Re: Re: Roll Call!;;FROM;;DORT;;NANA

[Guest guest]

;You also have been through so much in your young life;Your wisdom on things makes you seem so much older then you are;Im very proud of you sweetie;You are such an inspiration to this group; & to me also;Im sorry that I havent been posting much lately;It has been real busy around here & I have been tired;Too tired to turn the puter on much;Have been having some Fibro Flares also;but that too will pass; When I read yours & others problems in here it makes mine seem so small & then I feel ashamed for not being around much;Take care of yourself Hon;

Luv & Hugs

Nana

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CZ,

I think you are too hard on yourself. I feel very close to you, though I suspect our relationship may be easier on both of us because we can simply turn off the computers if we need to. I have ADD. I understand it isn't the same, but I think there are many similarities. My biggest problem has been impulse control. Have you ever said something and then a split-second later cringed because you cannot believe you said it? Happens to me all the time. School was always very difficult for me because of my short attention span. If something interests me then I can pay attention. If I find it boring, no matter how hard I try I cannot make myself pay attention to it. I can, however (as I've learned) make it more interesting, therefore I'd be able to pay attention. I don't discuss my ADD to many people because of the stigma that surrounds it and debates on treatment. I did have an ADD support group, but I found that parents would want me to decide for them whether or not to put their children on Ritalin or a similar stimulant. I can tell them my experiences with Ritalin and without, but I refuse to tell them how to parent their children. I had joined other groups of adults with children who have ADD or ADHD but when they'd ask my opinion, I'd be attacked for how I felt and they'd try to mother me. For example, a common problem is that I used to be ADHD. Now I'm not hyperactive, but I do show the signs of ADD. A woman asked me if I thought I had grown out of the hyperactivity, and for all purposes I feel that I have. I'm not sure how or why, but I am no longer hyperactive. I got many Reponses of people saying 'no, you didn't grow out of it'. Who are they to tell me what I've done or haven't done? I grew tired of it and left. It is easier for me to have relationships on the computer because I can simply turn the computer off when I've had my fill of people. I can't do that in real life. What I do have a hard time with on the computer is emails don't convey emotion. What I mean by that is I can make a concise statement to the group, and everyone will take it a different way. I have to look at my emails very carefully to be sure that it says what I mean it to say. My brother, as you know, has autism. He is a very high functioning autistic, but it has been interesting watching us interact. Sometimes I feel like he absolutely hates me. He can be very cruel. I know he doesn't mean it though. Our age difference also plays a role, I'm 7 years older than he is. I'm sure that as he grows older we will have a better relationship, but for the time being, he can barely stand me.

Hugs,

Re: Re: Roll Call!

a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and aborted or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique differences that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being able to use my high iq effectively because of learning disabilities and sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i should be a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had friends and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond with other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my brain so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic stress disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would probably be jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop denying who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that won't happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend. all the rest of my online friends are "nt" (people without autism) and i don't see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't remember from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com for explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have with them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.CZpenguinexchange@... wrote:> In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time, > unique@... writes:>> I have a good therapist, just started with a new one recently who> seems> pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having Asperger> Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as well> in my> life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like my high> IQ is> being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling> someone> this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had> Aspergers.>> My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a defecit. > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has kids in > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang > around adults.> > Amylee>>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> The Being Sick Community>>> Message Archives-/messages>> Chat:- Scheduled Chats at> /chat>> Bookmarks:-> Add a website URL you have found useful.> /links>> Personal Complaints or problems:-> Please contact a moderator> email: -owner >> Subscription Details:-> 1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you receive.> 2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to > browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.> 3) Web only/No mail - means that you can pop into groups at your > convenience and receive no email.>> To modify your subscription settings please visit:-> /join>> To subscribe or unsubscribe please email:-> -subscribe > -unsubscribe >> This group is not intended to diagnose or treat illnesses. No one on > this group is qualified to diagnose medical conditions. If you feel > you need medical attention, seek the advice of a qualified physician.> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> When nothing is sure, everything is possible.>> --- Margaret Drabble>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~>>>> ------------------------------------------------------------------------> *

[Guest guest]

