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In a message dated 7/1/2003 8:43:05 PM Central Daylight Time,

heaven20seven@... writes:

> Are you that insecure to care about what someone you don't even know

> says?

> to such a degree you feel like bashing your head against the wall? who cares

>

> what she says. shes not you and youre not her. shes speaking in reference as

> IF

> she WERE in your position, that maybe she doesnt think she would be 'strong'

>

> enough or capable of doing what you do. and have done. no need to get so

> defensive, unless you really care what she says.

, you friggen dwell on comments an online boyfriend makes for weeks

and you have the audacity to make a comment like that. I don't get you.

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OK, now I AM offended!

I had two babies because I have a husband. We had sex. I got

pregnant. I was NOT trying to fill any void in my life. I was NOT

hellbent on passing on my genes. I was NOT doing it to bring me

happiness (although my kids DO give me great happiness). It just

happened. I was not going to abort them because I was simply

concerned they might be 'uncomfortable' having a mom in a wheelchair.

You say you are only saying it is selfish for YOU to have a baby and

then you go on and on about all the things you and *I* can't do. We

both have SMA. And I bet we are both pretty similiar physically -

basically a quad dependant on everything from brushing your teeth to

taking a crap. Am I right? Well, if YOU are selfish to have a baby

in your situation, then that implies that *I* must be a really selfish

b*tch because I've brought 2 babies into the world, knowing full well

that I couldn't directly feed, dress or bathe them.

But you know what? I have a husband, who married me knowing what he

was getting into. I have friends and roommates who became so knowing

full well what they were getting into. They help take care of the

kids' physical stuff. I take care of emotion stuff. I take care of

educational stuff. I take care of the birthday parties, and play

dates, and arranging rides, and getting pool passes, and filling out

school forms. I plan the grocery menu. I orchestrate the

housework. I take care of all the little stuff all day long that my

husband can't do while he is at work - all the little stuff that makes

it possible to put food in their bellies and clothes on their backs!

And as for the 5 year old comment that I'm guessing was directed at me

since I'm the only one with a 5 year old. My daughters are BETTER

persons because of the experiences they have had because I have SMA.

They know how to be responsible. They know that people are more than

what they can and can't do for you. They are caring, sensitive, and

unselfish (well, ok, my 9 year old has her moments). Because of my

SMA I can actually spend MORE time with them. When they come home

from school, I am here - which is more than I can say for a lot of

non-disabled parents.

And frankly, following your line of logic, none of us should date or

get married! We are very high maintenance physically. Isn't it

selfish to FORCE that on ANYBODY?

I get enough of this crap from people without SMA! If people don't

want to take on the responsibility of parenting, then that's great for

them. Just don't give me sh*t about making different choices in life!

Jenn <listening to Rob Zombie REALLY loud and thinking about bashing

my head against a wall>

> Some of you seem to have taken my words the wrong way. I never said

that it's

> selfish for any woman with a disability to have a baby... I said I

thought it

> would be selfish of ME. If you're disabled and have a baby then more

power to

> you but it's not something I'd do. Whatever the reason for having a

baby (to

> fill some void in your life, b/c you think it'll bring you

happiness, or to

> pass on your genes to the next generation), I feel like I would be

putting that

> baby at risk. This isn't like getting a goldfish here where feeding

and the

> such isn't going to be a problem. This is a human life and if I

chose to have a

> baby I think I should take full responsibility for it. Part of that

> responsibility is bathing it and getting up at two in the morning to

feed it and not

> having someone else do those things. I can't take care of myself

and it's

> already a stressful situation for everyone around me. Now I'm gonna

add another

> totally dependent person to the mix because I feel the need to

reproduce? That

> baby is going to be at risk before its even born. I know from now

that carrying

> that baby to term is going to be impossible so right off the bat

it's going to

> have to deal with all the stuff that preemies go through

(underdeveloped

> lungs and weak immune system) Being alone with the baby after it's

born? Out of

> the question. If it starts choking or if something else happens to

it, I

> wouldn't be much help. I can be there emotionally all I want for the

baby but that's

> not going to change that fact. Emotional support is not going to put

food into

> it's belly or clothes on its back. Then there's what going to happen

when

> this baby become older. How are THEY going to feel? We all know what

it's like to

> have to grow up fast and mature before our time; what it's like to

be pushed

> into adulthood. Because of that I don't think my 5 year old should

have to be

> taking care of me. They're little kids and shouldn't have to have

that stress

> or burden placed upon them. I read a book about disabled life and

one chapter

> focused on family members. They asked the kids how they felt and

there was so

> much hurt and resentment in their passages. That would all stem from

my need

> to have a baby and I'm just comfortable with that.

