Guest guest Posted March 14, 2005 Report Share Posted March 14, 2005 Hi, I have been " motivating " my son to do his exposure exercises by rewarding him with prizes. WE have rated the exposures by anxiety and he did the easier ones first. It is now time to move on to harder ones, but these new easier ones keep surfacing and he is doing four or five a week which is great but he is racking up rewards and I am going broke. Any ideas how I can correct this without unmotivating him but also not going broke? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2005 Report Share Posted March 14, 2005 , Would it work to reward him with '# many steps closer' to a bigger reward? A trip to a waterpark, or whatever his little heart desires? (with my son it would be a paintball park). Each success would have a certain amount of steps closer to the goal - so refresher exercises are worth less and new/hard ones are worth more - that way the reward can be whatever you can afford while his excitement still builds. <heatherjk37@y...> wrote: > > Hi, > I have been " motivating " my son to do his exposure exercises by > rewarding him with prizes. WE have rated the exposures by anxiety and > he did the easier ones first. It is now time to move on to harder > ones, but these new easier ones keep surfacing and he is doing four > or five a week which is great but he is racking up rewards and I am > going broke. Any ideas how I can correct this without unmotivating > him but also not going broke? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2005 Report Share Posted March 14, 2005 , How about a trip to the library to pick out a movie for " family movie night " , or picking out a game to play for " family game night " . You could also reward for a trip to the dollar store and use your loose change as money he can spend. A trip to the park, a bike ride, or other nature sport/outing. I dont know how old he is or where you are from... but we have Chuck E' Cheese by us, it can be costly if you dont monitor it... but it is free to get in, its free to play on the mazes.. and you could reward a quarter or more for each lesson that week and say the final reward is a trip there. You can also make something where he earns a chip ( I bought those cheap poker chips from the dollar store) for each time and at the end of the month he can turn them in for a movie, a trip to a fast food place, etc... you can say its 20 chips for this or 35 chips for that.. etc. How about something like breakfast in bed, day of a king.. etc... again, I dont know how old your son is, but my son is 9 and being raised with 2 older sisters he loves to be pampered, we have facials, foot massages and pedicures, manicures, massages...etc.. What about a sleep over with a friend or a family member? You can even do searches on line and find great craft sites, you can reward with a special craft of the day/week... See if your school will allow you to take him out for lunch once in awhile too. If you tell me his age, I can better assist you. I hope these ideas help... just be creative, use some or all of them, make it different each time... you can even make envelopes up with special rewards and let him pick the sealed envelope and be surprised with his reward... Good luck! Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2005 Report Share Posted March 14, 2005 > > Hi, > I have been " motivating " my son to do his exposure exercises by > rewarding him with prizes. WE have rated the exposures by anxiety and > he did the easier ones first. It is now time to move on to harder > ones, but these new easier ones keep surfacing and he is doing four > or five a week which is great but he is racking up rewards and I am > going broke. Any ideas how I can correct this without unmotivating > him but also not going broke? > > > > We have two types of rewards that help us. The first is mega points. Right now my son is working to earn a toy that costs 1000 points. Yikes! But, I like to be able to be very liberal with the points and be able to give them out for lots of things to keep his enthusiasim up. (And, I take points, too, so he needs to have a lot to spare). In the end, it won't take any longer than if I'd said it was 100 points, and required more per point. The other thing we do is lottery drawings. The prizes are decent, but the odds aren't great. I have a jar with 100 pennies in it, and 5 of them have a black dot drawn on them. He earns " chances " When he pulls out a penny with the dot, he gets the prize, otherwise, he gets a " better luck next time. " If I'm in a generous mood, we take out the unmarked pennies as he draws them, so he is guaranteed that he will eventually get a prize. Other times, it's more like the real lottery. The other thing sometimes is to begin by taking things away. It sounds heartless, but it can be quite motivating to need a certain number of points to watch any TV or have dessert, or go out and play. Jeanne jwestpha@... NBCT - Exceptional Needs (2000) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2005 Report Share Posted March 15, 2005 The Chuck E Cheese idea is a good one. You could even buy tokens, take them home and use them instead of poker chips for the daily rewards. We have a couple of places here that offer games for tokens, any one of them would work for my son. Kim in IA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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