignment notebook regularly, but she would > just leave it in corners of the school or in random places. How do I > know if this is OCD or manipulation??? I appreciate your thoughts. > Ellen Hi Ellen, I guess I just assumed, because whenever she would sit down to do her homework she would cry and stress out about having 'so much to do' even when it was only ten minutes worth. Then I would find out that she had left half of it at school. She would try desparately to finish it at school or on the way home for fear of not having enough time at home to complete it. It never made a difference to her if i said she didn't have to do the work. Once I started communicating with the teacher and she had to make up the work she just got more anxious. I ended up just leaving the rrom until homework was complete and the the TV could go on. I wish I had an answer for you. Some how it just ended. We were doing CBT on other issues at the time and the homework issues eventually all dissappeared. Hang in there! I am thinking of you and wishing for the best! cathy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 > >> , how did you know that it was the OCD that made your daughter > leave her work at school? My daughter doesn't talk to me like that. > SHe had been losing her assignment notebook regularly, but she would > just leave it in corners of the school or in random places. How do I > know if this is OCD or manipulation??? I appreciate your thoughts. > Ellen Hi Ellen, I guess I just assumed, because whenever she would sit down to do her homework she would cry and stress out about having 'so much to do' even when it was only ten minutes worth. Then I would find out that she had left half of it at school. She would try desparately to finish it at school or on the way home for fear of not having enough time at home to complete it. It never made a difference to her if i said she didn't have to do the work. Once I started communicating with the teacher and she had to make up the work she just got more anxious. I ended up just leaving the rrom until homework was complete and the the TV could go on. I wish I had an answer for you. Some how it just ended. We were doing CBT on other issues at the time and the homework issues eventually all dissappeared. Hang in there! I am thinking of you and wishing for the best! cathy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2005 Report Share Posted November 3, 2005 On the positive side: I've found my son's 9th grade teachers to be helpful and accomodating - right now for us the hardball teachers are few and far between . . . each year is different, but it can be a good relationship with the teachers. > > Ellen - > > I go through the same thing with my son... Last year (8th grade) he actually > spent more time in detention and suspensions than he did in school. At that > point, he just shuts down. This year (9th grade) he's had one day out of > school suspension and one day in-school suspension. How old is your daughter? > Unfortunately, at the older grades teachers are only concentrating on making the > grade and preparing for state tests.. no time for the child who isn't quite up > to par. There are, however, some compassionate, empathetic spec-ed teachers > out there that will go the extra mile. They're few and far between though. > In your case, it sounds like anxiety and some element of disorganization going > on. I'd call a CST meeting and put something in her plan. How about a set of > books to keep at home? That would eliminate the " forgetting " problem. This > is a common IEP accomodation. I would talk to your caseworker and explain > what's going on - I think in your case just a few tweaks to her IEP might do the > triick. > > Good luck. > > > > In a message dated 11/3/2005 5:10:45 PM Eastern Standard Time, > musicgirl9395@y... writes: > Lately, it has > been a struggle keeping up. She gets extra help at school, has an > IEP, and we even have a tutor come to our home. How should i handle > this? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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