Re: Feeling miserable

[Guest guest]

Lee,

I once felt much the same as you. I avoided " sick " people, but my reason was

because I thought that admitting I was " sick " meant admitting that I was weak.

I've since learned that all of us who are dealing with illnesses are much

stronger than I could have ever imagined. By talking with other people who are

going through similar things as me I've learned that I am strong. Much, much

stronger than I could have ever imagined.

I thank every single person in this group for giving so freely of themselves and

for supporting me and eachother.

Thank you.

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-- Lee Bentov <leeben12@...> wrote:

Hi Donna,

Thank you for sharing so much of your life and losses

with me. I really feel honored. For so long I have

tried to stay away from groups of " sick " people but

have become so enriched since joining the groups. I

have learned so much from others - that you can

survive one day at time, that enjoying even the small

things makes it worthwhile, that people still care and

that my life not as bad as I thought - there are

others who are suffering more and may need my support.

I am saddened to hear about your losses but you sound

as if you have moved on. I so understand your

disappointment with your counselor - its a disgrace

that they even get a licence. There should be some

kind of test to evaluate hteir ability to empathize

with people in stressful situations. I was seeing a

psychologist when I was diagnosed with lung cancer and

continued for a long time. When I lost my voice 9could

barely whisper), I wrote him a letter and said i was

devastated by this loss and could we try to figure

something out - like email correspondence. well, I

received this cold letter stating that he could not

justify such an action with the insurance company etc

etc. He never asked how i was doing etc. As you said

good riddance but now i am a bit wary of trying with

someone new - its hard for me to breath and talk and i

really dont trust them at all.

I do have moments of peace and places of peace. Your

place on the lake sound like heaven. I am really

hoping that I may even find a place out of Arizona to

spend the summer - the heat in summer is unbearable

and i need humidity. i like to plan even if the plans

dont work out

Have a pain free and peaceful day,

Thank you and soft hugs,

Lee

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[Guest guest]

Lee,I'm sorry to hear you are going through so much. I think most, if not all of us in this group know what it's like to be depressed as a result of our medical issues. Honestly, I don't tend to post here much, and that is one of the main reasons; when I'm depressed, I isolate myself, often to the extent of not wanting to talk even to people online. I'm starting to " snap out of " a depressive episode I've been dealing with for over a year, so I'm hoping I'll become more of a " fixture " on this list than I have in the past. Anyway, I just wanted to welcome you to the group, even though it's rotten that you have a reason to be here. Any time you need to talk or vent, we're here.

Tracey-- Tracey White (tracey.white@...)Life Partner to PiskurCo-parent/co-trainer to Buddy the Wonder Puppy, Physical Assistance/Psychiatric Service-Dog-In-Training; and Pitter (AKA: Issue Kitty)

[Guest guest]

> Lee,

>

> I once felt much the same as you. I avoided " sick " people, but my reason

was because I thought that admitting I was " sick " meant admitting that I was

weak.

I still struggle with that concept. Stay mostly to myself.

>

> I've since learned that all of us who are dealing with illnesses are much

stronger than I could have ever imagined. By talking with other people who

are going through similar things as me I've learned that I am strong. Much,

much stronger than I could have ever imagined.

And it is so strengthening to have someone in the medical field say

something about that. My physical therapist is fantastic - helping me with

just plain gaining strength - and addressing the long term disability

problems (lymphadema).

>

> I thank every single person in this group for giving so freely of

themselves and for supporting me and eachother.

>

> Thank you.

>

>

Ditto

JonquilJan

Learn something new every day

As long as you are learning, you are living

When you stop learning, you start dying

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[Guest guest]

Hi Lee! Welcome to the group! I too am relativiely new! I'm soooo very sorry that you are sooo ill and so is your Mom! I pray that you will feel a LOT better soon and that your depression lifts! Does your doctor have you on any meds for your depression? I know lots of people that get relief from their depression with meds but it's just an idea: only yours if you want it. I think it is only normal to feel tired with all you are going thru! Sleep heals my friend so if you need it, I say go for it! I am no where near as sick as you but do have some diseases that keep me in and I have some chronic pain so I totally understand your illnesses/depression etc. All I can tell you is what works for me: just keep going, try to find things to make you laugh for laughter is the best medicine! I watch a lot of dvd's: lately I really am into the old sitcoms like 'All in the family,' etc. they make me laugh and keep my mind off my illness/pain.