>

> But if you want children and it works out, then good. To each their

own.

>

>

>

>

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Deena, I was really surprised by the hostility in your msg. about why you

don't have kids. I understand so many of the reasons you described. I've

made some of the same decisions. But you really attacked the folks w/SMA

on this list who do have kids. Do you really think they're selfish? I'm

asking this sincerely. Do you think they're inadequate parents?

, I loved how you described the intimate role you have in raising

your children. I'd only like to add that indeed there are difficult

aspects for children growing up with disabled parents. But there are

difficult aspects of all children's lives. Some grow up poor, or have only

one parent or a parent dies. Some move from town to town following a

parent's job. Some grow up around addiction or stress. The thing that

gives these kids better lives is love, security and attention. You're

certainly giving those things to your children.

While I have chosen not to have my own children, I have nothing but respect

for those disabled parents who are working their butts off to have happy,

healthy families. I'm enjoying it vicariously and with a touch of envy,

but on the other hand, I love my out-in-the-world life. I couldn't do the

work I do if I had kids, cuz I wouldn't have the umph.

I hope to see less fighting and more sharing and support of differences on

this topic.

Peace,

Alana

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Thanks Alana, I agree. I have also chosen not to have children, or I

wouldn¹t say chosen ‹ they¹ve just never seemed an option to me perhaps

because of all the logistics involved ‹ but honestly I¹ve never had a desire

for them, I was born without the mothering instinct! I¹m happy with my

husband and family of animals and adult lifestyle ‹ and I¹m happy when the

kids/babies are screaming at the mall that I am NOT responsible for them!!!

(see no mothering instinct, I think quiet babies are cute but that¹s as far

as it goes...) Deena, I didn¹t find your post particularly angry or

offensive, I think it¹s good to talk about these things. There are

definitely two sides to this issue and it is a personal choice for all of

us. I¹m sure if I wanted kids I would try and find a way to have them (or

adopt) and care for them ‹ it certainly would be something carefully thought

out (for me) before any children were conceived or sent away for. Of

course, I strongly encourage the same for everyone with or without a

disability. I do not think it makes someone better or worse people for

having kids, it¹s just different lifestyle choices. , I appreciate

your comments as well.

Anyway, this is my baby and I thought maybe a different view would be good

here... ;-)

A quick Diamond story... (Diamond is a four year old African Grey parrot)

Yesterday diamond was in for his annual exam and the vet said that I should

walk him around the house 15 minutes a day for exercise. I started today

and he was really stubborn about walking, he wouldn't budge. Finally, I

made him walk to his cage and when he climbed up I asked him how he liked

his walk -- he said, " Actually, I prefer a wheelchair to walking. "

N

On 7/1/03 11:53 PM, " Alana R. Theriault " <alrt@...> wrote:

> Deena, I was really surprised by the hostility in your msg. about why you

> don't have kids. I understand so many of the reasons you described. I've

> made some of the same decisions. But you really attacked the folks w/SMA

> on this list who do have kids. Do you really think they're selfish? I'm

> asking this sincerely. Do you think they're inadequate parents?

>

> , I loved how you described the intimate role you have in raising

> your children. I'd only like to add that indeed there are difficult

> aspects for children growing up with disabled parents. But there are

> difficult aspects of all children's lives. Some grow up poor, or have only

> one parent or a parent dies. Some move from town to town following a

> parent's job. Some grow up around addiction or stress. The thing that

> gives these kids better lives is love, security and attention. You're

> certainly giving those things to your children.

>

> While I have chosen not to have my own children, I have nothing but respect

> for those disabled parents who are working their butts off to have happy,

> healthy families. I'm enjoying it vicariously and with a touch of envy,

> but on the other hand, I love my out-in-the-world life. I couldn't do the

> work I do if I had kids, cuz I wouldn't have the umph.

>

> I hope to see less fighting and more sharing and support of differences on

> this topic.

