9 year old daughter with ocd and scrupulosity

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I think your concern is very appropriate. This certainly is disabling for her and causing her a lot of pain. There are lots of people on this group who can give you much better advice about medication and therapy than I can, but I can certainly relate to your problem.

My 15 yo son also has scrupulosity tendencies and exhibits some of the same concerns, such as whether he gives equal attention to his stuffed animals, etc. He is also extremely religious, so I have been very watchful to see that his religiosity does not get out of hand. So far he seems to be within normal limits, but new problems can pop up so I have to be aware.

Good luck in finding a good therapist and someone who is knowledgeable about managing medications.

Judy

9 year old daughter with ocd and scrupulosity

I have been reading the posts here for awhile now and am wondering if anyone out there can help me? My daughter is 9 and is currently seeing a therapist who says she has ocd scrupulosity "tendencies" and an anxiety disorder. She is not taking any medications at this time but I am hoping that she will soon. Tara feels like she has to be perfect in God's eyes or something bad or scarry to her will happen. Her fears change it seems but the biggy right now is storms. Thunder and lightning are terrifying to her but now it has grown to wind, rain, and clouds. So if she wakes up in the morning and sees anything that she thinks will cause bad weather, her day is doomed. She will do everything in her power to be perfect and is constantly asking if even the littlest things are sins. She feels like objects have feelings and feels bad if she doesn't switch sleeping with stuffed animals for fear the other one will feel bad. She said the other day that she didn't want to put the viser down in the car for fear the sun would feel bad. It really bothers me and I just keep telling her that these things don't feel yet no matter what I say she still keeps asking. She is forever needing reassurance. Over and over saying, please, thank-you and I'm sorry. People who meet her say what a polite child she is and yet I want to scream and say "yea, but she doesn't necessarily want to be like this!" I know I should be grateful that she is kind and all but I know it is tearing her apart. She tells me that she just wants it to go away. She cries alot and I am worried about it affecting her school and social life. She is just so kind, I worry about her and she is extremely stressed and so am I.Just today I decided to document how many questions she asked me if it was okay that she did something so that maybe the therapist would be more aware. I have so many questions and feel like I have no one to talk to. I have OCD myself but not so much with scrupe issues. Sometimes I wonder if I may be obsessing a little myself on worrying about her. I don't know if I am supposed to keep answering her questions, if I am supposed to get angry, if I am enabling, I just don't know. I am beginning to think I may be loosing it myself and I don't like that feeling. I want to be strong for my daughter. Any suggestions or comments would be greatly appreciated. I know I kindof went on and on about this but I am just so concerned. Thanks for listening, KarlaYou may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing listserv@... . In the body of your message write: subscribe OCD-L your name. You may subscribe to the Parents of Adults with OCD List at parentsofadultswithOCD . You may access the files, links, and archives for our list at . Our list advisors are Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., and Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Kathy Hammes, Jule Monnens, Gail Pesses, Kathy , Roman, and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues, problems, or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at harkins@... .