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Hi,

I think I may have asked a similar question before- forgive me if I

have! My daughter (10) has gone from having many disturbing thoughts

every day and almost not being able to function last spring (we

homeschooled from April-June) to having 1-2 disturbing thoughts a day.

She is very glad she finally told someone. I taught her bossing back

techniques last spring, started some herbs and a counselor (not a

behaviorist). I know school is/will increase her stress and I need to

get together with the school about that, however, stress is a part of

life. Is there a way for me know if bossing back is enough of if we

need to do some exposure stuff. She is helping with the dishes

(putting clean ones away). She will wash the dirty ones if she uses

gloves (a start, I think?). I am going to ask her counselor on Tuesday

if she will will do behavior stuff around her anxiety. I'm hoping she

will say yes. My daughter thinks she is doing very well to only have

1-2 thoughts a day. Is that good enough (now who is the

perfectionist?)

Peggy

Peggy Olsen-Missildine, M.Ed, M.S.

Mom to Haleigh and

Washington Online Instructor

Grays Harbor College and Walla Walla Community College

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are not failed attempts at being you. They are unique manifestations of the

human spirit. " - Wade

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Hi Peggy,

I'm in one of those " blah " days so am having a " duh " on what to

reply, LOL!

(They have blocked more internet at work now, and I can only get

into this group by " refreshing " the pages; can't get into my other

groups here, even by doing that; so, anyway, the " powers that be " at

work have screwed with my " me time " at lunch hour! can't check

hotmail email anymore either!)

Your daughter seems to be doing really great, considering how far

she's come! As to the remaining thoughts, etc., *I* think it is

something she should continue to work on, definitely.

What did the counselor say??

>

> Hi,

>

> I think I may have asked a similar question before- forgive me if I

> have! My daughter (10) has gone from having many disturbing

thoughts

> every day and almost not being able to function last spring (we

> homeschooled from April-June) to having 1-2 disturbing thoughts a

day.

> She is very glad she finally told someone. I taught her bossing

back

> techniques last spring, started some herbs and a counselor (not a

> behaviorist). I know school is/will increase her stress and I

need to

> get together with the school about that, however, stress is a part

of

> life. Is there a way for me know if bossing back is enough of if

we

> need to do some exposure stuff. She is helping with the dishes

> (putting clean ones away). She will wash the dirty ones if she

uses

> gloves (a start, I think?). I am going to ask her counselor on

Tuesday

> if she will will do behavior stuff around her anxiety. I'm hoping

she

> will say yes. My daughter thinks she is doing very well to only

have

> 1-2 thoughts a day. Is that good enough (now who is the

> perfectionist?)

>

> Peggy

>

> Peggy Olsen-Missildine, M.Ed, M.S.

> Mom to Haleigh and

> Washington Online Instructor

> Grays Harbor College and Walla Walla Community College

> -------------------------------------------------------------------

---

> " The world in which you were born is just one model of reality.

Other cultures are not failed attempts at being you. They are unique

manifestations of the human spirit. " - Wade

>

> __________________________________________________

>

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Hi Peggy,

I'm in one of those " blah " days so am having a " duh " on what to

reply, LOL!

(They have blocked more internet at work now, and I can only get

into this group by " refreshing " the pages; can't get into my other

groups here, even by doing that; so, anyway, the " powers that be " at

work have screwed with my " me time " at lunch hour! can't check

hotmail email anymore either!)

Your daughter seems to be doing really great, considering how far

she's come! As to the remaining thoughts, etc., *I* think it is

something she should continue to work on, definitely.

What did the counselor say??

>

> Hi,

>

> I think I may have asked a similar question before- forgive me if I

> have! My daughter (10) has gone from having many disturbing

thoughts

> every day and almost not being able to function last spring (we

> homeschooled from April-June) to having 1-2 disturbing thoughts a

day.

> She is very glad she finally told someone. I taught her bossing

back

> techniques last spring, started some herbs and a counselor (not a

> behaviorist). I know school is/will increase her stress and I

need to

> get together with the school about that, however, stress is a part

of

> life. Is there a way for me know if bossing back is enough of if

we

> need to do some exposure stuff. She is helping with the dishes

> (putting clean ones away). She will wash the dirty ones if she

uses

> gloves (a start, I think?). I am going to ask her counselor on

Tuesday

> if she will will do behavior stuff around her anxiety. I'm hoping

she

> will say yes. My daughter thinks she is doing very well to only

have

> 1-2 thoughts a day. Is that good enough (now who is the

> perfectionist?)

>

> Peggy

>

> Peggy Olsen-Missildine, M.Ed, M.S.

> Mom to Haleigh and

> Washington Online Instructor

> Grays Harbor College and Walla Walla Community College

> -------------------------------------------------------------------

---

> " The world in which you were born is just one model of reality.

Other cultures are not failed attempts at being you. They are unique

manifestations of the human spirit. " - Wade

>

> __________________________________________________

>

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wrote: Your daughter seems to be doing really great, considering

how far she's come! As to the remaining thoughts, etc., *I* think it

is something she should continue to work on, definitely. What did the

counselor say??

Hey

The counselor is going to do some EMDR. She did the interview

yesterday and will start next week. She did have a trauma that

started much of the obsessing at the end of third grade that continued

through 4th grade (last year). A boy drew a picture of her on the

ground and someone standing up saying " die " . That was the beginning

of a pretty fast increase of symptoms leading to the " crisis " 6-9

months later. I'm also increasing her Inositol 1/8 teaspoon twice a

day because I think she will need it to address these issues.

Anyone have any experience with EMDR. I read the book about 10 years

ago when I was working as a counselor and was considering the

training, but second child and a broken ankle took care of that.