>

> Peace,

> Alana

>

>

>

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I know a child born to parents that love it regardless of if 1 is using a

wheelchair or not could not be happier i guess the love is the key word and each

child needs a different level of attention be it just having 1 parent who can

sit and talk with them or read a story or sing with them or watch a cartoon or

just give them hugs kisses and loads and loads of love , there is always 1

parent who is busy and not around constantly for the children and for a child to

have a mother or a father about as a constant is great for the child or children

and it is up to us everyone as parents and friends and individuals to make sure

that every child grows up to care love and except the people around them and my

kids do they do , they love both Ian and i and there friends just accept it to

, I'm mom and Ian is Ian but slowly becoming more dad and when bump comes we

will be settled as a family of 6 who love each other very much .

There are no rights and wrongs to being a parent or deciding to be as long as

you love the child you bring into the world and help it to grow and care and

accept .

jennifer <nekrosys@...> wrote:

OK, now I AM offended!

I had two babies because I have a husband. We had sex. I got

pregnant. I was NOT trying to fill any void in my life. I was NOT

hellbent on passing on my genes. I was NOT doing it to bring me

happiness (although my kids DO give me great happiness). It just

happened. I was not going to abort them because I was simply

concerned they might be 'uncomfortable' having a mom in a wheelchair.

You say you are only saying it is selfish for YOU to have a baby and

then you go on and on about all the things you and *I* can't do. We

both have SMA. And I bet we are both pretty similiar physically -

basically a quad dependant on everything from brushing your teeth to

taking a crap. Am I right? Well, if YOU are selfish to have a baby

in your situation, then that implies that *I* must be a really selfish

b*tch because I've brought 2 babies into the world, knowing full well

that I couldn't directly feed, dress or bathe them.

But you know what? I have a husband, who married me knowing what he

was getting into. I have friends and roommates who became so knowing

full well what they were getting into. They help take care of the

kids' physical stuff. I take care of emotion stuff. I take care of

educational stuff. I take care of the birthday parties, and play

dates, and arranging rides, and getting pool passes, and filling out

school forms. I plan the grocery menu. I orchestrate the

housework. I take care of all the little stuff all day long that my

husband can't do while he is at work - all the little stuff that makes

it possible to put food in their bellies and clothes on their backs!

And as for the 5 year old comment that I'm guessing was directed at me

since I'm the only one with a 5 year old. My daughters are BETTER

persons because of the experiences they have had because I have SMA.

They know how to be responsible. They know that people are more than

what they can and can't do for you. They are caring, sensitive, and

unselfish (well, ok, my 9 year old has her moments). Because of my

SMA I can actually spend MORE time with them. When they come home

from school, I am here - which is more than I can say for a lot of

non-disabled parents.

And frankly, following your line of logic, none of us should date or

get married! We are very high maintenance physically. Isn't it

selfish to FORCE that on ANYBODY?

I get enough of this crap from people without SMA! If people don't

want to take on the responsibility of parenting, then that's great for

them. Just don't give me sh*t about making different choices in life!

Jenn <listening to Rob Zombie REALLY loud and thinking about bashing

my head against a wall>

> Some of you seem to have taken my words the wrong way. I never said

that it's

> selfish for any woman with a disability to have a baby... I said I

thought it

> would be selfish of ME. If you're disabled and have a baby then more

power to

> you but it's not something I'd do. Whatever the reason for having a

baby (to

> fill some void in your life, b/c you think it'll bring you

happiness, or to

> pass on your genes to the next generation), I feel like I would be

putting that

> baby at risk. This isn't like getting a goldfish here where feeding

and the

> such isn't going to be a problem. This is a human life and if I

chose to have a

> baby I think I should take full responsibility for it. Part of that

> responsibility is bathing it and getting up at two in the morning to

feed it and not

> having someone else do those things. I can't take care of myself

and it's

> already a stressful situation for everyone around me. Now I'm gonna

add another

> totally dependent person to the mix because I feel the need to

reproduce? That

> baby is going to be at risk before its even born. I know from now

that carrying

> that baby to term is going to be impossible so right off the bat

it's going to

> have to deal with all the stuff that preemies go through

(underdeveloped

> lungs and weak immune system) Being alone with the baby after it's

born? Out of

> the question. If it starts choking or if something else happens to

it, I

> wouldn't be much help. I can be there emotionally all I want for the

baby but that's

> not going to change that fact. Emotional support is not going to put

food into

> it's belly or clothes on its back. Then there's what going to happen

when

> this baby become older. How are THEY going to feel? We all know what

it's like to

> have to grow up fast and mature before our time; what it's like to

be pushed

> into adulthood. Because of that I don't think my 5 year old should

have to be

> taking care of me. They're little kids and shouldn't have to have

that stress

> or burden placed upon them. I read a book about disabled life and

one chapter

> focused on family members. They asked the kids how they felt and

there was so

> much hurt and resentment in their passages. That would all stem from

my need

> to have a baby and I'm just comfortable with that.

