Re: Re: a huge vent

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I agree......I am SO glad you are not in a different line of work. , I am so sorry this morning started off the way it did. And truly needing that parking space would have set me off too. Don't beat yourself up about it anymore. What happened....happened. All you can do now is move forward. It is the hardest thing to do, but I always feel better once I apologize to someone I have been ugly to. Although the mom was at fault, it might make you feel better to tell her you are sorry for the way you acted to her. And explain why it is so important to you. She may not know anything about Liv. Not that it should make a difference for her blocking the spot.Or I like the idea of having a flower or coffee for her. Make a point to

find the mom and say something light and friendly. You are a great Momma! Make the best of your day! We love you! TashaMommy of 5 year old twin boys- and Fort Worth, Texas is treated at Texas ish Rite Hospital in Dallas, TexasSeries of 6 casts for 14 months followed by bracing since September 2007You can read 's story at.... http://www.infantilescoliosis.org/stories.htmlFrom: mckinneys

<clmckinney64@...>infantile scoliosis treatment Sent: Tue, May 4, 2010 11:10:08 AMSubject: Re: a huge vent

Getting angry and venting is better for you than keeping it all bottled up inside. I act like a maniac sometimes too - I think we all do. I'm glad everyone is ok - and don't beat yourself up. If it makes you feel better - Take a flower with you tomorrow and maybe you will run into (not literally) that mom and just tell her I hope we both have better starts to our day today! If you are inclined - take the opportunity to explain your protectiveness of Liv and all she has been thru - I hope the rest of your day brings you smiles! You know we are all here for each other and understand completely.

PS - So glad you didn't pick a different line of work!

>

> Alright....So I was trying to drop Liv off at school this a.m. in the

> parking spaces reserved for people with physical disabilities. Normally,

> we dont park there because Liv is not really disabled.... But, after this

> last huge surgery we were told to take it easy for a year. No jumping, no

> getting knocked down, no abrupt jostling, etc....And, we do have a blue

> placard indicating that we have a right to utilize these spaces....Well,

> naturally no one pays attention to the reserved parking spaces for people

> who need them and everyday I am having to fight for spot with mothers who

> have healthy, typical children and are too lazy to walk a few steps....Or,

> whatever the excuse may be.... I try and pick my battles, but this

> a.m..... I lost it. A woman who was illegally parked backed into my car

> (while Liv was in it!) and it was all over after that. I dont remember

> much (anger blackout), but when I came back to reality the mum was crying

> and principle had already called the maintenance person to paint an even

> bigger sign in front of the reserved spaces stating that if anyone parks

> there illegally their car will be towed immediately. I feel bad that I

> yelled at the mum and even worse that Liv sees her mom acting like an

> angry idiot at least a couple times a week. I know I must control my

> anger when it comes to people being completely insensitive, but I get

> completely out of hand when I think Livs safety is being jeopardized. She

> has been through too much to be hurt by insensitive, ignorant idiots. I

> need to learn better coping skills that are effective, but more soft.

> Anyway, I felt like I won the battle again, but not the war. I have to

> fight for Livs safety everyday and frankly Im sick of it! I wont ever

> stop doing it, but Im tired...My adrenals get highly aggravated by my

> behavior and I realize that my approach to most conflict is a bit too

> aggressive. I spent the whole ride home crying because I knew I made the

> mum cry and I know everyone at the school thinks Im ______....?? ? Crazy

> maybe! Im going to try to meditate right now, because Im trembling... I

> feel like I need to apologize to yet another person...... But am not sure,

> as she was in the wrong, initially. I shouldnt have made her cry

> though....I acted like a complete jerk. I know I ruined her

> morning....and feel real bad about it. I must say sorry.

> Thanks for listening. Im better now. Just have to share w/ people that

> understand!! !!!!!

> Oh, and feel free to share coping skills that work for you.....PLEASE.

> Because my approach is no longer working for me. Its making me ill. I

> cant get pissed off or fight anymore, as my adrenals are in distress and I

> want to live in peace...(guess I chose the wrong line of work, right?

> ha!)

