Re: Teasing

[Guest guest]

Hi all. I thought I would tell you about what Chance is going through

right now. There is a boy (7 yrs, gosh they start early), who recently

moved in 2 doors down and he is the " bully " of the neighborhood. There

has been 2 incidents on the bus where he has physically done something

to Chance. The last on he kicked and pushed him under the seats of the

bus. Chance is very unbalanced and was stuck. THe bus driver had to

help him out. He came home with 3 big bruises on his legs. I had a

go-around with the school about it (which only got the principal to warn

this boy). Then that evening, Chance was outside playing and the boy

came up to him and said " We arent at school so you cant run to the

principal now. What are you going to do " . The boy didnt know I was

watching (Chance cant play outside with out me watching, is child came

after him with a shovel one day). So I went to his house to speak with

his moer (the school didnt inform her as to what had happened on the

bus), and I explained Chances CMT to her. She told me she would

straighten him out. The next day he started calling Chance

" handicap-boy " and things to that extent (some I cant repeat on here).

And now he is telling all the kids things like this about Chance. SO

needless to say going to his mom didnt help.

I do however tell Chance that he may be weaker than the other kids but

he makes up for it in his mind b/c he is smarter than the average 6 year

old. This seems to tide him over for now, but what happens in a few

years when it will bother him real bad, I dont know.

Sorry so long, but thought I would share this with you.

amy

http://community.webtv.net/amy913/FromtheHeart

[Guest guest]

Hello amy, Rose from Sweden here!

Sorry to hear about your Chance. It makes me so angry that weak children

all over the world must go through the same thing - teasing etc

I told my boys about Chance ( they are 8 and 12) and asked them what they

thought should be done.

" Call the police said my 8 year old Patric " . Well...But in Sweden it has

been common that children who are being assaulted real bad by other

children can go to the police for investigation and protection.

When Patric was teased in school last year an older boy (13), a relative,

followed Patric to school and stayed with him for a hole day. That gave

Patric respect and the teasing kids calmed down.

When my oldest boy Pierre had problem with a teasing boy when he was

around 6 we talked to him about how cowardly the teasing boy must be and

if he tried to scare that boy a little it would help. Well next time the

teasing boy came Pierre walked against him and waved with his fist. The

other boy turned out to be so cowardly as we thought. He turned and ran

away.

Well that´s about us, good luck to you and Chance, Rose

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In a message dated 3/12/00 9:38:11 AM Pacific Standard Time, amy913@...

writes:

<< This seems to tide him over for now, but what happens in a few

years when it will bother him real bad, I dont know.

Sorry so long, but thought I would share this with you.

amy

>>

Amy you can call the police if the kid comes at Chance again at home. My

neighbor had the police called on her boy for picking on kids at the bus

stop. The schools where I live are hands off so any hands on a child will get

the kid suspended or expelled. I wouldn't put up with this bullie for

nothing. You need to do what ever you can to shut him up before he hurts

Chance beyond what you can fix. A big kid grabbed Spencer the other day right

in front of me and I very firmly said " This is a hands off school hands off

my son or I go to the principal " The kid must have thought I was a crazy nut

he let go of Spencer and has never said another word to him again. The weak

get picked on, Chance is to young to fight for himself so you do it! I am

with you in spirit. I had to talk to a mean kid for teasing Adam about his

AFOs. By the time I was done with her she was sorry and her brother made her

feel sorrier when she told their Mother what she had done. OHHH I hate this

topic.

[Guest guest]

Hi Amy and Rose,

Amy that must be heartbreaking and such a worry for you because of that bully.

I read out your email to my husband and he said exactly the same thing that

Rose's son Patric said " Go to the police about it " . Even if the police

just go and

talk to the mother and son, they might take your concerns more seriously.

And I agree with you Rose that bullys are often cowards, they always pick on

someone smaller or weaker than they are.

Apparently there are some advocacy groups for preventing violence against

children.

Does anyone know of them? Hope you find some help for this frightening

problem.

[Guest guest]

Amy,

So sorry to hear about Chance and the teasing/bullying he is exposed to.

Keep on telling Chance what his STRENGTHS are - we focus so much sometimes

on the weakness brought on by CMT... We all have been given strengths,

gifts, talents and passions to share with the world. My view of

child-rearing is that we should help our children discover what those

natural talents and passions are. If the child can discover his/her natural

talent, and then be allowed to develop it, the child is much closer to

developing high self-esteem, despite any obstacles or difficulties they may

encounter. When we are doing what we have been put on this planet to do, it

is hard not to be happy.

Another thing I tell my kids is to consider why a child so young is being so

cruel. Perhaps it is because the " bully " is receiving similar treatment -

children do mimic the actions of those around them, or act out to gain

attention they are otherwise not receiving.

