Re: Why are you looking at me?

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In a message dated 6/15/2005 5:40:54 P.M. Pacific Standard Time,

blueyedaze@... writes:

I feel it's rude when people's mouths drop open, keep looking away then

back, comment to people they're with... this happens more often than not to

me. I

should sell polaroids!

This happened to me last night. My friend and I were going to give him

something to stare at but we thought against it. We were at a restaurant so it

wasn't someone who was just passing by. ::Shrugs:: What are you gonna do?

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In a message dated 6/16/2005 12:09:55 A.M. Pacific Standard Time,

bizybull2@... writes:

Also, about 3 years ago I was shopping at Wal Mart (of course) and a lady

came over to me and quietly said, " I don't want to bother you, but please take

this, I know its not much but I want you to have it'.. she slipped something

in my hand which felt like money. She really was polite and sweet.. My first

instinct was to refuse it, but looking at her I smiled and said Thank you

very much.. She said " God bless you' and walked away. I opened my hand and

it was a $5.00 bill. I thought that accepting it was the right thing to do to

make her feel good.

I've never had anyone offer me money but I've had this one creepy guy insist

on buying me dinner because I was just " so precious. " Another time, I was at

a baseball game and one of the vendors just stopped and handed me whatever he

was selling. I shook my head at him thinking he must have thought I wanted

to buy it but he insisted I take it. He walked away before I could object

anymore. My sister thought it was funny... I was kind of offended.

Deena

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I once took my cousin Mishee, who was four years old at the time and I was 19,

to the Metro Zoo. I got approached by other mothers telling me how pretty my

daughter was ... she looks a lot like her Mommy too. When Mishee heard this

she'd turn to kiss my cheek and then you'd hear " ahhhh! she's a really lovey

girl too! " coming from the other mom. That's when I'd pipe up and say, " No,

no, she's not my daughter, she's my kissing cousin! " Mishee then laughed and

so did the other lady!

Mishee and I still giggle over that day.

Angie

On 2005.06.15 23:09, *~~* wrote:

> children dont bother me anymore now that I am older...

> I am always willing to answer their ?s and if I hear a

> parent say something that isnt true... I butt in and

> correct them. BUT I can honestly say NOW.... I have a

> service dog and since I got her, I have not had ONE

> kid stop and stare or ask anything about me!! It is

> all about my dog now. A huge weight off my shoulders.

> So now I just get to tell people that Callie is a

> service dog and what she does for me, instead of

> explaining whats 'wrong with me'...

>

> And today, I am happy to say, while I was at Walmart,

> a mother said in passing that I had a beautiful

> family, to include my K9 - I had my beautiful niece in

> hand. So it was nice to hear that she thought she was

> mine!!

>

>

>

> --- Ksmile96@... wrote:

> > Since and I are both disabled I do not know how

> > many times I have heard

> > " oh you guys r so cute together. " I think it's

> > annoying now. It's difficult

> > for to go places, but when we do boy is it like

> > a carnival freak show

> > w/everyone staring at us. I remember when we went

> > to the mall this girl was just

> > in awe seeing 2 ppl in wcs and trachs/vent while we

> > were in the parking lot,

> > and my friend who was w/us said oh god its starting

> > already. Actually this

> > brings up a ?. This particular friend has said to

> > me if her kids ever stare,

> > gauk, or say some stupid comment to a person w/a

> > disability in public shes going

> > to smack them upside the head. I was shocked when

> > she even said if the child

> > was young. She said my children will know better.

> > I actually told her

> > children don't really even bother me b/c their

> > stares r out of innocense, while

> > adults should know better and have seen things in

> > their lives by now. I even

> > don't mind the comments of children to their parents

> > like " mommy why is that girl

> > (actually now I get lady sometimes, I guess to kids

> > I look old- kinda ironic

> > they realize I'm not a child rather than what their

> > counterparts think) in a

> > wheelchair, or why r her legs and arms so skinny? "

> > What I find amusing and

> > sometimes offending are the answers they give them.

> > I also never mind answering

> > a child's direct ?. How do the rest of you feel?

