Guest guest Posted February 23, 2001 Report Share Posted February 23, 2001 , I had that experience when Brook was 3 yrs old. The aide was sending home these ridiculous notes, that frankly just showed her ignorance. She didn't have a clue how or what to teach him, anyway I went in and told them that I never want to see another note like this again!!!! I didn't have anymore trouble with the notes after that, we ended up changing programs for him too shortly thereafter. But , I would tell them to stop sending home negative notes. Marisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2001 Report Share Posted February 23, 2001 In a message dated 2/23/01 7:20:33 PM Eastern Standard Time, poggim@... writes: << But , I would tell them to stop sending home negative notes. Marisa >> I agree . That is not good for your stress level and home life. They are supposed to be making it easier, not harder. At the least they should include one good thing for every bad thing. Sorry, I have a friend here going through that and I see that is more of a stress to her than dealing with the behaviors herself. Prayers that things improve in some way. Gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 23, 2001 Report Share Posted February 23, 2001 In a message dated 2/23/01 7:40:03 PM Pacific Standard Time, writes: > But , I would tell them to stop sending home > negative notes. > Marisa >> > > I agree . That is not good for your stress level and home life. They > are supposed to be making it easier, not harder. At the least they should > include one good thing for every bad thing. Sorry, I have a friend here > going through that and I see that is more of a stress to her than dealing > with the behaviors herself. Prayers that things improve in some way. > Gail > Thanks, Gals.....I'm beginning to realize that what is written in that daily journal decides what kind of day I will have from that moment on........if he's good, then I'm in a good mood and happy.....if he's bad, which is 9 times out of 10, I am depressed, in a bad mood and not any good for the rest of the day to myself or anyone else....surely, the teachers must know what they write affects your attitude for the remainder of that day! I did tell her a while back that because of what was going on at home with my Dad and our dog, I didn't want her to write ANYTHING unless it was something good or a reminder about bringing in something.,.....she was good for awhile, but just HAD to let me know when hits someone or hits with something,....some kind of school rule, that the parents must be notified when a child is injurious to himself and/or others???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2001 Report Share Posted February 24, 2001 In a message dated 2/24/01 12:10:35 AM Eastern Standard Time, Ltb3105@... writes: << .I'm beginning to realize that what is written in that daily journal decides what kind of day I will have from that moment on........if he's good, then I'm in a good mood and happy.....if he's bad, which is 9 times out of 10, I am depressed, in a bad mood and not any good for the rest of the day to myself or anyone else....surely, the teachers must know what they write affects your attitude for the remainder of that day! >> , I missed alot of your previous notes but think I can pick this up. With my son, his aide would send two pages home on good days ( days he participated and didn't scram alot ) and then on " bad " days she would send nothing home. So I would have a crappy evening too because I knew he was being disruptive at school. Finally, I went and spent a morning at school and what I saw changed things from there on out. He was having big power struggles with his aide and she was picking battles with him that shouldn't have been picked. I said that he was not coming to school without me in the future unless something was done. That was two weeks ago and I have been going about 2 to 3 days a week and being his aide. THe district is looking for a replacement and a new job for his aide. The problem was that she did not know how to work with him. It was not a matter of " being more stubborn than him " , but just working smarter than him, giving him more choices, independence and letting him interact more with other kids in the classroom. I don't know what your son's situation is exactly, but going over and spending a day can do a world of good when behavior difficulites are occuring. Perhaps you have already done this. Just a thought. Lauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2001 Report Share Posted February 24, 2001 > but just HAD to let me know when hits someone or hits with > something,....some kind of school rule, that the parents must be > notified > when a child is injurious to himself and/or others???? > > laura, I SERIOUSLY doubt if EVERY CHILD who hits another child is tattled on by the school! I would go up there in recess, watch, count, and then get back to them on the number of kids YOU saw hitting other children! We do this with Matt, too. ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2001 Report Share Posted February 24, 2001 After reading this i feel extremely grateful...Nick' teacher and his aide are both very nurturing and see a lot of humor in things...they really seem to know Nick...I mean really know him so they know what battles are worth picking. They make him work and don't accept seroius behaviors but in a very calm way. Nick's communication journal never has a bad comment without a good one. I can understand what those negative notes must do to you and how unfair they are.. sounds like you are a WONDERFUL advocate!!!!! Re: Re: Behavior Notes In a message dated 2/24/01 12:10:35 AM Eastern Standard Time, Ltb3105@... writes: << .I'm beginning to realize that what is written in that daily journal decides what kind of day I will have from that moment on........if he's good, then I'm in a good mood and happy.....if he's bad, which is 9 times out of 10, I am depressed, in a bad mood and not any good for the rest of the day to myself or anyone else....surely, the teachers must know what they write affects your attitude for the remainder of that day! >> , I missed alot of your previous notes but think I can pick this up. With my son, his aide would send two pages home on good days ( days he participated and didn't scram alot ) and then on " bad " days she would send nothing home. So I would have a crappy evening too because I knew he was being disruptive at school. Finally, I went and spent a morning at school and what I saw changed things from there on out. He was having big power struggles with his aide and she was picking battles with him that shouldn't have been picked. I said that he was not coming to school without me in the future unless something was done. That was two weeks ago and I have been going about 2 to 3 days a week and being his aide. THe district is looking for a replacement and a new job for his aide. The problem was that she did not know how to work with him. It was not a matter of " being more stubborn than him " , but just working smarter than him, giving him more choices, independence and letting him interact more with other kids in the classroom. I don't know what your son's situation is exactly, but going over and spending a day can do a world of good when behavior difficulites are occuring. Perhaps you have already done this. Just a thought. Lauri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2001 Report Share Posted February 25, 2001 I agree on the teachers, they made a conscious decision to go into special education. I've seen therapists paychecks, so I could see them doing it for the money, but I wouldn't imagine special ed teachers get much more than regular. They should try being the parent of a special needs child.....would give them a whole new outlook. Loriann Wife to Dewight Mom to , 10 years, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS, and celiac disease And , 20 months and strong-willed Both homeschooled See my poems on Themestream: http://www.themestream.com/gspd_browse/author/view_author_info.gsp?auth_id=97650 Any earnings will go to charity ------------------------------------------------------------- Sign up for ICQmail at http://www.icq.com/icqmail/signup.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2001 Report Share Posted February 25, 2001 In a message dated 2/25/01 5:25:52 PM Eastern Standard Time, hsmyangels@... writes: << I've seen therapists paychecks, so I could see them doing it for the money, but I wouldn't imagine special ed teachers get much more than regular. >> Well Loriann, LOL Seth's special Ed teacher that did early intervention with him got $70.00 an hour through the county. Hmmmmmm, Three hours a week with Seth plus her other 4 clients plus her full time special Ed teaching job! I'd say that easily puts her over $1,300 a week! LOL Gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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