Guest guest Posted April 15, 2006 Report Share Posted April 15, 2006 I am also an ablebodied women, my husband has SMA and is mostly immobile as well. We just did what seemed natural, and it works great Do you have and specific questions? Love, Peace and Green Day, Ali + Intimacy and SMA Hey everyone, I'm writing in need of some advice. I'm an ablebodied woman, dating a man with SMA. He is mostly immobile. Does anyone have any advice or technical knowledge about SMA that might be helpful when it comes to intimacy? B A FEW RULES * The list members come from many backgrounds, ages and beliefs So all members most be tolerant and respectful to all members. * Some adult language and topics (like sexual health, swearing..) may occur occasionally in emails. Over use of inappropriate language will not be allowed. If your under 16 ask your parents/gaurdian before you join the list. * No SPAMMING or sending numerous emails unrelated to the topics of spinal muscular atrophy, health, and the daily issues of the disabled. Post message: Subscribe: -subscribe Unsubscribe: -unsubscribe List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@... oogroups.com List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2006 Report Share Posted April 15, 2006 I am also an ablebodied women, my husband has SMA and is mostly immobile as well. We just did what seemed natural, and it works great Do you have and specific questions? Love, Peace and Green Day, Ali + Intimacy and SMA Hey everyone, I'm writing in need of some advice. I'm an ablebodied woman, dating a man with SMA. He is mostly immobile. Does anyone have any advice or technical knowledge about SMA that might be helpful when it comes to intimacy? B A FEW RULES * The list members come from many backgrounds, ages and beliefs So all members most be tolerant and respectful to all members. * Some adult language and topics (like sexual health, swearing..) may occur occasionally in emails. Over use of inappropriate language will not be allowed. If your under 16 ask your parents/gaurdian before you join the list. * No SPAMMING or sending numerous emails unrelated to the topics of spinal muscular atrophy, health, and the daily issues of the disabled. Post message: Subscribe: -subscribe Unsubscribe: -unsubscribe List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@... oogroups.com List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2006 Report Share Posted April 15, 2006 So - and this is really embarrassing - everything, you know, works? Also, how do you handle reactions of others to your relationship? > > I am also an ablebodied women, my husband has SMA and is mostly immobile as well. We just did what seemed natural, and it works great Do you have and specific questions? > > Love, Peace and Green Day, > Ali + > > > Intimacy and SMA > > > Hey everyone, > > I'm writing in need of some advice. I'm an ablebodied woman, dating a > man with SMA. He is mostly immobile. > > Does anyone have any advice or technical knowledge about SMA that > might be helpful when it comes to intimacy? > B > > > > > > A FEW RULES > > * The list members come from many backgrounds, ages and beliefs So all > members most be tolerant and respectful to all members. > > * Some adult language and topics (like sexual health, swearing..) may > occur occasionally in emails. Over use of inappropriate language will > not be allowed. If your under 16 ask your parents/gaurdian before you > join the list. > > * No SPAMMING or sending numerous emails unrelated to the topics of > spinal muscular atrophy, health, and the daily issues of the disabled. > > Post message: > Subscribe: -subscribe > Unsubscribe: -unsubscribe > > List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@... > > > > > oogroups.com > > List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@... > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2006 Report Share Posted April 15, 2006 " Everything " works unless he has another condition unrelated to SMA. I, too, have very limited mobility. Over the years I've let go of any shyness about sex...The more verbal communication we use about how to move what limb where, the better the experience. Laughing at the awkwardness helps, too. As for other people's reactions to us, most people are polite after they're done being taken aback. On ex-girlfriend's older brother was unphase by her dating a woman, but he was worried she'd end taking care of me for the rest of our lives. LOL...I took care of at least as much as she did of me. It's a little awkward for me now when Chuck and I go to his company holiday party...They assume I'm his sister. Chuck's family is great about us, though, his sisters were at first concerned because I've decided not to have kids. Both of our friends and family are have really embraced our relationship. They're glad to see us so happy. Hope this is helpful. Alana > > > > I am also an ablebodied women, my husband has SMA and is mostly > immobile as well. We just did what seemed natural, and it works great > Do you have and specific questions? > > > > Love, Peace and Green Day, > > Ali + > > > > > > Intimacy and SMA > > > > > > Hey everyone, > > > > I'm writing in need of some advice. I'm an ablebodied woman, dating a > > man with SMA. He is mostly immobile. > > > > Does anyone have any advice or technical knowledge about SMA that > > might be helpful when it comes to intimacy? > > B > > > > > > > > > > > > A FEW RULES > > > > * The list members come from many backgrounds, ages and beliefs So all > > members most be tolerant and respectful to all members. > > > > * Some adult language and topics (like sexual health, swearing..) may > > occur occasionally in emails. Over use of inappropriate language will > > not be allowed. If