> > Kimi

> >

> >

> >

> > In a message dated 6/14/2005 10:13:16 PM Eastern

> > Daylight Time,

> > those2@... writes:

> > We usually will get " you guys are so cute together "

> > or " you two are so

> > loving " (yes, people actually say those

> > things)...never anything rude,

> > thank goodness. Yes, people stare but I think they

> > just maybe honestly

> > haven't seen many people in chairs...especially

> > chairs that rise up and

> > come with a hot guy with his arm around the driver.

> > ;-)

> >

> > Lori (of Lori & )

> >

> > P.S. To Tom...most people who kiss in public get

> > looks....it's human

> > nature. We want to SEE! *lol*

> >

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

>

> __________________________________________________

>

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Yes, I have had a similar, but milder version of those who wish me to be

" blessed. " I was once out in a mall with hubby when an older gentleman came

up to us. He reached out to shake hubby's hand and slapped a small prayer

book into it while saying " Bless you son " and then he turned to me and rested

his hand on my shoulder and said " God has shined his love on you and gave you

this (nodding to my hubby) as a gift. "

I smiled and said " I hope he didn't pay too much for him because he's cheap

and won't let me buy a new purse! "

The old fella just chuckled and continued on.

Angie

On 2005.06.16 01:27, Nick Dupree wrote:

> What about the strangers who think they have divine healing powers and

> out of nowhere put their hands on you in the mall, grocery or parking

> lot and start hollering to " Jayzus " to help them heal this poor child?

>

> That's happened to me once every few years. I just sit in stunned

> silence. Has that happened to anyone else?

>

> Awkward!!!!

>

> I know they have good intent, but gah!

>

> When I'm shopping I don't expect a vibrating hand of power to suddenly

> land on my head from behind me. lol

>

> Nick

>

> charmed chic wrote:

> >In high school I went to a state school for the disabled.

> >

> >Around Christmas time me and bunch of fellow gimps went to a local mall to

> > shop. We all agreed to meet for pizza at a certain time and place.

> > While we were hanging out in front of Sears [next to pizza place] waiting

> > for everyone to gather up... This fat middle aged lady with cotton candy

> > styled hair was walking by us and very obviously rubbernecking and

> > turning her head around almost backwards with her mouth hanging open and

> > staring daggers at us while stamping her way by us.

> >

> >We gimps stared back some with raised eyebrows like - 'and your point

> > is??'.

> >

> >Our PCA became enraged. She had her arms crossed in front of her chest

> > and chased the woman down down growling at her loudly.

> >

> >The staring woman eeked and trotted away into a run while we laughed our

> > asses off at her.

> >

> >The PCA said afterwards : " I'm sorry but I couldn't stand how that woman

> > was treating you guys any longer. She's a grown up not a kid ! "

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[Guest guest]

I had a guy try to stuff money into my hand that was driving my chair. The well

meaning idiot almost sent me flying through a wall! - Pat pat pat! -

My guy had to scream at him to " Stop Driving Her Chair! " .

He apologized profusively and about a half hour later my heart rate went back

below 140.

When it comes to the holy roller variety of do gooders on the prowl I usually

say : " How do you know Jesus and I didn't agree on me being disabled when I was

created? "

That really throws em for a loop.

I also say out loud a lot: " Jesus I love you, but some of your fans are

bothering me again! Help me out Jesus! " .

" Lainie H. " <bizybull2@...> wrote:

Yes, it happened to me about 30 years ago down in Los Angeles. Some guy watched

my sister put me and my manual chair into her Mustang and we drove off. She saw

him pull out and follow us about 20+ miles down the 405 (freeway) until we

stopped in La Habra. When she was getting me out he came over and told her he

could 'heal' me and make me walk.. She told him that if he didn't disappear

real fast she was calling the police. I was still in the car so I didn't have

an opportunity to set him straight. .

Also, about 3 years ago I was shopping at Wal Mart (of course) and a lady came

over to me and quietly said, " I don't want to bother you, but please take this,

I know its not much but I want you to have it'.. she slipped something in my

hand which felt like money. She really was polite and sweet.. My first instinct

was to refuse it, but looking at her I smiled and said Thank you very much..

She said " God bless you' and walked away. I opened my hand and it was a $5.00

bill. I thought that accepting it was the right thing to do to make her feel

good.

