Re: my sweet 16 girl is beyond desperate and thinks life is too hard with her in it

[Guest guest]

Hi, I have a son, 16, with OCD. His OCD was mostly compulsions when it

began troubling him. What OCD behaviors is your daughter dealing with?

I know when we were in the midst of all the severity of his OCD back

when he was around age 12, I just could hardly cope myself some days.

So I can imagine the emotional and physical " wear and tear " you've been

going through!!

Did she have any bad side effects with the medications or did they just

not help with her OCD? I know I've heard that sometimes depression has

to be dealt with first before treating the OCD. What have her doctors

thought? Is she on any medications now?

Many here have had to search and search until they have found a

psychiatrist and/or therapist who really was experienced with OCD and

were able to start making some progress. So don't give up hope there,

perhaps you live near someone here who might can offer some suggestions

on who and where to go. What state are you in?

At the OCD Foundation website at http://ocfoundation.org I believe

there is a Teen section and chat group. Has she tried there yet?

My son luckily got past the severity of his OCD (knock on wood!) and is

doing well now. OCD is still there but not disabling. ((hugs)) as I

salute you for dealing with OCD and depression this many years if she

hasn't been able to make progress, plus probably dealing with the usual

teenage things too!

single mom, 3 sons

, 16, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers(autism)

>

> someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and depression

> for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to help. she

> has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the wear

> and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is looking

> for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us, tell us

> what to do to survive and get her fixed

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry you're going through this!

There's so very much to say!

So, I'll ask a first simple question . . .

Have you tried all six ssri medications as well as anafranyl and

inositol?

While there are a small percentage of people for whom none of the six

possible treatments work - they all have to be tried before giving up.

Have you tried all of them?

>

> someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and depression

> for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to help. she

> has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the wear

> and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is looking

> for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us, tell us

> what to do to survive and get her fixed

[Guest guest]

she has been on anafranil for approximately 3-4 years now.. but i am

unfamilar with the other medication you mentioned..she is also on

prozac with her anafranil. did wellbutrin, zoloft, paxil, etc....

jamie

> >

> > someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and

depression

> > for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> > successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to help.

she

> > has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the

wear

> > and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is

looking

> > for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us,

tell us

> > what to do to survive and get her fixed

[Guest guest]

ocd she is struggling with...let us see,, dressing, touching things

before going to bed, walking back and forth through doorways,

twirling as she goes through also, taking out her contacts and

putting them in one side as opposed to separate compartments over and

over again, there is more but this gives you an idea.

yes, we had a psych tell us that we had to chose what to work on

first, depression or the ocd.... such a decision to decide which evil

to start with, huh? we worked first on ocd and then tried working on

the depression after a couple of years, neither one is better...

jamie

> >

> > someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and

depression

> > for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> > successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to help.

she

> > has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the

wear

> > and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is

looking

> > for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us,

tell us

> > what to do to survive and get her fixed

[Guest guest]

>

> someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and depression

> for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to help. she

> has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the wear

> and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is looking

> for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us, tell us

> what to do to survive and get her fixed

[Guest guest]

(oops I may have double posted)

I'm wondering if your daughter might like to correspond with my 16 yr

old daughter. She has had OCD and spectrums about 6 yrs too. She has

had some severe depression but is better, but still has down spells and

anxiety flare-ups. No meds, she never found them helpful though tried

several. She is thinking about trying meds again. I'll see if she might

be interested in e-mailing with your daughter and contact you off-list

if she is.

nancy grace

In , " pickenspickles "

<pickenspickles@y...> wrote:

>

> someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and depression

> for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to help. she

> has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the wear

> and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is looking

> for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us, tell us

> what to do to survive and get her fixed

[Guest guest]

yes--i think she would be very grateful to correspond with someone

her age with symptoms similar to hers....just let me know

jamie

-- In , " " <nmlinnen@y...> wrote:

>

> (oops I may have double posted)

> I'm wondering if your daughter might like to correspond with my 16

yr

> old daughter. She has had OCD and spectrums about 6 yrs too. She

has

> had some severe depression but is better, but still has down spells

and

> anxiety flare-ups. No meds, she never found them helpful though

tried

> several. She is thinking about trying meds again. I'll see if she

might

> be interested in e-mailing with your daughter and contact you off-

list

> if she is.

> nancy grace

>

>

> In , " pickenspickles "

> <pickenspickles@y...> wrote:

> >

> > someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and

depression

> > for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> > successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to help.

she

> > has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the

wear

> > and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is

looking

> > for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us,

tell us

> > what to do to survive and get her fixed

[Guest guest]

yes..she would like that. she only has two so called friends they do

not even begin to understand her and only call her to do things with

as a last resort, I think. not truly real friends.

thanks

jamie

> >

> > someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and

depression

> > for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> > successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to help.

she

> > has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the

wear

> > and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is

looking

> > for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us,

tell us

> > what to do to survive and get her fixed

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi, I understand the desperation you are feeling. I have felt that

way with my son. He is five and been diagnosed with OCD. I can not

help with connecting you or your daughter with anyone that I know

personally, but have you thought of a local OCD support group for the

people with OCD and family and friends. I just attended one in

Seattle (we live about three hours away but worth the trip) and I

feel so much better. I feel like I can begin to clear my mind and

get a grip on this. We still have really bad days when I want to

pull out my hair and cry. I feel like my son's childhood is being

ripped away from him. We also have days that I feel like we are

making progress. The support group helped me get perspective and not

feel so alone. I know they have them across the country. It would

give you a chance to talk with others going through the same thing.

It would also give your daughter a chance to meet others who share

her experience. Good Luck and hang in there. I know the bad days

seem to drag on. Callie Happe

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> > > someone, anyone, help me....my daughter has had ocd and

> depression

> > > for the last 6 years. no doctors have been able to help her

> > > successfully. it drives her crazy. no medication seems to

help.

> she

> > > has no one to talk to who understands...she just has me and the

> wear

> > > and tear on us both mentally is almost unbearable....she is

> looking

> > > for someone to share her load with...please, anyone, help us,

> tell us

> > > what to do to survive and get her fixed

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