Nana,

No need to feel ashamed at all! Because all of us are ill we understand that we need to take care of ourselves. That means getting off of the computer and doing what you need for yourself. Comparing illnesses can do harm to you too. Be careful. It helps sometimes to realize you don't have the worst there is out there, but also, it doesn't make what you go through trivial. We each fight our own fight. While they're not all the same, they are all worthwhile. I appreciate your kind words. While I sure don't always feel wise, I try to learn from my mistakes. They can be opportunities! I do feel older than I am. I look older too, funny how that works. I had my birthday last month, and though I was turning 26, I feel more like 46(which is my Mother's age). I tell you one thing, I sure appreciate more things than I used to. I think I'm at that age where I realize just how stupid I was. lol! I took a lot of things for granted. True, I did have a hard childhood, but I'm not sure I'd change things if I could. I wouldn't want to go through the emotional hurt I did, but I think it made me grow. I know I grew up faster than I should have...I basically raised my brother. I look back now at things I did when he was born (I was 7) and how I'd be left alone to care for him, how I'd make his bottles, change his diapers, clean the house...and how normal that felt like to me. No 7 year olds that I know now do that stuff. I also think that at my age my mother had a 6 year old. Could I care for a 6 year old? Well, in any case, don't be so hard on yourself. Everyone in this group is someone I admire. I learn all of your stories and it makes me wish I could do something for all of you. I appreciate you saying that you're proud of me...only one other person has ever told me that, and she's on this group. It feels good to have all of you here. I thank God for all of you.

Love,

Message -----

From: peterson.dorothy

Sent: Tuesday, November 02, 2004 12:28 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Roll Call!;;FROM;;DORT;;NANA

;You also have been through so much in your young life;Your wisdom on things makes you seem so much older then you are;Im very proud of you sweetie;You are such an inspiration to this group; & to me also;Im sorry that I havent been posting much lately;It has been real busy around here & I have been tired;Too tired to turn the puter on much;Have been having some Fibro Flares also;but that too will pass; When I read yours & others problems in here it makes mine seem so small & then I feel ashamed for not being around much;Take care of yourself Hon;

Luv & Hugs

Nana

-- Re: Re: Roll Call!

CZ,

I think you are too hard on yourself. I feel very close to you, though I suspect our relationship may be easier on both of us because we can simply turn off the computers if we need to. I have ADD. I understand it isn't the same, but I think there are many similarities. My biggest problem has been impulse control. Have you ever said something and then a split-second later cringed because you cannot believe you said it? Happens to me all the time. School was always very difficult for me because of my short attention span. If something interests me then I can pay attention. If I find it boring, no matter how hard I try I cannot make myself pay attention to it. I can, however (as I've learned) make it more interesting, therefore I'd be able to pay attention. I don't discuss my ADD to many people because of the stigma that surrounds it and debates on treatment. I did have an ADD support group, but I found that parents would want me to decide for them whether or not to put their children on Ritalin or a similar stimulant. I can tell them my experiences with Ritalin and without, but I refuse to tell them how to parent their children. I had joined other groups of adults with children who have ADD or ADHD but when they'd ask my opinion, I'd be attacked for how I felt and they'd try to mother me. For example, a common problem is that I used to be ADHD. Now I'm not hyperactive, but I do show the signs of ADD. A woman asked me if I thought I had grown out of the hyperactivity, and for all purposes I feel that I have. I'm not sure how or why, but I am no longer hyperactive. I got many Reponses of people saying 'no, you didn't grow out of it'. Who are they to tell me what I've done or haven't done? I grew tired of it and left. It is easier for me to have relationships on the computer because I can simply turn the computer off when I've had my fill of people. I can't do that in real life. What I do have a hard time with on the computer is emails don't convey emotion. What I mean by that is I can make a concise statement to the group, and everyone will take it a different way. I have to look at my emails very carefully to be sure that it says what I mean it to say. My brother, as you know, has autism. He is a very high functioning autistic, but it has been interesting watching us interact. Sometimes I feel like he absolutely hates me. He can be very cruel. I know he doesn't mean it though. Our age difference also plays a role, I'm 7 years older than he is. I'm sure that as he grows older we will have a better relationship, but for the time being, he can barely stand me.

