Need help with daughter

[Guest guest]

Hello- I am new to the group. My husband and I have a nine year old

with " aspergers syndrome " and a 6 year old daughter with low-

functioning autism. Within the last year or so, she has been steadily

gaining weight and is now quite heavy set. Her pediatrician is doing

some genetic testing to rule out non-diet related issues. She is a very

picky eater, and we have made futile attempts to change that with the

assistance of a nutrishionist, but to no avail . She now attends a life

skills program in a local elementary school, and that seems to be going

well, but she has much different behaviors at home (???) Her teacher

tells me that she is always calm , happy and quiet, yet at home she

gets upset quite easily, and is yelling, hitting, and has lately

started to bite. Can anyone give us a bit of advice/direction on how to

effectively curb the behaviors before they get worse? Thank you

[Guest guest]

You may want to meet with the teachers, therapists, and aides at the

school to find out how they deal with her whenever she hits or bites,

etc. I have frequent meetings with my son's teachers and we always

send notes back and forth in an effort to " stay on the same page "

when it comes to direction, consequences, etc. This has helped him

(and us, lol) tremendously. When we find something that works, we

stick with it until such time that a tweeking or change may be

necessary.

It may be how they " handle " her. It may be environmental, it may be a

combination of the two.

You might want to consider spending some time observing her at school

to see how she interacts with her environment there. You may discover

some things that you could incorporate at home as well.

I wish you the best of luck!

Kat

>

> Hello- I am new to the group. My husband and I have a nine year old

> with " aspergers syndrome " and a 6 year old daughter with low-

> functioning autism. Within the last year or so, she has been

steadily

> gaining weight and is now quite heavy set. Her pediatrician is

doing

> some genetic testing to rule out non-diet related issues. She is a

very

> picky eater, and we have made futile attempts to change that with

the

> assistance of a nutrishionist, but to no avail . She now attends a

life

> skills program in a local elementary school, and that seems to be

going

> well, but she has much different behaviors at home (???) Her

teacher

> tells me that she is always calm , happy and quiet, yet at home she

> gets upset quite easily, and is yelling, hitting, and has lately

> started to bite. Can anyone give us a bit of advice/direction on

how to

> effectively curb the behaviors before they get worse? Thank you

>

[Guest guest]

>You are really going to think I'm off my rocker, but my son is the

same in some ways, he's self injurous, bites hits and runs his head

into things.

>Anyway when he was about 8 years he was very heavy, he would sit

and rock back and forth all day long or pace. One day we were at my

sisters and she had her treadmill out because she was working out

when we got there, my son saw what she was doing and he wanted to

get on it, but I didn't want him to because I was scared he would

get hurt, but the whole time we were there he kept standing right

there by it, my sister say come on let him try it, so I did.

>He walked on it for the next 25 minutes, and everytime we went

there he wanted to walk on it, some on his birthday my sister

brought it to my house and gave it to me for 20 dollars. He lost

about 20 lbs the first month. I showed him how to put the key in and

turn it on and he started walking all the time instead of sitting

and rocking or hitting and biting, I'm not saying that it stops it

all together. But it sure does where him out.

Mother of Blake now 15yrs

> >

> > Hello- I am new to the group. My husband and I have a nine year

old

> > with " aspergers syndrome " and a 6 year old daughter with low-

> > functioning autism. Within the last year or so, she has been

> steadily

> > gaining weight and is now quite heavy set. Her pediatrician is

> doing

> > some genetic testing to rule out non-diet related issues. She is

a

> very

> > picky eater, and we have made futile attempts to change that

with

> the

> > assistance of a nutrishionist, but to no avail . She now attends

a

> life

> > skills program in a local elementary school, and that seems to

be

> going

> > well, but she has much different behaviors at home (???) Her

> teacher

> > tells me that she is always calm , happy and quiet, yet at home

she

> > gets upset quite easily, and is yelling, hitting, and has lately

> > started to bite. Can anyone give us a bit of advice/direction on

> how to

> > effectively curb the behaviors before they get worse? Thank you

>

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I would think that the walking also helped your son in other areas. I think exercise is suppose to be good for the brain; also so for the mood by increasing endorphins. Pat K

[Guest guest]

I'm guessing the child having the behaviors is the 6 yr old LFA?? I've learned quite a bit with my son, especially since right now he's in acute care psych ward adjusting to a dose of respirdol. Having 2 complete different sets of behaviors is simply part of autism. My son does this as well...he can be a complete angel at school or daycare, then come home and be hell on wheels. The difference is what he comes home to. At school and daycare he has structure that doesn't change...they do such and such at certain times, there's set rules, etc etc. At home we tend to be more lenient..so what if tv time runs over 5 minutes or we eat a half hour later than normal, or if something comes up...it's a part of life that happens. But...those little changes make our auties freak out and act out. For example, I stayed home with my son from Feb thru like Sept....I didn't have to

work, I homeschooled and did OT/PT and had a pretty structured home for him. His behaviors weren't too bad unless he was having a bad day. I had to go back to work in Sept, and had to return him to public school and daycare...at the same time. 2 HUGE changes in his world. The behaviors are now stopping 3months later due to meds....it steadily grew worse til it got to where my son was extremely violent to me and the other children in the home (a 3 yr old girl and a 5 yr old boy). We also had to move, as our home was in great disrepair and not too safe anymore...and that sent him in a tailspin. What seems ok to us...we can accept little changes, even some big changes...sends our little ones into a huge chaotic spin and they can't gather their thoughts and feelings as we do to express their needs, and so they start behaving in the ways you mention. Autism and Aspergers is a pervasive disorder--it doens't effect just one area...it

effects ALL the senses...and each child reacts differently to stimuli regardless of what it is. What is calming to us may skyrocket our kids...what skyrockets us may calm them. Anyway, I hope this helps...I've been there to a certain extent... And since we have a background in nursing and psych, we use it to help our kids... I have 12 years nursing experience, and my bf is a psychiatric RN with peds experience...so we use what we've learned working to help at home. Anggodsgirlie34 <godsgirlie34@...> wrote: Hello- I am new to the group. My husband and I have a nine year old with "aspergers syndrome" and a 6 year old daughter with low-functioning autism. Within the last year or so, she has been steadily gaining weight and is now quite heavy set. Her pediatrician is doing some genetic testing to rule out non-diet related issues. She is a very picky eater, and we have made futile attempts to change that with the assistance of a nutrishionist, but to no avail . She now attends a life skills program in a local elementary school, and that seems to be going well, but she has much different behaviors at home (???) Her teacher tells me that she is always calm , happy and quiet, yet at home she gets upset quite easily, and is yelling, hitting, and has lately started to bite. Can anyone give us a bit of advice/direction on how to effectively curb the

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