OT: The book He's Just Not That Into You

[Guest guest]

Hey Everyone,

I just started reading the ebook " He's Just Not That Into You " for fun

(since I've already found the man of my dreams) b/c friends have read it and

loved

it. They say it hilariously funny, every girl can relate to it, or you have

a girlfriend who fits into at least one of the scenarios. Anyways, while my

Adobe Reader decided to update, I thought I'd ask the guys a ? about what

the male counterpart of the book mainly wants women to know about men so far in

the first few parts I've read. Is it true if you are into a girl you will

do anything in your power to either get her number, call her, ask her on a

date, and pursue her intently even if she's allowing you to chase her? The

male

author seems to think women seem to make excuses for men when like for

example they do not call w/in a reasonable time after what seemed to be a

fantastic date . He says if he was into you, he'd call you the next day. And

also,

so far in the book he keeps reiterating that although men like that women are

becoming equal in society to men, able to work and bring up children, etc

they still are old fashion about dating. He says, although old fashion, men

still like to be in the initiator i.e. asking for a number, asking you on a

date, etc. He says women who say they don't want to play games and are

aggressive and try to be in control of the whole initiating a date, takes away

from

the " pursuit. " Just thought I'd see if his view on men was accurate according

to men on this list.

Kimi

[Guest guest]

Hi Kimi, thought I'd give you my 2 cents on the subject. If I was interested in

a girl I would try to pursue her to a point but, honestly, if I got the feeling

she wasn't interested I'd probably give up...lol. As far as a girl asking a guy

out, I think that's totally fine. For most of my life I was very shy and had a

low self opinion so I only went out with girls who asked me out. My first real

girlfriend asked me out after working together for three months. Aparently she

was flirting and giving me hints the whole time but it didn't sink in until she

finally came right out and asked me. I was completely flattered when she did!

Tom

[Guest guest]

Tom,

I too, although many find it hard to believe now, was very shy when I was

byounger. I never had the nerve to ask a guy out either. Now, if I wasn't in

a committed relationship, I think I would not have a problem if I was very

interested. Reading many of the posts here has shown me self confidence and

believing in yourself can actually attract a mate. Thanks for posting.

Kimi

In a message dated 1/4/2006 8:00:02 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

tshindle@... writes:

Hi Kimi, thought I'd give you my 2 cents on the subject. If I was

interested in a girl I would try to pursue her to a point but, honestly, if I

got the

feeling she wasn't interested I'd probably give up...lol. As far as a girl

asking a guy out, I think that's totally fine. For most of my life I was

very shy and had a low self opinion so I only went out with girls who asked me

out. My first real girlfriend asked me out after working together for three

months. Aparently she was flirting and giving me hints the whole time but it

didn't sink in until she finally came right out and asked me. I was

completely flattered when she did!

Tom

[Guest guest]

I was always too shy to ask a girl out. Until Kimi anyway. I wasn't

going to give up with her. I persued her or a long tme. But I don't

think I would have been upset if she wanted me sooner. But I think many

girls like it the traditional way too.I think many would rather a guy

ask them out. Same as with them wanting a guy to call the day after.

They couuld always call us. Also the guy paying thing...

But honestly I think I prefer payng and some other traditional things.

>In a message dated 1/4/2006 8:00:02 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

>tshindle@... writes:

>

>Hi Kimi, thought I'd give you my 2 cents on the subject. If I was

>interested in a girl I would try to pursue her to a point but, honestly, if I

got the

>feeling she wasn't interested I'd probably give up...lol. As far as a girl

>asking a guy out, I think that's totally fine. For most of my life I was

>very shy and had a low self opinion so I only went out with girls who asked me

>out. My first real girlfriend asked me out after working together for three

>months. Aparently she was flirting and giving me hints the whole time but it

>didn't sink in until she finally came right out and asked me. I was

>completely flattered when she did!

>Tom

>