Sorry, I have been absent

[Guest guest]

Hi :

No apology is necessary. I am thinking of your son and others like him who

are part of our military. ly it did not take long for this GADer to

worry about her sons being involved in some military action and they are

still in high school. So your concern for your son is so normal and

understandable.

I hope that you family and all other families affected by this terror will

find some renewed peace and much love in the difficult days ahead. Take

care, aloha, Kathy (h)

kathyh@...

At 10:02 AM 9/13/01 -0700, you wrote:

>I want to apologize to the list for my absence the

>last few days. After collecting myself once I learned

>of the horrific events that have unfolded here in the

>last few days I attempted to keep up with my mail only

>to be thwarted by several days of All Circuits are

>busy messages. We live 30 minutes south west of

>Philadelphia and the eerie calm in the skys has only

>been made more glaring when a plane does fly by. I

>have spent a few moments here and there in my own

>selfish grief and fear for my son who is in the Navy.

>To give some history - I was terrifed of him enlisting

>last year because I just had one of those " Mommy "

>feelings that something of this magnitude would happen

>and he would be sent away to help deal with it. He is

>still waiting, with the rest of us to see what is to

>happen, he has been in the Nuke school, but all bets

>are off at this point as to where he will end up! Part

>of my feels guilty and selfish, but after many years

>in Al-Anon, and being exposed to more mental health

>professionals than I care to count I have learned that

>feelings " just are " , it is what you do about them that

>matters most. The other parts of my heart go out to

>those fmilies who are grieving the loss/possible loss

>of their loved ones. The most I can do for them at

>this moment is to continue to carry on and honor them

>with my prayers. My young children are understandably

>frightened, fortunately the school opted to let us

>parents tell the younger children and ehy have been

>great about sending home information for us to read to

>help us talk to the kids and to help them to feel

>safe. My OCD child has been very frightened, being

>afraid to go to sleep, hearing noises, wondering if

>the highjackers were caught...one of the hardest

>things to explain to him was that the " bad guys "

>didn't jump off the plane. Fortunately, he had an

>already scheduled appointment yesterday with his

>psychologist and she also talked to him, reminding him

>that there are millions of people world wide who are

>looking to find whoever was responsible for this

>carnage so that they can ensure that this type of

>thing will never happen again. Reminding him of these

>facts is helping, along with limiting TV viewing (they

>saw nothing on this subject yesterday!)and newspaper

>reading, and a good dose of patience on our part is

>helping also. I feel incredibly grateful that all my

>loved ones and friends who might have been in NYC or

>DC were not there, and my friend who is never in the

>country was actually here! I have read all your posts

>today and it is so great to see that even though our

>kids are having a harder time than usual with this, we

>are all making it! Keep up your exceptional work!

> in Southeastern PA

[Guest guest]

I want to apologize to the list for my absence the

last few days. After collecting myself once I learned

of the horrific events that have unfolded here in the

last few days I attempted to keep up with my mail only

to be thwarted by several days of All Circuits are

busy messages. We live 30 minutes south west of

Philadelphia and the eerie calm in the skys has only

been made more glaring when a plane does fly by. I

have spent a few moments here and there in my own

selfish grief and fear for my son who is in the Navy.

To give some history - I was terrifed of him enlisting

last year because I just had one of those " Mommy "

feelings that something of this magnitude would happen

and he would be sent away to help deal with it. He is

still waiting, with the rest of us to see what is to

happen, he has been in the Nuke school, but all bets

are off at this point as to where he will end up! Part

of my feels guilty and selfish, but after many years

in Al-Anon, and being exposed to more mental health

professionals than I care to count I have learned that

feelings " just are " , it is what you do about them that

matters most. The other parts of my heart go out to

those fmilies who are grieving the loss/possible loss

of their loved ones. The most I can do for them at

this moment is to continue to carry on and honor them

with my prayers. My young children are understandably

frightened, fortunately the school opted to let us

parents tell the younger children and ehy have been

great about sending home information for us to read to

help us talk to the kids and to help them to feel

safe. My OCD child has been very frightened, being

afraid to go to sleep, hearing noises, wondering if

the highjackers were caught...one of the hardest

things to explain to him was that the " bad guys "

didn't jump off the plane. Fortunately, he had an

already scheduled appointment yesterday with his

psychologist and she also talked to him, reminding him

that there are millions of people world wide who are

looking to find whoever was responsible for this

carnage so that they can ensure that this type of

thing will never happen again. Reminding him of these

facts is helping, along with limiting TV viewing (they

saw nothing on this subject yesterday!)and newspaper

reading, and a good dose of patience on our part is

helping also. I feel incredibly grateful that all my

loved ones and friends who might have been in NYC or

DC were not there, and my friend who is never in the

country was actually here! I have read all your posts

today and it is so great to see that even though our

kids are having a harder time than usual with this, we

are all making it! Keep up your exceptional work!

in Southeastern PA

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