>

> But if you want children and it works out, then good. To each their

own.

>

>

>

>

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Maybe I'm too sensitive, but I DO care what other people think. I am

on this group to get and give support. If I wanted someone I'd never

met to judge my parenting skills based simply on the fact I have SMA,

I'd just have to roll out of my house. I don't need to hear negative

garbage like that from people with SMA too.

BTW, bashing one's head against a wall is a natural reaction to

listening to Rob Zombie... ;)

Jenn

> Are you that insecure to care about what someone you don't even

know says?

> to such a degree you feel like bashing your head against the wall?

who cares

> what she says. shes not you and youre not her. shes speaking in

reference as IF

> she WERE in your position, that maybe she doesnt think she would be

'strong'

> enough or capable of doing what you do. and have done. no need to

get so

> defensive, unless you really care what she says.

>

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In a message dated 7/1/2003 9:43:00 PM Eastern Standard Time,

heaven20seven@... writes:

> Are you that insecure to care about what someone you don't even know

> says?

> to such a degree you feel like bashing your head against the wall? who cares

>

> what she says. shes not you and youre not her. shes speaking in reference as

> IF

> she WERE in your position, that maybe she doesnt think she would be 'strong'

>

> enough or capable of doing what you do. and have done. no need to get so

> defensive, unless you really care what she says.

>

> -

>

Well said Jess EXACTLY my thoughts. What works for one person doesnt work

for others.

s the Unique Princess

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> , I loved how you described the intimate role you have in

raising

> your children. I'd only like to add that indeed there are difficult

> aspects for children growing up with disabled parents.

I definately agree. They will always have peers that are freaked out

their mom's in a wheelchair. There will always be places I can't go

with them or things I can't do with them. And it is A LOT more work

figuring out the logistics of parenting with a disability. I really

try to be sensitive to this fact and go out of my way to make sure

that friends get their questions answered and that they feel included.

Sometimes I succeed at being a good parent, sometimes I don't - just

like every other parent in the world.

> I hope to see less fighting and more sharing and support of

differences on

> this topic.

I'm with you on this!

Jenn

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Some things just don't work as well for others. I don't see why it makes a

difference to you if someone w/SMA says that to you. We all know everyone

w/SMA can do things that other people w/SMA can't. I would apologize for what I

said, if I didnt think it made sense.

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In a message dated 7/1/2003 9:54:50 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

alrt@... writes:

> But you really attacked the folks w/SMA

> on this list who do have kids

When did I attack anyone, Alana? Everyone's attacking me b/c I hit a sore

spot. Someone asked why we don't talk about pregnancy and I gave an answer. Did

I

not say that if someone wants to have a baby, then more power to you? Have 10

babies for all I care. What anyone does is their business... not mine.

I'm sorry you got offended Jenn but they're legitimate reasons for me not to

have a baby. You got all huffy. Did I say " Jenn had a baby just to fill some

viod in her life? " No, those were some reasons poeople give for having babies

and I was pointing them out. And no my logic would not extent to significant

others. S/O's have the chance to assess the situation and then decide, yes this

is something I want to be part of or no it isn't.

And Amy, what exactly do I have to be jealous of??

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Sorry this thread went so far astray...

Anyway, here is my experience with my pregnancies as a person with SMA 2:

WEAKNESS: This was one of the first ways I knew when I was pregnant.

I got weaker. A computer disk suddenly felt like it weighed 100lbs

instead of the 20lb it usually seemed to weigh to me. Towards my 3rd

trimesters I felt a little better. After the kids were born, my

physical strength seemed to bounce right back. It reminds me of when

a battery is over-extended. As soon as the extra energy drain is

gone, it starts working properly again.

