Where are the dads? (was: 80% single!!!)

[Guest guest]

Over the last generation, the legal definitions of the marriage

contract have changed so that it no longer provides much protection

for men and fathers. Unilateral divorce laws (aka: no-fault divorce)

generally favors women with child custody and child support. Default

joint-custody upon filing is the exception rather than the rule in

most states. It is no surprise then that in 70-80% of cases, divorce

is initiated by women. The changes in family law were quietly lobbied

through by divorce lawyers and anti-marriage feminists in the 70's and

80's (there was no public debate on " no-fault " divorce reforms) and as

a happy result for them, the divorce rates have been at an all time

high over the last generation and men/fathers are being successfully

removed from the family living room, if not the bedroom.

This message has not been lost on the upcoming generation of young

adult males who now avoid marriage like the plague (ala " failure to

launch " ) and luxuriate being Pan boy toys for as long as they

can get away with it.

The big problem here is that while today's more independent woman can

find themselves living lives reasonably ok without husbands, children

do not do so well without in-home fathers. Adults who were children

without fathers make up the prison and drug usage populations. But

this is not politically correct to point out.

So it is with curiosity to watch religious conservatives flail against

extending marriage to gays/homosexuals, when they already let the

institution go to hell some time ago. There is not much there to protect.

Reproductive rights and unilateral divorce freed women from the

oppressive chains that before then made up marriage, and allowed them

to compete equally for careers and in the workplace. However, it did

not come at the expense of men; it came at the cost to the children.

So what to do? Well, we can continue to do nothing and let the middle

class family dissolve itself into itself. Their birth rates continue

to drop. Luckily, our population is being replenished by immigrants,

legal and otherwise, who tend to have a higher rate of intact

families, old country " oppression " of their wives, notwithstanding.

Other than that, we can just let nature take its ironic course over a

few generations. Men-independent women who restrict their own

reproduction to remain so remove themselves that much from the genetic

pool. Nature abhors a vacuum. The cultural pendulum that now pits down

males, boys and men as expendable, with swing back to their defense,

eventually, but much faster now because of autism.

The autism/vaccine poisoning of the male population has decimated

their fertility numbers reducing their mating-eligible rate as they

now start to age into adulthood. Watch how important the remaining

" real men " and fathers become when so many of their peers are consumed

by pseudo-equality inspired peterpan narcissism and mercury/vaccine

poisoning. Out of heightened demand, the surviving shrunken male

population will be in a much stronger position to bargain for their

interests in family: truly equal, marriage/reproduction rights that

would stabilize and protect marriage. And it will be women, I

predict, in their own self-interests who will be championing the

political reforms needed to make it happen. This starts with the

reform of unilateral divorce and the establishment of default

modifiable joint-custody if divorce.

Finally, ask yourself, from where comes all the insensitivity to the

injury and misery that has happened to a generation of our children?

Fathers are not the only ones missing. Why are our children ignored

by the government, the media and beyond? Have you noticed there is

far more energy and interest in fundraising and research for adult

maladies than for children? Breast cancer. aids, etc? Why do parents

now spend so much less time with their children yet increase the

guilt-driven tax dollars they spend on education? Parents, now largely

very busy singles, are increasingly AWOL for disciplining their

children so that lawmakers fill the vacuum through more and more nanny

government laws that micromanage family behavior. It's not really

nanny government, its daddy-replacement government.

Why has the value of our children become so discounted in the scheme

of things? It starts here: One out of every four pregnancies is

terminated early. No matter how one tries to rationalize it, that

speaks silent volumes to the discounted value of the three allowed to

live. (The overwhelming terminations are for convenience, not out of

desperation). Am I saying that mothers don't love their children -- of

course they do! -- the 3 out of four who made it to maternal bonding.

This is not to open a fruitless debate about abortion rights, but to

point out our unspoken cultural values: if from the start children

aren't so important practically to their mothers to the tune of 25%,

then it follows neither will be dads or the care of neighbors.

The CDC, other public health agencies and Pharma do not render our

children expendable in a cultural vacuum.

Lenny