Music also helps. I wish you all the best! My heart goes out to you my friend! ((((((( Hugs! )))))) . :)Lee <leeben12@...> wrote: Hi All, My name is Lee, am 54yrs old, widowed with one grown son. I live withmy mother who is nearly blind from complications of diabetes. I wassupposed to help her but it turns out she is helping me. We make quitea pair - she cant see and I cant talk...Since 2002 i have been hit by a bunch of illnesses that have changedmy life forever. I have carcinoid cancer of the lung - 2/3 lungremoved, a pituitary tumor that affects my adrenal glands - nocortisol, and scleroderma that has damaged my kidneys and lungs, mydigestive system and my joints/muscles. I also have thyroid cancer.Had an op that caused paralysis of the vocal cords. Could talk in awhisper and breath a

little but it became worse and I had to undergoan emergency tracheostomy 6 weeks ago - tube in the neck forbreathing. It is irritating, painful and i have become so depressed. I think that I managed quite well before but now i am not functioningat all. I am very fatigued and seem to isolate myself a lot. I feelthat I am a burden on my family and have found that friends that irelied on have suddenly deserted. I cry all the time and am angry atmyself.So glad to have a groupl like this that understands. Thanks for beingthere.Lee~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Being Sick CommunityMessage Archives-/messagesChat:- Scheduled Chats at /chatBookmarks:-Add a website URL you have found useful./linksPersonal Complaints or problems:-Please

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[Guest guest]

Hi Tracey,

Thank you for your welcome and acknowledging thats its

okay to feel the way I do. I too hope to snap out of

it real soon and to be able to contribute to the

group. it is really comforting to know that i have a

safe place to vent if I need it.

I am trying desperately to get out of my funk and have

decided to set small daily goals. Today I will go to

the store to buy some v-neck shirts - need vees so it

does not hurt my trach. Whats better than shopping

right? I need ot spoil myself and still feel that I

can look good. I have let myself go so badly.

Have a great day,

Lee

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Lee, That's the spirit! Spoiling yourself sounds great! So great to hear you sounding so much better! I plan to return some items to Home Depot and get some more good stuff! But, If I have a migraine... well, I have to be flexible and just rest for the day! Hugs!! Donna Lee Bentov <leeben12@...> wrote: Hi Tracey,Thank you for your welcome and acknowledging thats itsokay to feel the way I do. I too hope to snap out ofit real soon and to be able to contribute to thegroup. it is really comforting to know that i have asafe place to vent if I need it.I am trying desperately to get out of my funk and havedecided to set small daily goals. Today I will go tothe store to

buy some v-neck shirts - need vees so itdoes not hurt my trach. Whats better than shoppingright? I need ot spoil myself and still feel that Ican look good. I have let myself go so badly.Have a great day,Lee-~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Being Sick CommunityMessage Archives-/messagesChat:- Scheduled Chats at /chatBookmarks:-Add a website URL you have found useful./linksPersonal Complaints or problems:-Please contact a moderator email: -owner Subscription Details:-1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you receive.2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.3) Web only/No mail - means that

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[Guest guest]

Spoiling yourself is a necessity. Everyone deserves to feel pampered and who

better knows how to make you feel good than yourself!

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Lee, That's the spirit! Spoiling yourself sounds great! So great to hear you sounding so much better! I plan to return some items to Home Depot and get some more good stuff! But, If I have a migraine... well, I have to be flexible and just rest for the day! Hugs!! Donna Lee Bentov <leeben12@...> wrote: Hi Tracey,Thank you for your welcome and acknowledging thats itsokay to feel the way I do. I too hope to snap out ofit real soon and to be able to contribute to thegroup. it is really comforting to know that i have asafe place to vent if I need it.I am trying desperately to get out of my funk and havedecided to set small daily goals. Today I will go tothe store to

buy some v-neck shirts - need vees so itdoes not hurt my trach. Whats better than shoppingright? I need ot spoil myself and still feel that Ican look good. I have let myself go so badly.Have a great day,Lee-~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~The Being Sick CommunityMessage Archives-/messagesChat:- Scheduled Chats at /chatBookmarks:-Add a website URL you have found useful./linksPersonal Complaints or problems:-Please contact a moderator email: -owner Subscription Details:-1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you receive.2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.3) Web only/No mail - means that

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