your under 16 ask your parents/gaurdian before you > > join the list. > > > > * No SPAMMING or sending numerous emails unrelated to the topics of > > spinal muscular atrophy, health, and the daily issues of the disabled. > > > > Post message: > > Subscribe: -subscribe > > Unsubscribe: -unsubscribe > > > > List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@ > > > > > > > > > > oogroups.com > > > > List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@ > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2006 Report Share Posted April 16, 2006 This is really helpful, Alana. It's good just knowing that we're not really boldly going where no one has gone before (although it's felt that way to us.) Thank you. B > > > > > > I am also an ablebodied women, my husband has SMA and is mostly > > immobile as well. We just did what seemed natural, and it works > great > > Do you have and specific questions? > > > > > > Love, Peace and Green Day, > > > Ali + > > > > > > > > > Intimacy and SMA > > > > > > > > > Hey everyone, > > > > > > I'm writing in need of some advice. I'm an ablebodied woman, > dating a > > > man with SMA. He is mostly immobile. > > > > > > Does anyone have any advice or technical knowledge about SMA that > > > might be helpful when it comes to intimacy? > > > B > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > A FEW RULES > > > > > > * The list members come from many backgrounds, ages and beliefs > So all > > > members most be tolerant and respectful to all members. > > > > > > * Some adult language and topics (like sexual health, swearing..) > may > > > occur occasionally in emails. Over use of inappropriate language > will > > > not be allowed. If your under 16 ask your parents/gaurdian before > you > > > join the list. > > > > > > * No SPAMMING or sending numerous emails unrelated to the topics > of > > > spinal muscular atrophy, health, and the daily issues of the > disabled. > > > > > > Post message: > > > Subscribe: -subscribe > > > Unsubscribe: -unsubscribe > > > > > > List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > oogroups.com > > > > > > List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2006 Report Share Posted April 16, 2006 I agree with Alana. Everything is better with open communication and the ability to get over the awkwardness and laugh. This isn't true for just persons with disabilities - all of my girlfriends express that their love lives are much more satisfying when they are able to talk to their lovers about what they like and how to do things differently. If your boyfriend isn't being open and asking you to move an arm or reposition him in some manner, ask him if he'd like you to do that for him. It may settle his nerves about being open if you begin the communication and make it clear that expressing those needs are welcomed on your end. <3Kendra > > > > > > I am also an ablebodied women, my husband has SMA and is mostly > > immobile as well. We just did what seemed natural, and it works > great > > Do you have and specific questions? > > > > > > Love, Peace and Green Day, > > > Ali + > > > > > > > > > Intimacy and SMA > > > > > > > > > Hey everyone, > > > > > > I'm writing in need of some advice. I'm an ablebodied woman, > dating a > > > man with SMA. He is mostly immobile. > > > > > > Does anyone have any advice or technical knowledge about SMA that > > > might be helpful when it comes to intimacy? > > > B > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > A FEW RULES > > > > > > * The list members come from many backgrounds, ages and beliefs > So all > > > members most be tolerant and respectful to all members. > > > > > > * Some adult language and topics (like sexual health, swearing..) > may > > > occur occasionally in emails. Over use of inappropriate language > will > > > not be allowed. If your under 16 ask your parents/gaurdian before > you > > > join the list. > > > > > > * No SPAMMING or sending numerous emails unrelated to the topics > of > > > spinal muscular atrophy, health, and the daily issues of the > disabled. > > > > > > Post message: > > > Subscribe: -subscribe > > > Unsubscribe: -unsubscribe > > > > > > List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > oogroups.com > > > > > > List manager: (Sexy Mature Artist) Email: Esma1999@ > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2006 Report Share Posted April 16, 2006 I'm a woman with SMA and my husband is the able-bodied one. My best advice is to experiment, experiment, experiment. We've found a few good positions that we even made up names for! We must be doing something right, because we have two daughters that resulted from our nocturnal activities. I second the need for humor and communication. One of my most favorites " moments " was when the both of us almost fell out of bed. We laughed and laughed trying to think of a way to explain the injuries we might have gotten to our doctors! People's reactions are a whole other topic. We've had every reaction ranging from abject horror to folks practically canonizing us as Saints. Add motherhood to the mix, and folks get really crazy! Humor can help with this as well. Jenn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 I was wondering if anyone would be willing to chat with me off-group, as I have questions about this myself. Feel free to contact me via email or messenger at the same s/n. Thank you Mike > > Hey everyone, > > I'm writing in need of some advice. I'm an ablebodied woman, dating a > man with SMA. He is mostly immobile. > > Does anyone have any advice or technical knowledge about SMA that > might be helpful when it comes to intimacy? > B > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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