Hugs,

Re: Re: Roll Call!

a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and aborted or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique differences that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being able to use my high iq effectively because of learning disabilities and sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i should be a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had friends and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond with other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my brain so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic stress disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would probably be jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop denying who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that won't happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend. all the rest of my online friends are "nt" (people without autism) and i don't see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't remember from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com for explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have with them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.CZpenguinexchange@... wrote:> In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time, > unique@... writes:>> I have a good therapist, just started with a new one recently who> seems> pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having Asperger> Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as well> in my> life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like my high> IQ is> being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling> someone> this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had> Aspergers.>> My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a defecit. > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has kids in > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang > around adults.> > Amylee>>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> The Being Sick Community>>> Message Archives-/messages>> Chat:- Scheduled Chats at> /chat>> Bookmarks:-> Add a website URL you have found useful.> /links>> Personal Complaints or problems:-> Please contact a moderator> email: -owner >> Subscription Details:-> 1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you receive.> 2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to > browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.> 3) Web only/No mail - means that you can pop into groups at your > convenience and receive no email.>> To modify your subscription settings please visit:-> /join>> To subscribe or unsubscribe please email:-> -subscribe > -unsubscribe >> This group is not intended to diagnose or treat illnesses. No one on > this group is qualified to diagnose medical conditions. If you feel > you need medical attention, seek the advice of a qualified physician.> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> When nothing is sure, everything is possible.>> --- Margaret Drabble>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~>>>> ------------------------------------------------------------------------> *

[Guest guest]

Thanks again for your kind words to me; & again you are such a Wise Young Owl; My twin daughters will be 26 the 13th of Feb;They are my babies;I also had a 6 yr old by your age;in fact I had 4 kids by 25;; & my oldest girl helped me a lot also with her younger sibs;but I never left her alone with any of them at that age ;She grew up fast also;;If I forgot to wish you a Happy Birthday Im so sorry;I hope it was a good one;I cant remember now if I told you or not;So Happy Belated Birthday; & Yes Im very proud of you;

Love & Hugs

Nana

-- Re: Re: Roll Call!

CZ,

I think you are too hard on yourself. I feel very close to you, though I suspect our relationship may be easier on both of us because we can simply turn off the computers if we need to. I have ADD. I understand it isn't the same, but I think there are many similarities. My biggest problem has been impulse control. Have you ever said something and then a split-second later cringed because you cannot believe you said it? Happens to me all the time. School was always very difficult for me because of my short attention span. If something interests me then I can pay attention. If I find it boring, no matter how hard I try I cannot make myself pay attention to it. I can, however (as I've learned) make it more interesting, therefore I'd be able to pay attention. I don't discuss my ADD to many people because of the stigma that surrounds it and debates on treatment. I did have an ADD support group, but I found that parents would want me to decide for them whether or not to put their children on Ritalin or a similar stimulant. I can tell them my experiences with Ritalin and without, but I refuse to tell them how to parent their children. I had joined other groups of adults with children who have ADD or ADHD but when they'd ask my opinion, I'd be attacked for how I felt and they'd try to mother me. For example, a common problem is that I used to be ADHD. Now I'm not hyperactive, but I do show the signs of ADD. A woman asked me if I thought I had grown out of the hyperactivity, and for all purposes I feel that I have. I'm not sure how or why, but I am no longer hyperactive. I got many Reponses of people saying 'no, you didn't grow out of it'. Who are they to tell me what I've done or haven't done? I grew tired of it and left. It is easier for me to have relationships on the computer because I can simply turn the computer off when I've had my fill of people. I can't do that in real life. What I do have a hard time with on the computer is emails don't convey emotion. What I mean by that is I can make a concise statement to the group, and everyone will take it a different way. I have to look at my emails very carefully to be sure that it says what I mean it to say. My brother, as you know, has autism. He is a very high functioning autistic, but it has been interesting watching us interact. Sometimes I feel like he absolutely hates me. He can be very cruel. I know he doesn't mean it though. Our age difference also plays a role, I'm 7 years older than he is. I'm sure that as he grows older we will have a better relationship, but for the time being, he can barely stand me.

