Where do I start?

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I am so glad to find you guys! Let me give you a bit of background

(bear with me!) We are new here. We have 3 biological children, DS

age 10 autism, DS age almost 7 Asperger's, DD age 5, and two foster

daughters ages 8 and 6.

Our 10 year old was not diagnosed with autism until three years

ago. We suspected it at 2, but were told he was 'too social'. And

granted, on good moments he just looks developmentally delayed. On

bad moments, very autistic. He is pretty verbal, functions at about

a 6 year old level; behaviorially he functions more like a 3 year

old.

I just received the file on behaviors. DS's main problems are

transitioning from a desired activity and handling the word 'no.'

Basically not getting his way. It has been very frustrating because

we have never to our knowledge 'given in', and while is much more

compliant than he was a few years ago, I am stuck with how to get

him even more compliant. His worse behaviors are usually at a store-

--he usually just does not want to leave, which can make check out

time a real trial. Prior to going I will explain/make a schedule

that we will do A, B, C. Sometimes he does great and other times he

has a meltdown. It is to the point where he walks away sulkily and

yells. My goal is to be able to go places without so much stress

with will he or won't he behave.

Can anyone give me some concrete examples using the ideas from the 5

behavior file?

Thanks so much!

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