> Heath

>

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Good advice! DON'T beat yourself up. You can print out what you have of Liv's story and smile and say you have both been through a lot, and felt touchy that day, or something...you are allowed to feel touchy sometimes! Give her a copy of the PSA and tell her in brief about your life's work. If she doesn't get it, she is shallow and that is her loss. We ALL have our bad days!!! We are human.

And Hoo boy, may I just chime in and say that I am also so glad you didn't pick another line of work!!!!

Love and Hugs. This, too, shall pass. Heidi, Bexon's Mommy, (2 and a half years old, in 6th cast from Salt Lake City Shriners, currently down from 61 degrees to 25 in cast)

From: mckinneys <clmckinney64@...>infantile scoliosis treatment Sent: Tue, May 4, 2010 9:10:08 AMSubject: Re: a huge vent

Getting angry and venting is better for you than keeping it all bottled up inside. I act like a maniac sometimes too - I think we all do. I'm glad everyone is ok - and don't beat yourself up. If it makes you feel better - Take a flower with you tomorrow and maybe you will run into (not literally) that mom and just tell her I hope we both have better starts to our day today! If you are inclined - take the opportunity to explain your protectiveness of Liv and all she has been thru - I hope the rest of your day brings you smiles! You know we are all here for each other and understand completely.PS - So glad you didn't pick a different line of work!>> Alright....So I was trying to drop Liv off at school this a.m. in

the> parking spaces reserved for people with physical disabilities. Normally,> we dont park there because Liv is not really disabled.... But, after this> last huge surgery we were told to take it easy for a year. No jumping, no> getting knocked down, no abrupt jostling, etc....And, we do have a blue> placard indicating that we have a right to utilize these spaces....Well,> naturally no one pays attention to the reserved parking spaces for people> who need them and everyday I am having to fight for spot with mothers who> have healthy, typical children and are too lazy to walk a few steps....Or,> whatever the excuse may be.... I try and pick my battles, but this> a.m..... I lost it. A woman who was illegally parked backed into my car> (while Liv was in it!) and it was all over after that. I dont remember> much (anger blackout), but when I came back to reality the mum was

crying> and principle had already called the maintenance person to paint an even> bigger sign in front of the reserved spaces stating that if anyone parks> there illegally their car will be towed immediately. I feel bad that I> yelled at the mum and even worse that Liv sees her mom acting like an> angry idiot at least a couple times a week. I know I must control my> anger when it comes to people being completely insensitive, but I get> completely out of hand when I think Livs safety is being jeopardized. She> has been through too much to be hurt by insensitive, ignorant idiots. I> need to learn better coping skills that are effective, but more soft. > Anyway, I felt like I won the battle again, but not the war. I have to> fight for Livs safety everyday and frankly Im sick of it! I wont ever> stop doing it, but Im tired...My adrenals get highly aggravated by my>

behavior and I realize that my approach to most conflict is a bit too> aggressive. I spent the whole ride home crying because I knew I made the> mum cry and I know everyone at the school thinks Im ______....?? ? Crazy> maybe! Im going to try to meditate right now, because Im trembling... I> feel like I need to apologize to yet another person...... But am not sure,> as she was in the wrong, initially. I shouldnt have made her cry> though....I acted like a complete jerk. I know I ruined her> morning....and feel real bad about it. I must say sorry.> Thanks for listening. Im better now. Just have to share w/ people that> understand!! !!!!!> Oh, and feel free to share coping skills that work for you.....PLEASE. > Because my approach is no longer working for me. Its making me ill. I> cant get pissed off or fight anymore, as my adrenals are in distress and I> want to

live in peace...(guess I chose the wrong line of work, right? > ha!)> Heath>

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My experience is the same, after confrontation I usually feel more stressed. I go with choose your battles. Some battles are worth fighting, but many aren't. That woman may have needed to learn something. But to apologize or just do your best may make you feel better. Heidi, Bexon's Mommy, (2 and a half years old, in 6th cast from Salt Lake City Shriners, currently down from 61 degrees to 25 in cast)

From: ansiosamjm <hemivert@...>infantile scoliosis treatment Sent: Tue, May 4, 2010 11:49:38 AMSubject: Re: a huge vent

