Re: My autistic, 10 yr. old son, tried to save a life

[Guest guest]

Thank you, everyone! We have gotten e-mails from everywhere. Jimmy is

beginning to understand that even though the boy he tried to save died,

he still did a very brave thing, he gave that boy the only chance he

had.

E-mails are pouring in from all over the world...England, France....

all over the US, Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, each &

everyone of you, thank you for caring, thank you for taking the time to

write, it's made all the difference in the world!

jbb

[Guest guest]

My condolences on the trauma you and your son have endured.

And best wishes with the counseling.

Hopefully it will prevent nightmares and emotional scarring.

My congratulations on the heroism you both displayed.

Our kids have such vivid sensory imagery.

Some days when something has gone wrong for my son, he doesn't like

talking about it because he relives it so intensely.

- Hokkanen

> > > That's so sad. You should call the tv station & tell them what

> > > that did with their misreporting! I've YET to see a single news

> > > story that has been 100% correct!

> > >

> > > Tell him we all know he was a brave boy and we're proud of him.

> > > Can he read? Could we send him emails telling him how proud we

> are of him?

> > >

> > > Debi

[Guest guest]

,

We haven't endured anything compared to the other mom. I found out,

she was at the lake with her son & was looking for him. It's a very

large, curved, area, she discovered he was the child we were working

to save, and was frantic, screaming & crying, I was so focused on

him, I didn't hear anything around me. I didn't know she was there

until today, when I was contacted by the news reporter that got the

story wrong (reported my son stepped on the child). At least he

called to get the correct story & say he was sorry for not checking

his facts.

We have the name of a good therapist that works with kids & grieving.

Thanks, everyone

jbb

> > > > That's so sad. You should call the tv station & tell them

what

> > > > that did with their misreporting! I've YET to see a single

news

> > > > story that has been 100% correct!

> > > >

> > > > Tell him we all know he was a brave boy and we're proud of

him.

> > > > Can he read? Could we send him emails telling him how proud we

> > are of him?

> > > >

> > > > Debi

>

[Guest guest]

Judy,

It makes it even more tragic that the other mom had been innocent

in this and had been looking for him. There's a book on various

humane PTSD studies put out by M. Ochberg which is excellent.

It deals with recovery from violent crime or from witnessing violence

and I think what your family endured qualifies in many ways. One

striking thing I remember from one chapter is that traumas experienced

in isolation are many times more devastating than those experienced

communally, meaning that there are other witnesses or survivors to

share consensus with. So I'm glad that your son and your family have

received so much support and I hope the toddler's family does too.

I agree with that vaccine/environmentally-injured kids seem to

get some kind of boost in memory (probably brain energy robbed from

language development or other areas of development because of toxic

suppression). Our two year old twins (now three) cried for six months

every time we passed a certain play center because we couldn't go

there anymore (for safety reasons- run by an idiot). I could never

figure out how such little kids could retain so much and since their

delays were in language, I couldn't explain it to them. Without the

right narrative to go with the memories, some things can be much too

overwhelming. I hope the therapist turns out to be great. I also

hope they don't foist medication. Take care of yourselves and your

wonderful children.

>

> Thank you, everyone! We have gotten e-mails from everywhere. Jimmy

is

> beginning to understand that even though the boy he tried to save

died,

> he still did a very brave thing, he gave that boy the only chance he

> had.

> E-mails are pouring in from all over the world...England, France....

> all over the US, Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, each &

> everyone of you, thank you for caring, thank you for taking the time

to

> write, it's made all the difference in the world!

> jbb

>

[Guest guest]

Then again, sometimes talking about what happened helps relieve the anxiety, etc. When my daughter was feeling guilty about her grandmother's near-death experience, talking about the experience went a long way towards helping her deal with her own feelings about what happened. At the same time, Judy, your son may benefit from a different sort of talk to help him sort out his feelings about the experience. What may be best for him, may need to occur in a different way, depending upon his age. Aasanhokkanen <nhokkanen@...> wrote: My condolences on the trauma you and your son have endured.And best wishes with the counseling.Hopefully it will prevent nightmares and emotional scarring. My congratulations on the heroism you both displayed. Our kids have such vivid sensory imagery.Some days when something has gone wrong for my son, he doesn't like talking about it because he relives it so intensely.- Hokkanen> > > That's so sad. You should call the tv station & tell them what > > > that did with their misreporting! I've YET to see a single

news> > > story that has been 100% correct!> > > > > > Tell him we all know he was a brave boy and we're proud of him. > > > Can he read? Could we send him emails telling him how proud we> are of him? > > > > > > Debi

[Guest guest]

I agree, the reception depends on the individual child and their mood

at the moment. And it's beneficial to have the delicate intuitive

communication process guided by an objective other... that's a luxury

everyone should receive at crucial life points.

Yesterday my son had a sensory integration evaluation. Some tasks he

performed well, and others were difficult -- which he found

demoralizing. At one point he saw the evaluator write a " O " on the

form, and he went from sad to belligerent.

Later I wanted to talk it over with him, but he refused and

said " subject over. " I pushed it, and he felt threatened and became

furious. Finally I got the point across that BECAUSE he expressed his

angry feelings, he was showing and telling the therapist and myself

in which areas he needed assistance. He was with people who wanted to

help him do his best and be happy.

That sentiment resonated with him. And he kind of smiled at the idea

that showing anger was not only acceptable, it was downright useful.

- Hokkanen

> > > > That's so sad. You should call the tv station & tell them

what

> > > > that did with their misreporting! I've YET to see a single

news

> > > > story that has been 100% correct!

> > > >

> > > > Tell him we all know he was a brave boy and we're proud of

him.

> > > > Can he read? Could we send him emails telling him how proud we

> > are of him?

> > > >

> > > > Debi

>