Hugs,

Re: Re: Roll Call!

a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and aborted or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique differences that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being able to use my high iq effectively because of learning disabilities and sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i should be a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had friends and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond with other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my brain so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic stress disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would probably be jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop denying who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that won't happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend. all the rest of my online friends are "nt" (people without autism) and i don't see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't remember from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com for explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have with them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.CZpenguinexchange@... wrote:> In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time, > unique@... writes:>> I have a good therapist, just started with a new one recently who> seems> pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having Asperger> Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as well> in my> life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like my high> IQ is> being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling> someone> this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had> Aspergers.>> My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a defecit. > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has kids in > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang > around adults.> > Amylee>>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> The Being Sick Community>>> Message Archives-/messages>> Chat:- Scheduled Chats at> /chat>> Bookmarks:-> Add a website URL you have found useful.> /links>> Personal Complaints or problems:-> Please contact a moderator> email: -owner >> Subscription Details:-> 1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you receive.> 2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to > browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.> 3) Web only/No mail - means that you can pop into groups at your > convenience and receive no email.>> To modify your subscription settings please visit:-> /join>> To subscribe or unsubscribe please email:-> -subscribe > -unsubscribe >> This group is not intended to diagnose or treat illnesses. No one on > this group is qualified to diagnose medical conditions. If you feel > you need medical attention, seek the advice of a qualified physician.> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> When nothing is sure, everything is possible.>> --- Margaret Drabble>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~>>>> ------------------------------------------------------------------------> *

[Guest guest]

Nana,

I think you did wish me a happy birthday. In any case, thank you Wow, today seems to be my day for getting compliments, I love it! I keep them for when there is something going on that is not fun...there are times that people join the group to spam it and I have to be stern. Most of the time the group has no idea anything is going on, that's the point But sometimes these people can get mean and just downright nasty. It helps at those times to see what this group does for people. I also had a problem for a while that I felt I could no longer ask for support because I was the owner. I felt like it was my duty to help everyone else and not ask for help in return. I'm over that now, but for a while it was a real struggle.

Love,

Re: Re: Roll Call!

a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and aborted or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique differences that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being able to use my high iq effectively because of learning disabilities and sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i should be a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had friends and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond with other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my brain so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic stress disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would probably be jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop denying who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that won't happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend. all the rest of my online friends are "nt" (people without autism) and i don't see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't remember from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com for explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have with them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.CZpenguinexchange@... wrote:> In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time, > unique@... writes:>> I have a good therapist, just started with a new one recently who> seems> pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having Asperger> Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as well> in my> life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like my high> IQ is> being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling> someone> this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had> Aspergers.>> My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a defecit. > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has kids in > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang > around adults.> > Amylee>>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> The Being Sick Community>>> Message Archives-/messages>> Chat:- Scheduled Chats at> /chat>> Bookmarks:-> Add a website URL you have found useful.> /links>> Personal Complaints or problems:-> Please contact a moderator> email: -owner >> Subscription Details:-> 1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you receive.> 2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to > browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.> 3) Web only/No mail - means that you can pop into groups at your > convenience and receive no email.>> To modify your subscription settings please visit:-> /join>> To subscribe or unsubscribe please email:-> -subscribe > -unsubscribe >> This group is not intended to diagnose or treat illnesses. No one on > this group is qualified to diagnose medical conditions. If you feel > you need medical attention, seek the advice of a qualified physician.> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> When nothing is sure, everything is possible.>> --- Margaret Drabble>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~>>>> ------------------------------------------------------------------------> *

[Guest guest]

you are so right. i didn't realise heather was so young for a long time.

CZ

peterson.dorothy wrote:

> Im glad that you got that out of your head finally cause ya

> know that we are all here for you also as you are for all of us;You

> still amaze me on your outlook on life for your age;I think you always

> will;I think God blessed you with a big supply of wisdom;Are you sure

> that you arent kin to King in the Bible??? lol;

> luv ya

> hugs

> nana

>

> /--*/ Re: Re: Roll Call!;;FROM;;DORT;;NANA

>

> Nana,

>

> I think you did wish me a happy birthday. In any case, thank you

> Wow, today seems to be my day for getting compliments, I love it! I

> keep them for when there is something going on that is not fun...there

> are times that people join the group to spam it and I have to be

> stern. Most of the time the group has no idea anything is going on,

> that's the point But sometimes these people can get mean and just

> downright nasty. It helps at those times to see what this group does

> for people. I also had a problem for a while that I felt I could no

> longer ask for support because I was the owner. I felt like it was my

> duty to help everyone else and not ask for help in return. I'm over

> that now, but for a while it was a real struggle.

