Re: Jen / hurtful comments from family members re: weight

[Guest guest]

, I love the Decide. Commit. Succeed. I've been trying to think of something to put on my gym wall, and I may have to go with that. I don't know that I've heard it before..... Love it!Darcy

On 7/28/06, Pink Pussycat <pinkpussycat@...> wrote:

Dear Jen, This actually isn't off topic. Carolyn is absolutely correct, your mom and aunts are projecting their own insecurities on you. When I was overweight my family had no problem with pointing it out to me, and yes, it did hurt my feelings and made me just eat more, using eating as escape and a way to deal with feelings. When the pounds started coming off, did they compliment me? NO. Instead they tried to make me feel guilty for spending so much time at the gym and spending less time with them. I was f*cked no matter what I did.

You have to learn to follow your own drummer, ignore their nasty comments, and know that they are speaking from their own feelings of inadequacy. Keep plugging along with those workouts, and set aside time, a set, routine schedule, that you can commit to keeping. If a hot guy asks

you out on a date for Wednesday at 6:00 and you have that scheduled to work out, tell him you'd love to meet him but will 7:30 work instead? Either that or make yourself get up early that morning and do it then instead. I like Beachbody's tagline: Decide. Commit. Succeed. (I think that's it). That pretty much sums it up! I hope you're feeling happier soon.

Hugs,

[Guest guest]

Thanks that does help. I just wish people would mind their own business when it concerns other peoples health....they need to either discuss it with the person face to face or keep their mouths shut. I'm glad that I'm not the only one that has experienced this and that their are very supportive people here. I have the feeling that when I start exercising more my Mom will complain about that! Too bad she's my Mother NOT my BOSS! Jen Pink Pussycat <pinkpussycat@...> wrote: Dear Jen, This actually isn't off topic. Carolyn is absolutely correct, your mom and aunts are projecting their own insecurities on you. When I was overweight my family had no problem with pointing it out to me, and yes, it did hurt my feelings and made me just eat more, using eating as escape and a way to deal with feelings. When the pounds started coming off, did they compliment me? NO. Instead they tried to make me feel guilty for spending so

much time at the gym and spending less time with them. I was f*cked no matter what I did. You have to learn to follow your own drummer, ignore their nasty comments, and know that they are speaking from their own feelings of inadequacy. Keep plugging along with those workouts, and set aside time, a set, routine schedule, that you can commit to keeping. If a hot guy asks you out on a date for Wednesday at 6:00 and you have that scheduled to work out, tell him you'd love to meet him but will 7:30 work instead? Either that or make yourself get up early that morning and do it then instead. I like Beachbody's tagline: Decide. Commit. Succeed. (I think that's it). That pretty much sums it up! I hope you're feeling happier soon. Hugs,

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