Guest guest Posted February 24, 2001 Report Share Posted February 24, 2001 , I know exactly what you mean. I used to get that from 's teacher as well as his baby-sitter. Every time I went to speech, the teacher would make a comment like, well, we spent most of the time trying to get him out from under the table. Or what ever. One time she came and got me (I would take him to speech and sit out in a little pavilion for the half hour) and said he spit on her and I should just take him home. I refused. I told her if I took him home now, that he would know that spitting gets him to go home, where he wanted to be in the first place. Since I homeschool, I figured they had him for a half hour, they should deal with his behaviors during that time. Especially since they didn't want me in the room while he was there. If they have him all day, they should deal with the behaviors. I'd be tempted to send notes in saying something to the effect that whatever they did to him in school, he came home in a terrible mood. But of course, that would be stooping to their level. I had to get rid of the baby sitter we had for . Every time she watched him at our house, she would tell us that we had to take Nickelodeon away from him because he was so bad. A teenager has no concept of rewards, only punishments. I agree with the one person (sorry can't remember who it was) who said don't even read them. If you miss something important, tell them you got tired of reading negative notes. had one teacher (the one he still misses) who ONLY wrote good things. Sometimes she had to really scratch the bottom to find something good he had done, but it was never negative. That was her condition when she started the book. Loriann Wife to Dewight Mom to , 10 years, Down Syndrome, PDD-NOS, and celiac disease And , 20 months and strong-willed Both homeschooled See my poems on Themestream: http://www.themestream.com/gspd_browse/author/view_author_info.gsp?auth_id=97650 Any earnings will go to charity ------------------------------------------------------------- Sign up for ICQmail at http://www.icq.com/icqmail/signup.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2001 Report Share Posted February 24, 2001 In a message dated 2/24/01 12:44:23 PM Eastern Standard Time, hsmyangels@... writes: << had one teacher (the one he still misses) who ONLY wrote good things. Sometimes she had to really scratch the bottom to find something good he had done, but it was never negative >> That's the way Seth's teacher is too. But sometimes that can be negative because I used to think I was doing something wrong. Couldn't figure out why everything went so well in school and not at home. I had to dig to find out that he does take his shoes off in school, he does the death drop when out for a walk, he does push food on the floor, and he does tip his cup over. For a long time I thought I didn't know how to handle him! LOL Still would rather have that than negative notes. Gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2001 Report Share Posted February 25, 2001 In a message dated 2/24/01 9:07:33 PM Eastern Standard Time, smilinggail@... writes: > In a message dated 2/24/01 12:44:23 PM Eastern Standard Time, > hsmyangels@... writes: > > << had one teacher (the one he still misses) who ONLY wrote good > things. Sometimes she had to really scratch the bottom to find something > good he had done, but it was never negative >> Jordan's elementary teacher was one in a million. In high school I started getting the notes..this happened or that happened..and I'd be here thinking.. " Yah, and so? What do you expect me to do about it? " So I had to go in and explain that they should look at what happened just before>> blank looks<< So I discovered it was times going up or down the stairs between classes. Had to remind them that I had advised that transitions were scarey. Hordes of big kids running and jumping past him with hoots and hollers and that he also had a height thing at that time and was shakey on the stairs to begin with. I had asked that an aide be on the stairs with him. I had to explain that his lashing out at someone going past him too fast and close was a protective and involuntary action. But this is how these latest notes about " academic performance " have hit me...There is an accusatory tone to them. This person doesn't define " distracting behaviour...sillininess... " etc. like I have E.S.P? Dodi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2001 Report Share Posted February 25, 2001 In a message dated 2/24/01 9:07:33 PM Eastern Standard Time, smilinggail@... writes: > I had to dig to find out > that he does take his shoes off in school, he does the death drop when out > for a walk, he does push food on the floor, and he does tip his cup over. > For a long time I thought I didn't know how to handle him! LOL My son and I got a good laugh from this one. The " death drop " !!LOL We knew exactly what you were talking about. Jordan was pretty big too when he started doing that. Too big to lift, that's for sure. (Besides, I have osteoporosis and can break a rib just carrying my shopping...let alone The Hulk here!) The death drop...what a good way to describe it! Dodi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2001 Report Share Posted February 25, 2001 heheh, nathan has been doing that " death drop " or limp noodle since he was around 2-3, and now it takes 3-4 school personal to move him, its hard for me or my hubbby to do move himm anymore too, but thats why we are doing another inpatient at UIHC for behavior so we can redesign his modification plan, he is too heavy at 70lbs and too strong for hand over hand manipulation or moving him in general. He will do what he wants and when he wants. shawna. Re: Notes from school > In a message dated 2/24/01 9:07:33 PM Eastern Standard Time, > smilinggail@... writes: > > > I had to dig to find out > > that he does take his shoes off in school, he does the death drop when out > > for a walk, he does push food on the floor, and he does tip his cup over. > > For a long time I thought I didn't know how to handle him! LOL > My son and I got a good laugh from this one. The " death drop " !!LOL > We knew exactly what you were talking about. Jordan was pretty big too when > he started doing that. Too big to lift, that's for sure. (Besides, I have > osteoporosis and can break a rib just carrying my shopping...let alone The > Hulk here!) The death drop...what a good way to describe it! Dodi > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 25, 2001 Report Share Posted February 25, 2001 In a message dated 2/25/01 6:23:26 PM Eastern Standard Time, Evesmother@... writes: << My son and I got a good laugh from this one. The " death drop " !!LOL We knew exactly what you were talking about. Jordan was pretty big too when he started doing that. Too big to lift, that's for sure. (Besides, I