>

> Love,

>

>

> * Re: Re: Roll Call!

>

>

> a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them

> better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it

> that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and aborted

> or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations

> that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique differences

> that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being

> able to use my high iq effectively because of learning disabilities and

> sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i should be

> a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had friends

> and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism

> making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond with

> other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my brain

> so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when

> someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have

> successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic stress

> disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or

> psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.

>

> i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would probably be

> jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop denying

> who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that won't

> happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend. all the

> rest of my online friends are " nt " (people without autism) and i don't

> see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their

> friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i

> stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't remember

> from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com

> <http://www.prosopagnosia.com> for

> explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have with

> them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small

> town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from

> where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you

> isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.

>

> CZ

>

>

> penguinexchange@... <mailto:penguinexchange@...> wrote:

>

> > In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time,

> > unique@... <mailto:unique@...> writes:

> >

> > I have a good therapist, just started with a new one recently who

> > seems

> > pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having Asperger

> > Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as well

> > in my

> > life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like my high

> > IQ is

> > being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling

> > someone

> > this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had

> > Aspergers.

> >

> > My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a defecit.

> > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the

> > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has kids in

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> > around adults.

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i hope you never feel like you don't matter or are worthless. you make a

huge difference to a lot of lives. all the people who post here do. it

might " just " be an internet group but for those of us who really have no

other way to communicate effectively it is a god send. and for people

who despite illness do have active social lives or good families it can

make all the difference to communicate with people who truly understand

what it is like to not be well.

CZ

Don and wrote:

> Nana,

>

> It struck me as funny that once I became owner I could no longer ask

> for help? I think I just got a big dose of reality. I'm not sure

> about King , but I certainly feel blessed. Blessed to have

> friends like you, and like the members of this group. People always

> talk about how it must be such a sacrifice to run the group. Not at

> all! I need this group as much as everyone else. I feel needed

> here. That is a wonderful feeling! In my 'real' family, I feel

> absolutely worthless. I'm taken advantage of and not really ever

> thanked for things I do. They just seem to think I'll always be there

> to do whatever they need me to. Here, things are different. People

> are appreciative and want to give back. I think it is because we are

> all ill and know that even small things can make a big difference.

> When all you have are small things, you don't take them for granted.

> As far as wisdom goes, I feel I should tell you I make my share of

> mistakes But, I try to make the best of them and learn the lessons

> I'm supposed to learn. Sometimes I have to get hit upside the head

> before I learn, but I always try to make the best out of any negative

> situation. If the negativity wins, everyone else loses. It is very

> sweet of you to say these things, but it is you who amaze me. It is

> the members here that stick here day after day and want to help others

> more than getting help for themselves. And the people who have a hard

> time asking for help actually ask for help. Now THAT'S a miracle.

> The moderators are really amazing to me as well. Unless you own or

> moderate a large support group it is hard to imagine all the work they

> put in. You should see the amount of X-rated spam they have to wade

> through to make sure that the members are okay and all of the posts

> are being approved/disapproved in a timely manner. In fact, one of

> the most time-consuming chores I do is to report all the x-rated spam

> we get. Oh, some of it is downright nasty. But they deal with it for

> the members of the group. Sometimes we help fix computers, fix

> viruses, help members find affordable isp service and anti-virus

> software, sometimes we are on the phone with members for hours and

> hours, because they need more than a typed email for comfort. Some of

> us sort through thousands of emails to find the perfect inspirational

> ones to send to the group, look for medical breakthroughs that might

> give someone some hope....they truly are the angels of the group, and

> that is why I decided we should have a day dedicated to the hard work

> they put in.

>

> Love,

>

>

>

> * Re: Re: Roll Call!

>

>

> a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them

> better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it

> that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and

> aborted

> or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations

> that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique

> differences

> that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being

> able to use my high iq effectively because of learning

> disabilities and

> sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i

> should be

> a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had

> friends

> and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism

> making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond

> with

> other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my

> brain

> so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when

> someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have

> successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic

> stress

> disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or

> psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.