Nick Dupree <nickdupree@...> wrote:

What about the strangers who think they have divine healing powers and

out of nowhere put their hands on you in the mall, grocery or parking

lot and start hollering to " Jayzus " to help them heal this poor child?

That's happened to me once every few years. I just sit in stunned

silence. Has that happened to anyone else?

Awkward!!!!

I know they have good intent, but gah!

When I'm shopping I don't expect a vibrating hand of power to suddenly

land on my head from behind me. lol

Nick

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I was in Atlantic City one February and went out on the boardwalk for some fresh

air while my friends stayed in the casino. It was dark, cold and windy so I was

all huddled up trying to stay warm. I must have looked pretty pathetic. There

was one older couple walking by and the man went a good 40 feet out of his way

to hand me two dollars and walk off. I thank him and kept the money. I figured

it made him feel good so I'm with you Deena!

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In a message dated 6/16/2005 12:09:55 A.M. Pacific Standard Time,

bizybull2@... writes:

Also, about 3 years ago I was shopping at Wal Mart (of course) and a lady

came over to me and quietly said, " I don't want to bother you, but please take

this, I know its not much but I want you to have it'.. she slipped something

in my hand which felt like money. She really was polite and sweet.. My first

instinct was to refuse it, but looking at her I smiled and said Thank you

very much.. She said " God bless you' and walked away. I opened my hand and

it was a $5.00 bill. I thought that accepting it was the right thing to do to

make her feel good.

I've never had anyone offer me money but I've had this one creepy guy insist

on buying me dinner because I was just " so precious. " Another time, I was at

a baseball game and one of the vendors just stopped and handed me whatever he

was selling. I shook my head at him thinking he must have thought I wanted

to buy it but he insisted I take it. He walked away before I could object

anymore. My sister thought it was funny... I was kind of offended.

Deena

[Guest guest]

Yes I have had that happen many times. It's usually elderly ppl. I usually

say thank you, or smile. Its awkward tho.

Kimi

In a message dated 6/16/2005 1:28:32 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

nickdupree@... writes:

What about the strangers who think they have divine healing powers and

out of nowhere put their hands on you in the mall, grocery or parking

lot and start hollering to " Jayzus " to help them heal this poor child?

That's happened to me once every few years. I just sit in stunned

silence. Has that happened to anyone else?

Awkward!!!!

I know they have good intent, but gah!

When I'm shopping I don't expect a vibrating hand of power to suddenly

land on my head from behind me. lol

Nick

[Guest guest]

Yeah, once when I was on a trip w/my day camp to a bowling alley a guy from

the bar area gave me $20. I was shocked and told him no, but he insisted and

said buy ice cream w/it for me and my friends. Also, my friends always like

going out w/me b/c a lot of times the owner will wave my party's cover charge

and once we all got a free round of drinks. Whenever I go to the shore and the

boardwalk I usually get something free whether its food, carnival prizes, or

even something I'm trying to buy b/c I want it. I remember my first henna

tattoo was free. We took a pic w/the guy and have it in my scrapbook haha. I

guess thats why I remember it.

Kimi

In a message dated 6/16/2005 3:09:55 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

bizybull2@... writes:

Also, about 3 years ago I was shopping at Wal Mart (of course) and a lady

came over to me and quietly said, " I don't want to bother you, but please take

this, I know its not much but I want you to have it'.. she slipped something in

my hand which felt like money. She really was polite and sweet.. My first

instinct was to refuse it, but looking at her I smiled and said Thank you very

much.. She said " God bless you' and walked away. I opened my hand and it was a

$5.00 bill. I thought that accepting it was the right thing to do to make

her feel good.

[Guest guest]

Yes I agree young innocent children are very kind. Teenagers and adults need

some manner lessons from them .

