broken hearted

[Guest guest]

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I'm sorry to hear you're feeling like this - I know exactly what you are

going through. We've felt like this a good many years. This year is actually a

little better and I'm cautiously starting to feel slightly hopeful.

Are there any large medical centers by you (hospitals)? Often, these will

have behavioral health clinics in them and either work with insurance or on a

sliding scale.

Unfortunately, my son's anxiety level is also very high and it is doubtful

that CBT will be very helpful for him, but it is still an option in the future.

For now, the combination of meds helps tremendously. For CBT to even be a

possible relief, the child needs to be willing. You are obviously up one in

that department. My son is still very resistant.

As for your doctor, it's probably not much consolation, but at least he had

the gumpf to tell you he was up against a wall and had no thoughts left - Over

the years and after dealing with my oldest with bipolar, I actually had more

respect for the psychiatrists that would come out straight and tell me they

were out of ideas rather than stringing us along with false hope that " maybe the

next time. " It alleviated a lot of wasted time and money.

It's a tough place to be in parenting a child with OCD and it's other various

fall-outs. We gain out strength knowing we are our child's only hope -

For now, you're doing what you can - you're on the waiting list (which

actually in the psychiatry world isn't all that uncommon no matter how much $$

or

what type of insurance you have). So there is something to look ahead to. In

the meantime research all you can, call and be vigilent with your insurance

company about other options. As long as YOU don't give up, your child has a

fighting chance.

You're in my thoughts.

In a message dated 10/22/2005 11:29:31 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

grizz140@... writes:

Our doctor has always told us that

he thought our child's anxiety was to high for this to be

successful. I sure hope he's wrong.

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone. We saw our doctor yesterday. I feel kind of abandoned

and broken hearted. My child has gone through med changes. At the

beginning of the med changes he got worse and it did get better but

we have no improvement from what thing were before the med changes.

We don't have much for ocd experts here in Alberta but our doctor is

considered the best child psyciatrist in Alberta with lot's of

experience treating ocd. He told us yesterday that there is nothing

more that he can do for us. This is after 3 yrs. of med. changes

with nothing that lasts for very long. He does know a ocd expert

for adults about 3 hours from here that he'll send us to but he

thinks he may tell us that this is something that we'll just have to

except and help our child except it. He suffers and I can't stand

the thought of him having to spend his whole life like this. I've

been telling him for 3 yrs now that he'll get better but he just has

to be patient and keep trying things. He hates his life because of

ocd. I could never tell him that it's not going to get better. I

feel so broken hearted.

My child has never had any " real " erp or cbt done. We have never

been able to find anyone to do it. We have fortunatly just found

someone an hour from here that does it privatly out of her home and

also has lots of experience. We're on a waiting list so it'll be

about 3 months before she can see him. It is also very expensive

and not covered by our health care system. If it'll work, we'll

come up with the money. I just feel like she's our last hope and

I'm scared that it won't work. Our doctor has always told us that

he thought our child's anxiety was to high for this to be

successful. I sure hope he's wrong.

[Guest guest]

I feel terrible for you and your son after reading your post, . Have

you tried lots of different med combinations? Have you ever tried inpatient? I

am sure that would be a difficult thing to do, but there are some places that

are suppose to be really good for OCD as inpatient. I know you must feel

very low hearing that from your psych, but please don't give up. Maybe the

doctor you mentioned might hold the key for you. Goo luck to you and your son.

Kim

In a message dated 10/22/2005 10:29:30 AM Central Standard Time,

grizz140@... writes:

Hi everyone. We saw our doctor yesterday. I feel kind of abandoned

and broken hearted. My child has gone through med changes. At the

beginning of the med changes he got worse and it did get better but

we have no improvement from what thing were before the med changes.

[Guest guest]

Please do not lose hope. You can do therapy with your son on your

own. I have successfully done this with my son. Purchase the

book " OCD in Children & Adolescents: A Cognitive Behavioral Treatment

Manual " by March and Mulle. It is pricey (about $50) but

well worth it. The book is written for therapists, so it shows you

what you must do step by step and it works! Just be patient and

persistent. The progress will seem slow, but your son will conquer

his fears.