>

> i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would

> probably be

> jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop

> denying

> who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that

> won't

> happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend.

> all the

> rest of my online friends are " nt " (people without autism) and i

> don't

> see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their

> friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i

> stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't

> remember

> from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com

> <http://www.prosopagnosia.com> for

> explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have

> with

> them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small

> town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from

> where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you

> isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.

>

> CZ

>

>

> penguinexchange@... <mailto:penguinexchange@...> wrote:

>

> > In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time,

> > unique@... <mailto:unique@...> writes:

> >

> > I have a good therapist, just started with a new one

> recently who

> > seems

> > pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having

> Asperger

> > Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as

> well

> > in my

> > life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like

> my high

> > IQ is

> > being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling

> > someone

> > this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had

> > Aspergers.

> >

> > My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a

> defecit.

> > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the

> > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has

> kids in

> > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang

> > around adults.

> >

> > Amylee

> >

> >

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> you receive.

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Again ;Hon;Very wisely all said ;I mean what you just wrote;Yes I totally agree with you ;How neat it is to have a Moderater Day each month for all who help you with this group;They & you are so appreciated .I didnt realize though how much spam you get that comes ;That is awful;Isnt there anyway you can block that from coming in???Thanks again for all of your help & support you give;

Hugs

Nana

-- Re: Re: Roll Call!;;FROM;;DORT;;NANA

Nana,

It struck me as funny that once I became owner I could no longer ask for help? I think I just got a big dose of reality. I'm not sure about King , but I certainly feel blessed. Blessed to have friends like you, and like the members of this group. People always talk about how it must be such a sacrifice to run the group. Not at all! I need this group as much as everyone else. I feel needed here. That is a wonderful feeling! In my 'real' family, I feel absolutely worthless. I'm taken advantage of and not really ever thanked for things I do. They just seem to think I'll always be there to do whatever they need me to. Here, things are different. People are appreciative and want to give back. I think it is because we are all ill and know that even small things can make a big difference. When all you have are small things, you don't take them for granted. As far as wisdom goes, I feel I should tell you I make my share of mistakes But, I try to make the best of them and learn the lessons I'm supposed to learn. Sometimes I have to get hit upside the head before I learn, but I always try to make the best out of any negative situation. If the negativity wins, everyone else loses. It is very sweet of you to say these things, but it is you who amaze me. It is the members here that stick here day after day and want to help others more than getting help for themselves. And the people who have a hard time asking for help actually ask for help. Now THAT'S a miracle. The moderators are really amazing to me as well. Unless you own or moderate a large support group it is hard to imagine all the work they put in. You should see the amount of X-rated spam they have to wade through to make sure that the members are okay and all of the posts are being approved/disapproved in a timely manner. In fact, one of the most time-consuming chores I do is to report all the x-rated spam we get. Oh, some of it is downright nasty. But they deal with it for the members of the group. Sometimes we help fix computers, fix viruses, help members find affordable isp service and anti-virus software, sometimes we are on the phone with members for hours and hours, because they need more than a typed email for comfort. Some of us sort through thousands of emails to find the perfect inspirational ones to send to the group, look for medical breakthroughs that might give someone some hope....they truly are the angels of the group, and that is why I decided we should have a day dedicated to the hard work they put in.

Love,

Re: Re: Roll Call!

a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and aborted or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique differences that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being able to use my high iq effectively because of learning disabilities and sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i should be a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had friends and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond with other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my brain so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic stress disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would probably be jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop denying who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that won't happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend. all the rest of my online friends are "nt" (people without autism) and i don't see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't remember from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com for explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have with them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.CZpenguinexchange@... wrote:> In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time, > unique@... writes:>> I have a good therapist, just started with a new one recently who> seems> pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having Asperger> Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as well> in my> life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like my high> IQ is> being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling> someone> this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had> Aspergers.>> My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a defecit. > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has kids in > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang > around adults.> > Amylee>>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> The Being Sick Community>>> Message Archives-/messages>> Chat:- Scheduled Chats at> /chat>> Bookmarks:-> Add a website URL you have found useful.> /links>> Personal Complaints or problems:-> Please contact a moderator> email: -owner >> Subscription Details:-> 1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you receive.> 2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to > browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.> 3) Web only/No mail - means that you can pop into groups at your > convenience and receive no email.>> To modify your subscription settings please visit:-> /join>> To subscribe or unsubscribe please email:-> -subscribe > -unsubscribe >> This group is not intended to diagnose or treat illnesses. No one on > this group is qualified to diagnose medical conditions. If you feel > you need medical attention, seek the advice of a qualified physician.> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> When nothing is sure, everything is possible.>> --- Margaret Drabble>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~>>>> ------------------------------------------------------------------------> *