I have had a few of those moments myself and find that I do not feel at all relieved to get all that anger out. I mean, I used to think that it would feel good to get it out, but I find that I actually feel worse after. I did not understand this type of behavior before, but I sure do now that it has happened to me. Perhaps she will be able to understand it as well. I have found that being forgiven is one of the most precious gifts to recieve. I do think that all the frustrations add up and how ever hard you try to let them pass out of your body, they have a way of getting together and exploding... I hate that of control feeling but it is hard to stop once it has started. I am sure that they think I am nutty at our school as well, it is so embarrasing but I have to hope that at least some people understand. Hugs>> , it is with complete understanding that I write this. You were TOTALLY right with your reaction. Although perhaps not so good for your health. I drive a minivan with a ramp that folds down for to roll out on. I cannot tell you how many times in the last 6 years that I have got into arguements with idiots that illigally park in handicapped parking spots. It has become a bit of an obsession in my life to find these people and let them have it! I am actually looking into volunteering with the police department to write tickets for these selfish pieces of sh@ & !> One thing I know is I bet that mom that you went off on won't dare park in a disability spot again! Mission accomplished!> Connie> Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile> > [infantile_scoliosi s] a huge vent> > Alright....So I was trying to drop Liv off at school this a.m. in the> parking spaces reserved for people with physical disabilities. Normally,> we dont park there because Liv is not really disabled.... But, after this> last huge surgery we were told to take it easy for a year. No jumping, no> getting knocked down, no abrupt jostling, etc....And, we do have a blue> placard indicating that we have a right to utilize these spaces....Well,> naturally no one pays attention to the reserved parking spaces for people> who need them and everyday I am having to fight for spot with mothers who>

have healthy, typical children and are too lazy to walk a few steps....Or,> whatever the excuse may be.... I try and pick my battles, but this> a.m..... I lost it. A woman who was illegally parked backed into my car> (while Liv was in it!) and it was all over after that. I dont remember> much (anger blackout), but when I came back to reality the mum was crying> and principle had already called the maintenance person to paint an even> bigger sign in front of the reserved spaces stating that if anyone parks> there illegally their car will be towed immediately. I feel bad that I> yelled at the mum and even worse that Liv sees her mom acting like an> angry idiot at least a couple times a week. I know I must control my> anger when it comes to people being completely insensitive, but I get> completely out of hand when I think Livs safety is being jeopardized. She> has been

through too much to be hurt by insensitive, ignorant idiots. I> need to learn better coping skills that are effective, but more soft. > Anyway, I felt like I won the battle again, but not the war. I have to> fight for Livs safety everyday and frankly Im sick of it! I wont ever> stop doing it, but Im tired...My adrenals get highly aggravated by my> behavior and I realize that my approach to most conflict is a bit too> aggressive. I spent the whole ride home crying because I knew I made the> mum cry and I know everyone at the school thinks Im______.... ??? Crazy> maybe! Im going to try to meditate right now, because Im trembling... I> feel like I need to apologize to yet another person...... But am not sure,> as she was in the wrong, initially. I shouldnt have made her cry> though....I acted like a complete jerk. I know I ruined her> morning....and feel real bad about it.

I must say sorry.> Thanks for listening. Im better now. Just have to share w/ people that> understand!! !!!!!> Oh, and feel free to share coping skills that work for you.....PLEASE. > Because my approach is no longer working for me. Its making me ill. I> cant get pissed off or fight anymore, as my adrenals are in distress and I> want to live in peace...(guess I chose the wrong line of work, right? > ha!)> Heath>

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I just got a call from my doc....must be important right! Or, I surely

wouldnt get a personal call. She said that my thyroid is now highly

overactive due to the increase in natural thyroid med. Im knocking the

dose down by half!! No wonder Im such a freakin basket case....Well, at

least I can use that as my excuse this time. Just jokin.

I just read all the replies and I feel sooo much better. You guys really

made me laugh...OUT LOUD. Gail you are a riot!

Does anyone else out there have thyroid issues? I have got to get to the

bottom of this. The conf's are coming up and I cant feel like sh_t the

entire time....Got to be at my best...Synthetic meds make me super sick

and I cant find bio identical hormones in Colorado. Ive been without

since Sept. and its now taking a toll. If you know of any compound

pharmacies in your state that carry bio identical hormones PLEASE, PLEASE

let me know.