have osteoporosis and can break a rib just carrying my shopping...let alone The Hulk here!) The death drop...what a good way to describe it! Dodi >> Dodi, LOL I like that one too! LOL Not my term, but heard it on this list and it fit soooo well, LOL Gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2001 Report Share Posted February 27, 2001 I got a note from Matt's teacher today that reads: Mrs. Stolz, I've noticed Matt is very " active " this week. Very vocal-self stim a lot. Has there been any changes w/meds or any changes @ home. He has also hard time concentrating in my room & Ms. Battins room. SW (teacher's name, I'm withholding to protect I'm not sure who-but I felt I should probably withhold it!) Now, aside from the fact that this " teacher " of 3rd grade children cannot seem to construct a letter-( I did not change anything from the way she wrote it. All gramatical errors are her's) she clearly is not listening when I am saying, repeatedly, that changes at school affect Matt! He does not react well to change. His " permanent " aid left over a month ago, and they have yet to hire a full time aide. It has been one replacement, temporary aide after another, and not even the same one for a week at a time. Each day, they never know if he has an aid, who will show up, when they will show up, and who it may be! This is with a 1:1 aid specified in his IEP. And they ask ME if I have changed anything with Matt! Gail, I may be joining you in homeschooling! S ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2001 Report Share Posted February 28, 2001 In a message dated 2/28/01 12:55:44 AM Eastern Standard Time, stolzfamily@... writes: << Now, aside from the fact that this " teacher " of 3rd grade children cannot seem to construct a letter-( I did not change anything from the way she wrote it. All gramatical errors are her's) she clearly is not listening when I am saying, repeatedly, that changes at school affect Matt! He does not react well to change. His " permanent " aid left over a month ago, and they have yet to hire a full time aide. It has been one replacement, temporary aide after another, and not even the same one for a week at a time. Each day, they never know if he has an aid, who will show up, when they will show up, and who it may be! This is with a 1:1 aid specified in his IEP. And they ask ME if I have changed anything with Matt! Gail, I may be joining you in homeschooling! S >> , Do you and the teacher communicate through a notebook? If not, I'd get one and start. That way you'll have documentation of all comments from you and her. Write it the book that Matt's behavior is due to the changes IN THE CLASSROOM. I would write exactly what you just said above. I'm just thinking that it might help to have a paper trail. Methinks Matt's teacher needs to go back to school and take some English courses............ Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2001 Report Share Posted February 28, 2001 Hi, My son Lee is in the 3rd grade and I get those bad report letters almost daily. My son had the same compassionate aid for the previous 2 years.At the beginning of this year they hired someone new without any experience. I received about 4 complaints about her lack of compassion in her handling of my son.I had an emergency meeting and insisted on a different aid. Just for spite they gave me someone other than his permanent aid which was o.k. cause she is also the bus driver and Lee seems to like her as she seems to be compassionate. His behavior has improved but the Special Ed teacher continues to write those notes asking me why he is behaving badly to her when she has him and I ask her what he is doing.When she tells me I tell her that he usually acts that way when someone hurts his feelings or to someone he just doesn't like. That seems to quiet her complaints for a day or two. I believe that our children(all children as well) are here for us to learn from. Our handicapped children are here to teach compassion and woe is he who doesn't learn but I quess everyone has their own limits.Those who complain may have to endure harder lessons through hardships of their own. At times we all complain but God's Grace will sustain us. I hope things improve for you, Just for the heck of it I'm keeping all those nasty letters and when I get a big pile I am going to take them in and say Was it so hard to find something good to say? Or maybe - I wonder if Heaven sees you through my sons eyes and if so I wonder what they see in you. God Bless you and your family, (Lee's mom) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2001 Report Share Posted February 28, 2001 In a message dated 2/28/01 9:19:20 AM Eastern Standard Time, duffey48@... writes: << And they ask ME if I have changed anything with Matt! >> LOL !!!!! Leave it to the " professionals " !!!!!!!! Gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2001 Report Share Posted February 28, 2001 One thing that we must teach over and over again is that our children not only learn from example, they also learn by being praised. So, you might want to try finding something about that teacher that you can praise - thank you for taking the time to write, it helps me to understand that there is a problem etc. Then encourage the teacher to tell you what your child has done each day - a positive affirmation- that you can help her build into a more expanded cooperation. I know this is BS and annoying to have to tell the " professional, but WE are the professionals for our chil;dren - all that staff is paid staff to support us!!! Sara _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2001 Report Share Posted March 1, 2001 Yep, I think everyone no matter if their an infant to a 100 plus person all learn, and they never stop learning till the day they die. No matter if their a normal person or if they have a disibility, etc. I think that we all learn. --- sara cohen <pastmidvale@...> wrote: > One thing that we must teach over and over again is > that our children not > only learn from example, they also learn by being > praised. So, you might > want to try finding something about that teacher > that you can praise - thank > you for taking the time to write, it helps me to > understand that there is a > problem etc. Then encourage the teacher to tell > you what your child has > done each day - a positive affirmation- that you can > help her build into a > more expanded cooperation. > > I know this is BS and annoying to have to tell the > " professional, but WE are > the professionals for our chil;dren - all that staff > is paid staff to > support us!!! > > Sara > _________________________________________________________________ > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at > http://explorer.msn.com > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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