Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 > http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kim-stagliano/the-crappy-life-of-the-au_b_3774 > 2.html > I've got my bullet proof vest on - I'd appreciate your support. KIM > > Kim Stagliano Mr Dookie sends his love. [ I can send dookies too, if you want! ] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 I just read Kim and 's posts on Huffington. Both well done and on the same subject, the Neurodiverse. There is something about this whole argument that bothers me. I have an older sister and I remember as a kid poking her until she yelled for help. I was small and had no power in the relationship. Well, that is until I learned that I could bug her to no end. I would poke her, she would yell. It was so amusing. The more she got upset, the more I would bug her. On one hand, the whole ND argument is about labels and mercury poisoning. But, on another, it's about acceptance. Don't get me wrong, I don't appreciate reading on the internet about an Aspie bragging about how he badmouthed me to my congressman. It's not fun to get emails thru my myspace page with Aspies telling me I don't need to cure my kid. Oh, and having Aspies give my son 1 star on YouTube for scoring a basket or for talking is shameful. And we'll add to the list about 5 different emails over the years from some famous Aspies (I won't even type their names) telling me how to edit my videos or what pictures to put on my website. But, you know what? They have autism or Aspergers or whatever you want to call it. They are not supposed to get it. It's part of their disorder. They feel like they are the ONLY people in the world who are different. The rest of us are " normal " and damned to go to hell. I've had people knock on my door and tell me I'm going to hell too- but I JUST DON'T CARE. The more you talk about them, the more you fight with them, the more you let them know they are upsetting you- the more they will do it. Just like a 5 year old. They can't fight society- but they can fight us (the parents). They take everything positive that we are doing and turn it around into something negative. I've seen on YouTube where parents make beautiful videos about their children with autism and an Aspie will edit together a nasty response. I for one am sick of giving them the satisfaction. There is WAY too much to do. Every minute, every second we spend talking about them, reading their blogs, fighting with them- is a moment we could spend educating someone or talking to a politician or playing with our kids. One day it might be MY kid blogging something you don't like. We don't need to agree with them. That is totally unrealistic. Not every human on this earth is going to agree with us. Name me 1 truth in this world and I'll show you someone who believes differently. We are NEVER going to convince them that our kids are poisoned. They are NEVER going to convince us to leave our children alone with poop like acid eating away at their flesh. So, my solution is- accept them. Let them have their speech. Let them blog until they get carpal tunnel. They are people and they have their opinions. But--- more importantly, so do WE. Let's do our magic and help our children because we know it's the right thing to do- not because other people agree with us. We know the truth and the truth shall set us free. Heeren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 , I understand your point about preaching to the un- preachable (there's a horrible made up word from this writer!) My point (I can't speak for ) is to tell the NON AUTISM WORLD about my kids' version of autism. The ND's simply " grab " my words and use them for their argument. I'm not speaking to them, although I added that first line in my post as a teaser. Like the Autism Every Day video that made the ND's call Michele I. and " whiney suburban moms who can't get their bagels " instead of recognizing and respecting their challenges. I want my mother in law to know what life in an autism household. I want my neighbors to understand so that if one of MY kids zips out of the house they know " Uh oh, this could be dangerous, maybe I should help. " I try hard not to make blanket statements in my writing, but to speak for my own family. And I also try to make sure I never come across as disliking my KIDS, even while I dislike the parts of autism that make their lives unnecessarily difficult. It isn't easy to put yourself out into the public and brace for the poop-storm. My goal is to tell it like it is and yes, to make people smile and even laugh. Autism is SO damn serious - but it does give us some very funny moments. Yours in health, KIM > > I just read Kim and 's posts on Huffington. Both well done and on > the same subject, the Neurodiverse. There is something about this > whole argument that bothers me. > > I have an older sister and I remember as a kid poking her until she > yelled for help. I was small and had no power in the relationship. > Well, that is until I learned that I could bug her to no end. I would > poke her, she would yell. It was so amusing. The more she got upset, > the more I would bug her. > > On one hand, the whole ND argument is about labels and mercury > poisoning. But, on another, it's about acceptance. Don't get me > wrong, I don't appreciate reading on the internet about an Aspie > bragging about how he badmouthed me to my congressman. It's not fun to > get emails thru my myspace page with Aspies telling me I don't need to > cure my kid. Oh, and having Aspies give my son 1 star on YouTube for > scoring a basket or for talking is shameful. And we'll add to the list > about 5 different emails over the years from some famous Aspies (I > won't even type their names) telling me how to edit my videos or what > pictures to put on my website. > > But, you know what? They have autism or Aspergers or whatever you want > to call it. They are not supposed to get it. It's part of their > disorder. They feel like they are the ONLY people in the world who are > different. The rest of us are " normal " and damned to go to hell. > I've had people knock on my door and tell me I'm going to hell too- but > I JUST DON'T CARE. The more you talk about them, the more you fight > with them, the more you let them know they are upsetting you- the more > they will do it. Just like a 5 year old. > > They can't fight society- but they can fight us (the parents). They > take everything positive that we are doing and turn it around into > something negative. I've seen on YouTube where parents make beautiful > videos about their children with autism and an Aspie will edit together > a nasty response. > > I for one am sick of giving them the satisfaction. There is WAY too > much to do. Every minute, every second we spend talking about them, > reading their blogs, fighting with them- is a moment we could spend > educating someone or talking to a politician or playing with our kids. > > One day it might be MY kid blogging something you don't like. We don't > need to agree with them. That is totally unrealistic. Not every human > on this earth is going to agree with us. Name me 1 truth in this world > and I'll show you someone who believes differently. We are NEVER going > to convince them that our kids are poisoned. They are NEVER going to > convince us to leave our children alone with poop like acid eating away > at their flesh. > > So, my solution is- accept them. Let them have their speech. Let them > blog until they get carpal tunnel. They are people and they have their > opinions. But--- more importantly, so do WE. Let's do our magic and > help our children because we know it's the right thing to do- not > because other people agree with us. > > We know the truth and the truth shall set us free. > > Heeren > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 Very interesting and well put. I agree with your sentiments. The only concern I have, is that the detractors you refer to, don't have any decision making powers that directly influence how our kids are treated or what services they're entitled to. It's mainstream educators, politicians and the like who do. Sure politicians etc.could call upon these folks to testify at a hearing to determine........ ."in order to get both sides of the issue"........ and could influence the decisions made. That doesn't bother me. Debate is good and necessary because it catalyzes continuous rumination about issues, which in turn leads to greater diversity and new ideas being derived. Take care n __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 Kim, I had trouble posting on it all day. wrote the post and every time I went to send it---said trouble on server. anyone else have a problem?KRStagliano <KRStagliano@...> wrote: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kim-stagliano/the-crappy-life-of-the-au_b_37742.html I’ve got my bullet proof vest on – I’d appreciate your support. KIM Kim Stagliano kimstagliano.blogspot.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 Maurine, I have been trying to send my post today as well, and could not get through either! > http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kim-stagliano/the- crappy-life-of-the-au_b_37742.html > > I've got my bullet proof vest on – I'd appreciate your support. KIM > > Kim Stagliano > kimstagliano.blogspot.com > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2007 Report Share Posted January 4, 2007 -Thanks - it does get busy and " seize up. " Try again IF you have time. KS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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