Gratefully,

Heath

> Hi ,

>

> I cannot fathom how anyone could park in a handicapped parking space if

> they are not entitled to do so!

>

> As far as I'm concerned, I'm only worried that you upset yourself. I am

> not going to lose any sleep tonight because the other mom cried - sorry if

> I sound like a b**** - but she had it coming and I'm betting she learned a

> valuable lesson today :-)

>

> And sorry I've been bad at keeping in touch of late - just busy with work

> and home (as usual), but I hope to chat with you soon!

>

> You are a great mom and Liv is a lucky girl!

>

>

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>> From: tovi39@... <tovi39@...>

>> Subject: Re: a huge vent

>> infantile scoliosis treatment

>> Received: Tuesday, May 4, 2010, 10:11 AM

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>> , it is with complete understanding that I write this. You were

>> TOTALLY right with your reaction. Although perhaps not so good for your

>> health. I drive a minivan with a ramp that folds down for to

>> roll out on. I cannot tell you how many times in the last 6 years that I

>> have got into arguements with idiots that illigally park in handicapped

>> parking spots. It has become a bit of an obsession in my life to find

>> these people and let them have it! I am actually looking into

>> volunteering with the police department to write tickets for these

>> selfish pieces of sh@ !

>> One thing I know is I bet that mom that you went off on won't dare park

>> in a disability spot again! Mission accomplished!

>> Connie

>> Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

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>> From: heather@infantilesc oliosis.org

>> Date: Tue, 4 May 2010 11:49:09 -0400

>> <infantile scoliosis treatment @groups. com>

>> Subject: [infantile_scoliosi s] a huge vent

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>> Alright....So I was trying to drop Liv off at school this a.m. in the

>> parking spaces reserved for people with physical disabilities. Normally,

>> we dont park there because Liv is not really disabled.... But, after

>> this

>> last huge surgery we were told to take it easy for a year. No jumping,

>> no

>> getting knocked down, no abrupt jostling, etc....And, we do have a blue

>> placard indicating that we have a right to utilize these spaces....Well,

>> naturally no one pays attention to the reserved parking spaces for

>> people

>> who need them and everyday I am having to fight for spot with mothers

>> who

>> have healthy, typical children and are too lazy to walk a few

>> steps....Or,

>> whatever the excuse may be.... I try and pick my battles, but this

>> a.m..... I lost it. A woman who was illegally parked backed into my car

>> (while Liv was in it!) and it was all over after that. I dont remember

>> much (anger blackout), but when I came back to reality the mum was

>> crying

>> and principle had already called the maintenance person to paint an even

>> bigger sign in front of the reserved spaces stating that if anyone parks

>> there illegally their car will be towed immediately. I feel bad that I

>> yelled at the mum and even worse that Liv sees her mom acting like an

>> angry idiot at least a couple times a week. I know I must control my

>> anger when it comes to people being completely insensitive, but I get

>> completely out of hand when I think Livs safety is being jeopardized.

>> She

>> has been through too much to be hurt by insensitive, ignorant idiots. I

>> need to learn better coping skills that are effective, but more soft.

>> Anyway, I felt like I won the battle again, but not the war. I have to

>> fight for Livs safety everyday and frankly Im sick of it! I wont ever

>> stop doing it, but Im tired...My adrenals get highly aggravated by my

>> behavior and I realize that my approach to most conflict is a bit too

>> aggressive. I spent the whole ride home crying because I knew I made the

>> mum cry and I know everyone at the school thinks Im ______....?? ? Crazy

>> maybe! Im going to try to meditate right now, because Im trembling... I

>> feel like I need to apologize to yet another person...... But am not

>> sure,

>> as she was in the wrong, initially. I shouldnt have made her cry

>> though....I acted like a complete jerk. I know I ruined her

>> morning....and feel real bad about it. I must say sorry.

>> Thanks for listening. Im better now. Just have to share w/ people that

>> understand!! !!!!!

>> Oh, and feel free to share coping skills that work for you.....PLEASE.

>> Because my approach is no longer working for me. Its making me ill. I

>> cant get pissed off or fight anymore, as my adrenals are in distress and

>> I

>> want to live in peace...(guess I chose the wrong line of work, right?

>> ha!)

>> Heath

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