take care of yourself: depression

[Guest guest]

I am getting divorced. I don't want to, but my husband feels he

can no longer support my needs, my laziness, (half CMT, half

depression) as well as deal with my deceptions (I lied to him about

smoking, several times.) I take anti-depressants, but have not been

able to afford therapy since before I married five years ago (this

month). I thought I could make it, but now that my husband is super

stressed and depressed, he can't handle it anymore.

This is painfully ironic that now that he understands my needs

better, he is leaving. And he always criticised me for looking after

my own needs first, before I took care of his. Well, apparently, I

didn't do that ENOUGH!

There is nothing I can do, but I am many miles from my family,

not working and going to school. I cannot afford this by myself. I

need your prayers, please.

, 26

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

I can not comprehend how hard this must be on you. Of course you must

know you must come first. Some of us women in the world always put others first

before ourselves. I know from personal experience that this alone can cause us

to be overwhelmed. I have 5 children and homeschool all but one. My son, is in

the 8th grade and this will be his last year of school.

I had quite a change having the children at home. They range from 17 to 8

months. However, we must do what is best for us and what makes us happy. Do not

let anyone tell you, you are lazy. Having physical challenges is totally

different then being lazy. I can not tell you I understand about depression

because I do not have to deal with that in my life. However, I empathisize

greatly with your sadness. Know that us ers must support one another.

Possibly you deserve better than a person who does not care to take the

time to understand you for who YOU are.

Thanks,

heidi mother of 5

[Guest guest]

,

Well you can't fix your husband but you can fix your depression.

Depression is far worse than the CMT. And it makes CMT far worse.

I had depression so bad at times I didn't even want to be around myself.

Can you get a better prescription for meds? They should work better than they

are if your still feeling bad. I took an antidepressant that took the edge off

my depression. It wasn't until I had something stronger that I knew the

difference.

[Guest guest]

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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Even though he doesn't know it now, your

husband is losing a very precious part of his life, as well. Know my prayers are

with you. Also know you may have more resources than you know. Although not

everyone who prays feels comfortable in a faith community, if you have one, let

them in on what is going on. If you don't have one, consider finding one.

You may be eligible for financial assistance from your state's

department of vocational rehabilitation, both for funding your

education and for helping you find work, if you are able. Hang in and hang on.

Jim

[Guest guest]

,

I can't imagine how hard this is for you especially not having family around to

support you.

I too got separated at 27 years old with a 5 month old baby. Only had a

part-time job with no benefits. It was incredibly hard, but thank goodness my

parents could help.

Keep taking the antidressants and if you feel they are not helping, think about

getting it switched. You can probably do that through your GP so it should be

covered under health insurance that I hope you had with your husband. My sister

gave me a coffee mug that read,

" Better to have loved and lost than to be stuck with a miserable loser the rest

of your life "

Fast forward 17 years and my son is doing well getting ready for college. I have

finally accepted and embraced CMT and got involved in sports activities for the

disabled. Find the little things that you enjoy doing and start 1 day at a time.

I promise you this will get better. Be patient and forgiving to yourself.

Take Care!

Jackie

[Guest guest]

> I am getting divorced. I don't want to, but my husband feels

he

> can no longer support my needs, my laziness, (half CMT, half

> depression) as well as deal with my deceptions (I lied to him about

> smoking, several times.) I take anti-depressants, but have not been

> able to afford therapy since before I married five years ago (this

> month). I thought I could make it, but now that my husband is super

> stressed and depressed, he can't handle it anymore.

> This is painfully ironic that now that he understands my needs

> better, he is leaving. And he always criticised me for looking after

> my own needs first, before I took care of his. Well, apparently, I

> didn't do that ENOUGH!

> There is nothing I can do, but I am many miles from my family,

> not working and going to school. I cannot afford this by myself. I

> need your prayers, please.

>

> , 26

Hang in there you can do it I was married for 25 years and had

never been on my own but i made it. I will be praying for you. Sue