Re: A *new* one for the list of glitches...

[Guest guest]

Joan, I can really feel for you and ANDY!!

We planned from April on with constant calls, several meetings with the new

S/D, copies of Elie's IEP, supportive letters of his needs from his teacher

of the last 3 years. Nothing has helped.

Today - Day six of school, I was asked to come to a meeting where the

teachers attempted to show me why Elie is in the " wrong placement " . that

his refusal to follow " the rules " of the voacational part of the day,

refusal to do his " academic work " meant that he should be moved to a " less

challenging " environment.

The school work I was shown was work he could easily do had it been in a

format he was used to. He had no slant board, the work was handwritten, not

wok shets, the voacational setting is nisy and onfusing, and worst of all -

after four months of my sharing his needs, they still had not agreed on the

necessity of an aide!! Well,NOW they begin to look for an aid! I am

disgusted. Meanwhile, the school is feeding into his need for negative

attention by carrying him when he refuses to transition!! It takes three

people to carry his 160 lbs. They don't understand that he needs to be

ignored until he complies with requests.

On top of all this, since he is now a " young adult " in h/s, the first thing

taken away was his mirror and his drink cup. this is called extinguishing

unhealthy work behaviors. And then they want him to comply with their

wishes???

People are weird. Our kids have more sense than the professionals we entust

our children to.

Sara

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/6/00 8:01:07 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

jmedlen@... writes:

<< When is it that Andy gets a good year??

j

>>

This year Joan! :-) It's in the cards, so to speak. We are all willing it

to happen for all of us, so it will!

Gail, full of faith!

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/6/00 9:26:15 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

pastmidvale@... writes:

<< People are weird. Our kids have more sense than the professionals we

entust

our children to.

Sara >>

Exactly!

Gail

[Guest guest]

I learned that the best way to get things resolved quickly is to pull your

child. When was being mentally abused (singled out and made fun of in

front of the whole class by the teacher), I just said we had a problem, needed a

meeting, and would NOT be returning to that school until it was resolved,

and he WOULD NOT go back to that teacher. I didn't even say why. This was on

Thursday morning. Friday we had a meeting and other arrangements were made. He

transferred to another school.

Loriann

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/6/00 7:01:00 PM Central Daylight Time,

jmedlen@... writes:

<< Meanwhile, I made an appt with the new director of special education for

Friday, Sept 15. >>

Andy has no aide and she can't see you until the 15th? That's crappy. I

know that in our district aides can be very difficult to come by and that our

schools are often still hiring right up to the wire and even after school has

begun. Also aides around here are often newly degreed teachers who are

looking for a classroom position and are working as aides until they can find

jobs as teachers. Our school typically hires several aides over the summer

and then loses about half of them by the first day of school because they get

teaching jobs in other districts. I don't know if the situation is similar

in your district, but I wonder if Max really did exist but found a teaching

position. They should certainly be forthcoming with you about what is going

on and not be so mysterious. It seems to me they owe you more of an

explanation before the 15th about what happened to Max, what they are doing

to replace him, and what they intend to do to meet Andy's needs in the

meantime. Is there any administrator in Andy's building who could answer

these questions for you sooner?

<<When is it that Andy gets a good year?? >>

I'm so sorry that Andy's year is getting off on the wrong foot and that you

have to have these problems every year. I hope a qualified aide is found for

him very soon. Thank God Andy has a mom like you to advocate for him and be

there for him when the school is letting him down.

Hang in there, Joan,

Maureen

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/6/00 8:26:19 PM Central Daylight Time,

pastmidvale@... writes:

<< People are weird. Our kids have more sense than the professionals we

entust

our children to. >>

Sara, I'm sorry to hear about Elie's problems at school this year also. It's

amazing that these supposedly qualified professionals demonstrate so little

common sense! Sounds like they need to have a behavior specialist come in

and explain/illustrate some very basic principles to them. Like I said to

Joan about Andy, thank goodness Elie has a wonderful mother like you to

advocate for him. Hang in there,

Maureen

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 9/6/00 8:01:01 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

jmedlen@... writes:

<< I was then told that Max

wouldn't be joining us this year (do you think maybe he didn't exist?). >>

nah, he existed. He just sounds like the aides PHilly hires. Or so I've

heard. What a bummer Joan!!!! I sure hope they get someone asap.

Donna

[Guest guest]

<<When is it that Andy gets a good year??>>

wow joan, I really hear you with this! Sorry you

and Andy are getting a run around. I want to also

say how much I enjoy your Disability Solutions.

the other Gail