Kimi

In a message dated 6/16/2005 12:45:49 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

tshindle@... writes:

Kimi,

Sometimes kids are more polite than the adults! A few months ago I went to

the movies with a girlfriend. We were early so we were waiting in the hall for

the theater to be cleaned. I saw two kids, I'm guessing about 6 and 8

staring at us off and on and slowly moving closer. Finally they were right next

to

us and the older asked me nervously how I use the theater if I can't get into

the seats. I explained to them that the spaces where seats were missing were

for wheelchairs, so I actually get a very good seat. I thought it was awesome

that they approached us and asked ME the question, not . When the

theater was ready to open, each one opened one of the double doors for me. On

the

way out after the movie several adults wouldn't even do that much. Some

people just stepped right in front of me but just ran into the back of

their

feet with my chair...lol.

I also never mind answering

a child's direct ?. How do the rest of you feel?

Kimi

[Guest guest]

I read a disability news article that did a report on the panhandlers

with disabilities.

According to the article, Atlantic city has the highest number of

pwds panhandling than anywhere else in the U.S.

Reflection on the lack of essential services for pwds in that region

of this country, perhaps?

> I was in Atlantic City one February and went out on the boardwalk

for some fresh air while my friends stayed in the casino. It was

dark, cold and windy so I was all huddled up trying to stay warm. I

must have looked pretty pathetic. There was one older couple walking

by and the man went a good 40 feet out of his way to hand me two

dollars and walk off. I thank him and kept the money. I figured it

made him feel good so I'm with you Deena!

>

> -------------- Original message --------------

>

> In a message dated 6/16/2005 12:09:55 A.M. Pacific Standard Time,

> bizybull2@y... writes:

>

> Also, about 3 years ago I was shopping at Wal Mart (of course) and

a lady

> came over to me and quietly said, " I don't want to bother you, but

please take

> this, I know its not much but I want you to have it'.. she slipped

something

> in my hand which felt like money. She really was polite and

sweet.. My first

> instinct was to refuse it, but looking at her I smiled and said

Thank you

> very much.. She said " God bless you' and walked away. I opened

my hand and

> it was a $5.00 bill. I thought that accepting it was the right

thing to do to

> make her feel good.

>

>

> I've never had anyone offer me money but I've had this one creepy

guy insist

> on buying me dinner because I was just " so precious. " Another time,

I was at

> a baseball game and one of the vendors just stopped and handed me

whatever he

> was selling. I shook my head at him thinking he must have thought I

wanted

> to buy it but he insisted I take it. He walked away before I could

object

> anymore. My sister thought it was funny... I was kind of offended.

>

> Deena

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'm not very well travelled but I think you're right. As far as that region

goes, I guess there's a lot of opportunity for panhandlers in Atlantic City.

There seems to be at least one on every block.

-------------- Original message --------------

I read a disability news article that did a report on the panhandlers

with disabilities.

According to the article, Atlantic city has the highest number of

pwds panhandling than anywhere else in the U.S.

Reflection on the lack of essential services for pwds in that region

of this country, perhaps?

> I was in Atlantic City one February and went out on the boardwalk

for some fresh air while my friends stayed in the casino. It was

dark, cold and windy so I was all huddled up trying to stay warm. I

must have looked pretty pathetic. There was one older couple walking

by and the man went a good 40 feet out of his way to hand me two

dollars and walk off. I thank him and kept the money. I figured it

made him feel good so I'm with you Deena!

>

> -------------- Original message --------------

>

> In a message dated 6/16/2005 12:09:55 A.M. Pacific Standard Time,

> bizybull2@y... writes:

>

> Also, about 3 years ago I was shopping at Wal Mart (of course) and

a lady

> came over to me and quietly said, " I don't want to bother you, but

please take

> this, I know its not much but I want you to have it'.. she slipped

something

> in my hand which felt like money. She really was polite and

sweet.. My first

> instinct was to refuse it, but looking at her I smiled and said

Thank you

> very much.. She said " God bless you' and walked away. I opened

my hand and

> it was a $5.00 bill. I thought that accepting it was the right

thing to do to

> make her feel good.

>

>

> I've never had anyone offer me money but I've had this one creepy

guy insist

> on buying me dinner because I was just " so precious. " Another time,

I was at

> a baseball game and one of the vendors just stopped and handed me

whatever he

> was selling. I shook my head at him thinking he must have thought I

wanted

> to buy it but he insisted I take it. He walked away before I could

object

> anymore. My sister thought it was funny... I was kind of offended.

>

> Deena

>

>

>