Guest guest Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 One of my daughter's latest compulsions is cursing when she is mad or her OCD is interferred with. For any of you who have gone through this know it is tricky especially if there are younger children involved. My son, with Asperger's syndrome is younger. A couple of weeks ago when my son was in distress over my duaghter's OCD, I diagnosed one of his stuffed animals with OCD so we could do some role playing. A good idea for him. Well, the other night he wasn't listening to my husband when it came time to go to bed so my husban took his blanket away until he got ready. His blanket has a " wife " blanket also. So my son took that blanket and the blanket said, " Daddy, give me my husban back! " Well, when that didn't work, he got the OCD animal and it said, " Give him his blanket back, you A--hole! " Shocked, my husband started laughing as did my son and me. At least we can laugh!!!!!!! Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 Thanks for the laugh. " Give him his blanket back, you A--hole! " It's been the running punchline in our house for the past few hours - lots of kids in this house (2 1/2 to 14 years old) so we completely understand! > > One of my daughter's latest compulsions is cursing when she is mad or > her OCD is interferred with. For any of you who have gone through this > know it is tricky especially if there are younger children involved. > My son, with Asperger's syndrome is younger. A couple of weeks ago > when my son was in distress over my duaghter's OCD, I diagnosed one of > his stuffed animals with OCD so we could do some role playing. A good > idea for him. > Well, the other night he wasn't listening to my husband when it came > time to go to bed so my husban took his blanket away until he got > ready. His blanket has a " wife " blanket also. So my son took that > blanket and the blanket said, " Daddy, give me my husban back! " Well, > when that didn't work, he got the OCD animal and it said, " Give him his > blanket back, you A--hole! " Shocked, my husband started laughing as > did my son and me. At least we can laugh!!!!!!! Ellen > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 My kids were afraid that they might accidently swear and my oldest daughter has a tendency to think of God and bad words in the same context. My husband is excellent therapy for this and encouraged the girls to swear loudly in his presence! When the world didn't come crashing down around them, they laughed and started to get over it. Neither of them swear openly and I have told them that they can say whatever they want to themselves and no one cares. I know for them it was OCD and that they were both very stressed about it. For once, my husband's lack of social graces came in handy! Kelley in NV Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 My kids were afraid that they might accidently swear and my oldest daughter has a tendency to think of God and bad words in the same context. My husband is excellent therapy for this and encouraged the girls to swear loudly in his presence! When the world didn't come crashing down around them, they laughed and started to get over it. Neither of them swear openly and I have told them that they can say whatever they want to themselves and no one cares. I know for them it was OCD and that they were both very stressed about it. For once, my husband's lack of social graces came in handy! Kelley in NV Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 Thanks Kathy, It's been a pretty good amount ot time that I've had to deal with some of these issues with her. Since the beginning of the school year and the medication change the lovely OCD monster has been pecking at her again. It just kind of sneaks up on me and her at times. The hard part about the ADD thing is, it makes it very hard for her to understand her OCD and to remember to talk back. But honestly, the small amount she has now compared to how she was a year or two ago, I think she still considers it gone now. At her worst point before being medicated she had constant thoughts of grabbing and knife and killing herself. All she thought about was dying and her worst fear was dying. This is such a crazy disorder, I guess you've always gotta be ready for something. Kathy > > Hi Kathy, yes it can be. If you remember that OCD is ego dystonic, and that > kids get the strong message from parents, teachers and etc. not to use these > certain " bad " words, it's not surprising that compulsions to do just that > are fairly common in OCD kids. OCD frequently picks things completely > opposite of the child's own thoughts and feelings for obsessions and > compulsions. This is different than a child's ego syntonic cursing, which > they do because they think it's cool, daring, shows maturity, etc. Of > course, *confessing* that she's thinking or muttering curse words is also a > compulsion... :-/ > > Compulsive cursing is also seen in Tourette's syndrome, a common tag-along > disorder with OCD. (ADD is the third in this triad.) > > Lots of parents have had to weigh the positive effect of their child's ADD > stimulant medication with the negative effect it can have on the OCD. Have > you tried Straterra, that ADD med is one that is supposed to not worsen OCD > symptoms though some parents here were disappointed by it. > > Good luck, > Kathy R. in Indiana > > > P.S. Cursing compulsion can be reduced and eliminated with ERP. > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: " Kathy " <amboe16@y...> > > > Oh my gosh, is that a compulsion? My daughter has been confessing to > > me several time a day lately that she has said curse words in her head > > or under her breath when angry. And lately she has had the f word > > stuck in her head off and on. I figured it was more of her going back > > to school and hearing those words more... (6th grade this year). > > She's always had a fear or swear words as when her ocd was the worst > > before medication she had a record of the f word playing over and over > > and a want to continuously flip off people. > > > > We have just been trying her on adderall as the doctor thought it > > might help her ADHD, but all I can see is that it has brought out more > > ocd symptoms. It did make her a little more smarter somehow, but I > > think I have to weigh which is worse. Seems like most of the > > stimulating medications give her more anxiety which triggers more of > > her thoughts. > > > > Kathy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 Thanks Kathy, It's been a pretty good amount ot time that I've had to deal with some of these issues with her. Since the beginning of the school year and the medication change the lovely OCD monster has been pecking at her again. It just kind of sneaks up on me and her at times. The hard part about the ADD thing is, it makes it very hard for her to understand her OCD and to remember to talk back. But honestly, the small amount she has now compared to how she was a year or two ago, I think she still considers it gone now. At her worst point before being medicated she had constant thoughts of grabbing and knife and killing herself. All she thought about was dying and her worst fear was dying. This is such a crazy disorder, I guess you've always gotta be ready for something. Kathy > > Hi Kathy, yes it can be. If you remember that OCD is ego dystonic, and that > kids get the strong message from parents, teachers and etc. not to use these > certain " bad " words, it's not surprising that compulsions to do just that > are fairly common in OCD kids. OCD frequently picks things completely > opposite of the child's own thoughts and feelings for obsessions and > compulsions. This is different than a child's ego syntonic cursing, which > they do because they think it's cool, daring, shows maturity, etc. Of > course, *confessing* that she's thinking or muttering curse words is also a > compulsion... :-/ > > Compulsive cursing is also seen in Tourette's syndrome, a common tag-along > disorder with OCD. (ADD is the third in this triad.) > > Lots of parents have had to weigh the positive effect of their child's ADD > stimulant medication with the negative effect it can have on the OCD. Have > you tried Straterra, that ADD med is one that is supposed to not worsen OCD > symptoms though some parents here were disappointed by it. > > Good luck, > Kathy R. in Indiana > > > P.S. Cursing compulsion can be reduced and eliminated with ERP. > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: " Kathy " <amboe16@y...> > > > Oh my gosh, is that a compulsion? My daughter has been confessing to > > me several time a day lately that she has said curse words in her head > > or under her breath when angry. And lately she has had the f word > > stuck in her head off and on. I figured it was more of her going back > > to school and hearing those words more... (6th grade this year). > > She's always had a fear or swear words as when her ocd was the worst > > before medication she had a record of the f word playing over and over > > and a want to continuously flip off people. > > > > We have just been trying her on adderall as the doctor thought it > > might help her ADHD, but all I can see is that it has brought out more > > ocd symptoms. It did make her a little more smarter somehow, but I > > think I have to weigh which is worse. Seems like most of the > > stimulating medications give her more anxiety which triggers more of > > her thoughts. > > > > Kathy > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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