one of those days

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It seems like the only time I post is when I have something to vent

about. We have been having issues for the past couple of months with

daycare on my OCD son, I have posted about it before, how they

weren't doing what they needed to do during his fits/rages, however

you wish to classify them. Well today it all came to a head. I had to

work late, so my mom picked up the boys, calls me, and tells me that

I need to call daycare because Kody was just kicked out of daycare

permantely. Apparently, from what they told me, he got mad because he

had to get off the tractor toy and decided to throw a fit, then they

took him up to the office where he procedded to run out the door,

pretty much making a break for it. I know there had to be something

else to set him off like that, but I can't get a straight story from

them or him. He is now upset, which he should be, his actions decided

this, because he can't go back. Klay, my other son, is upset because,

obviously, he has to leave now too because I can't do two different

daycares. They have been at this daycare for 6 years and I can't

understand the sudden attitude.....I did find one daycare that had

openings, it is pretty small, so I am hoping that everything goes

well.

I did sit Kody down and lay it all out for him. I told him that it

wasn't fair that Klay has to leave when he did nothing wrong, that

this is his absolute last chance at daycare because if he gets kicked

out of a second one, no one will take him, then if that happens I

would have to quit work, which means no toys, no clothes, no food,

and then I would lose the insurance on Klay. While Kody wouldn't lose

that because he is covered under papa and my job is important so Klay

can have that insurance since he gets sick all the time. If I don't

have that and Klay gets sick, how am I going to be able to afford a

doctor when I have no job. So Kody took it as Klay would die if all

this happened. I hate to say this, but I let him think that. I

shouldn't have and I know I need to correct it, but I don't know how

to get through to him!

He is only 7, how much worse is it going to be when he is a

teenager????? There is no one, family or friend wise, that I can talk

to and they understand what this is like, how this affects all of us,

and what kind of pressure you live in. Not only do we deal with his

OCD, but we also have to live with the consequences of his rages. I

am so worried about the affect this is going to have on my youngest

son, I don't want him growing up hating his brother because of

everything we go through with him.

Then how do you get him to talk to you??? so you can figure out what

is setting off this horrible rages??? It is to the point that the

psychiatrist is wanting to up his OCD from 36mg to Lord knows what. I

don't want him to lose more weight than he already has, but I know

that I have to be honest about how he is doing lately. He is also on

10mg of Lexapro, but......I just don't know. Should different

medication be tried? How do I reach him? get through to him? Is it

possible????????