TIREDNESS: I literally slept every single minute I could during the

1st trimesters. My husband would have to wake me up to eat.

STOMACH: As it got bigger, I leaned back more and more in my

wheelchair. I don't walk or stand at all, so I don't know how that

would've been affected. I was heavier for my hubby to pick up though!

BREATHING: I've heard others with SMA who have been pregnant

mentioning it has affected their breathing. I really never had

trouble with this during pregnancy (Now birth was another issue. See

my web site for details

http://www.isoc.net/brokeninside/nekrosys/Epistles.htm ). Instead of

growing up into my lungs, my babies seemed to grow *out*.

WEIGHT GAIN: Having SMA, it is really hard to get off the extra

weight post-pregnancy. I think my womb is permanantly stretched out

of shape!

Hope that helps!

Jenn <willing to answer any more questions>

> Hi everyone. I was the one who originally posted my question about

SMA III

> and pregnancy. A lot of you have had some good points and comments,

but no

> one has really answered my questions. Like what were the physical

changes

> that you went through with your pregnancy, did you become weaker after

> having the baby, or was your strength regained like it was before the

> pregnancy. Any one with SMA who can answer these questions for me,

would be

> so helpful. Thanks again everyone for all of your postings on this

subject.

>

>

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In a message dated 7/2/2003 2:31:50 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

nekrosys@... writes:

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> Yes, if YOU are in a situation where your friends and loved ones would

> even consider leaving you without help with a newborn baby because

> they were 'inconvenienced' by it, then by all means DO NOT have a

> baby.

Who said they would leave me without help? There you assuming things again...

chill out a bit. They would help but why add to an already stressful

situation? They're encouraging but its a matter of prefrence.

By the way, what is the name of the book you referenced in your

previous post?

The Psychological & Social Impact of Disability by Marinelli and

Arthur Dell Orto (Editors).

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> I'm sorry you got offended Jenn but they're legitimate reasons for

me not to

> have a baby.

Yes, if YOU are in a situation where your friends and loved ones would

even consider leaving you without help with a newborn baby because

they were 'inconvenienced' by it, then by all means DO NOT have a

baby. I was not and am not not in that situation so the decisions I

made to bring two pregnancies to completion were not selfish. In fact

it was self-less. My children are ALIVE. They wouldn't be if I only

thought of my self and all the things people tell me I can't do. I

agree that it is NOT something to be entered into without relentless

self-appraisals and planning. I realize children are not goldfish

that can be set up on a shelf until you can deal with them. (Trust

me, this becomes painfully apparent when they are standing next to

your bed in the middle of the night barfing their guts up.) I think

we need to have committed spouses/significant others before even

imagining ourselves parenting. If you don't imagine you are

physically or emotional able to have kids, then DON'T! But don't

imply in some round-about way that our vision is somehow clouded

because we have or are trying to.

> No, those were some reasons poeople give for having babies

> and I was pointing them out.

You only mentioned the stupid, self-serving reasons people have

babies. People have babies also because they respect the sanctity of

life. People have babies because they are persons who deserve a

chance at life.

> And no my logic would not extent to significant

> others. S/O's have the chance to assess the situation and then

decide, yes this

> is something I want to be part of or no it isn't.

Yes, it does logically extend to that. If my needs are an

insufferable burden on my children, then they are an insufferable

burden to my parents, my husband and my friends. Why would anyone

with this mentally even ALLOW another person to even THINK of

'sacrificing' themselves to become involved with them and hence their

needs? They might have a choice but why would an UNSELFISH person

EVER allow an another person to get into the situation where they had

to make it?

Besides helping one another is part of being a family. I help them

with their homework. They blend up my lunch shake. I help them

figure out solutions to problems. They help my head up if it gets

knocked down. I pay the bills. They get the money out of my purse to

pay for something at the store. I'm not asking extraordinary things

from them. My husband chose to marry me, knowing I'd loose my

attendant benefits, and HE takes can of my personal care. If I was a

fully able-bodied person, my kids would still have to clean their

room, do some housework and wash the dishes. Every kid I've ever met

whose parents allowed them to play, play and play some more, without

any responsibilities, has been a big, whiny, spoiled brat.

By the way, what is the name of the book you referenced in your

previous post?

Anyway, I've expended far too much energy on this petty quarrel. I

need to get back to be a MOTHER.