Ruth

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>Subject: [] Re: Teasing

>Date: Sun, 12 Mar 2000 11:36:09 -0600 (CST)

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>Hi all. I thought I would tell you about what Chance is going through

>right now. There is a boy (7 yrs, gosh they start early), who recently

>moved in 2 doors down and he is the " bully " of the neighborhood. There

>has been 2 incidents on the bus where he has physically done something

>to Chance. The last on he kicked and pushed him under the seats of the

>bus. Chance is very unbalanced and was stuck. THe bus driver had to

>help him out. He came home with 3 big bruises on his legs. I had a

>go-around with the school about it (which only got the principal to warn

>this boy). Then that evening, Chance was outside playing and the boy

>came up to him and said " We arent at school so you cant run to the

>principal now. What are you going to do " . The boy didnt know I was

>watching (Chance cant play outside with out me watching, is child came

>after him with a shovel one day). So I went to his house to speak with

>his moer (the school didnt inform her as to what had happened on the

>bus), and I explained Chances CMT to her. She told me she would

>straighten him out. The next day he started calling Chance

> " handicap-boy " and things to that extent (some I cant repeat on here).

>And now he is telling all the kids things like this about Chance. SO

>needless to say going to his mom didnt help.

>I do however tell Chance that he may be weaker than the other kids but

>he makes up for it in his mind b/c he is smarter than the average 6 year

>old. This seems to tide him over for now, but what happens in a few

>years when it will bother him real bad, I dont know.

>Sorry so long, but thought I would share this with you.

>

>

>amy

>

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[Guest guest]

Amy,

In regard to the bullying being done to your son, I urge you to keep a

detailed log of the incidents, your actions in response to them, and the

results. Having good documentation will surely be a great help to you if

you choose to pursue this matter with the police, an attorney or the school

board.

It is a shame that your son has had to endure this harassment. I hope you

can get it stopped as soon as possible.

--Jim

[Guest guest]

hi amy about chance being teased i believe it has esculated beyond

that and this 7 year old bullie really is a big problem being a

former police officer i have seen alot of this and it is starting at

a younger age more and more like ruth said it starts at home he see,s

it and copies it he does not know any different if talking to the

parents doesn,t help than you need to persue it with the police and

school we have been lucky with carlene she does not get teased or

picked on but has lots of friends and an older sister and young uncle

that won,t allow it to happen hope it works out ok and tell chance

it takes a stronger man to walk away than to fight my father taught

me that and he would have killed me if i did that or hit a girl or a

women there is to much fighting now adays well i could go on for

like others have said it really bothers me for this to happen and

tell chance we all love him brad

> Hi all. I thought I would tell you about what Chance is going

through

> right now. There is a boy (7 yrs, gosh they start early), who

recently

> moved in 2 doors down and he is the " bully " of the neighborhood.

There

> has been 2 incidents on the bus where he has physically done

something

> to Chance. The last on he kicked and pushed him under the seats of

the

> bus. Chance is very unbalanced and was stuck. THe bus driver had

to

> help him out. He came home with 3 big bruises on his legs. I had a

> go-around with the school about it (which only got the principal to

warn

> this boy). Then that evening, Chance was outside playing and the

boy

> came up to him and said " We arent at school so you cant run to the

> principal now. What are you going to do " . The boy didnt know I was

> watching (Chance cant play outside with out me watching, is child

came

> after him with a shovel one day). So I went to his house to speak

with

> his moer (the school didnt inform her as to what had happened on the

> bus), and I explained Chances CMT to her. She told me she would

> straighten him out. The next day he started calling Chance

> " handicap-boy " and things to that extent (some I cant repeat on

here).

> And now he is telling all the kids things like this about Chance.

SO

> needless to say going to his mom didnt help.

> I do however tell Chance that he may be weaker than the other kids

but

> he makes up for it in his mind b/c he is smarter than the average 6

year

> old. This seems to tide him over for now, but what happens in a few

> years when it will bother him real bad, I dont know.

> Sorry so long, but thought I would share this with you.

>

>

> amy

>

>

>

>

> http://community.webtv.net/amy913/FromtheHeart

[Guest guest]

Thanks Jeanne!

Jeanne wrote:

, Re teasing of your son. ( circle of friends)

First thing is explain to the teacher/social worker/principal that you want

to have a meeting with these parents and their children regarding the

teasing.

Then after everyone is there explain what your child has been going thru.

Explain about your child's impairments and how it makes you and him feel.

Ask for

their suggestions on how they think their children would feel if that

happened to them, how they would correct the child into a positive mode. I

wrote

about this subject in a child's book about speech impairments, that I am

waiting

to get published.

Jeanne