Re: Question Re Shoving/Pushing

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Have you tried grabbing and hugging him when he pushes? Maybe a different reaction to his pushes might change his routine. It sounds like that what the pushes has become for him. If he is not trying to hurt then punshing him should not be the case just redirect him to something different hopefully will work. As far as the kids at school I dont know. Maybe if the teacher gives him some pressure or sensory input before they go outside he will stop. Does he have speech? If not maybe this is his way to say Hi, play with me!!! My daughter is 6 ,and before she could talk after 3 she use to do things like that even pinch for attention!! Just my thoughts.

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Have you tried doing a social story for him regarding specific examples of when pushing/shoving is appropriate (i.e. various sports, physical games, etc.) and situations where it is not appropriate? Heidi Question Re Shoving/Pushing Hello All!I am the grandmother of a 3 1/2 yr old highly functioning autistic boy. He is the apple of our eyes and is so precious. Our daughter is going through so much stress because she has some health problems, her husband is in the Army stationed across country, and she is raising him by herself. The child goes to pre-school and is very intelligent except for the usual ADHD and total disregard for "orders", etc. Our problem with him at this particular time is shoving/pushing. This came about almost 6-8 months ago when he witnessed other children on the playground, playing hide and seek. When they pushed one another, they all laughed and were (to him) having fun. Since that time, he constantly pushes and shoves everyone he comes into contact with, including other children at school where he gets constant reprimands. We have tried time out on the couch, sending him to his room, everything we can possibly think of and nothing works. He pushed my elderly aunt recently and she almost fell. He does not do this purposefully to hurt anyone. It is just his way of a friendly greeting and playful activity. Any help or suggestions would be so greatly appreciated. THANK YOU!!

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Pushing and shoving ,crashing,even in Friendliness is "imput " Your grandson is communicating he wants to be friends.Buy a large Pilates ball and let him bounce, crash , kick .Believe me I wish I had bought that ball alot sooner. CB now "crashes" when he's angry and thats the tough behavior to break.First day of school was tough, CB took his clothes off ( in cooking class, I think because it was so hot in CA this week )when told to put them back on he did, but then pinched staff members. No school today.....RC meeting with Mommy.

CB's Granny

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No we haven't, but definitely will! He usually won't sit still for us to read

anything to him, but maybe a very short story would work. Thank you so much!!!

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You seem to have hit the nail on the head!! Thank you so much! We will

definitely try your ideas.

-Charlene

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My son (just turned five) does alot of these behaviors. They emerged

just a couple months ago. He always has his hands on everyone.

Pushing,shoving, grabbing, etc. His teachers/therapists say

it's " sensory " issues. He seeks out the sensory input. He is rough.

He even hurts me at times and he doesn't do it to be mean. I'm still

starting to deal with this sensory stuff but his teacher said he's

doing so well in school, but his sensory need is disabling him from

learning. Sometimes I think it's the sensory more than ADHD. Because

he can sit and do a 'preferred activity' for hours. I guess it's a

little of everything, hence " spectrum disorder " . I received great

suggestions from a couple groups i'm on TLD-SID and DSI kids or

something like that. Do a search.

I bet u it's sensory.......

Ann

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I think the last group you referred to is " DSISpectrumKids " . I'm on that one

too and it's a great group.

I am one of those who said, and believe, that it may not always be sensory. It

is, often, sensory and I understand that and we work on that. I also think, at

least with Evan, some of it is trying to communicate something and also about

personal space. He's sometimes uncomfortable when someone gets to close to him

if he's not wanting anyone that close at that time so he tries to make them " go

away " by shoving or pushing. I'm using some picture symbols and some ASL signs

in addition to trying to teach him that it's ok to say " please move away from

me " or " don't touch me " .

Debra

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> From: " Ann " <jerzyannie@...>

> Date: 2004/09/08 Wed AM 09:49:45 EDT

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> Subject: Re: Question Re Shoving/Pushing

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> My son (just turned five) does alot of these behaviors. They emerged

> just a couple months ago. He always has his hands on everyone.

> Pushing,shoving, grabbing, etc. His teachers/therapists say

> it's " sensory " issues. He seeks out the sensory input. He is rough.

> He even hurts me at times and he doesn't do it to be mean. I'm still

> starting to deal with this sensory stuff but his teacher said he's

> doing so well in school, but his sensory need is disabling him from

> learning. Sometimes I think it's the sensory more than ADHD. Because

> he can sit and do a 'preferred activity' for hours. I guess it's a

> little of everything, hence " spectrum disorder " . I received great

> suggestions from a couple groups i'm on TLD-SID and DSI kids or

> something like that. Do a search.

>

> I bet u it's sensory.......

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> Ann

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My son is HF too and if I tell him his behavior is hurting my feelings (I pretend to withdraw and lower my head to cry) he will stop because he doesn't like it when his feelings get hurt.