Over and out... Jenn

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Hi Everyone,

I have admiration and love for all the mothers on this list and think

everyone has the right to choose to have children or not with any

disability. But I would like to share this with you and ask if any of

you ever feared your children would feel this way.

I had a friend who had MD, not SMA but similar symptoms, who had adopted

a child when she was 25 and married. I met her later in life after she

had been divorced for a while and her daughter was about 17. Her

daughter liked to talk to me and I think she felt she could confide in

me. One day she told me to please not tell her mother but she thought

her mother had adopted her just so she would have someone to take care

of her as she got worse. I found this so sad to think this beautiful

child would feel this way.

Pamela

P.S. Please do not misunderstand, I am not saying that any of you even

thought this. I would just like to hear your thoughts about it.

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In a message dated 7/2/2003 12:20:23 AM Central Daylight Time,

nicoleroberts@... writes:

> have also chosen not to have children, or I

> wouldn¹t say chosen ‹ they¹ve just never seemed an option to me perhaps

> because of all the logistics involved ‹ but honestly I¹ve never had a

desire

> for them, I was born without the mothering instinct! I¹m happy with my

> husband and family of animals and adult lifestyle ‹ and I¹m happy when the

> kids/babies are screaming at the mall that I am NOT responsible for them!!!

> (see no mothering instinct, I think quiet babies are cute but that¹s as far

> as it goes...)

Haven't you been pregnant twice?

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In a message dated 7/2/2003 10:56:01 AM Central Daylight Time,

desiree_parisien@... writes:

> A lot of you have had some good points and comments, but no

> one has really answered my questions. Like what were the physical changes

> that you went through with your pregnancy, did you become weaker after

> having the baby, or was your strength regained like it was before the

> pregnancy. Any one with SMA who can answer these questions for me, would be

>

> so helpful. Thanks again everyone for all of your postings on this subject.

I was the first to respond and I did answer all of your questions. Perhaps

it was overlooked? I'll resend it privately if you'd like. =)

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In a message dated 7/2/2003 2:26:49 PM Central Daylight Time,

DeTannous@... writes:

> And Amy, what exactly do I have to be jealous of??

Who said YOU had anything to be jealous of? Talk about hitting sore spots.

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Pamela -

I have wondered if my children do or ever will feel this way. It's

one of the things I try 'to keep tabs on'. I've even wondered a few

times whether or not my husband secretly had this fear, ie - that I

married him to obtain a round-the-clock PA. It really is a juggling

act to get your needs met without anyone feeling taken advantage of.

I hope my kids feel its OK to share even these more painful or

potentially hurtful feelings with me. If not, I hope they can find a

kind friend to talk to like your friend's daughter did. :)

Jenn

> Hi Everyone,

> I have admiration and love for all the mothers on this list and think

> everyone has the right to choose to have children or not with any

> disability. But I would like to share this with you and ask if any of

> you ever feared your children would feel this way.

> I had a friend who had MD, not SMA but similar symptoms, who had adopted

> a child when she was 25 and married. I met her later in life after she

> had been divorced for a while and her daughter was about 17. Her

> daughter liked to talk to me and I think she felt she could confide in

> me. One day she told me to please not tell her mother but she thought

> her mother had adopted her just so she would have someone to take care

> of her as she got worse. I found this so sad to think this beautiful

> child would feel this way.

>

> Pamela

>

> P.S. Please do not misunderstand, I am not saying that any of you even

> thought this. I would just like to hear your thoughts about it.

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In a message dated 7/2/2003 10:18:12 PM Central Daylight Time,

heaven20seven@... writes:

> Amy you said something about jealousy. And why would you say that, when

> you're scared of having a baby?

How are the two related? I never once said I was scared of having Olivia -

what I said was that I'm afraid to be intubated because each time I've had to

be, I've gone into respiratory distress and ended up with a trach. When I

became pregnant, I accepted the fact that I may end up dying because of it. You

were terrified before your tonsilectomy and you're one of the most devout

religious people that I know - one who believes in god's plan and dying when

it's

" your time. " I think I'm allowed these fears of losing my life as were you.

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In a message dated 7/2/2003 11:49:24 PM Mountain Standard Time,

blueyedaze@... writes:

Yeah , I believe in god's plan and dying when it's

" my time " whats wrong w/that?

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