Peggy

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wrote: Your daughter seems to be doing really great, considering

how far she's come! As to the remaining thoughts, etc., *I* think it

is something she should continue to work on, definitely. What did the

counselor say??

Hey

The counselor is going to do some EMDR. She did the interview

yesterday and will start next week. She did have a trauma that

started much of the obsessing at the end of third grade that continued

through 4th grade (last year). A boy drew a picture of her on the

ground and someone standing up saying " die " . That was the beginning

of a pretty fast increase of symptoms leading to the " crisis " 6-9

months later. I'm also increasing her Inositol 1/8 teaspoon twice a

day because I think she will need it to address these issues.

Anyone have any experience with EMDR. I read the book about 10 years

ago when I was working as a counselor and was considering the

training, but second child and a broken ankle took care of that.

Peggy

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Oh my gosh, Peggy, you must want to get your hands on that boy in a

bad way! How awful, you can only hope that one day he will look back

and realize what a dumb thing that was to do. It amazes me how some

kids are.

What is EMDR? I never heard of it.

nna.

NY

Your daughter seems to be doing really great, considering

> how far she's come! As to the remaining thoughts, etc., *I* think it

> is something she should continue to work on, definitely. What did the

> counselor say??

>

>

> Hey

>

> The counselor is going to do some EMDR. She did the interview

> yesterday and will start next week. She did have a trauma that

> started much of the obsessing at the end of third grade that continued

> through 4th grade (last year). A boy drew a picture of her on the

> ground and someone standing up saying " die " . That was the beginning

> of a pretty fast increase of symptoms leading to the " crisis " 6-9

> months later. I'm also increasing her Inositol 1/8 teaspoon twice a

> day because I think she will need it to address these issues.

>

> Anyone have any experience with EMDR. I read the book about 10 years

> ago when I was working as a counselor and was considering the

> training, but second child and a broken ankle took care of that.

>

> Peggy

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EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. This is a type of therapy

that is used often in the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.It has

been described to me as a resetting of the wheels in the brain in order to help

the person experiencing PTSD get back to a more normal, les anxiety riddled

life. I do know that this technique is used sometimes by one of our list

Advisors in treating PTSD.

Hope this explains it a little.

in Southeastern PA

nna <mdonlon@...> wrote:

Oh my gosh, Peggy, you must want to get your hands on that boy in a

bad way! How awful, you can only hope that one day he will look back

and realize what a dumb thing that was to do. It amazes me how some

kids are.

What is EMDR? I never heard of it.

nna.

NY

Your daughter seems to be doing really great, considering

> how far she's come! As to the remaining thoughts, etc., *I* think it

> is something she should continue to work on, definitely. What did the

> counselor say??

>

>

> Hey

>

> The counselor is going to do some EMDR. She did the interview

> yesterday and will start next week. She did have a trauma that

> started much of the obsessing at the end of third grade that continued

> through 4th grade (last year). A boy drew a picture of her on the

> ground and someone standing up saying " die " . That was the beginning

> of a pretty fast increase of symptoms leading to the " crisis " 6-9

> months later. I'm also increasing her Inositol 1/8 teaspoon twice a

> day because I think she will need it to address these issues.

>

> Anyone have any experience with EMDR. I read the book about 10 years

> ago when I was working as a counselor and was considering the

> training, but second child and a broken ankle took care of that.

>

> Peggy

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EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. This is a type of therapy

that is used often in the treatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.It has

been described to me as a resetting of the wheels in the brain in order to help

the person experiencing PTSD get back to a more normal, less anxiety riddled

life. I do know that this technique is used sometimes by one of our list

Advisors in treating PTSD.

Hope this explains it a little.

in Southeastern PA

nna <mdonlon@...> wrote:

Oh my gosh, Peggy, you must want to get your hands on that boy in a

bad way! How awful, you can only hope that one day he will look back

and realize what a dumb thing that was to do. It amazes me how some

kids are.

What is EMDR? I never heard of it.

nna.

NY

Your daughter seems to be doing really great, considering

> how far she's come! As to the remaining thoughts, etc., *I* think it

> is something she should continue to work on, definitely. What did the

> counselor say??

>

>

> Hey

>

> The counselor is going to do some EMDR. She did the interview

> yesterday and will start next week. She did have a trauma that

> started much of the obsessing at the end of third grade that continued

> through 4th grade (last year). A boy drew a picture of her on the

> ground and someone standing up saying " die " . That was the beginning

> of a pretty fast increase of symptoms leading to the " crisis " 6-9

> months later. I'm also increasing her Inositol 1/8 teaspoon twice a

> day because I think she will need it to address these issues.

>

> Anyone have any experience with EMDR. I read the book about 10 years

> ago when I was working as a counselor and was considering the

> training, but second child and a broken ankle took care of that.

>

> Peggy

Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at:

/ .

Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D.(

http://www.worrywisekids.org ), Dan Geller, M.D.,Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., (

http://www.lighthouse-press.com ). Our list moderators are Birkhan,

Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail

Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription issues or suggestions may be

addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... ,

louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... .

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Oh my gosh, Peggy, you must want to get your hands on that boy in a

bad way! How awful, you can only hope that one day he will look back

and realize what a dumb thing that was to do.

I hope so! The worse part was that he was in her class last year and

although he behaved himself (except for one " Haleigh germs " incident

which the teacher promptly took care of) she obsessed about it and

worried about him the whole year. I should have asked for her to be

moved although it was the teacher we both really wanted.

I think gave a pretty good explanation of EMDR. The research

seems sketchy especially on things other than trauma issues, but I

figure it can't hurt and if it help - hooray!

Peggy

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