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Nana,

has a 'spam guard' they call it, but it just says that this might be spam. Some of the spam is really downright nasty. I've been reporting some we got tonight...sheesh! I haven't found a way to keep the spam from our owner email address yet. All I can do is apologize to the moderators for having to see it, and ask them to delete it, while I report it.

Love,

Re: Re: Roll Call!

a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and aborted or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique differences that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being able to use my high iq effectively because of learning disabilities and sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i should be a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had friends and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond with other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my brain so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic stress disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would probably be jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop denying who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that won't happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend. all the rest of my online friends are "nt" (people without autism) and i don't see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't remember from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com for explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have with them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.CZpenguinexchange@... wrote:> In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time, > unique@... writes:>> I have a good therapist, just started with a new one recently who> seems> pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having Asperger> Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as well> in my> life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like my high> IQ is> being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling> someone> this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had> Aspergers.>> My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a defecit. > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has kids in > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang > around adults.> > Amylee>>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> The Being Sick Community>>> Message Archives-/messages>> Chat:- Scheduled Chats at> /chat>> Bookmarks:-> Add a website URL you have found useful.> /links>> Personal Complaints or problems:-> Please contact a moderator> email: -owner >> Subscription Details:-> 1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you receive.> 2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to > browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.> 3) Web only/No mail - means that you can pop into groups at your > convenience and receive no email.>> To modify your subscription settings please visit:-> /join>> To subscribe or unsubscribe please email:-> -subscribe > -unsubscribe >> This group is not intended to diagnose or treat illnesses. No one on > this group is qualified to diagnose medical conditions. If you feel > you need medical attention, seek the advice of a qualified physician.> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> When nothing is sure, everything is possible.>> --- Margaret Drabble>> ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~>>>> ------------------------------------------------------------------------> *

[Guest guest]

That is very true. That keeps me going, realizing this may be all someone has. You know, you make a difference too. I hope you know that as well.

Hugs,

* Re: Re: Roll Call!>>> a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them> better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it> that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and> aborted> or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations> that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique> differences> that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being> able to use my high iq effectively because of learning> disabilities and> sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i> should be> a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had> friends> and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism> making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond> with> other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my> brain> so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when> someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have> successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic> stress> disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or> psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.>> i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would> probably be> jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop> denying> who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that> won't> happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend.> all the> rest of my online friends are "nt" (people without autism) and i> don't> see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their> friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i> stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't> remember> from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com> <http://www.prosopagnosia.com> for> explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have> with> them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small> town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from> where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you> isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.>> CZ>>> penguinexchange@... <mailto:penguinexchange@...> wrote:>> > In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time,> > unique@... <mailto:unique@...> writes:> >> > I have a good therapist, just started with a new one> recently who> > seems> > pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having> Asperger> > Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as> well> > in my> > life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like> my high> > IQ is> > being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling> > someone> > this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had> > Aspergers.> >> > My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a> defecit.> > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the> > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has> kids in> > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang> > around adults.> > > > Amylee> >> >> > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> > The Being Sick Community> >> >> > Message Archives-/messages> >> > Chat:- Scheduled Chats at> > /chat> >> > Bookmarks:-> > Add a website URL you have found useful.> > /links> >> > Personal Complaints or problems:-> > Please contact a moderator> > email: -owner > <mailto:-owner >> >> > Subscription Details:-> > 1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list> you receive.> > 2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for> you to> > browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.> > 3) Web only/No mail - means that you can pop into groups at> your> > convenience and receive no email.> >> > To modify your subscription settings please visit:-> > /join> >> > To subscribe or unsubscribe please email:-> > -subscribe > <mailto:-subscribe >> > -unsubscribe > <mailto:-unsubscribe >> >> > This group is not intended to diagnose or treat illnesses. No> one on> > this group is qualified to diagnose medical conditions. If you> feel> > you need medical attention, seek the advice of a qualified> physician.> > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> > When nothing is sure, everything is possible.> >> > --- Margaret Drabble> >> > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> >> >> >> >> ------------------------------------------------------------------------> > *

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Unless I tell them, no one does I look older too. People try to guess my age, they usually guess mid thirties.

