9 year old daughter with ocd and scrupulosity

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I have been reading the posts here for awhile now and am wondering if

anyone out there can help me? My daughter is 9 and is currently

seeing a therapist who says she has ocd scrupulosity " tendencies " and

an anxiety disorder. She is not taking any medications at this time

but I am hoping that she will soon.

Tara feels like she has to be perfect in God's eyes or something bad

or scarry to her will happen. Her fears change it seems but the

biggy right now is storms. Thunder and lightning are terrifying to

her but now it has grown to wind, rain, and clouds. So if she wakes

up in the morning and sees anything that she thinks will cause bad

weather, her day is doomed. She will do everything in her power to

be perfect and is constantly asking if even the littlest things are

sins. She feels like objects have feelings and feels bad if she

doesn't switch sleeping with stuffed animals for fear the other one

will feel bad. She said the other day that she didn't want to put

the viser down in the car for fear the sun would feel bad. It really

bothers me and I just keep telling her that these things don't feel

yet no matter what I say she still keeps asking. She is forever

needing reassurance. Over and over saying, please, thank-you and I'm

sorry. People who meet her say what a polite child she is and yet I

want to scream and say " yea, but she doesn't necessarily want to be

like this! " I know I should be grateful that she is kind and all but

I know it is tearing her apart. She tells me that she just wants it

to go away. She cries alot and I am worried about it affecting her

school and social life. She is just so kind, I worry about her and

she is extremely stressed and so am I.

Just today I decided to document how many questions she asked me if

it was okay that she did something so that maybe the therapist would

be more aware. I have so many questions and feel like I have no one

to talk to. I have OCD myself but not so much with scrupe issues.

Sometimes I wonder if I may be obsessing a little myself on worrying

about her. I don't know if I am supposed to keep answering her

questions, if I am supposed to get angry, if I am enabling, I just

don't know. I am beginning to think I may be loosing it myself and I

don't like that feeling. I want to be strong for my daughter. Any

suggestions or comments would be greatly appreciated. I know I

kindof went on and on about this but I am just so concerned. Thanks

for listening, Karla