Hugs,

* Re: Re: Roll Call!>>> a lot of people with hfa or asperger's seem to think it makes them> better than others and that it isn't a disability but i don't see it> that way. although i don't wish i was diagnosed as a fetus and aborted> or anything drastic like that i do wish i didn't have the limitations> that autism puts on me. it definitely does make for unique differences> that aren't all negative but on the whole it restricts me from being> able to use my high iq effectively because of learning disabilities and> sensory problems. if iq was any measure of ability to study i should be> a ph.d. instead of a 10th grade dropout. i've never really had friends> and i live a very isolated life which i prefer because of the autism> making socialising difficult. but i would like to be able to bond with> other people and communicate seamlessly without having to work my brain> so hard to figure out all the different layers of communication when> someone speaks. and also having autism makes it harder to have> successful treatment for other problems i had like post traumatic stress> disorder and anorexia nervosa and ocd because therapists or> psychologists aren't exempt from my communication problems.>> i know if i wrote all this post on an autism group i would probably be> jumped on by heaps of people telling me i need to learn to stop denying> who i am and see my autism as a gift but i know on this group that won't> happen. on the internet i only have one mildly autistic friend. all the> rest of my online friends are "nt" (people without autism) and i don't> see them as lesser people than myself i really treasure their> friendship. in real life i have no friends but a lot of people who i> stop and say hi to when i go out to shops. most of them i don't remember> from looks alone because i'm face-blind (www.prosopagnosia.com > <http://www.prosopagnosia.com> for> explanation of that) but i do like the short conversations i have with> them. eventually i will know everybody because i live in a very small> town but so far there are only a couple i recognise without help from> where i see them or stuff they say. usually it's just hi how are you> isn't it a lovely day today summer's on its way type conversations.>> CZ>>> penguinexchange@... <mailto:penguinexchange@...> wrote:>> > In a message dated 10/30/2004 5:32:17 PM Central Standard Time,> > unique@... <mailto:unique@...> writes:> >> > I have a good therapist, just started with a new one recently who> > seems> > pretty good. I was just having a tough time with having Asperger> > Syndrome and how it limits me and wishing I could perform as well> > in my> > life as other people are able to. Sometimes it feels like my high> > IQ is> > being wasted by the limitations of the Aspergers. I was telling> > someone> > this morning that if I never got stressed, I wouldn't know I had> > Aspergers.> >> > My son is the same way. I think in HIS case the high IQ is a defecit.> > This is mainly since he is still young. He sees too much of the> > difference and really doesn't know what to do about it. He has kids in> > school that try to be his friend but he would basically rather hang> > around adults.> > > > Amylee> >> >> > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> > The Being Sick Community> >> >> > Message Archives-/messages> >> > Chat:- Scheduled Chats at> > /chat> >> > Bookmarks:-> > Add a website URL you have found useful.> > /links> >> > Personal Complaints or problems:-> > Please contact a moderator> > email: -owner > <mailto:-owner >> >> > Subscription Details:-> > 1) Individual email - means that every email sent to the list you > receive.> > 2) Daily Digest - sends you 25 messages in one single email for you to> > browse. This is an excellent option if you receive alot of email.> > 3) Web only/No mail - means that you can pop into groups at your> > convenience and receive no email.> >> > To modify your subscription settings please visit:-> > /join> >> > To subscribe or unsubscribe please email:-> > -subscribe > <mailto:-subscribe >> > -unsubscribe > <mailto:-unsubscribe >> >> > This group is not intended to diagnose or treat illnesses. No one on> > this group is qualified to diagnose medical conditions. If you feel> > you need medical attention, seek the advice of a qualified physician.> > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> > When nothing is sure, everything is possible.> >> > --- Margaret Drabble> >> > ~~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~ *** ~~~~> >> >> >> > ------------------------------------------------------------------------> > *